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IsiahRashad:
In my defense, I had a very long day at work. Her call woke me around 10:45. She had gone to the outpouring with a friend. Which I was aware of. But they couldn't get bolt I think cause of the crowd. She wanted to know if I could book a ride for her, which I tried but the same result. We came to a solution that she enters transport to a different location and then book the ride.

I sent her 15k also to try cover this and told her to keep me updated. The last thing I remember seeing was CMS when I asked about her update.
Somehow I slept off.

In her defense, something similar has happened before, with me also sleeping off before she got home. I called, begged and tried to assure her it was a one off experience because I was tired from work. Which she actually knows how demanding my job can get

I actually love this girl, and value her (which she somehow doesn't believe.) But the thing is we've been fighting a lot lately. Right now I don't even know what to do. I don't think I have the emotional capacity for all these back and forth all the time.

I will appreciate your opinions on this, because a little part of me is just like whatever wants to happen should happen

Ogbeni, you better leave her alone… Ayomide that year, it took me time and thank God say my eye open 🤣🤣🤣

You will always be the reason why things didn’t work well for her!

I think you should step back and let her play out what she thinks is the best thing to do. If you beg her too much then she’ll accuse you of forcing the relationship on her “when she knew it was best to leave.”

You did nothing wrong so you have nothing to apologise for. Don’t make it a habit to take responsibility for every misunderstanding in a relationship because you will jeopardise your mental health.

She was irrational and reacted in the most toxic manner. Don’t reward bad behaviour. Follow her instructions and let the chips fall where they fall.

IsiahRashad:
In my defense, I had a very long day at work. Her call woke me around 10:45. She had gone to the outpouring with a friend. Which I was aware of. But they couldn't get bolt I think cause of the crowd. She wanted to know if I could book a ride for her, which I tried but the same result. We came to a solution that she enters transport to a different location and then book the ride.

I sent her 15k also to try cover this and told her to keep me updated. The last thing I remember seeing was CMS when I asked about her update.
Somehow I slept off.

In her defense, something similar has happened before, with me also sleeping off before she got home. I called, begged and tried to assure her it was a one off experience because I was tired from work. Which she actually knows how demanding my job can get

I actually love this girl, and value her (which she somehow doesn't believe.) But the thing is we've been fighting a lot lately. Right now I don't even know what to do. I don't think I have the emotional capacity for all these back and forth all the time.

I will appreciate your opinions on this, because a little part of me is just like whatever wants to happen should happen

Bros no dey let woman dey use you play ludo kind of game. Look what she is saying,and this is just relationship o. In marriage with this type of girl who doesn't forgive,you might start looking for peace of mind,until you kpai o. Imagine she bringing in the last incident, meaning she is bottling things in her mind for someone she claimed to love. Na you send 15k ,na you dey still dey blame. After a long day,she wants you to stay awake all night for her. And if you sleep for work next day,and you are fired,she will move to another man. Bro check that girl well.. doesn't looks like someone who will be there for you,when you will need her most. Comot love,comot emotions,and use your head .

IsiahRashad:
I✓ In her defense, something similar has happened before, with me also sleeping off before she got home. I called, begged and tried to assure her it was a one off experience because I was tired from work. Which she actually knows how demanding my job can get
I actually love this girl, and value her (which she somehow doesn't believe.) But the thing is we've been fighting a lot lately. Right now I don't even know what to do. I don't think I have the emotional capacity for all these back and forth all the time.
I will appreciate your opinions on this, because a little part of me is just like whatever wants to happen should happen

It seems whatever it is is more than just this issue you are telling us of here. She says you should let her be. I suggest you do just that. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

IsiahRashad:
✓ She actually did. Imagine

You know that the issue between you two is more than just this one incident. From your post, it sounds like she has been complaining to you about something for a while yet you have not been paying her much mind or doing much to step up in that area. I think it is best you both go your separate ways as she said.🫤🫤🫤

If you like don't go and talk with your woman. Allow bitter people here to ruin your relationship. Have a conversation with her about what she is complaining about. She feels you don not care about her welfare and safety enough . It's just like your wife sleeping at home comfortably when you have not returned from.work.... do not use your job as an excuse , were you not working when you had time to go and woo her..and she complained is not once you did that . That money means nothing to a woman fending for herself. What is 15k compared to your woman's welfare and safety.

Over 4 billion women.....
Ah.... Laho

I don't know, but is this something people actually fight about? Perhaps I'm getting too old.

malaria:
If you like don't go and talk with your woman. Allow bitter people here to ruin your relationship. Have a conversation with her about what she is complaining about. She feels you don not care about her welfare and safety enough . It's just like your wife sleeping at home comfortably when you have not returned from.work.... do not use your job as an excuse , were you not working when you had time to go and woo her..and she complained is not once you did that . That money means nothing to a woman fending for herself. What is 15k compared to your woman's welfare and safety.

