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I don't know if anyone of you can relate to this. But to be truthful, I can't continue taking up these multiple responsibilities anymore.

I'm the oldest of four younger siblings, and we just have one Male among us, who is the Last born. I'm training him in sch, a tertiary institution. The other two girls are already done with their school and are presently learning some skills.
None is contributing anything. I work from Mondays to Sundays without Rest. From house rent to feeding, to medics, transport, sch fees, light bills and others, I do all of them. I make sure I work to earn every penny I make. It is so bad that I don't have any savings. My clothes are worn out cos I can't afford new ones. Also, I can't afford my soap and cream any longer because there are more pressing issues to fix.
The burden has become so much, coupled with stress from work. Sometimes I overthink things and breakdown.
My mum isn't working due to her sight. She's completely Without sight. I had to hire someone to be taking care of her as we all go out for our daily activities.
I'm thinking of asking my younger brother to drop out for now so that the burden can reduce for now, but I don't know how to tell him because I don't know how he would feel. He's already in 200L.. It will break him I know, but I'm trying to cut cost at least for a year first, before he can return back to sch. If this happens, I fear he may take his life, due to the passion he has for sch. He's a very bright student. The most academically sound person in my family.

A lot of pressure is on me. I don't want to do what other girls are doing. I don't want to start sleeping with men for money because I need to protect my dignity as a woman until I'm married. I've turned down a lot of suitors already because I don't want to drag them into my family's struggles and later they start insulting me for being a burden to them. I refused to marry for now because of this.
Life isn't easy and hasn't being easy since the loss of our dad 10years ago.

Sometimes, I stay in my room and cry all through the night. I can't share my struggles with anyone for fear of being mocked and insulted behind my back.
Sometimes I feel like running far away that nobody will be able to see me or even call my lines.
I'm really messed up.
At times, I feel like I should just vanish from the surface of the earth.

I'm just confused.

Nlfpmod

You don't know the favour you're doing to yourself by training your siblings till later in the future.

I know the whole thing could be weighing you down, but believe me, by the time you start enjoying the fruit of your labour, you will be glad you did.

I pray God Almighty spare your life to see them becoming successful people.

madridguy:
You don't know the favour you're doing to yourself by training your siblings till later in the future.

I know the whole thing could be weighing you down, but believe me, by the time you start enjoying the fruit of your labour, you will be glad you did.

I pray God Almighty spare your life to see them becoming successful people.

Amen.
God bless you Sir.
Your words are light unto my path

People who have elder siblings who're responsible,Dem no know say God bless dem . Op, please don't give up on your siblings and your mom especially........ You'll definitely reap the fruits of your labour las las🙏

I understand how black tax can cripple a person's drive.

Op, am sorry to hear what you are going through and pray that God gives you the strength to lift the heavy financial burden on you.

See your younger brother as an investment that will help everyone in the family. He should forget anything girlfriend and focus on his studies. He is a man on a mission.

It is well with you.

MistyDense:
I don't know if anyone of you can relate to this. But to be truthful, I can't continue taking up these multiple responsibilities anymore.

I'm the oldest of four younger siblings, and we just have one Male among us, who is the Last born. I'm training him in sch, a tertiary institution. The other two girls are already done with their school and are presently learning some skills.
None is contributing anything. I work from Mondays to Sundays without Rest. From house rent to feeding, to medics, transport, sch fees, light bills and others, I do all of them. I make sure I work to earn every penny I make. It is so bad that I don't have any savings. My clothes are worn out cos I can't afford new ones. Also, I can't afford my soap and cream any longer because there are more pressing issues to fix.
The burden has become so much, coupled with stress from work. Sometimes I overthink things and breakdown.
My mum isn't working due to her sight. She's completely Without sight. I had to hire someone to be taking care of her as we all go out for our daily activities.
I'm thinking of asking my younger brother to drop out for now so that the burden can reduce for now, but I don't know how to tell him because I don't know how he would feel. He's already in 200L.. It will break him I know, but I'm trying to cut cost at least for a year first, before he can return back to sch. If this happens, I fear he may take his life, due to the passion he has for sch. He's a very bright student. The most academically sound person in my family.

A lot of pressure is on me. I don't want to do what other girls are doing. I don't want to start sleeping with men for money because I need to protect my dignity as a woman until I'm married. I've turned down a lot of suitors already because I don't want to drag them into my family's struggles and later they start insulting me for being a burden to them. I refused to marry for now because of this.
Life isn't easy and hasn't being easy since the loss of our dad 10years ago.

Sometimes, I stay in my room and cry all through the night. I can't share my struggles with anyone for fear of being mocked and insulted behind my back.
Sometimes I feel like running far away that nobody will be able to see me or even call my lines.
I'm really messed up.
At times, I feel like I should just vanish from the surface of the earth.

