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vowiski:
He is an auxiliary nurse , disgracing himself online ..

See the rubbish that came out of his mouth, I was shocked to my bone marrow.

No certified Nurse will say the nonsense he said, unless his rich father paid his away out of Nursing school.

Me weh no be Nurse, I learned these things by research, they are publicly available online.

omotolly22:
Just be patient and give her the benefit of this first trimester which is 3 month

By the second trimester, you guys should be able to have regular sex back

Talking from experience, first trimester is usually the risky part of pregnancy, cramps ,morning sickness, risk of miscarriage etc

But by second trimester, she should be able to comply to your demand, except she is hiding something

Ozzyk:
Hormonal changes also stops me from touching her?
This is a lady that goes about her daily activities like every other normal day
She doesn't even entertain little touches not to talk of romance or smooching
We're just like housemates who share the same bed together
No connection, no bond no chemistry

NiRfreak:
Kai. So sorry for your situation.
This OP should be asking you how you initially handle it which dint work, so he can know what to avoid which may never work

dealslip:
Hormones are different and have different functions. The ones for sex is different from the one for work or stress.

Ozzyk:
We got married in ending of August
We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship
She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core
On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin
Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period
Here is the issue;
Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching
It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together
I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all
My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved
Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being.....
And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance....
I am already tired 😩

omotolly22:
Just be patient and give her the benefit of this first trimester which is 3 month

By the second trimester, you guys should be able to have regular sex back

Talking from experience, first trimester is usually the risky part of pregnancy, cramps ,morning sickness, risk of miscarriage etc

But by second trimester, she should be able to comply to your demand, except she is hiding something

brain54:
I am not talking about all these your tactics...


And any other thing you posted. But did you consider that it may not be a case of manipulation but just a simple case of she being frigid or having low sexual drive genuinely?

Some people simply have low sex drives and it might not be about manipulation!

J2ff:
Let her stroke you with her hand

brain54:
If you waited for 2 years of courtship...

You should put back your waiting cap for 9 months of pregnancy.

By the way I am not a fan of no sex before marriage for the simple reason of sexual compatibility.

I believe these are part of things that should be observed during courtship.

Just be decent about it and not use it as excuse for waywardness!

dollypi:
✓ According to you, a virgin must automatically desire her husband...pshew

brain54:
Then you simply have to wait longer bro...

Carry your cross gallantly. If you were patient during courtship then you should be understanding and bear with her now.

Except you were pretending during courtship sir.

Legally married or not changes nothing or shouldn't affect your ability to wait as you did for 2 years. She obviously has less libido than you do.

Or you want to lape her?

Duro!

Loveisgreat:
Good day my brother! I tried to feel your pain. I was also opportune to marry a virgin lady. I want you to firstly be grateful to God Almighty for the favour of getting your wife pregnant after two weeks into marriage. Many men and women that have the best sexual libido have nothing to show for their efforts since so many years in marriage. Still waiting till now. I understand you that one major reason of you entering into this marriage is SEX but you must include COMPANIONSHIP.
The counsellor that told you to wait for the first semester gave you the best advice if you a Christian. Afterwhich, if no changes then approach your church female counsellor or Pastor's mummy. Then on your side, try to come down to her feeling and practice emotional relief support system with her by engaging in house chores such as cooking, running washing machine even sweeping floors on her behalf sometimes. Create time for weekend outings and unwind together. Change your lightnings bulbs to colorful type and always play slows worship songs and if possible play slow blues in the night while together with her. Ensure you eat together and sit beside each other. Try to get sexy boxers. God will heal your home and you will never lose it in Jesus name.

IMPARTIAL:
Pls empathize with her. She's yours. Since you said she was a virgin, just be careful. Just try and make her happy and romantic. She will give in.

There are some newly pregnant women who vomit immediately they are exposed to sexual acts. Mere seeing your penis and the secretions on it can disgust her.

Pls understand with her.

Bobxin:
➜I thought sex during pregnancy is necessary for easy delivery? Am I missing something?

linearity:
I don’t think sex is the main issue here.

I understand your reasoning behind the first trimester, but based on on the OP, the wife is not even allowing kissing, touching, cuddling, etc.

This should be a period of bonding for the whole family and it does not appear things will get any better.

After 9 months, OP would have to wait a minimum of 4-8 weeks, and since she got pregnant on the 1st or 2nd time they had sex, nothing stopping her from conceiving very early the second time and the circle continues.

Until the OP seats her down and get to the bottom, he is in a hard place.

Christians are supposed to show empathy, agree we all have our own little struggles, try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes for a minute.

Any married woman pregnant or not should understand that, it is not healthy for her husband to be begging for sex.

I understand people saying the guy should endure, that he waited 2 years before now, remember that he is no longer waiting, he wants the thing now….this is akin to fire burning and you are telling him to exercise patience.

Plus this is just a two month old marriage with little or no much bonding….OP kpelle, I don’t want to read the tea leaves on this marriage but the Lord is your strength, you will need it!

Xilsbridalhouse:
No it’s not any of your assumptions.

I had same experience, found out I wasn’t the only one.

I didn’t want to be touched not even a peck.

Kobojunkie:
That is one of those many lies your forefathers brainwashed you all with. There is no strong scientific consensus between the frequency of sexual intercourse and the ease of childbirth.

A woman could have sex morning, noon, and night, every day during pregnancy, and still end up having some of the worst childbirth experiences.

chidiokay:
hormonal changes at what time .... they had sex for just 10days before pregnancy ... instant hormonal change na waa o !

Ozzyk:
I am a Pediatric Nurse
None of this you wrote down there is true....
And No, sex in first trimester doesn't endangerer the pregnancy except on some rare cases...
My sex game wasn't wack lol
My point still stands;
It's not just about sex here
No bond, no connection, no touching no kiss, no smooching no deep talks
We were just leaving in the house as if we were house mates
And stop chatting me about hormonal shit...
Her symptoms is very very mild
No vomiting, no spits, no hyper pyrexia, no nausea her only symptoms seems to be sleeping a lot and eating less
Her hormones changes didn't stop her from doing her day today activities except being intimate with her hubby 😔 abi??

Helpout12345:
Honestly I am suspecting the woman no love am. But since he said he confirmed the woman loves him, I don't know what else can cause this in less than 2 months of marriage.

Ozzyk:
I've mentioned it several times in this thread
She had been refused light touches, kissing, smooching, hugs cuddling... I can't even touch any sensitive part of her body by mistake she go give me bombastic side eye....
And this had actually drained our connection and bond
Almost everyday nah argument all because I'm trying to communicate my feelings...
She has very very mild symptoms so far
No vomits, no nausea no fever no spits... She just sleeps a lot and goes about her normal day to day activities...
And as for domestic works I do that often
Since she goes to work and I'm still on my annual leave from work.....

Ozzyk:
➜You're wrong...if you had visit ante natal clinic. This is must topic of discussion during health education...

Ozzyk:
➜Thank you... People are making it like it's about sex mainly....She had even refused light touches to sensitive parts. She will start slapping my hand from her body and give me some bombastic side eye look.... There's no bond and connection at all. She could travel at this time for a month and I won't even miss her.....