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chidiokay:
if thats her idealogy then why is it difficult to communicate to the man, however OP needs a 3rd party that can get into her head and resensitize

To majority of people I have seen have this issue, it's always got a religious undertone.....

Sexual activities, is NEVER for enjoyment (ONLY procreation).....

Mariangeles:
You are not a woman, so you can't understand.

How many u don born
Hope u remember to tell her if she's prepared for cs to deliver
And cutting of layers of kpekus during delivery (only if she escapes the cs)

I see...you were whining over my post for a different reason... As you were

Kobojunkie:
According to me where? At least try to dey avoid these senseless lies at this age! 🥱🥱🥱

dollypi:
I see...you were whining over my post for a different reason... As you were

Your post suggested that the woman was a predatory female... a narcissist... when nothing of what OP stated about her so far points in that direction. I simply pointed this out, so how does that constitute whining?

Her fellow mannies and weak men have already started to find excuse on behalf of the professional manipulator: like
1. She has low libido
2. They are not compatible sexually
3. It is the first trimester
4. Sit her down and talk over it
5. Give her more time
And other blah blah blah
My brother almost 90% of marriages is like that. The degree is only different. Women are generally manipulators.
She is only trying to take over the control of the home from you from the beginning, using sex bcs she knows that’s the only instrument she has. All of them have always use sex.
Everybody likes sex, don’t let them deceive you. She will be doing masturbation to make up for lack of real sex and wait till she accomplishes her aim of total control over you.
If you see her as a manipulator and not one “sister of God”, then nobody will tell you how to deal with her. However just know that the marriage is over already from the beginning bcs she WILL never yield and once sex is out of marriage, the marriage is gone. Pls brace up for the worse.

If I read correctly, OP is not only complaining of a lack of sex, but the disregard of romance and cuddling. Yet he is criticised by the majority of the female commentators.

Apparently, from observation, a significant proportion of married women don't like to have sex with their husbands and would rather want to dictate the tune, duration and when the sex takes place.

God sees us all...

May be she thought she would give birth to a prophet, if she avoids sex after pregnancy. 😂
Anyway, your cross.
2yrs of courtship without sex? May God not spoil my mother's work.

brain54:
I am not talking about all these your tactics...


And any other thing you posted. But did you consider that it may not be a case of manipulation but just a simple case of she being frigid or having low sexual drive genuinely?

Some people simply have low sex drives and it might not be about manipulation!

If as a woman you know you have low libido, don't bother getting married. This is the one reason why no-sex-before-marriage is a very wrong idea as sexual compatibility is something to be taken very seriously. It's very awkward and funny that it's this crucial time a woman thinks is perfect to starve her husband of sx. This is the time you need that sxual bonding most because attraction is expected to wane off once you start birthing children and this is why it's not uncommon to see couples wanting to spend years enjoying themselves while preventing pregnancy.
No sex before marriage makes you unable to understand your partner's sxual behavior and this is why it should be frowned upon. I can't imagine being with someone who doesn't feel the same way I feel towards sx FOR THE REST OF MY WHOLE LIFE. My wife must be my whre (yes, my one and only olosho)
I don't want no jehova witness as wife.

Procashtips:
And that automatically means she's same with you?

Any assumption is possible since we are all now making a case for her.

lol are you pulling my legs ?

Why do you need me to explain to you further?

Okay I’ll break it down for you-

At least 50%of pregnant women go through this phase and it is temporary. Pregnancy changes women in different ways but the one that is most common and applicable to most women is the situation with op’s wife.

In conclusion, whatever is going on with op’s wife is 100% NORMAL.

Use ChatGPT for more.

Ozzyk:
We got married in ending of August
We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship
She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core
On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin
Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period
Here is the issue;
Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching
It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together
I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all
My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved
Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being.....
And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance....
I am already tired 😩

Why you rush give her belle? You should at least be cuming outside or take proper measures to prevent early pregnancy in an early marriage. You haven't both fully enjoyed the new Marriage. Na you Sabi sha

Xilsbridalhouse:
lol are you pulling my legs ?

Why do you need me to explain to you further?

Okay I’ll break it down for you-

At least 50%of pregnant women go through this phase and it is temporary. Pregnancy changes women in different ways but the one that is most common and applicable to most women is the situation with op’s wife.

In conclusion, whatever is going on with op’s wife is 100% NORMAL.

Use ChatGPT for more.

Which phase are you talking about?