I'm just confused.

Nlfpmod

This kind of life makes people who don't know you think you're not serious with your life…

All I'll say is, if your siblings acknowledge and appreciate your effort, then good… don't give up yet, but make sure you get married before it's too late!
If you don't want to involve the man you'd marry, fine… but don't pause your love life.

I know what I'm saying o!

Just checked...
You again?

MistyDense:
I don't know if anyone of you can relate to this. But to be truthful, I can't continue taking up these multiple responsibilities anymore.

I'm the oldest of four younger siblings, and we just have one Male among us, who is the Last born. I'm training him in sch, a tertiary institution. The other two girls are already done with their school and are presently learning some skills.
None is contributing anything. I work from Mondays to Sundays without Rest. From house rent to feeding, to medics, transport, sch fees, light bills and others, I do all of them. I make sure I work to earn every penny I make. It is so bad that I don't have any savings. My clothes are worn out cos I can't afford new ones. Also, I can't afford my soap and cream any longer because there are more pressing issues to fix.
The burden has become so much, coupled with stress from work. Sometimes I overthink things and breakdown.
My mum isn't working due to her sight. She's completely Without sight. I had to hire someone to be taking care of her as we all go out for our daily activities.
I'm thinking of asking my younger brother to drop out for now so that the burden can reduce for now, but I don't know how to tell him because I don't know how he would feel. He's already in 200L.. It will break him I know, but I'm trying to cut cost at least for a year first, before he can return back to sch. If this happens, I fear he may take his life, due to the passion he has for sch. He's a very bright student. The most academically sound person in my family.

A lot of pressure is on me. I don't want to do what other girls are doing. I don't want to start sleeping with men for money because I need to protect my dignity as a woman until I'm married. I've turned down a lot of suitors already because I don't want to drag them into my family's struggles and later they start insulting me for being a burden to them. I refused to marry for now because of this.
Life isn't easy and hasn't being easy since the loss of our dad 10years ago.

Sometimes, I stay in my room and cry all through the night. I can't share my struggles with anyone for fear of being mocked and insulted behind my back.
Sometimes I feel like running far away that nobody will be able to see me or even call my lines.
I'm really messed up.
At times, I feel like I should just vanish from the surface of the earth.

I'm just confused.

https://www.nairaland.com/8520666/younger-brother-just-found-out#136823258

https://www.nairaland.com/8501220/younger-brother-family-ate-white

This same brother?

The most amazing part of everything I just read us that you're sponsoring your siblings in school. Don't ever give up on that. Instead tell them to get something doing why going to school. Me at my time I use to work brick layer work and others job to assist myself. Tell them no to put full stress in you to take charge of everything to reduce your pain. They're men they should hustle hard while going to school. Don't give up on that. And lastly try get married don't neglect your marital life because of them. Wake there spirit of hustling while they're going to school I've pass through this process don't give up on them.

Cum4me:
The most amazing part of everything I just read us that you're sponsoring your siblings in school. Don't ever give up on that. Instead tell them to get something doing why going to school. Me at my time I use to work brick layer work and others job to assist myself. Tell them no to put full stress in you to take charge of everything to reduce your pain. They're men they should hustle hard while going to school. Don't give up on that. And lastly try get married don't neglect your marital life because of them. Wake there spirit of hustling while they're going to school I've pass through this process don't give up on them.

🙏🙏🙏🙏

Kayberg:
This kind of life makes people who don't know you think you're not serious with your life…

All I'll say is, if your siblings acknowledge and appreciate your effort, then good… don't give up yet, but make sure you get married before it's too late!
If you don't want to involve the man you'd marry, fine… but don't pause your love life.

I know what I'm saying o!

🙏🙏🙏🙏

CaptainJune:
I understand how black tax can cripple a person's drive.

Op, am sorry to hear what you are going through and pray that God gives you the strength to lift the heavy financial burden on you.

See your younger brother as an investment that will help everyone in the family. He should forget anything girlfriend and focus on his studies. He is a man on a mission.

It is well with you.

🙏🙏🙏

Sonnobax15:

People who have elder siblings who're responsible,Dem no know say God bless dem . Op, please don't give up on your siblings and your mom especially........ You'll definitely reap the fruits of your labour las las🙏

🙏🙏🙏🙏

MistyDense:
I don't know if anyone of you can relate to this. But to be truthful, I can't continue taking up these multiple responsibilities anymore.

