₦airaland Forum

SpencerForbes:
We stick to the usual routines, like getting things for the family and all that. As long as it is not about hurting anybody, we are good with it. Some of our traditions might get a bit modernized, but deep down, they still follow the old ways.

Cti28:
Okay! Ah! I never thought in that direction. " "Old lady"

Samantha125:
Traditional African wedding rituals don't have to be about hurting anyone, for instance, in my tribe, despite the bride price, there are some traditional rituals that still have to be performed to solidify the union.

GenFunction:
Lol...na the slang we dey use for here
Conversation go dey go on others go lost inside

OChimex:
Its mind blowing how everything in nigeria is wired stupidly.
That word "Opps" in the Western world is used as opportunities in business world.
But in nigeria its used stupidly

SpencerForbes:
So she’s celebrating her marriage🤔🤔 what happened to being independent and single lady that don’t need a man🤷‍♂️
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emmaodet:

Goran ....you like firing too many bullets bro

emmaodet:

Goran ....you like firing too many bullets bro

We4all:
You clearly don't know the meaning of the bolded word.

billyG:
Men are in short supply worldwide. UN releases demographic report for the first quarter of 2025. There are 7.8 billion people on planet Earth. - Women = 5.6 billion breaths - men = 2.2 billion So the UN advises women to be cautious in their attitude towards men, because out of 2.2 billion men: - 1 billion married already - 130 million in jail - 70 million suffer from mental health problems and various illnesses. That means there are only about 1 billion men available for marriage. And who is this billion : - 56% are unemployed - 3% of them are gay - 1% are Catholic priests. - 10% are parents or close relatives - 30% over 65 years old So, ladies, married or single, treat men with respect. There is a shortage of men all over the world.So Aunty Hold your man tight!

Konjiboii:
My moniker was a reflection of my chuku chuku past and I want to give thanks to God for making me survive the number of kontus I devoured in my prime, and also to appreciate him for making my current girl somewhat decent, only way you will know she’s not decent is during adult play and that is between me and her. Girl when dey panic if I tell her I haven’t eaten by 1pm , girl when dey remember my siblings birthday before I do, girl when dey top up groceries and foodstuffs, girl when dey put me for prayer and anoint my head before I leave for work each day. Na still girlfriend she be oh I never marry her yet. But if na pretend she’s doing one hell of an act, she is currently leading the pack I no go lie .

goran3310:
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I honestly don’t know what an ordinary woman in her 40s or 50s can offer me — unless she possesses some truly exceptional qualities.

SpencerForbes:
So she’s celebrating her marriage🤔🤔 what happened to being independent and single lady that don’t need a man🤷‍♂️
🚶‍♂️

Cti28:
Seriously, 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

pansophist:
Can you give examples of those “truly exceptional qualities”?

goran3310:
For me. Personally, for me—and likewise for any man who is QUALITY—money from a woman is not needed. I don’t need her status. I don’t need anything material. A person who is 40 years old and hasn’t been married must be extremely educated. For example, some kind of doctor + specialist in neurosurgery. At the very top of her field. Or some entrepreneur who has dedicated her life to business and now wants to fulfill herself on a family level.

I need proof that she is high-quality and worth it.
That she hasn’t gone from man to man, spending the best years of her life satisfying her selfish needs, and then, after turning 40+, decided to retire and settle down. To find a fool she can ride.

Also:
Divorced women are out of the question. They didn’t get divorced by accident. Especially divorced women with children. I will not raise someone else’s children—absolutely not.

All of the above does not apply to widows. In that case, the children are not a problem because those children have no living father, and she is not alone by choice.

Tenrack:
Oga you're always spewing dung in your posts with your frail and flawed idealogies, forcing it down our throats. Is it by force to see things from your POV? To make your lame points you had to drag his Dad into it. Isn't that ignorance on your path? Dvmm fvxc

goran3310:
For me. Personally, for me—and likewise for any man who is QUALITY—money from a woman is not needed. I don’t need her status. I don’t need anything material. A person who is 40 years old and hasn’t been married must be extremely educated. For example, some kind of doctor + specialist in neurosurgery. At the very top of her field. Or some entrepreneur who has dedicated her life to business and now wants to fulfill herself on a family level.

I need proof that she is high-quality and worth it.
That she hasn’t gone from man to man, spending the best years of her life satisfying her selfish needs, and then, after turning 40+, decided to retire and settle down. To find a fool she can ride.

Also:
Divorced women are out of the question. They didn’t get divorced by accident. Especially divorced women with children. I will not raise someone else’s children—absolutely not.