It just seems like my bible had you in mind when it says in Proverbs 18:6 - a fool's words lead to conflict and provoke harsh consequences.

That is a soft woman who depends so much on a man's protection. When you 0lder men go after young girls, then learn to manage situations like this.

Double0h7:
I think you should step back and let her play out what she thinks is the best thing to do. If you beg her too much then she’ll accuse you of forcing the relationship on her “when she knew it was best to leave.”

You did nothing wrong so you have nothing to apologise for. Don’t make it a habit to take responsibility for every misunderstanding in a relationship because you will jeopardise your mental health.

She was irrational and reacted in the most toxic manner. Don’t reward bad behaviour. Follow her instructions and let the chips fall where they fall.

double oh oh oh o uuu 7even 🍆 🍑
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IsiahRashad:
In my defense, I had a very long day at work. Her call woke me around 10:45. She had gone to the outpouring with a friend. Which I was aware of. But they couldn't get bolt I think cause of the crowd. She wanted to know if I could book a ride for her, which I tried but the same result. We came to a solution that she enters transport to a different location and then book the ride.

I sent her 15k also to try cover this and told her to keep me updated. The last thing I remember seeing was CMS when I asked about her update.
Somehow I slept off.

In her defense, something similar has happened before, with me also sleeping off before she got home. I called, begged and tried to assure her it was a one off experience because I was tired from work. Which she actually knows how demanding my job can get

I actually love this girl, and value her (which she somehow doesn't believe.) But the thing is we've been fighting a lot lately. Right now I don't even know what to do. I don't think I have the emotional capacity for all these back and forth all the time.

I will appreciate your opinions on this, because a little part of me is just like whatever wants to happen should happen

Another simp spotted

Please disassociate yourself from this lady so you can have peace of mind

That sounds like a self centred banny, but her actions are synonymous with someone who either has multiple suitors, planning to leave the relationship (I need space) or trying to control you psychologically.
Furthermore, her love language seems to be the pampering/protector type, meaning to get her back, you have to give her the impression that she will always be safe and secured with you.

OBTOREPA:
She's your fiance and you are already living together and committing fornication.
Marriage is honourable and the bed undefied.
Repent therefore and be ye converted for Jesus Christ is coming very soon.

The home she mentioned doesn't have to be his house....

May na dey calm down......

Lol...next time, send her 1Million and let's see whether she will refund it.

Namaster:
...The fact that she expects you to be panicking, pacing up and down and BLASTING her phone with calls until she steps foot into the door is MADNES...

Spot on.

Clear proof of man pullingnation

SpencerForbes:
Nice. But if we keep breaking up because of one mistake or one argument without communication, Do you think we’ll have a stable dating environment?

What’s the purpose of relationship if every little mistake is met with “break up”?

I think with the way we’re going it will be really hard for men to manage any family setting.
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Ah! Fornication still dey move dis one.

Continue.

You will learn why men are saying that it is better to be alone than to be with a woman.

Qualityoffer:
My bible tells me in Proverbs 12:15 - The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.

My point is, stop disgracing yourself.

Na woman she be so she must protect her sister

BuddhaPalm:
This girls doesn't treat you with respect.

Are you a the bolt driver or a security guard that you have to stay awake?

You have already sent her N15k - which I assume is more than generous to cover her fare.

You must have set the precedent of folding and begging in the past for her to go this far.

This is a good opportunity for you to regain power in your relationship, or to end one where you no longer wear the pants.

Call her bluff.

I pity people who know her.

IsiahRashad:
In my defense, I had a very long day at work. Her call woke me around 10:45. She had gone to the outpouring with a friend. Which I was aware of. But they couldn't get bolt I think cause of the crowd. She wanted to know if I could book a ride for her, which I tried but the same result. We came to a solution that she enters transport to a different location and then book the ride.

I sent her 15k also to try cover this and told her to keep me updated. The last thing I remember seeing was CMS when I asked about her update.
Somehow I slept off.

In her defense, something similar has happened before, with me also sleeping off before she got home. I called, begged and tried to assure her it was a one off experience because I was tired from work. Which she actually knows how demanding my job can get

I actually love this girl, and value her (which she somehow doesn't believe.) But the thing is we've been fighting a lot lately. Right now I don't even know what to do. I don't think I have the emotional capacity for all these back and forth all the time.

I will appreciate your opinions on this, because a little part of me is just like whatever wants to happen should happen

Sincerely, you are not suppose to sleep off like that when someone dear to you is still under an intensive stress/pressure of getting home like the one you described in your post.

Don't let immature Nairaland guys deceive you, what you did is not cool, but since you had already apologise, I think you should let her be for a while and find a moment to assure her how dear she is to you.