Enskynelson:
Do you know that a married woman with understanding and suffering from low sex drive will act differently? The way she is acting as explained by the OP is not only about low sex drive. Is it low sex drive that makes her not understand that her husband too has sexual needs? Is it low sex drive that is preventing her from trying to satisfy the desires of her husband? With those questions, you will know that even though she may have low sex drive, there is something else she wrong in her actions. A woman who really cares though suffering low sex drive should be able to sacrifice once in a while, should also be able to communicate how she is feeling and plead her husband give her some time... but u see this lady, she has more issues than just low sex drive.

You are very correct my brother.

Kobojunkie:
Have you tried taking some activities off her daily plate to see if that would help her relax and be more at ease with the possible anxieties that surround pregnancy?

this doesn't work. Never try to please a women withholding sex. She knows you're trying to cajole her to get the pussy. She won't give it up.

Instead, leave her and up your style, your looks etc. She'll bring it to your table.

CuteNbad:
Why you rush give her belle? You should at least be cuming outside or take proper measures to prevent early pregnancy in an early marriage. You haven't both fully enjoyed the new Marriage. Na you Sabi sha

You just hit the nail on the head. For a woman who has been preserving herself for that long, impregnating her should be the last thing to do as a man. You married a virgin and instead of opening her system up for loving sx, you rushed and filled her up. She might never get to know how enjoyable sx can be once she gives birth. He should have made her enjoy doing it before thinking about impregnation. Newly-wedded couples should enjoy their sexual lives before ever thinking of birthing kids because childbirth comes with corresponding loss of interest in sex for many women. If she is already doing like this when they haven't even started enjoying themselves (sxually) and in the beginning of their marital life, what would now happen when she starts birthing kids when her hormonal response to sx is naturally expected to slow down?
No sex before marriage is not holiness, it's a breeding ground for chaos.

CuteNbad:
➜this doesn't work. Never try to please a women withholding sex. She knows you're trying to cajole her to get the pussy. She won't give it up.
Instead, leave her and up your style, your looks etc. She'll bring it to your table.

Taking activities off her plate is not to please her but to maybe ease any stress that exists in the relationship. People— both men and women alike —tend to open up a lot more to people to help ease the stress in their lives than to those whom they perceive as the source of(or at least part of) the stresses in their lives.

Kobojunkie:
Taking activities off her plate is not to please her but to maybe ease any stress that exists in the relationship. People— both men and women alike —tend to open up a lot more to people to help ease the stress in their lives than to those whom they perceive as the source of(or at least part of) the stresses in their lives.

Not women. It might work for a man. But not a woman.

To her, you're doing anything to get the cookies and she won't give you regardless.

CuteNbad:
➜Not women. It might work for a man. But not a woman. To her, you're doing anything to get the cookies and she won't give you regardless.

This isn't about your personal delusions but about the results gathered from various human behavior studies. Men and women alike tend to open up — allow themselves to be more vulnerable— to people who they perceive are helping them that to people who they perceive as a threat to them— stressors.

It's based on my understanding of the passage combined with real world experience.

The OP is at liberty to reject it outrightly, or choose to investigate further, and thereafter accept or reject It.

I am suggesting that she is a predatory female, that predatory females have documented patterns of behaviour, and OP is already in her clutches.

Kobojunkie:
Your post suggested that the woman was a predatory female... a narcissist... when nothing of what OP stated about her so far points in that direction. I simply pointed this out, so how does that constitute whining?

Any woman, denying her husband of her body is demonic and carrying out a witchcraft agenda -W.f Kumuyi

dollypi:
It's based on my understanding of the passage combined with real world experience. The OP is at liberty to reject it outrightly, or choose to investigate further, and thereafter accept or reject It. I am suggesting that she is a predatory female, that predatory females have documented patterns of behaviour, and OP is already in her clutches.

But nothing of what OP has said so far can be logically construed as predatory. None of what he has said so far links to his wife being a predator...

This one wife don carry am handicap. Next time when you're courting, chop the cookie instead of forming good boy. Who even told him she's a virgin? Inexperienced man thought maybe it's when he feels tightness down there. Go through her phone and see revelation but just get shock absorber sha. Newly wedded wife dey avoid s*x cos she's a few weeks pregnant.

It's obvious to me, hence my response.

Kobojunkie:
But nothing of what OP has said so far can be logically construed as predatory. None of what he has said so far links to his wife being a predator...

Mariangeles:
Na so una dey take go outside go pack evil spirit wey full outside, carry enter una home.
When things begin fall apart, una no go open mouth talk wetin una do.
God dey watch all of una!

