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Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by correctyourself(m): 4:27pm On Oct 30, 2025
Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.
Stop sending them money as far they're getting money from other sources and do as if you don't know they're collecting money. But the day your wife would mention you not given money, tell her to inform them to continue to collect money from the other source.

That statement would help you solve so many issues on this matter. Because they would have to make a choice.

If you refuse to take this advice you're on your own.
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by InvertedHammer: 4:27pm On Oct 30, 2025
Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.
/

Many of you tolerate nonsense.

Apparently you are the wife in the relationship. She is your husband.

/
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by damoobaba: 4:27pm On Oct 30, 2025
Double0h7:
The message they are sending is to up your hustle! Do you gift them?
He married from the wrong family
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Phred1717: 4:27pm On Oct 30, 2025
The Ex is a sharp guy get ready to be SACKED if you don't act smart or face massive competition with your inlaw's... But against all odds warn your wife to block all communication with him or move on with your life
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Starhearts: 4:29pm On Oct 30, 2025
Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.
Wise up
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by tunapawizzy: 4:30pm On Oct 30, 2025
Phred1717:
The Ex is a sharp guy get ready to be SACKED if you don't act smart or face massive competition with your inlaw's... But against all odds warn your wife to block all communication with him or move on with your life
The ex na sharp guy, he is getting the best of the woman being the side dude. Make the husband dey play the husband role.
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by erniok(m): 4:31pm On Oct 30, 2025
Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.
Lies as usual but let's keep reading comments.
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by CrownedPhoenix: 4:32pm On Oct 30, 2025
Double0h7:
The message they are sending is to up your hustle! Do you gift them?
Hear the lousy entitlement "Do you gift them?".
That is why your daughter is married and you're accepting gifts from a former suitor?

He should up his hustle? Who told you the conning ex is as wealthy as the husband is?

Nigeria really has weird ways of thinking.
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by tunapawizzy: 4:32pm On Oct 30, 2025
Feisu:
I'm sure he still has feelings for my wife and she's feigning ignorance.
If she and her family are comfortable receiving monetary and other forms of gift from another man, don't you think I should be worried.
what is our own to think or not think u should be worried. If u the husband(by title) is cool with it.
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Ezini(f): 4:33pm On Oct 30, 2025
Adexvivacity:
You wont know when they are around....Just accept your fate, your boo has a boo. Weak men everywhere. It is either u dnt try nonsense or you hide the nonsense away from me totally. She is doing it and robbing it on ur face 😂
Exactly
She has fond memory of him, hence the continued friendship, are you guys saying the wife of the ex would tolerate this if she should find out that he is in contact with his ex
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Ezini(f): 4:34pm On Oct 30, 2025
Kobojunkie:
1. She started collecting money from him, or, as OP instead said, her in-laws collected money and gifts from him? You seem to be writing your own script here. undecided

2. Trying to understand? Are you joking? If his wife keeping in touch with her ex was a red flag for OP, OP's mistake was marrying her despite that. Also, OP already made clear that he had no problem with her keeping in touch with the ex. My issue is, why do you keep making an issue of it when this is literally his own statement from the beginning? undecided



3. Keeping in touch with an ex has nothing to do with having an open relationship. Please look up the meaning of the term to be sure why it should not be a part of this. undecided
Are you the ex?
Why are you not seeing anything wrong with this
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Ezini(f): 4:36pm On Oct 30, 2025
Kobojunkie:
You mean there could be a motive directed towards their current son-in-law for them collecting money and gifts from the lady's ex? undecided
A big yes

Or else they would just do it in secret
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by akingold2: 4:37pm On Oct 30, 2025
What is the frequency of the gifts. Are you sure your first child doesn't belong to that man?
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by AngelicBeing: 4:40pm On Oct 30, 2025
InvertedHammer:
/

Many of you tolerate nonsense.

Apparently you are the wife in the relationship. She is your husband.

