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iamoyindamola:
He said thank you!!
That's appreciation unless he wants something else
He's a friend and the need for help can go another way
If he give him money won't it finish?
Who go remain after money?

[color=royalblue]I didn't ask him to give him money.

But there are more honourable ways to show gratitude that typing a 4 word text.

You cannot put a call through?
You cannot pay your friend a visit?

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swiz123:
Don’t mind them. I strongly believe nobody owes me any form of kindness and when I receive one, I show immense gratitude.

What in the world is the meaning of immense gratitude?

Someone did him a favor and he appreciated him by saying Thank You, does thank you have another meaning other than showing appreciation ?

I have helped a friend in the process of getting jobs twice. The first job was where he bought his first car at a discounted price when the company was disposing status cars they bought for oga's brand new which had reached the end of its 4 years net book value life cycle. The current job he's on at an indigenous oil and gas firm, I sent him the job invite, helped him prepare for different stages of interview and even when he got to salary negotiation stage I gave him tips on how to get a considerable compensation package without throwing the recruiters off. He is currently doing well for himself.

I have never felt any reason to think whether he just said, "Thanks Bro" or he sends video of himsel rolling on the floor in appreciation for the "help". In fact, till date he has never sent me N1 and say it's because of my "help " and I'm not inclined to think he's obligated to do so. We are very good friends; he still calls me regularly to ask for my advice on work related issues and I do likewise.

There's nothing wrong in doing good to people and not expecting to be worshipped like an idol or life saver.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]I didn't ask him to give him money.

But there are more honourable ways to show gratitude that typing a 4 word text.

You cannot put a call through?
You cannot pay your friend a visit?

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You can't be sure he didn't put a call or visit
Elder said he only got thank you

iamoyindamola:
He said thank you!!
That's appreciation unless he wants something else
He's a friend and the need for help can go another way
If he give him money won't it finish?
Who go remain after money?

Wouldn’t kill him to say “ words can’t express how grateful I am for your referrals; may God bless you immensely, Thank you.”

Something along these lines is sufficient if he is too introverted to put a call across and thank him properly.

BlueRayDick:
What in the world is the meaning of immense gratitude?

Someone did him a favor and he appreciated him by saying Thank You, does thank you have another meaning other than showing appreciation ?

I have helped a friend in the process of getting jobs twice. The first job was where he bought his first car at a discounted price when the company was disposing status cars they bought for oga's brand new which had reached the end of its 4 years net book value life cycle. The current job he's on at an indigenous oil and gas firm, I sent him the job invite, helped him prepare for different stages of interview and even when he got to salary negotiation stage he gave him tips on how to get a considerable compensation package without throwing the recruiters off. He is currently doing well for himself.

I have never felt any reason to think whether he just said, "Thanks Bro" or he sends video of him rolling on the floor in appreciation for the "help". In fact, till date he has never sent me N1 and say it's because of my "help " and I'm not inclined to think he's obligated to do so. We are very good friends; he still calls me regularly to ask for my advice on work related issues and I do likewise.

There's nothing wrong in doing good to people and not expecting to be worshipped like an idol or life saver.

[color=royalblue] Kindly tell us how this friend of yours thanked you. I am sure he didn't type "Thanks" on Whatsapp.[/color]

iamoyindamola:
He said thank you!!
That's appreciation unless he wants something else
He's a friend and the need for help can go another way
If he give him money won't it finish?
Who go remain after money?

They are some act of kindness that requires more than just thank you in words. His friend acted like he doesn't know the value of what he just received. I think it's rude when I don't say thank you for acts of kindness like that. I also think it's rude when others don't.

swiz123:
Wouldn’t kill him to say “ words can’t express how grateful I am for your referrals; may God bless you immensely, Thank you.”

Something along these lines is sufficient if he is too introverted to put a call across and thank him properly.

You are right but the keywords in all this is "Thank You"
Don't forget they are friends who play and joke alot

Kimbeast:
They are some act of kindness that requires more than just thank you in words. His friend acted like he doesn't know the value of what he just received. I think it's rude when I don't say thank you for acts of kindness like that. I also think it's rude when others don't.

It's like gratitude has different meanings.

