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Pastor Ituah Ighodalo: Elders in the RCCG asked me to remarry after my wife left me and went on to remarry and have kids !.

“In fact, they came to me and said, ‘your wife has left. You pastor a big church. How are you going to cope? You need a wife. The leaders of the church approached me. I didn’t go to them. People don’t know this.

“I had nobody in mind to marry. When they came. They said, ‘you are doing well. Your church is growing. Your wife has left. She refuses to come back. She has even remarried someone. She has children’.

“They said I couldn’t continue like this. I said, ‘but I thought the policy is that it’s not possible.’ They said, in this circumstance, we need to find what to do. I did what they asked of me and got their approval.”

The trustees of the RCCG were however angered by it because it was against their doctrine. He therefore had to leave RCCG with his wife in 2009.

* Culled from Cable news and Linda Ikeji news*

Important questions to ask
- Were the elders in RCCG who advised him moved by flesh or by the Spirit of God? Were they scared the passion burning in him as a young,rich and handsome Pastor could make him vulnerable to sin? If you were his biological or spiritual parents, would u do the same?

- Are there modern day complexities in marrriage that were non existent in Bible days hence not adequately covered? If yes, how do we bridge this gap without altering His Word?

Pastors, mature Christians, Elders and Bible Scholars what do you think?

Dae Jumong

His dismissal from RCCG was painful for Pastor Adeboye who saw and still sees him as his spiritual son.

At least he is happy. God bless his marriage

I don't understand. Isn't the bible clear on this? If one spouse moves out and proceeds to remarry, nothing stops the other spouse from remarrying.

Things are happening, we'll

Is remarrying legal as a divorcee according to the Bible? I think some of us need clarity on this issue. But looking at how marriages of nowadays dey scatter, ranging from celebrities to pastors to entrepreneurs, you will ask yourself that "is marriage really worth it "?
What do you get in marriage that can't be gotten as a single person? Laslas, we all go dey alright sha

Helinuss:
At least he is happy. God bless his marriage

That wife died in 2020. Are you not aware?

Ahhh. The concerned church elders

Helinuss:
At least he is happy. God bless his marriage

His new wife is late.
She passed few years ago.

Please if you are not a Christian, kindly read and please I beg you in the name of whatever you love not to comment.

Thanks so much for your understanding.


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Ohh damn
May her soul keep resting in peace

Great men and women wahala all the time..

Smartcitizen:
Please if you are not a Christian, kindly read and please I beg you in the name of whatever you love not to comment.

Thanks so much for your understanding.


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why don't your hipocracy NL restricted non Christian from posting comments like they normally do on Islam section on Friday? Instead they're quick to ban Christians opinion on issues that affect Tinubu, na weyrey dey worry all of you

Dogalmighty17:
I don't understand. Isn't the bible clear on this? If one spouse moves out and proceeds to remarry, nothing stops the other spouse from remarrying.

but the Bible didn't say it's a must

No one should force anyone into marriage if they feel they are not ready

Dogalmighty17:
I don't understand. Isn't the bible clear on this? If one spouse moves out and proceeds to remarry, nothing stops the other spouse from remarrying.

Not sure you are right about this o.

Bittersweetnig:
why don't your hipocracy NL restricted non Christian from posting comments like they normally do on Islam section on Friday? Instead they're quick to ban Christians opinion on issues that affect Tinubu, na weyrey dey worry all of you

My dear this is the wicked imbalance we always talk about in Nigeria....

Anytime you complain they will term you a wailer, on top of their wicked hypocrisy o! They just want everyone to continue to accept their nonsense without complaining.

It's well shaa!

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He's dating Kate Henshaw now.

Best decision for him to move on. Why will I be waiting for people or church to decide in my own personal matter?

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Zonefree:
He's dating Kate Henshaw now.

Minister of information
Utu....AKPUDA

If your spouse left and every door of reconciliation has closed, pls ENDEAVOUR to remarry.


Many of these doctrines are man-made doctrines, the doctrines the G.Os, Bishops, Prophets etc, have manipulated in other to subject subordinates and congregants to slavery.

Bittersweetnig:
why don't your hipocracy NL restricted non Christian from posting comments like they normally do on Islam section on Friday? Instead they're quick to ban Christians opinion on issues that affect Tinubu, na weyrey dey worry all of you

I'm glad màny are coming to see what Seun and his moderators are doing on our beloved nairaland.com

We don't have any more freedom of speech again. Only God knows how many times they banned me last week. But God is watching all of us sha.

