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Last week, something happened in my class that left me thinking deeply about parenting and discipline.

I gave my students homework on Friday, to be submitted on Monday. Come Monday, I noticed one of them quietly scribbling away in class. I walked closer and yes, she was writing the same homework I gave days ago.

When I asked her, she denied it immediately. Boldly. Without blinking. I felt disappointed, not just because she didn’t do the homework, but because she lied.

So, I raised my voice a little (in love, not in anger), and told her to kneel outside the class for lying. No beating. No insults. Just correction.

The next day, her mother stormed the school.
“Why did you bully my child?” she asked.
I was stunned.
Bully? Because I corrected her child for lying and doing homework in class?

That moment made me realize something. Many parents today don’t want teachers to correct their children, yet they still expect those same children to grow into disciplined adults.

Dear parents,
When you defend your child’s wrongs instead of addressing them, you’re teaching them that lying is fine as long as someone covers for them.

Discipline isn’t hatred. Correction isn’t bullying.
Teachers are partners in raising your children, not enemies.

What do you think, should teachers stop correcting children to avoid being misunderstood, or should we keep doing what’s right no matter what?

Parenting in Nigeria 🇳🇬 is gradually decaying and certainly it's going worse every day. The advent of social media has made it even worse.
This is just the beginning.
We have failed in Parenting in this country.

Why correcting her?? Were you assigned to disciplinary committee?? African is born to lies

so as her teacher I'm not qualify to do that? hmm

muyico:
Why correcting her?? Were you assigned to disciplinary committee?? African is born to lies

honestly it is , I'm out of words

saintopus:
Parenting in Nigeria 🇳🇬 is gradually decaying and certainly it's going worse every day. The advent of social media has made it even worse.
This is just the beginning.
We have failed in Parenting in this country.

joyteachdaily:
so as her teacher I'm not qualify to do that? hmm

No African pikin wey no dey lies, is traits! Do Ur job and go home, Ure employed to teach them ,

The parents won't correct their children...

They wouldn't let the teachers do it either. They expect the children to become disciplined magically.

Life operates on principles, in this case sowing and reaping.

We have copied the "white man's" culture too much when we don't even have the same kind of functional systems they have.


I always say I pity the coming generations... but I don't really blame them it's their parents that failed them!

Like the guy above, you were paid to teach and not to discipline.

No dey stress yourself. If she doesn't do her home-work, document it and make it known to the school authority.

That's the schools and parent problem to deal with.

All these anomalies can only happen in a private school. I'll keep saying it, proliferation of private schools in our primary and secondary educational system is more of a problem than a blessing. They can't correct and control the children. They can't even ask a poorly performed student to repeat a class. Everybody must be promoted at the end of the session.
.. the worst of it all is the way they encourage cheating and exam malpractice in their schools, especially WAEC & NECO. 🤥 WTF?

If you command my child to kneel down outside under the sun, i will drive inside the school-yard the next morning to correct you.

Stop inflicting injuries and aches to my ward!

Am not a parent so I dont know...all I know is that my father flog me well well

joyteachdaily:
Last week, something happened in my class that left me thinking deeply about parenting and discipline.

I gave my students homework on Friday, to be submitted on Monday. Come Monday, I noticed one of them quietly scribbling away in class. I walked closer and yes, she was writing the same homework I gave days ago.

When I asked her, she denied it immediately. Boldly. Without blinking. I felt disappointed, not just because she didn’t do the homework, but because she lied.

So, I raised my voice a little (in love, not in anger), and told her to kneel outside the class for lying. No beating. No insults. Just correction.

The next day, her mother stormed the school.
“Why did you bully my child?” she asked.
I was stunned.
Bully? Because I corrected her child for lying and doing homework in class?

That moment made me realize something. Many parents today don’t want teachers to correct their children, yet they still expect those same children to grow into disciplined adults.

Dear parents,
When you defend your child’s wrongs instead of addressing them, you’re teaching them that lying is fine as long as someone covers for them.

Discipline isn’t hatred. Correction isn’t bullying.
Teachers are partners in raising your children, not enemies.

What do you think, should teachers stop correcting children to avoid being misunderstood, or should we keep doing what’s right no matter what?

U sound familiar.
Intelligent and outspoken.
Aunty Joy of Basic Foundation?
You teach English?

Kestolove:
Am not a parent so I dont know...all I know is that my father flog me well well

So @40 you are still in ya parents house and receiving flogging!!!

Olatara:
Like the guy above, you were paid to teach and not to discipline.

No dey stress yourself. If she doesn't do her home-work, document it and make it known to the school authority.

That's the schools and parent problem to deal with.