It's clear that a lot of people help others for selfish reasons, not because they truly care. Because I don't see why "thank you for the referrals" isn't enough.
Shey the person should roll on the floor for you first, or call his family members to come and greet you before you know he's grateful? Nawao.

iamoyindamola:
You can't be sure he didn't put a call or visit
Elder said he only got thank you

[color=royalblue]The tweet is right there.

When someone does a huge favor for me, it is right to thank them well. It is right to show them how I really appreciate whatever favors they pulled.

If na girl talk this thing, i am sure we will laugh at the guy for helping an ungrateful girl. But as na man, e wan worship am.

Na man dey do man [/color]

izzou:
[color=royalblue] Kindly tell us how this friend of yours thanked you. I am sure he didn't type "Thanks" on Whatsapp.[/color]

He sent me his employment letter on WhatsApp and said "I just collect the letter now. Thank you bro". That was it.

izzou:
[color=royalblue]The tweet is right there.

When someone does a huge favor for me, it is right to thank them well. It is right to show them how I really appreciate whatever favors they pulled.

If na girl talk this thing, i am sure we will laugh at the guy for helping an ungrateful girl. But as na man, e wan worship am.

Na man dey do man [/color]

You can't call the friend ungrateful because of that sha. I've helped people with deals and also teached people stuff that made them lots of $$$, they said "thank you for making this come through" and I was very satisfied with that.

You can only label someone ungrateful if after doing such things for them, and maybe you need such help later, and they refuse to come through for you or ignore you.

This same mentality is why governors seek praises when they fix roads. Truly, there's no difference between politicians and normal people in this country.

We are talking about friends here not strangers. Seeing your friend getting uplifted should give you joy, he doesn't have to roll on the floor, or give you a 3 hours call.

BlueRayDick:
What in the world is the meaning of immense gratitude?

Someone did him a favor and he appreciated him by saying Thank You, does thank you have another meaning other than showing appreciation ?

I have helped a friend in the process of getting jobs twice. The first job was where he bought his first car at a discounted price when the company was disposing status cars they bought for oga's brand new which had reached the end of its 4 years net book value life cycle. The current job he's on at an indigenous oil and gas firm, I sent him the job invite, helped him prepare for different stages of interview and even when he got to salary negotiation stage he gave him tips on how to get a considerable compensation package without throwing the recruiters off. He is currently doing well for himself.

I have never felt any reason to think whether he just said, "Thanks Bro" or he sends video of him rolling on the floor in appreciation for the "help". In fact, till date he has never sent me N1 and say it's because of my "help " and I'm not inclined to think he's obligated to do so. We are very good friends; he still calls me regularly to ask for my advice on work related issues and I do likewise.

There's nothing wrong in doing good to people and not expecting to be worshipped like an idol or life saver.

Well, I guess it depends on how you were raised. As a boy, whenever I received a Christmas gift for example, my parents made sure I go over and say I proper thank you and they also thank that person when they see them. That is a very polite way of acknowledging someone else’s effort who went out of their way to do something for you when they absolutely didn’t have to.

I am usually shocked when someone helps me and I sometimes even over thank them.

It’s fine if you are ok with getting just “thanks for your help “ after helping a low income earner secure a very high paying job. That doesn’t make such low sense of appreciation the standard.

TemporaryHansel:
It's like gratitude has different meanings.

It's clear that a lot of people help others for selfish reasons, not because they truly care. Because I don't see why "thank you for the referrals" isn't enough.
Shey the person should roll on the floor for you first, or call his family members to come and greet you before you know he's grateful? Nawao.

You were literally insulting that Nysc girl few days back for not praising the man that bought her the car on social media.

TemporaryHansel:
You can't call the friend ungrateful because of that sha. I've helped people with deals and also teached people stuff that made them lots of $$$, they said "thank you for making this come through" and I was very satisfied with that.

You can only label someone ungrateful if after doing such things for them, and maybe you need such help later, and they refuse to come through for you or ignore you.

This same mentality is why governors seek praises when they fix roads. Truly, there's no difference between politicians and normal people in this country.

We are talking about friends here not strangers. Seeing your friend getting uplifted should give you joy, he doesn't have to roll on the floor, or give you a 3 hours call. I

[color=royalblue] Anything I will do for an stranger, I'll do more for my friend

If I will go a metre for a stranger, I'll go two for my friend.