Happy Sunday & New Month to all NAIRALANDERS!

Helinuss:
At least he is happy. God bless his marriage

Happy living in sin of Adultery.

Luke 16:18
“Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Zonefree:
He's dating Kate Henshaw now.

Amebo of our time you dey there?

This is what CHAT GPT says. The word of God is final for every believer not what the society says:

The Question

Can a sound believer remarry after his wife has left him on her own accord (i.e., she abandoned him without just cause)?

🔹 Step 1: God’s original design for marriage

Genesis 2:24 — “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

Matthew 19:6 — “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

Marriage is meant to be lifelong and exclusive — “one flesh” until death (Romans 7:2–3).
So the default position of Scripture is: marriage is not to be broken, and remarriage while the first spouse lives is adultery (Luke 16:18).

🔹 Step 2: When separation occurs

Sometimes, one spouse deserts the other. Paul directly addressed this in 1 Corinthians 7, the clearest New Testament teaching on the matter.

1 Corinthians 7:10–11 (KJV)
“And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.”

👉 If a wife departs (leaves her husband), Paul says she has two options:

Remain unmarried, or

Be reconciled to her husband.

And the husband, likewise, must not remarry another while she lives.

🔹 Step 3: When an unbelieving spouse departs

Paul adds another scenario:

1 Corinthians 7:15
“But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.”

This is often called the Pauline privilege — the only case where a believer may be “not under bondage” to remain tied to the marriage.
Key phrase: “not under bondage.”

What does it mean?

It implies freedom from the marital obligation when an unbelieving spouse deserts a believer.

The believer is then free to remarry, since the marriage bond has been broken by the unbeliever’s willful desertion.

🔹 Step 4: If both spouses are believers

If the deserter is a believer, the case changes.
Paul said:

“If she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled.” (1 Cor 7:11)

So if she’s a believer who walks away without biblical cause (adultery or unbelief), she’s in disobedience — but her departure does not free the husband to remarry. He must wait for either reconciliation or her death (Romans 7:2–3).

🔹 Step 5: Summary Table
Situation Scripture May the believer remarry?
Wife leaves but both are believers 1 Cor. 7:10–11 ❌ No — must remain unmarried or reconcile
Wife commits adultery Matt. 19:9 ✅ Yes — adultery dissolves the marital covenant
Wife is an unbeliever and deserts him 1 Cor. 7:15 ✅ Yes — not under bondage, free to remarry
Wife dies Rom. 7:2–3 ✅ Yes — death ends the marriage bond
🔹 Step 6: Core Principle

Romans 7:2–3
“For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth... So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress.”

Matthew 19:9
“Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery.”

Unless there’s fornication (sexual immorality) or unbelief/desertion by an unbeliever, remarriage while the first spouse lives is considered adultery in Scripture.

🔹 Final Verdict (Strict Scriptural View)

If a believing wife leaves her husband on her own accord, without adultery and without being an unbeliever,
the sound believer husband must not remarry.
He must either remain single or pray for reconciliation.

Only if she:

Commits adultery, or

Proves to be an unbeliever who has willfully departed,
may he, according to Scripture, be “not under bondage” and thus free to remarry.

Zonefree:
He's dating Kate Henshaw now.

No, he's not.
This is public space, mind what you write.

Olatara:
No, he's not.
This is public space, mind what you write.

They're getting married soon. The joke is on you.

One of the best things to happen to any man is for "his wife" to leave him for no fault of his.

The vindication and joy that follow that phase is the true definition of paradise.

Righteousness2:
The Elders are wrong.
The Elders are not the Standard
The Word of GOD, the BIBLE is the standard.


As long as your first legally Married wife is alive. Marrying any other woman is PURE ADULTERY irrespective of Whoever you are. ONLY DEATH OF YOUR SPOUSE PERMITS YOU BIBLICALLY TO MARRY AGAIN

The Elders will not stand for you before GOD.
Eternity is a PERSONAL RACE.
Dont let anyone in the Name of Title Deceive you.

So Pastor Righteousness, as the wife went to re marry and even started having kids in her new Marriage, what do you see to that? So he should continue to wait till his wife die after leaving him for another Man till he gets married again abi? Well, he had already moved on, remarried and left the church, unfortunate the same New wife is dead. So Pastor Righteousness, he's entitled to his opinion, let God judge him.

Zonefree:
He's dating Kate Henshaw now.

The Pastor already debunked that rumor. He said they are not dating.