Instead of you to caution the unreasonable wife who is doing everything to destroy her own marriage you are here blaming the husband who is the victim.

The wife should have known to not let her husband bring issues to her

Ozzyk:
We got married in ending of August
We didn't have anything to do together at all during our 2 year courtship
She's really adorable and a Godly babe to the core
On the second night of our wedding I confirmed she was a virgin
Sadly our honeymoon only lasted Barely 2 weeks before she missed her period
Here is the issue;
Since over a month and some few weeks now she won't let me touch her, in fact it's like my touches irritate her, no sex, no kiss, no smooching, no touching
It sometimes feels we're just house mates who shares same matrimonial bed together
I have tried to talk to her many times about my sexual wellness but she seems not interested at all
My marriage is less than 2 months and I am already over a month sex starved
Perhaps she sometimes complains of pregnancy cramps but this should not com at the detriment of my sexual well being.....
And besides she's goes to work everyday but the moments she gets home she won't let me touch not even slight touches not to talk of sex or romance....
I am already tired 😩

For now, she is just 2 months pregnant. Having sex might be detrimental for the first trimester.

However, after the first trimester, it is safe for pregnant women to have sex. To achieve this, kindly insist on following her to her gynecologist where you can slip him/her a paper to "emphasise on" the need for sex at that point. She will definitely fall into line .

brain54:
If you waited for 2 years of courtship...

You should put back your waiting cap for 9 months of pregnancy.

By the way I am not a fan of no sex before marriage for the simple reason of sexual compatibility.

I believe these are part of things that should be observed during courtship.

Just be decent about it and not use it as excuse for waywardness!

Sex should be observed before marriage? And if the lady gets pregnant in the process and turns to a single mother, she gets rejected.

NiRfreak:
Oga. This is not right at all
At the beginning of what should be your bonding time, she's playing games and manipulation....
These are what you should do.

1. Erase the fact you have in your head that she's godly or good or virgin. Erase it. It no longer count. Otherwise you won't be able to act as a man, even when u are hurting, ur emotional side will be emasculating you..
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2. Approach the situation practically and zero your mind completely away from having sex with her. At least before marriage u dint die without sex. So don't let her use the sex card to turn u to her slave.
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3. Insist on pregnancy test
4. Insist on DNA test after 9 months..... Just to get on her nerves and make her agitated that you may not trust her.
5 Don't try to please her, do the barest minimum and no special treat. I beg you, no special treat or outing meant to curry favor.
6 play the same game she's playing. And don't bother her for sex... and don't seek her attention.
7 don't sleep in same room at night..go sleep in the second room.
8 Create scene and lambast her if she tries to gaslight you or flip the script on you for behaving mean towards her. A woman should be able to see your anger expressed as a man when she crosses certain lie. Even if u can't express anger.. voice and act it... No go dey do gentle man for this situation o

Over times she will sit up if she realises u are not taking her manipulation.

But I bet you can't do this because u still see her as a saint who has ur best interest.. Lol.. But she's there manipulating you and trying to be the boss over you. If u don't flip the script, she will turn ur boss, u will have to obey anything she says, and she will make you beg for everything in that marriage

@ OP, if you follow this foolish advice, your marriage might get affected, and for life.

She might be having issues with pregnancy hormones, as absurd as that may have sounded.

Relax! Having sex is actually very important for a pregnant woman during the period of pregnancy (but after the first trimester) to prepare for a smooth and easy delivery.

Mariangeles:
You are not a woman, so you can't understand.

You understand! Most of these young unmarried men just type trash and like them in mass because they have no inkling about what it means to suddenly start having sex and then get pregnant immediately -- the confusion, the hormones and the likes.

pocohantas:
I checked before commenting because people dey too trigger us for this NL and saw he actually works in a hospital. So he can be anything, including a nurse.

He was a civil servant but apparently has switched to Cyber security online work

pocohantas:
I checked before commenting because people dey too trigger us for this NL and saw he actually works in a hospital. So he can be anything, including a nurse.

It's good to know you finally married and have a baby. I've been reading your opinions for many years even your exchanges with some guys in ashewo and beer parlour thread in those days. I remember you saying things like " I want sombodies son to be driving me in traffic" after few years of expecting someone son is doing it.

Skj13777:
It's good to know you finally married and have a baby. I've been reading your opinions for many years even your exchanges with some guys in ashewo and beer parlour thread in those days. I remember you saying things like " I want sombodies son to be driving me in traffic" after few years of expecting someone son is doing it.

You didn't remember me telling them to stop stop sleeping with teenage girls? You g man shut up and stop disguising.