The same way that if I'll tell a stranger "Thank you", I'll tell my friend more. That's basically how I see life.
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swiz123:
Well, I guess it depends on how you were raised. As a boy, whenever I received a Christmas gift for example, my parents made sure I go over and say I proper thank you and they also thank that person when they see them. That is a very polite way of acknowledging someone else’s effort who went out of their way to do something for you when they absolutely didn’t have to.

I am usually shocked when someone helps me and I sometimes even over thank them.

It’s fine if you are ok with getting just “thanks for your help “ after helping a low income earner secure a very high paying job. That doesn’t make such low sense of appreciation the standard.

Thank you for the bold.

swiz123:
Well, I guess it depends on how you were raised. As a boy, whenever I received a Christmas gift for example, my parents made sure I go over and say I proper thank you and they also thank that person when they see them. That is a very polite way of acknowledging someone else’s effort who went out of their way to do something for you when they absolutely didn’t have to.

I am usually shocked when someone helps me and I sometimes even over thank them.

It’s fine if you are ok with getting just “thanks for your help “ after helping a low income earner secure a very high paying job. That doesn’t make such low sense of appreciation the standard.

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https://www.nairaland.com/8543218/victor-boniface-too-fat-says
This guy will ruin his career

swiz123:
Well, I guess it depends on how you were raised. As a boy, whenever I received a Christmas gift for example, my parents made sure I go over and say I proper thank you and they also thank that person when they see them. That is a very polite way of acknowledging someone else’s effort who went out of their way to do something for you when they absolutely didn’t have to.

I am usually shocked when someone helps me and I sometimes even over thank them.

It’s fine if you are ok with getting just “thanks for your help “ after helping a low income earner secure a very high paying job. That doesn’t make such low sense of appreciation the standard.

Who sets the standard for appreciation?

If you expect so much from helping people, maybe you shouldn't be helping them or maybe you inform them from inception that your help comes with a condition of "immense gratitude", so you don't get disappointed when they don't meet ur expectation. Just saying.

TemporaryHansel:
You can't call the friend ungrateful because of that sha. I've helped people with deals and also teached people stuff that made them lots of $$$, they said "thank you for making this come through" and I was very satisfied with that.

You can only label someone ungrateful if after doing such things for them, and maybe you need such help later, and they refuse to come through for you or ignore you.

This same mentality is why governors seek praises when they fix roads. Truly, there's no difference between politicians and normal people in this country.

We are talking about friends here not strangers. Seeing your friend getting uplifted should give you joy, he doesn't have to roll on the floor, or give you a 3 hours call.

if he has to roll on the floor,So be it! You think it's easy to find a helper? We take so many things for granted simply because we ve not experienced Life!!

iamoyindamola:
https://www.nairaland.com/8543218/victor-boniface-too-fat-says
This guy will ruin his career

When some of us said the guy was playing too much and it'll affect his career trajectory if he doesn't get serious, some people said we are haters. Including the Boniface guy, he started posting about people hating him.

Ihebu4chelsea:
if he has to roll on the floor,So be it! You think it's easy to find a helper? We take so many things for granted simply because we ve not experienced Life!!

Helping is a choice, we shouldn't be expecting something in return
It's not healthy

Ihebu4chelsea:
if he has to roll on the floor,So be it! You think it's easy to find a helper? We take so many things for granted simply because we ve not experienced Life!!

Gbam.

iamoyindamola:
Can he have the energy to pound
A young girl way dan high go need 40 mins session minimum to be satisfied

Just thinking out loud🤣🤣

No she won't

If he is as unappealing to her as you guys suggest, she will want it over with as quickly as possible

BlueRayDick:
Who sets the standard for appreciation?

If you expect so much from helping people, maybe you shouldn't be helping them or maybe you inform them from inception that your help comes with a condition of "immense gratitude", so you don't get disappointed when they don't meet ur expectation. Just saying.

Bro, It is expected standard nothing to do with getting something back. As a yoruba you are expected to also call the next day to say thank you for yesterday... atleast na wetin my parent knocked into my head.

BlueRayDick:
Who sets the standard for appreciation?

If you expect so much from helping people, maybe you shouldn't be helping them or maybe you inform them from inception that your help comes with a condition of "immense gratitude", so you don't get disappointed when they don't meet ur expectation. Just saying.

