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NiRfreak:
You are very dumbbb sorry to say.
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Her body is going through a lot.. Which lot?
.2 weeks marriage, less than 2 weeks honeymoon and.. 2 weeks of so called pregnancy then her body is going through a lot? Like how?
What should a 7month pregnant woman body do? What should a woman who just deliver do.....
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Xilsbridalhouse:
I am not a nurse but from this comment, I’d advise you go back to nursing school or self learn, do some research etc ! You as a nurse should understand how pregnancy works in women better, but no here you are acting unprofessional.


Just so you know, this is mostly common among pregnant women and I can’t believe you have no idea of this lol Whoever hired you might need to keep a close eyes on you.

VOsimhen144:
na why I support polygamous marriage to an extent… as this op wife dey give am unnecessary attitude you go Jst switch enter the second wife kpekus.

OP, sit her down and talk to her, know what the issue is, if she no give u concrete reason and she no adjust, no jst dey stress urself, kpekus full everywhere, as low as 10k you go knack better kpekus.
U go run am codedly, no let ur wife know.
Life no hard abeg..

mctech:
I'm surprised at the comments I'm seeing here.
Are there no married people here?

Bros I understand how you are feeling especially as you have abstained for two years.

Firstly, you need to wait about three months for the foetus to form before touching your wife so as not to cause damage.
Or do you want to risk having an slowpoke child? And even after that there are styles you can't do. Touch your toe, doggy etc are forbidden.

Secondly is the emotional toll of a first time pregnancy on your wife.

If you watch Holy Ghost Service regularly, you will realize that perhaps the most common problem people have in marriage is conception. Nine out of twelve testimonies are always about babies.

You escaped such a big issue please try to make peace with your wife and find a middle ground.
However, there are other ways you can pleasure yourselves, decently, though.

Diamond098454:
for the first time i see a sound, educated and mature sweet guy in Nairaland. Mehhhhh..... I like the way you talk.

Ozzyk:
I tried at first to reason with her excuses throughout last month until last week that it doesn't seem to make sense anymore....
When I talk say she go talk say she no ready give in until after 9 months
You won't even notice that she's pregnant yet
She's very active at her work place, goes to chuch regularly, markets, cook and other day to day activities

Ozzyk:
Get creative how

NiRfreak:
My guy, u get the drift. It's really crazy for a man to allow a so called Virgin who is supposed to be naive, kind, and caring to play all these tricks .
Even me till now, I no believe say the lady na true Virgin. And even if she's a true virgin, that lady is ahead of her age and smarter than that guy...
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If the guy doesn't assert himself and cut out the bullshit, that's going to be the tone that will determine the future marriage dynamics.
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Hormone and pregnancy for a less than two month marriage can never be a reason for a woman to act mean, selfish and uncaring to a supposed man who waited 2yrs for sex after marriage. That's bullshit.
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Imagine, the woman actually had substantial control during dating, telling him no sex, while they did all other things like smooching, fingering, kissing, sucking and all..aside her Trump card which is the sex that she rigidly enforced.. Now she got her ring, only to further the game as to have total control on the mans emotions, happiness and decisions using the sex card.

The lady knows what she's doing..... And she's strategic about it, it's simply her game to consolidate herself as the leader of the house so she can get anything she wants... It's left for the guy to break it with hefty consequences or end up a doormat and simp in his own house

vowiski:
You can go and help him, since his wife doesn’t want to open….

Ozzyk:
I tried at first to reason with her excuses throughout last month until last week that it doesn't seem to make sense anymore....
When I talk say she go talk say she no ready give in until after 9 months
You won't even notice that she's pregnant yet
She's very active at her work place, goes to chuch regularly, markets, cook and other day to day activities

Ozzyk:
We got married in ending of August
We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship
She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core
On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin
Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period
Here is the issue;
Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching
It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together
I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all
My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved
Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being.....
And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance....
I am already tired 😩

mctech:
I'm surprised at the comments I'm seeing here.
Are there no married people here?

Bros I understand how you are feeling especially as you have abstained for two years.

Firstly, you need to wait about three months for the foetus to form before touching your wife so as not to cause damage.
Or do you want to risk having an slowpoke child? And even after that there are styles you can't do. Touch your toe, doggy etc are forbidden.

Secondly is the emotional toll of a first time pregnancy on your wife.

If you watch Holy Ghost Service regularly, you will realize that perhaps the most common problem people have in marriage is conception. Nine out of twelve testimonies are always about babies.

You escaped such a big issue please try to make peace with your wife and find a middle ground.
However, there are other ways you can pleasure yourselves, decently, though.