I'm the oldest of four younger siblings, and we just have one Male among us, who is the Last born. I'm training him in sch, a tertiary institution. The other two girls are already done with their school and are presently learning some skills.
None is contributing anything. I work from Mondays to Sundays without Rest. From house rent to feeding, to medics, transport, sch fees, light bills and others, I do all of them. I make sure I work to earn every penny I make. It is so bad that I don't have any savings. My clothes are worn out cos I can't afford new ones. Also, I can't afford my soap and cream any longer because there are more pressing issues to fix.
The burden has become so much, coupled with stress from work. Sometimes I overthink things and breakdown.
My mum isn't working due to her sight. She's completely Without sight. I had to hire someone to be taking care of her as we all go out for our daily activities.
I'm thinking of asking my younger brother to drop out for now so that the burden can reduce for now, but I don't know how to tell him because I don't know how he would feel. He's already in 200L.. It will break him I know, but I'm trying to cut cost at least for a year first, before he can return back to sch. If this happens, I fear he may take his life, due to the passion he has for sch. He's a very bright student. The most academically sound person in my family.

A lot of pressure is on me. I don't want to do what other girls are doing. I don't want to start sleeping with men for money because I need to protect my dignity as a woman until I'm married. I've turned down a lot of suitors already because I don't want to drag them into my family's struggles and later they start insulting me for being a burden to them. I refused to marry for now because of this.
Life isn't easy and hasn't being easy since the loss of our dad 10years ago.

Sometimes, I stay in my room and cry all through the night. I can't share my struggles with anyone for fear of being mocked and insulted behind my back.
Sometimes I feel like running far away that nobody will be able to see me or even call my lines.
I'm really messed up.
At times, I feel like I should just vanish from the surface of the earth.

I'm just confused.

Nlfpmod

Sincerely, I don't even know what to type or say to you. But, one thing I know, the good Lord seen all your burden. He will help you overcome the storm before you. As for your brother's. Please! ensure you didn't stop his education, because that will affect him. May God direct a spouse that will take place of father in your life not Just husband....

pvicky:
Sincerely, I don't even know what to type or say to you. But, one thing I know, the good Lord seen all your burden. He will help you overcome the storm before you. As for your brother's. Please! ensure you didn't stop his education, because that will affect him. May God direct a spouse that will take place of father in your life not Just husband....

Thank you Sir 🙏🙏
I pray he doesn't stop sch. I just pray.

What if she never gets to enjoy the fruits of her labour though?

Her sisters will soon get married and spend their money on themselves and their families and it might be the same case with her younger brother.

madridguy:
You don't know the favour you're doing to yourself by training your siblings till later in the future.

I know the whole thing could be weighing you down, but believe me, by the time you start enjoying the fruit of your labour, you will be glad you did.

I pray God Almighty spare your life to see them becoming successful people.

Spending on her is not the only way of
enjoying her fruit of labour.... Seeing her younger ones having their own financial liberty and becoming a financial independent is also fruit of labour.

If she fail to invest in her siblings today, they could be burden to her for life. But having them educated, once they have their own job doing, no one will disturb her again. I hope you get my point now.

Samantha125:
What if she never gets to enjoy the fruits of her labour though?

Her sisters will soon get married and spend their money on themselves and their families and it might be the same case with her younger brother.

Education is no longer the key to success, but connections are.

madridguy:
Spending on her is not the only way of
enjoying her fruit of labour.... Seeing her younger ones having their own financial liberty and becoming a financial independent is also fruit of labour.

If she fail to invest in her siblings today, they could be burden to her for life. But having them educated, once they have their own job doing, no one will disturb her again. I hope you get my point now.

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MistyDense:
Amen.
God bless you Sir.
Your words are light unto my path

Tell your bother to defer his admission by one year. Then he should work to raise money.

by next year, you should be able to support him with the little he saved to continue

madridguy:
You don't know the favour you're doing to yourself by training your siblings till later in the future.

I know the whole thing could be weighing you down, but believe me, by the time you start enjoying the fruit of your labour, you will be glad you did.

I pray God Almighty spare your life to see them becoming successful people.

What favour? Ask those who have done it in the past.

When you hear ''what have you done for me?'' after all your sufferings & sacrifices, body go tell you.

when I read this kind of gist, I ask myself what exactly is your intention going public with it?

To get response like Frm mysterious people online saying

".......eeeh sorry"
"......dnt worry. you wil eat the fruit of your labor"
"......that is why you are the senior"
".......God will provide"
.......and blaa... blaa.....naaaa

what a logical person shud do if at all this gist is genuine is to meet with these people you claim to sponsor or support and let them know and start finding means too to fend for themselves.

Rejig and wake them up from their sleep and let them help themselves. That is a beta and rational way to address this .

so what shud people reading this shud do for you?

But atleast they won't be burden on her or going around telling people their sister didn't help them.

ChybuzzDD:
What favour? Ask those who have done it in the past.

When you hear ''what have you done for me?'' after all your sufferings & sacrifices, body go tell you.