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Ibime:
No she won't

If he is as unappealing to her as you guys suggest, she will want it over with as quickly as possible

You guys invented the phrase. Lay back, Close your eyes and think of England. Ned will probably be done in 60 seconds.

iamoyindamola:
He said thank you!!
That's appreciation unless he wants something else
He's a friend and the need for help can go another way
If he give him money won't it finish?
Who go remain after money?

Na lie

Anybody who says "thanks for the referrals" after you saving their business is proud and probably in competition with you in their mind

I will call my friend and say "Oh boy, you done save me oh, I cannot thank you enough. Please let me take you out make we wash am" etc

iamoyindamola:
Helping is a choice, we shouldn't be expecting something in return
It's not healthy

It is not expecting something in return, like a kickback, it's your friend showing an acceptable standards of appreciation. I would call to thank him, mention that when next we meet peppersoup and stout is on me or even visit with a bottle of wine.

Olowunl01:
Bro, It is expected standard nothing to do with getting something back. As a yoruba you are expected to also call the next day to say thank you for yesterday... atleast na wetin my parent knocked into my head.

I think most of you are reading a totally different narrative to the story which is different from the facts presented to us by the poster on this matter.

The Tweet is still up there, and the fact therein are as follows:

1.The guy complained he helped his friend whose business was making low sales to get referrals which led to him making more sales. The guy mentioned the exact amount his friend made from those referrals which to me mean the friend disclosed this to him. If the friend didn't disclose the sales amount to him, then he must have asked those people whom he referred for how much they spent patronizing his friend (This is premium gutter behavior and suggests he didn't help his friend out of his free mind but for bragging rights).

2. The friend who was helped with the referrals sent a text of appreciation in which he said thanks bro.

3. You said the expected standard is to be appreciative and not necessarily about getting something back. If that is the standard, why is the friend vexed he only got thanks? What was he expecting apart from thanks?

4. If the guy had complained the friend ghosted him after helping his struggling business with referrals without saying thank you, I would've been mad at the guy that was helped. But u see this performative anger at him for only saying thanks, I no dey buy am at all.

5. If the guy wants anything aside the thanks, he should just come out straight and let the guy see if he can accomodate his expectations from the proceeds of the referral. Simple !

swiz123:
Don’t mind them. I strongly believe nobody owes me any form of kindness and when I receive one, I show immense gratitude.

Why are you showing immense gratitude?

BlueRayDick:
The guy mentioned the exact amount his friend made from those referrals which to me mean the friend disclosed this to him. If the friend didn't disclose the sales amount to him, then he must have asked those people whom he referred for how much they spent patronizing his friend

Anoda angu.

It is possible that in the process of the discussion where the N4.8m figure was given, the friend has already showed appreciation and the text is just a follow up.

BlueRayDick:
I think most of you are reading a totally different narrative to the story which is different from the facts presented to us by the poster on this matter.

The Tweet is still up there, and the fact therein are as follows:

1.The guy complained he helped his friend whose business was making low sales to get referrals which led to him making more sales. The guy mentioned the exact amount his friend made from those referrals which to me mean the friend disclosed this to him. If the friend didn't disclose the sales amount to him, then he must have asked those people whom he referred for how much they spent patronizing his friend (This is premium gutter behavior and suggests he didn't help his friend out of his free mind but for bragging rights).

2. The friend who was helped with the referrals sent a text of appreciation in which he said thanks bro.

3. You said the expected standard is to be appreciative and not necessarily about getting something back. If that is the standard, why is the friend vexed he only got thanks? What was he expecting apart from thanks?

4. If the guy had complained the friend ghosted him after helping his struggling business with referrals without saying thank you, I would've been mad at the guy that was helped. But u see this performative anger at him for only saying thanks, I no dey buy am at all.

5. If the guy wants anything aside the thanks, he should just come out straight and let the guy see if he can accomodate his expectations from the proceeds of the referral. Simple !

Lmao... Bro that reply doesn't match the level of help he received.
I've seen people show more gratitude for receiving 10k than what that guy received for saving someone's source of livelihood 😁.

At the very least you'd have offered to take the guy out or something.
Some of these things are unwritten rules.
Probably the guy nor rate who help am.