/
Gbsmsulotey, Excellent response from you, we have so many MEN like that, they are SIMPS and weaklings angry
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Azazyel:
Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.
You didn't marry into a good family. If the ex comes back for her, they'll readily cajole her to leave you. Now here's the thing: I'm sure whilst you guys were dating, she was also communicating with this her ex. Didn't you see it then? Why did you overlook it and not take a decision that would save you from future wahala. She values her ex more than you and that's the bitter truth. She can see that you're hurt yet she doesn't want to let him go. What does that suggest to you? Do the maths. I would love to give you an advice but I'm trying to be cautious
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Kobojunkie: 4:44pm On Oct 30, 2025
Ezini:
✓ A big yes Or else they would just do it in secret
So, what is the motive? 🥱🥱
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by WelcomeToBiafra: 4:44pm On Oct 30, 2025
I begin to like politician Ned Nwoko and northern politicians or Muslim men choice of having more than one wife, with that they're not bothering at all.
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by CorperKola: 4:45pm On Oct 30, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Does the man in question directly threaten you or your wife? Does his sending money to her parents somehow threaten your ability to relate to them or send them gifts? What exactly is the problem here? Let us know! undecided
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Kobojunkie: 4:45pm On Oct 30, 2025
Ezini:
✓ Are you the ex? Why are you not seeing anything wrong with this
I don't see anything wrong because OP has not given me reason to see anything wrong with the dynamics between them. undecided
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by CorperKola: 4:45pm On Oct 30, 2025
They even say it in your presence
Its not good to be too gentle or peaceful a lot of times
There are many poor men you dare not try any rubbish with
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Billionaire8080: 4:47pm On Oct 30, 2025
But
Me I never marry
But my Ex still sends money to me
and she's married
is it Wrong
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Blueace247(m): 4:48pm On Oct 30, 2025
Feisu:
My wife still keeps contact with her married ex. She says they parted peacefully so they are still friends.
I didn't have an issue with it.

But I recently found out he sends money and gifts to my inlaws and they are all so happy with that. Even celebrating this in my presence and saying I shouldn't be jealous or anything because their daughter knows she's married and their relationship was in the past.

This doesn't sit well with me.

I also know for a fact that my parents wouldn't accept unsolicited gifts from my ex or that of my siblings.
Fallacy
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Kobojunkie: 4:50pm On Oct 30, 2025
Ezini:
✓ Some things are better left as they are,
They have each moved on, they should leave it at that, reconnecting again on the premise of just friendship is pretentious, sex and romance connected them before and would still connect them again if they should have one on one meeting again
Unfortunately, that's not how life works. Life is not as black and white as you may reason yours to be. 🥱🥱🥱

Reality is there are lots of former enemies who went on to become good friends, great business partners, and sometimes maybe lovers. And then you have former friends who go on to become great enemies and rivals. Nothing in this life is black and white. One simply have to maneuver each situation as best one understands. 🥱🥱

OP has yet to tell us that his woman harbours feelings for the other man but most of you --- mostly from points of paranoia -- have already concluded on that. 🥱🥱
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Ndidi2: 4:51pm On Oct 30, 2025
ghettochild:
On a norms, them no suppose to Dey collect the money but then them no get respect for themselves and them Dey hungry so am sure they are the ones asking for money since he has a child with their daughter.
Don't you think that strong bond must have been established b/t the guy and the parents of the ladybefore those went separate ways?
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by OvertheTop(m): 4:52pm On Oct 30, 2025
Helpout12345:
The ex and your wife still have feelings for each other. Your wife has told her parents the truth. They support it.

The ex might be having marital problems with his wife abroad and planning to marry your wife as his ex love. Your wife also will like to marry abroad man to japa from Nigeria.

Once that ex lands in Naija this December, he will k.nack your wife.


Just be prepared. It's coming.
Winter is Coming....
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Berankis: 4:53pm On Oct 30, 2025
My advice to you is not to commit your wife too much to heart. Pay some attention to yourself and wellbeing too.
Work more on making money for yourself and enjoying it too. Your wife will come back running to you.
Keep an open mind. Don't bother yourself with whom your wife is collecting gifts from.
Care for yourself too, have 'female friends' if you are okay with it, but never get too serious with anyone but yourself.
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Kobojunkie: 4:54pm On Oct 30, 2025
emiye:
✓ Switch it , and assume it is the wife that came to complain on Nairaland that her husband is sending money to his ex inlaws , are you keeping the same energy? Or you only support everything as long it is feminine centric?
The one sending money to an ex is not OP's wife. And he mentioned nowhere in his post that his marriage is directly impacted by all of this. Why do you see fit to compare it to a marriage directly impacted by the giving? Why are you desperate to find something wrong where OP himself has only revealed that it is his feelings that have been hurt by his in-laws, not by his wife? undecided
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by Ezini(f): 4:57pm On Oct 30, 2025
Kobojunkie:
So, what is the motive? 🥱🥱
How am I supposed to know
It’s just not right and does not sit well with OP a reason for his outcry
Re: My Wife's Married Ex Keeps Sending Money To My Inlaws. S by bdon123(m): 4:58pm On Oct 30, 2025
He is her 2nd option.If she doest keep away frm it then u are not respected.i had a similar issue my wife ex collecting her new number i changed frm her sister to greet her.I called d elder sister n warned her abt giving my wife number n also warn my wife that if i even see conversation wit ex shes back to parents house.
Ofcourse u no they all got in line...dem no born her well to chat on phone wit another man.Dont take this kind of shit ...u be man
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