Don't do that again to anyone close to you, especially when they are coming to you place.

malaria:
If you like don't go and talk with your woman. Allow bitter people here to ruin your relationship. Have a conversation with her about what she is complaining about. She feels you don not care about her welfare and safety enough . It's just like your wife sleeping at home comfortably when you have not returned from.work.... do not use your job as an excuse , were you not working when you had time to go and woo her..and she complained is not once you did that . That money means nothing to a woman fending for herself. What is 15k compared to your woman's welfare and safety.

Don't mind them, some of them do preach what they don't have courage to do offline. Anytime a guy bring issue to social media, everyone suddenly becomes "no nonsense guy".

What he did is wrong, I know how many time my wife or even relatives do called me whenever I was in such situation. I can't even let my wife phone rest if she in that kind of condition, though I can feel less bothered during the day but not when it is late in the night.

Bros, truth be told, you guys are not meant for each other, you even tried giving her money for transportation..

If you marry such woman, the marriage might not last more than 1years, before she will use nagging to throw you off balance...

She knows the nature of your job, and this same money you struggle to hussle is still what you are sending to her, and she didn't even appreciate your effort

yemmit90:
Sincerely, you are not suppose to sleep off like that when someone dear to you is still under an intensive stress/pressure of getting home like the one you described in your post.

Don't let immature Nairaland guys deceive you, what you did is not cool, but since you had already apologise, I think you should let her be for a while and find a moment to assure her how dear she is to you.

Don't do that again to anyone close to you, especially when they are coming to you place.

My bible has you in mind when it says in Isaiah 5:21 - Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes and clever in their own sight.

More so, my bible tells me in 2 Corinthians 10:12 - For we do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. But in measuring themselves by themselves and comparing themselves with themselves, they lack understanding.

I have a question for you, and I want you to answer in all honesty.
Think it through before you answer.

Here goes: how would you feel if you were on your way back from somewhere, and it's already very late [past midnight], and your spouse with whom you're communicating while waiting for a vehicle to take you home, slept off on you?
How would that make you feel?

Remember, even Jesus Christ was disappointed that His disciples could not stay awake and wait with Him in prayers when He needed them the most [in His most vulnerable moment].

Qualityoffer:
My bible has you in mind when it says in Isaiah 5:21 - Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes and clever in their own sight.

More so, my bible tells me in 2 Corinthians 10:12 - For we do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. But in measuring themselves by themselves and comparing themselves with themselves, they lack understanding.

By the way, I have been observing how you've been using the scriptures to emotionally/spiritually blackmail and judge people.
Who gave you that duty/assignment?

The bible says in the book of Matthew Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.

Mariangeles:
I have a question for you, and I want you to answer in all honesty.
Think it through before you answer.

Here goes: how would you feel if you were on your way back from somewhere, and it's already very late [past midnight], and your spouse with whom you're communicating while waiting for a vehicle to take you home, slept off on you?
How would that make you feel?

Remember, even Jesus Christ was disappointed that His disciples could not stay awake and wait with Him in prayers when He needed them the most [in His most vulnerable moment].




By the way, I have been observing how you've been using the scriptures to emotionally/spiritually blackmail and judge people.
Who gave you that duty/assignment?

The bible says in the book of Matthew Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.

Mariah! Mariah!! Foremost, I'm an anointed sinner. Meanwhile, to your questions, well, my bible in Romans 12:9 says - Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.

That said, from me to you, let me leave you with that which my bible says in Song of Solomon 4:7 - You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.

What does she mean by you slept off? If you are tired, are you to commit suicide? You need let her know you understand her feelings however, you are not cut out to live a life you are not ready for walking on eggshells.

Respect her wish/desire and stay away from her.
DON'T make any attempt to reach or contact her and ignore if she does.
You too, try and stay without her. You'll be fine.

yemmit90:
Don't mind them, some of them do preach what they don't have courage to do offline. Anytime a guy bring issue to social media, everyone suddenly becomes "no nonsense guy".

What he did is wrong, I know how many time my wife or even relatives do called me whenever I was in such situation. I can't even let my wife phone rest if she in that kind of condition, though I can feel less bothered during the day but not when it is late in the night.

When responsible married men are taking we know.
A whole lot of them do not even know what it takes to go and ask for a ladys hand in marriage .as such they reason like babies they are .

Qualityoffer:
My bible has you in mind when it says in Isaiah 5:21 - Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes and clever in their own sight.

More so, my bible tells me in 2 Corinthians 10:12 - For we do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. But in measuring themselves by themselves and comparing themselves with themselves, they lack understanding.

Oga go and get a job .and stop quotting bible passages you do not have the wisdom.and knowledge to interprete . Na so madness ddy take start