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Some parents can be very wicked, self-centered and devilish. The trauma and scar of been treated that way by a mother can destroy her self-esteem for the entire life span. When someone meant to protect you throws you under the bus, it can destroy yourself worth and confidence.

[/quote]Women will always be women, shifting blame…

Your mother didn’t fail you, you failed yourself! We’ve got boys and girls with no parents and no mentor right from young age o but are doing great.

The system failed you…
Men will always be men… saw what she wrote at the end? Her dad took her back!!!

muyico:
l lost my dad ages of 12, I dey primary 6 den! But full determination in me, I must be graduate, one day! My guy?? No excuse!!

How does that relate to a teen age girl? You want to compare the vulnerability of a girl to that of a boy?

muyico:
Your mom don't failed you, but you failed yourself !
I could vividly remember my late mom, she didn't blived in education, she only blived on handwork, like acquiring a skills, but I gat determination to be graduate, my brother's,?? My sister's?? I enrolled to pt programme, now! I'm HND holder in computer!

Omo
Make I sha no talk Wetin Dey my mind
But yeah…. Congratulations

ajalawole:
This our gen Z go do work. Those gen Z will be forcing their daughter to go naked on tiktok in future. It's just a matter of time.

even before genz e be like the thing dun dey happen,allegedly iyabo ojo her daughter naira marley/lil kesh. regina ned regina mama

Namaster:
"At just 15, Ola says she witnessed disturbing things — from her mother comparing her and her sister to other girls who “had boyfriends that gave them money,”

As a man, do everything in your power to hold on to your kids even if you DIVORCE their mother.

Women are HORRIBLY SOLIPSISTIC—they only care about themselves.

They don't have the sense of RESPONSIBILITY that's in-built in men.

The the unbreakable Mother-and-Child bond they sold us is a SCAM!

Men are NOT the ones throwing babies in DUSTBINS and SOAKAWAYS.

Back to their solipsism, it's an INALIENABLE part of their being.

The mother in this story ABANDONED her husband because he was POOR.
Then she married a RICH man.

But NOT to take care of the children she SNATCHED from their fathers.
NO!

She used the rich man to take care of ONLY HERSELF.

This woman started putting the idea of PROSTITUTION into the head of a 15-year old child.

A woman who left her poor husband to marry a rich man PIMPED her own daughter at just 17 years of age.

For men:

NEVER leave your DNA-verified child with her mother in a divorce!

Even if it's a casual encounter that resulted in a child, ALWAYS take the child.

The sense of responsibility that drives a man to put his kids first is ABSENT in women.

Can not argue with this. Only to point out that there are women who do fit that "mother and child unbreakable bond thing" you talked about. And some men are also irresponsible.

Personally, I don't even care if you are responsible or not. My child stays with me period. And there are ways to make the mothers agree. Give them enough benefits, ah, boils down to what you are talking about. Women na werey

When the money goes, the wife will leave

muyico:
Your mom don't failed you, but you failed yourself !
I could vividly remember my late mom, she didn't blived in education, she only blived on handwork, like acquiring a skills, but I gat determination to be graduate, my brother's,?? My sister's?? I enrolled to pt programme, now! I'm HND holder in computer!

Clap for yourself

DMCY:
Women will always be women, shifting blame…

Your mother didn’t fail you, you failed yourself! We’ve got boys and girls with no parents and no mentor right from young age o but are doing great.

The system failed you…
Men will always be men… saw what she wrote at the end? Her dad took her back!!!

Its a matter of luck, you can have no parents and be lucky to come in contact with those who will are or you as if they birthed you
And you can be with your parents nd they treat you like unwanted garbage
Stop being so simplistic

santopelele:
Why is it in yorubba traditions to always see a married women with kids running away from her husband and marry another man and still born kids for that man? Because i have seen countless of them, even one marry upto 4 husbands then in abuja and born kids for them

It is simply bad behaviour not Yoruba tradition.

muyico:
Your mom don't failed you, but you failed yourself !
I could vividly remember my late mom, she didn't blived in education, she only blived on handwork, like acquiring a skills, but I gat determination to be graduate, my brother's,?? My sister's?? I enrolled to pt programme, now! I'm HND holder in computer!

She failed herself how?