All of the above does not apply to widows. In that case, the children are not a problem because those children have no living father, and she is not alone by choice.

SpencerForbes:
Here In Nigeria, traditional customs remain vibrant, adapting to modern times while retaining their essence. The Igbo people, for instance, still observe significant rituals like the "wine carrying ceremony" and "knocking ceremony", which secure formal blessings from the parents of the couple.

The Yoruba community also preserves its traditions, evident in their customary greetings and marriage practices. Interestingly, Yoruba weddings tend to be relatively less costly.

The Hausa traditions, known for their steadfastness to religion and traditions. As long as it is related to their religion, they are good with it.

Generally marriages in Nigeria follow a structured pattern:

- Introduction: The groom's family visits the bride's family to express interest, involving initial rites and receiving a list of required items.


- Provision of Items: Fulfillment of the listed items is expected; Igbo lists can be notably comprehensive 😂 sometimes and can only be simplified with the bride’s parental approval or circumstances like pregnancy.

- Main Event: The celebration rich with activities unique to various ethnic groups, aiming to invoke parental blessings.

So Nigeria traditional marriage still follows the old ways and that’s something we’re proud of. 😊
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Samantha125:
With the way my tribal traditional wedding customs are a process, I'm even lazy to start typing... We have two weddings, one at the bride's homestead on Saturdays and the other at the groom's homestead on Sundays.

I don't even want to talk about introductions and dowry negotiations.

You're not allowed to drive or go anywhere far from home on the week of your wedding, you have to be taken to the gravesides of those of your loved ones who are no more to bit them farewell, cows have to be slaughtered, the family has to fetch a royal staff from the local royal house and bring part of the meat and traditional beer or money as offering to the royal house afterwards, the wedding celebrants then have to be taken to the same royal house to have their union blessed by the local chief, after which the family can then return the royal staff back to the royal house... When the wedding celebration is done, the groom and his family would leave, then the bride's married elders will then have a sit down talk with her and give her instructions on how to be a good wife and a daughter in-law, after they're done, they'll start singing a traditional farewell wedding song as they escort her to the car that'll be taking her to her in-laws house... And if you have older siblings who are not yet married, they must immediately excuse themselves from the family house and not be around the house to see you as you leave... You get accompanied by at least two aunts and a maid of honour.

When you get to your in-laws house, you have to stay in a room allocated for you and you're not allowed to have any contact with your husband until all the remaining rituals have been performed the following day... Your aunts and maid of honour will be the ones cooking for you and looking after you until you're officially handed over to your in-laws.

And if you already have children, their first names will also be changed.

OChimex:
Its mind blowing how everything in nigeria is wired stupidly.
That word "Opps" in the Western world is used as opportunities in business world.
But in nigeria its used stupidly

We4all:
I guess you meant to type sophisticated ideologies, which explains why you always notice my post, but pained that I am not like you lot of ba..nd..wa..gons with ba...ck..wa..rd men..ta..lity. And to that [/antispam bot] always banning my post, just take your time.

We4all:
Lol.. If you ever marry a woman in her 40s, you want a woman who is high quality. The question is, are you high quality enough for her to find you desirable? You don't need her money, but looking for someone at the peak of her career. In other words, you are looking for a woman who will stand as the perfect guarantor if you ever need a loan from a bank.

The honest truth is, no woman in her 40s who is at the peak of her career would want to settle for less. So, don't think so highly of yourself to think you are the prize. Go for your 20 year olds and widows with hundreds of body counts, and let single old cargos live in peace. If only you know what most widows do in the dark...

Samantha125:
African traditional weddings come with traditional rituals that must be performed to solidify the unity... So I'm curious, with the way Islam and Christianity have deeply infiltrated Nigeria, do you guys still perform those traditional wedding rituals or you just do traditional weddings for the sake of forging social bonds?

billyG:
Men are in short supply worldwide. UN releases demographic report for the first quarter of 2025. There are 7.8 billion people on planet Earth. - Women = 5.6 billion breaths - men = 2.2 billion So the UN advises women to be cautious in their attitude towards men, because out of 2.2 billion men: - 1 billion married already - 130 million in jail - 70 million suffer from mental health problems and various illnesses. That means there are only about 1 billion men available for marriage. And who is this billion : - 56% are unemployed - 3% of them are gay - 1% are Catholic priests. - 10% are parents or close relatives - 30% over 65 years old So, ladies, married or single, treat men with respect. There is a shortage of men all over the world.So Aunty Hold your man tight!

Samantha125:
Is this one of the Nigerian traditional wedding attires? If it is, what tribe is it?