Skj13777:
Thanks, but I wonder why a 24yrs old guy is already thinking about marriage.. does he not have ambition. To the extent that by 26 he is already married. A woman is always 7yrs older than her age. Do the math she is older than him even if she is 20yrs old and he is 26yrs.
She tricked him into believing she will give as much sex as he wants if he married her. The guy himself is in a state of shock that the two months old wedding has no intimacy.. how can it have intimacy when it was a scam in the first place!. Someone was even saying the pregnancy affected her hormones and thereby affected her ability to touch or even kiss her husband.. anyways it's too late. A scam is a scam just do DNA for the child. If the child is yours I will refund your expenses for the DNA test

Banhammy717:
Please take it gentle on her.
You may persude her with gifts, take her out for a dinner and anything you know can make her happy.
I wish you a Happy Married Life

chidiokay:
lolzz, ! he left her alone inside 2yrs of courtship, now inside marriage he should leave her alone ... so when and where will he enjoy her ... heaven ??

just leave her alone .... like she is some neighbour or office colleague abi

NiRfreak:
Oga. This is not right at all
At the beginning of what should be your bonding time, she's playing games and manipulation....
These are what you should do.

1. Erase the fact you have in your head that she's godly or good or virgin. Erase it. It no longer count. Otherwise you won't be able to act as a man, even when u are hurting, ur emotional side will be emasculating you..
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2. Approach the situation practically and zero your mind completely away from having sex with her. At least before marriage u dint die without sex. So don't let her use the sex card to turn u to her slave.
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3. Insist on pregnancy test
4. Insist on DNA test after 9 months..... Just to get on her nerves and make her agitated that you may not trust her.
5 Don't try to please her, do the barest minimum and no special treat. I beg you, no special treat or outing meant to curry favor.
6 play the same game she's playing. And don't bother her for sex... and don't seek her attention.
7 don't sleep in same room at night..go sleep in the second room.
8 Create scene and lambast her if she tries to gaslight you or flip the script on you for behaving mean towards her. A woman should be able to see your anger expressed as a man when she crosses certain lie. Even if u can't express anger.. voice and act it... No go dey do gentle man for this situation o

Over times she will sit up if she realises u are not taking her manipulation.

But I bet you can't do this because u still see her as a saint who has ur best interest.. Lol.. But she's there manipulating you and trying to be the boss over you. If u don't flip the script, she will turn ur boss, u will have to obey anything she says, and she will make you beg for everything in that marriage

SKhanmi:
Lol. You're in soup and you're just seeing the warning signs.

Hint, it will get worse

Just so you know, some heavily pregnant women still drag their husbands for sx, in fact it's recommend by nursing matrons if you're familiar with their checkups.

And it definitely seems both of you have low libido or one is frigid.

chidiokay:
if i dont touch a woman for 2yrs that leaving her alone abi naa me no understand verb nii

If you want to be left alone like pocohantas will say, then whats she doing in Marriage. embrace sistahood and no one has any right over you

how dare you opine he is rushing 2yrs courtship no sex becos that what the woman solely wants, inside marriage age he as to wait until she feel like it ... kuku lock me inside military guard room

Ozzyk:
Read it up again...
We never had anything together during 2 years courtship
And No, it wasn't a long distance relationship
We're about only 35 minutes travel time away from each other..

vowiski:
Someone called the pregnancy, “so-called”.

People deh born sha ..

Leave the OP to be Fooling around, 2 weeks you are getting blessed with a baby , all he can whine about is Sex…

For someone that claims he waited 2 years.. I can tell you for free, he was sleeping around.

No way, you can wait 2 years and can’t wait 3 months for your wife to enter 2nd trimester.

He is a disgrace!

You don’t pamper such people, I can only pray he doesn’t become a disaster of a father!

No sex, and and he won’t take care of his kids

vowiski:
Someone called the pregnancy, “so-called”.

People deh born sha ..

Leave the OP to be Fooling around, 2 weeks you are getting blessed with a baby , all he can whine about is Sex…

For someone that claims he waited 2 years.. I can tell you for free, he was sleeping around.

No way, you can wait 2 years and can’t wait 3 months for your wife to enter 2nd trimester.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I hope you know that old cat lady and spinster is no longer the insult it used to be 100 years ago.

Many western ladies are choosing that lifestyle to have a peaceful and drama free life

Chubhie:
Ogun kpai you dere

Ozzyk:
We got married in ending of August
We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship
She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core
On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin
Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period
Here is the issue;
Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching
It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together
I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all
My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved
Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being.....
And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance....
I am already tired 😩

chloride6:
He is rushing....

What if the doctor asked him to leave he alone, what will he do?

Sometime people adopt the precautionary position even without knowing

Procashtips:
Still doesn't mean a woman would totally shut down any form of affection towards a man she loves.

Could be something not related to her hormones or sexual activities.

What if she's not really into men?