This kind of mindset is the reason why our society is witnessing this level of decay. How do you teach without discipline? Is teaching only related to books or academics?
The parents should continue. That same child will give them sleeplessness nights if they fail to do the needful now

It's just this generation. We are battling with the same thing among undergraduates with my professor in one of the "advanced countries".

I assume this is one of those posh schools. A lot of parents think high school fees mean their children are special and any disciplinary actions should not apply to them. The schools are also not helping as they won't want to chase away high paying clients. It's best as a teacher to know the kind of school you are in and act accordingly.

Love800:
If you command my child to kneel down outside under the sun, i will drive inside the school-yard the next morning to correct you.

Stop inflicting injuries and aches to my ward!

So hw should ur child be corrected?
U that went through same process, did u die.. parents are raising children who don't see adults as people to be deferred to hence they cannot receive wisdom from adults including their parents

The coming generations are doomed!
Doomed I tell you!
Doooooooommmmeeeeddddd!!!!!

COMRADES, the answer is yes, but not all the Nigerian parents

When you defend your child’s wrongs instead of addressing them, you’re teaching them that lying is fine as long as someone covers for them.

Watch well...that mum will be a single mum

It's the women tahg spoil the kids most times

saintopus:
Parenting in Nigeria 🇳🇬 is gradually decaying and certainly it's going worse every day. The advent of social media has made it even worse.
This is just the beginning.
We have failed in Parenting in this country.

our days parent go correct us and still give the streets rights to correct us
school own them no de argue am
mama de even carry our mess up for house go school make school treat am

Many people are inside yahoo because their parents failed them

If yahoo boys parents planned well for their children I don't see any reason why they will venture into stealing peoples money called yahoo
Any yahoo person you see know say his or her parents failed them financially
Na poverty from yahoo boys parents they drive them to be doing yahoo

They no born you well to think of yahoo yahoo in my house talk more of doing it



The summary of it is

Na brokenss from most parents dey drive their children to do yahoo yahoo

Love800:
If you command my child to kneel down outside under the sun, i will drive inside the school-yard the next morning to correct you.

Stop inflicting injuries and aches to my ward!

Na people like you dey spoil the society

What happened to training your kid excellently??

You want your kid to misbehave but you don't want teachers to discipline them make this make sense abeg

Ask them to submit their homework first thing on Monday morning - 8am. Anyone who didn't at that spec time you grade "0"

Not every child will grow up useful.
Not every child will be successful in life.

As a teacher, your job is to train children who end up successful. Your job isn't to train every child.

Parents have a part to play in a child's success or failure. You also have your own part.

Some children are destined to cause their parents heartbreak in old age. It is their destiny.
Their parents will go all out to ensure that destiny is fulfilled.

Use your tongue to count your teeth.

saintopus:
Parenting in Nigeria 🇳🇬 is gradually decaying and certainly it's going worse every day. The advent of social media has made it even worse.
This is just the beginning.
We have failed in Parenting in this country.

When it is the western ways of doing things our people like to copy. They always look for nonsense to copy all in the name of wokeness and modernization. Dem no go modernize reach to start doing intelligent things o. Awón èyàn werey

Of course,
And many will regret later in life...

Olatara:
Like the guy above, you were paid to teach and not to discipline.

No dey stress yourself. If she doesn't do her home-work, document it and make it known to the school authority.

That's the schools and parent problem to deal with.

We shouldn't continue this way, a young boy not more than 20 years nearly cut off his father's head last week just because the man asked him why he dey smoke upandan

This untrained kids will become a big problem to our society in the future

The government needs to redefine discipline in children abeg

I can't even stand a spoilt child and that's why I will never apply for a teacher's job in Nigeria

muyico:
No African pikin wey no dey lies, is traits! Do Ur job and go home, Ure employed to teach them ,

Says someone who will be angry if someone lied to him 🙄🙄

Sometimes is better to keep quiet when you don't know what to say honestly.

Houseofglam7:
The coming generations are doomed!
Doomed I tell you!
Doooooooommmmeeeeddddd!!!!!

Totally doomed ooo, with this kind of parenting we are witnessing these days

No child will try rubbish under my watch sha

ambale:
We shouldn't continue this way, a young boy not more than 20 years nearly cut off his father's head last week just because the man asked him why he dey smoke upandan

This untrained kids will become a big problem to our society in the future

The government needs to redefine discipline in children abeg

I can't even stand a spoilt child and that's why I will never apply for a teacher's job in Nigeria

You even have time to reply those mofos above?

Same people will be shouting up and down that the nation is corrupt, without realizing that the refusal to instill discipline at a younger age is one of the main reasons