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Na because you get plenty money nau

Daejumong:
Pastor Tunde Bakare: “ Before I got married to my wife, she was working with Union Bank with a salary of N375. Mine was N710 as a lawyer . Out of my earnings,I pay my tithe and offering, pay my mother N50 every month, give my wife N200 for housekeeping. I never asked of her salary. Whatever was left of my earnings, I would manage it for transportation to work and back.”

*Culled from his autobiography,The Last but definitely not the Least *

My thoughts
- Pst Bakare is a good son and husband. He took care of his widowed mother and made sure his wife was treated as a queen! He didn’t ask to share the bills 50:50. He didn’t ask her what she was bringing to the table. He didnt bother about her salary.

- Pst Bakare said he manages the remaining money to work! This is deep! Women would give their lives and unalloyed loyalty to any man that is selfless and puts her and the kids first. They would do anything for such a man! Little wonder they have a successful marriage!

- Finally,I encourage men to emulate Pst Bakare’s style in marriage however in a case where the man is genuinely financially incapacitated, the woman should honourably and respectfully take over!

1 Timothy 5:8
8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever

Dae Jumong

Can we ask the wife if this is true? In my home, I do these too not because that is what I believed but because my wife decided not to be useful. My parents were collaborating.

Based on today's realities, for a man's sanity, wives must contribute no matter how little. Women must have a source of Income. Else Family progress will be very slow.

lailo:
Lamba baba
A man that said God said he would succeed Buhari as Nigeria president?
believe him at your own peril and see your marriage crumble

God no dey tell dem anything. . Fools believe them!

Procashtips:
Why does she need to force you when all she needs to do is just say it or send to your WhatsApp?

Make una dey reason wetin una dey type sometimes.

I don't give a hoot......

funmijoyb:
Tell us the source of your income we want to know how legitimate it is

..I sell cars...what do you do?

SonOfWords:
Okay.

But who asked you?

You don't deserve reply.... Una too jealous.... Wetin concern me and you?

AutoConsult:
50-50 men cannot relate. Na man you be

leave other frustrated guys to keep mentioning me like say na them marry for me... Bitter souls.

Switruth:
No big deal....Till now my wife has been forcing me to know what they pay her... I no really send am as long as I'm the one providing...

But she always want to know yours..that's why she's forcing you

femi4:
But she always want to know yours..that's why she's forcing you

of course. She knows what I earn.... She is my wife and the mother of my kids so no big deal...

Switruth:
of course. She knows what I earn.... She is my wife and the mother of my kids so no big deal...

As far as I am the one that married her, I will know her salary, no long talk here.

Make una dey form mancho man, una go learn the hard way.

That is good and commendable act as husband though it's not a sin if wife contribute to family's finance.

Dogalmighty17:
His salary was 710 naira and he gave his wife 200 naira for house keeping? That's less than 30% of his salary. For a whole month? This means he expected his wife to add up and augment from her salary. Simple!

Not necessarily. N200 of those days has far more purchasing power than 400k of today

Switruth:
leave other frustrated guys to keep mentioning me like say na them marry for me... Bitter souls.

Don't mind them.

Ekrenji:
That’s the right thing to do. Wetin concern husband with his wife’s salary?

I thought we have agreed that men are equal to women in everything

Switruth:
of course. She knows what I earn.... She is my wife and the mother of my kids so no big deal...

Wait... So you are defending the fact that your wife has the right to know your earnings as spend your money while you believe you don't have the right to know her earnings or spend her money

I just want to make sure I get this correctly

Daejumong:
Pastor Tunde Bakare: “ Before I got married to my wife, she was working with Union Bank with a salary of N375. Mine was N710 as a lawyer . Out of my earnings,I pay my tithe and offering, pay my mother N50 every month, give my wife N200 for housekeeping. I never asked of her salary. Whatever was left of my earnings, I would manage it for transportation to work and back.”

*Culled from his autobiography,The Last but definitely not the Least *

My thoughts
- Pst Bakare is a good son and husband. He took care of his widowed mother and made sure his wife was treated as a queen! He didn’t ask to share the bills 50:50. He didn’t ask her what she was bringing to the table. He didnt bother about her salary.