If by tomorrow you eventually have the connections are you going to buy a certificate or what?

Samantha125:
Education is no longer the key to success, but connections are.

gerizzim:
when I read this kind of gist, I ask myself what exactly is your intention going public with it?

To get response like Frm mysterious people online saying

".......eeeh sorry"
"......dnt worry. you wil eat the fruit of your labor"
"......that is why you are the senior"
".......God will provide"
.......and blaa... blaa.....naaaa

what a logical person shud do if at all this gist is genuine is to meet with these people you claim to sponsor or support and let them know and start finding means too to fend for themselves.

Rejig and wake them up from their sleep and let them help themselves. That is a beta and rational way to address this .

so what shud people reading this shud do for you?

Why are you this mean and insensitive?
You could have just ignored the post since it's nonsense. Sensible people like you shouldn't be reacting to nonsense na

Honestly, I feel you. It's quite hard, I would have said you should find a rich man and marry,but that's fairy tale.

I wish you strength and hopefully your female siblings would get a job eventually,since they are learning a skill + the education they have!

This stranger says, you are a strong woman!

Check my signature guys, small bread is better than non!

MistyDense:
I don't know if anyone of you can relate to this. But to be truthful, I can't continue taking up these multiple responsibilities anymore.

I'm the oldest of four younger siblings, and we just have one Male among us, who is the Last born. I'm training him in sch, a tertiary institution. The other two girls are already done with their school and are presently learning some skills.
None is contributing anything. I work from Mondays to Sundays without Rest. From house rent to feeding, to medics, transport, sch fees, light bills and others, I do all of them. I make sure I work to earn every penny I make. It is so bad that I don't have any savings. My clothes are worn out cos I can't afford new ones. Also, I can't afford my soap and cream any longer because there are more pressing issues to fix.
The burden has become so much, coupled with stress from work. Sometimes I overthink things and breakdown.
My mum isn't working due to her sight. She's completely Without sight. I had to hire someone to be taking care of her as we all go out for our daily activities.
I'm thinking of asking my younger brother to drop out for now so that the burden can reduce for now, but I don't know how to tell him because I don't know how he would feel. He's already in 200L.. It will break him I know, but I'm trying to cut cost at least for a year first, before he can return back to sch. If this happens, I fear he may take his life, due to the passion he has for sch. He's a very bright student. The most academically sound person in my family.

A lot of pressure is on me. I don't want to do what other girls are doing. I don't want to start sleeping with men for money because I need to protect my dignity as a woman until I'm married. I've turned down a lot of suitors already because I don't want to drag them into my family's struggles and later they start insulting me for being a burden to them. I refused to marry for now because of this.
Life isn't easy and hasn't being easy since the loss of our dad 10years ago.

Sometimes, I stay in my room and cry all through the night. I can't share my struggles with anyone for fear of being mocked and insulted behind my back.
Sometimes I feel like running far away that nobody will be able to see me or even call my lines.
I'm really messed up.
At times, I feel like I should just vanish from the surface of the earth.

I'm just confused.

Nlfpmod

If your brother in the University is in a Federal University, he should apply for the Nigeria Education Loan Fund(NELFUND). The FG pays the school fees directly to the University and also pays the student a monthly upkeep allowance. Repayment is 2years after NYSC at 0% Interest Rate.

You'd still need connections with that certificate.

madridguy:
If buy tomorrow you eventually have the connections are you going to buy a certificate or what?

Samantha125:
What if she never gets to enjoy the fruits of her labour though?

Her sisters will soon get married and spend their money on themselves and their families and it might be the same case with her younger brother.

Yes, this is the case 80% of the time.
Though someone up there suggested the Op is just catching cruise.

MistyDense:
Why are you this mean and insensitive?
You could have just ignored the post since it's nonsense. Sensible people like you shouldn't be reacting to nonsense na

hard love now is mean and insensitive? Okay keep spoon-feeding grown ups.

Don't worry. plenty people after me will tell you something soft dt will fuel your complain to linger. .

Please be strong and help your brother as much as you can to graduate. You never can tell if he's the one God wants to use to bless your family!

Encourage your other siblings to get jobs so that they can contribute to the finances of your family. Let them get jobs no matter how small!

Also, don't reject marriage for fear of being mocked by your husband because of your family's financial background. Instead, look for a good guy who is genuinely in love with you. A guy who genuinely loves you would not like seeing your family suffer! Your problems would be his problems. A drop of tears from your eyes would stab his heart like a spear so he wouldn't want anything that would make his baby girl cry. That's what genuine love feels like but some ladies would go and marry rubbish and start calling all men scum! Don't reject good men because of what you read on social media, rather look for a genuine lover.

What of your late elderly brother that die.d according to your old thread...