Did she tell you that she didn't believe in education again abi no be cause of financial issues make am stop.

Nawa

muyico:
Your mom don't failed you, but you failed yourself !
I could vividly remember my late mom, she didn't blived in education, she only blived on handwork, like acquiring a skills, but I gat determination to be graduate, my brother's,?? My sister's?? I enrolled to pt programme, now! I'm HND holder in computer!

ok. As u get the certificate now, wetin u don use am do

Men fight for your children. You need to be part of their lives. Single mothers are not the best up bringers of children. I know one close to me raising a 10-year old girl who is used to over 3 of the mother's boyfriends.

Narcissist
Manipulator
Emotional Trauma
Healing

Personally, I hardly believe people who call others narcissists and manipulators... People who describe their situation as traumic and requires some sort of healing.

They are mostly social media people who just throw words around.

Like always... We will have to wait for her parent's side of the story.

Note... This is my opinion.

Single mothers children have 99.9% of becoming like their mothers. They tutor the children their ways.

This is why I always advise men that in the case of a divorce, never leave any of your child behind with the lady except you are not sure of the father. Do everything within your power to get those children. They don't know what they are doing. They will of course support their mother but time will correct everything. Don't use the court, use the traditional means like family et al. They usually shift to the man's side. You can see this now. After damaging the life of the child, she still went back to the man.

Useful thread with useful advice for the menfolk.

Gerrard59:
Too many children, as in most cases, is the cause.

Have fewer children. It is not only for your good, but the children's good.

That said, the average Nigerian adult needs therapy.

Same thoughts on the number of children. It should be two or three at most.

muyico:
l lost my dad ages of 12, I dey primary 6 den! But full determination in me, I must be graduate, one day! My guy?? No excuse!!

I think you're out of touch, as you're unable to relate with her struggle, her pain and her reality.

Then one idiot somewhere will say forgive her she's your mother. As how nau

muyico:
Your mom don't failed you, but you failed yourself !
I could vividly remember my late mom, she didn't blived in education, she only blived on handwork, like acquiring a skills, but I gat determination to be graduate, my brother's,?? My sister's?? I enrolled to pt programme, now! I'm HND holder in computer!

Please calm down.

They divorced in 2015.

That was the year Buhari happened to Nigeria.

Let me stop here for now....

[quote author=muyico post=137308010][/quote]My point is, man life different from woman own even both of una come from the trenches.

Some mothers can be very weekend.

Namaster:
"At just 15, Ola says she witnessed disturbing things — from her mother comparing her and her sister to other girls who “had boyfriends that gave them money,”

As a man, do everything in your power to hold on to your kids even if you DIVORCE their mother.

Women are HORRIBLY SOLIPSISTIC—they only care about themselves.

They don't have the sense of RESPONSIBILITY that's in-built in men.

The the unbreakable Mother-and-Child bond they sold us is a SCAM!

Men are NOT the ones throwing babies in DUSTBINS and SOAKAWAYS.

Back to their solipsism, it's an INALIENABLE part of their being.

The mother in this story ABANDONED her husband because he was POOR.
Then she married a RICH man.

But NOT to take care of the children she SNATCHED from their fathers.
NO!

She used the rich man to take care of ONLY HERSELF.

This woman started putting the idea of PROSTITUTION into the head of a 15-year old child.

A woman who left her poor husband to marry a rich man PIMPED her own daughter at just 17 years of age.

For men:

NEVER leave your DNA-verified child with her mother in a divorce!

Even if it's a casual encounter that resulted in a child, ALWAYS take the child.

The sense of responsibility that drives a man to put his kids first is ABSENT in women.

Who deny pregnancy and run away from responsibility?

Okay..okay...but we need to hear your mother's side of the story because it is easy to apportion blames when things turn around for the worst. I say this because at 17, you knew exactly what you were doing and didn't have to go be with a man even if your mother insisted. There is no justification for that, mami!

When a woman destroys herself, she won't spare her daughter, she will finish her too!

Hmm

The scary thing is if she doesn't take time, she will do same thing her mother did to her to her own daughter too

......

This are what occur when you think parenting, marriage, career are attended to by common sense epecially in nigeria

Nigeria is weapon fashion against family

You need the holy spirit to navigate