- Pst Bakare said he manages the remaining money to work! This is deep! Women would give their lives and unalloyed loyalty to any man that is selfless and puts her and the kids first. They would do anything for such a man! Little wonder they have a successful marriage!

- Finally,I encourage men to emulate Pst Bakare’s style in marriage however in a case where the man is genuinely financially incapacitated, the woman should honourably and respectfully take over!

1 Timothy 5:8
8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever

Dae Jumong

This is a wrong interpretation of 1 Timothy 5:8 and it's unfortunate that most pastors don't even know their left from their right.

That verse is speaking directly to children of widows about the need to prioritize taking care of their parents first (v4) then he continued with the same message until you get to verse 8 which simply says that any grown up child (man or woman):of a widow who fails to take care of his mother/father is worse than an infidel.

Our pastors have weaponised this verse against men to mean that the man is solely responsible for taking care of his wife and children and the needs of the home.

God did not put that kind of pressure on any married man.

That verse apply equally to men and women please. Read proverbs 31:10 - 31 and you will see that the bible is balanced.

There is no scripture that forbids a woman from taking financial responsibility in the home just like the man - infact proverbs 31 seems to suggest that the woman is responsible for working to meet so many needs in the home.

If the husband and wife are truly one then there should be no secrets in finances and everything should be done together

This is the same way that Malachi 3 has been quoted out of context to preach monthly tithing with money whereas the passage is God rebuking priests who were stealing tithes paid by the congregation!

You can't build a doctrine on just one verse. Always read the preceding verses so that you can understand the context.

ogbe88:
As far as I am the one that married her, I will know her salary, no long talk here.

Make una dey form mancho man, una go learn the hard way.

you no understand... Maybe you ain't married yet... I said I no send her salary....why una just dey jealous na.

Iamzik:
Wait... So you are defending the fact that your wife has the right to know your earnings as spend your money while you believe you don't have the right to know her earnings or spend her money

I just want to make sure I get this correctly

I'm not defending. I'm stating the obvious......so why this whole thing dey pain una. Haaaaa.

Switruth:
I'm not defending. I'm stating the obvious......so why this whole thing dey pain una. Haaaaa.

Ok thanks for clarifying.

Im just wondering how the system successfully duped men into thinking this way because women are very wise and they don't think like this

A woman died last year and left over 30 million in her account with her last born as next or kin. The husband had asked severally and this woman would pretend she doesn't have any money. Meanwhile her husband is struggling to pay rent and school fees and take care of her parent out of the meager salary he is earning. She will still nag him for not giving her enough money.

The man went to process letter of administration and discovered this, he couldn't believe his eyes and ears.


As for me, any woman that keeps her finances secret from a responsible husband is just taking advantage of him.

If you and your wife are truly one like you think then she should be transparent with you just like you are transparent to her.

But hey it's your life. Do you bro....
.

Switruth:
you no understand... Maybe you ain't married yet... I said I no send her salary....why una just dey jealous na.

U will learn don't worry.

Not every man is like you.
My own wife demands that I ask her what her salary is. Nothing special in both situations.

Iamzik:
I thought we have agreed that men are equal to women in everything

You and who and at what point?

If women won't provide at home as well, they should be excused from all jobs, so men can take all up and take care of you. Men can't be going to interviews with you to compete for a job, after getting the job, you will now tell tour husband that your money is your right. Who does that

ogbe88:
U will learn don't worry.

ok Mr Bitterness..... I hear you. Your story can never be mine. Now run along. How you want to influence my decision on how I run my family beats my imagination... Are you really okay? .

Iamzik:
Ok thanks for clarifying.

Im just wondering how the system successfully duped men into thinking this way because women are very wise and they don't think like this

A woman died last year and left over 30 million in her account with her last born as next or kin. The husband had asked severally and this woman would pretend she doesn't have any money. Meanwhile her husband is struggling to pay rent and school fees and take care of her parent out of the meager salary he is earning. She will still nag him for not giving her enough money.

