₦airaland Forum

motymop:
If she missed her period about two weeks after your wedding night, it might be a bit early for a pregnancy to be detected by a missed period because ovulation and conception usually happen midcycle. But it's still possible if timing aligns.

brain54:
If you waited for 2 years of courtship...

You should put back your waiting cap for 9 months of pregnancy.

By the way I am not a fan of no sex before marriage for the simple reason of sexual compatibility.

I believe these are part of things that should be observed during courtship.

Just be decent about it and not use it as excuse for waywardness!

Ozzyk:
A legally married man should put his cap on hold for 9 months? And who told you you can start knacking you wife again immediately after 9 months? U must at least give her 8 weeks to heal after delivery
And it differs from women to women
Some could take more time

NiRfreak:
Most men wey be newly married no kon geh sense again for this country....like clueless.
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Which planet does 2 weeks pregnancy means no more touching, kissing and sex for a couple.
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Even 7 months pregnant woman with big Belle still dey knack Deir husband. 2 weeks honeymoon and waiting 9months after delivery seems like something sensible to you?

NotOfThisWorld:
Just talk to her, or wait patiently until May 2026 when she will deliver. May 2026 is just around the corner.

Ozzyk:
I tried at first to reason with her excuses throughout last month until last week that it doesn't seem to make sense anymore....
When I talk say she go talk say she no ready give in until after 9 months
You won't even notice that she's pregnant yet
She's very active at her work place, goes to chuch regularly, markets, cook and other day to day activities

NiRfreak:
Oga. This is not right at all
At the beginning of what should be your bonding time, she's playing games and manipulation....
These are what you should do.

1. Erase the fact you have in your head that she's godly or good or virgin. Erase it. It no longer count. Otherwise you won't be able to act as a man, even when u are hurting, ur emotional side will be emasculating you..
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2. Approach the situation practically and zero your mind completely away from having sex with her. At least before marriage u dint die without sex. So don't let her use the sex card to turn u to her slave.
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3. Insist on pregnancy test
4. Insist on DNA test after 9 months..... Just to get on her nerves and make her agitated that you may not trust her.
5 Don't try to please her, do the barest minimum
6 play the same game she's playing. And don't bother her for sex... and don't seek her attention.
7 don't sleep in same room at night..go sleep in the second room.
8 Create scene and lambast her if she tries to gaslight you or flip the script on you for behaving mean towards her.

Over times she will sit up if she realises u are not taking her manipulation.

But I bet you can't do this because u still see her as a saint who has ur best interest.. Lol.. But she's there manipulating you and trying to be the boss over you. If u don't flip the script, she will turn ur boss, u will have to obey anything she says, and she will make you beg for her favor

brain54:
I am not talking about all these your tactics...


And any other thing you posted. But did you consider that it may not be a case of manipulation but just a simple case of she being frigid or having low sexual drive genuinely?

Some people simply have low sex drives and it might not be about manipulation!

Diamond098454:
But you have been sleeping with her throughout your courtship a month of no sex won't kill you

NiRfreak:
Oga go and sit down with ur Western naivety.
... You don't know Nigerian women. Do like dodoyo they will turn you to an ozuor. Nonsense and frigidity.

Chubhie:
Her body is going through a lot. A man has needs. Get a lil creative and she go open give you.

Ozzyk:
Get creative how

Chubhie:
Her body is going through a lot. A man has needs. Get a lil creative and she go open give you.

NiRfreak:
You are very dumbbb sorry to say.
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Her body is going through a lot.. Which lot?
.2 weeks marriage, less than 2 weeks honeymoon and.. 2 weeks of so called pregnancy then her body is going through a lot? Like how?
What should a 7month pregnant woman body do? What should a woman who just deliver do.....
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Ozzyk:
We got married in ending of August
We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship
She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core
On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin
Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period
Here is the issue;
Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching
It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together
I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all
My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved
Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being.....
And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance....
I am already tired 😩

jamesversion:
If sex is what you need, it is not a problem.

Infact getting sex in Nigeria has never been a problem.

Ozzyk:
It is a problem in marriage.....