The man went to process letter of administration and discovered this, he couldn't believe his eyes and ears.


As for me, any woman that keeps her finances secret from a responsible husband is just taking advantage of him.

If you and your wife are truly one like you think then she should be transparent with you just like you are transparent to her.

But hey it's your life. Do you bro....
.

I'm sorry to say but before now my wife had put in much to see the family rise.... Now it's my turn to show her how much I appreciate her so much. Oga I say I no wan know how much they pay her.... ... You can ask yours but me...I will not ask her.

I have copied your write-up to my archive. It's a very valuable material to me. It is a well-written solution to counter this. I have never seen a better explanation of 1 Timothy 5:8 than this. Thank you so much.

Iamzik:
This is a wrong interpretation of 1 Timothy 5:8 and it's unfortunate that most pastors don't even know their left from their right.

That verse is speaking directly to children of widows about the need to prioritize taking care of their parents first (v4) then he continued with the same message until you get to verse 8 which simply says that any grown up child (man or woman):of a widow who fails to take care of his mother/father is worse than an infidel.

Our pastors have weaponised this verse against men to mean that the man is solely responsible for taking care of his wife and children and the needs of the home.

God did not put that kind of pressure on any married man.

That verse apply equally to me and women please. Read proverbs 31:10 - 31 and you will see that the bible is balanced.

There is no scripture that forbids a woman from taking financial responsibility for the home just like the man - infact proverbs seem to suggest that the woman is responsible for meeting so many things in the home. If the husband and wife are truly one then there should be no secrets and everything should be done together

This is the same way that Malachi 3 has been quoted out of context to preach monthly tithing with money.

You can't build a doctrine on just one verse. Always read the preceding verses so that you can understand the context.

Daejumong:
Pastor Tunde Bakare: “ Before I got married to my wife, she was working with Union Bank with a salary of N375. Mine was N710 as a lawyer . Out of my earnings,I pay my tithe and offering, pay my mother N50 every month, give my wife N200 for housekeeping. I never asked of her salary. Whatever was left of my earnings, I would manage it for transportation to work and back.”

*Culled from his autobiography,The Last but definitely not the Least *

My thoughts
- Pst Bakare is a good son and husband. He took care of his widowed mother and made sure his wife was treated as a queen! He didn’t ask to share the bills 50:50. He didn’t ask her what she was bringing to the table. He didnt bother about her salary.

- Pst Bakare said he manages the remaining money to work! This is deep! Women would give their lives and unalloyed loyalty to any man that is selfless and puts her and the kids first. They would do anything for such a man! Little wonder they have a successful marriage!

- Finally,I encourage men to emulate Pst Bakare’s style in marriage however in a case where the man is genuinely financially incapacitated, the woman should honourably and respectfully take over!

1 Timothy 5:8
8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever

Dae Jumong

Dear men.,

Avoid messages like this.

Bible talks about woman designed to help a man... Finances inclusive.

Only a witch will go to school, get a career and then say that her earnings must not benefit the man and children.

Even if it's not 50-50, the wife should pledge a significant part of her income to improve the finances kf the home.

In the culture of God's kingdom not the worldly,a wife owns nothing outside of the husband -(Wives, submit YOURSELVES unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord-Ephesians 5:22-23).

Switruth:
ok Mr Bitterness..... I hear you. Your story can never be mine. Now run along. How you want to influence my decision on how I run my family beats my imagination... Are you really okay? .

u r not well

Switruth:
I'm sorry to say but before now my wife had put in much to see the family rise.... Now it's my turn to show her how much I appreciate her so much. Oga I say I no wan know how much they pay her.... ... You can ask yours but me...I will not ask her.

I'm not even concerned about whether you want to ask or not.

What I'm concerned about is correcting that wrong notion that men should not have any interest in knowing their wife's finances but wives have the right to know the husband's. That is what the OP is trying to normalise with this post.

God bless your wife and all women who support their husbands with all their hearts.

Cheers

Ekrenji:
You and who and at what point?

😂😂😂

Women too should help out in the home and not dependent entirely on husband income.

Women are designed by God to be help meets _not parasites.