₦airaland Forum

Naustine:
Exactly... U can hardly find a 20 year old in delta who isn't a single.mother..i currently live in delta and can attest

madridguy:
This is effect of single mothers everywhere due to unwanted pregnancy.

South West leaders seriously need to address the issue.

If you line 10 ladies between the age of 17-22 years old, you must see like 7 single mothers among them.

Kobojunkie:
There are different reasons why parents choose to do this. I was sent to a boarding school at age 11 myself, because I wanted to have the experience. My parents sent me there while maintaining full responsibility for me and my developmental education, feeding, housing, etc. And my being at the boarding school during the school term was a temporary arrangement — approximately 8 months out of each year(in the absence of sickness-related breaks.

2. Sending children to boarding schools is not the issue here. Stop trying so hard to ignore the real issue, which is the presence of parents in the lives of children, no matter where they are.

kullozone:
I live in Lagos bro. To be honest, I'm tired of the girls here... It's already End time in Lagos, I think Delta State might be better.
I mean, even girls from Delta State come to learn scope and hustle in Lagos

DarkJeddi:
And the Al Majiri scourge doesn't have a say in the Northern percentage?

Richtaiwo:
Instead of focusing on your case, no, you will rather concentrate on the region you hate. How will the "almajiri scourge" address the cases of countless broken homes and ubiquitous single parenthood in your region? Is the "almajiri scourge" a possible solution?

Now, adjust your brain properly and read; Almajiri is just like a school, indeed it is schooling in the North. The word almajiri means student. It is a way of training children in Arabic studies away from their parents due to scarcity of the teachers. Yes, because of poverty, a lot of northerners have abused it by practically allowing the children to fend for themselves through begging and any other possible means.

But if you ask any of those almajiris, they will tell you where their parents are, and in almost all cases, those parents are living together. Now, if parents send their children to school outside where they live, eg boarding schools, is that same as children not living with their parents?

DarkJeddi:
You can type all the epistle you want Ogbeni,save that for those that have not lived in the North.

A school where a 4 year old is dispatched from Sokoto to Gombe without any parental care and guidance?

A school where kids roam the streets with no food and shelter?

A school where millions of hungry,diseases children are left to the mercy of an unforgiving world?

Tell that to the Marines.

Richtaiwo:
The topic is about children not living with their parents. I ask again, despite all these conditions you have enumerated, are the children contextually no longer living with their parents? Or they told you they no longer go to Sokoto to visit their parents?

DarkJeddi:
How is a child moved from Sokoto to Gombe and left to fend for himself living under parental care?

Who caters for them whilst they wallow in neglect and hunger at their new station?

Oga,I've lived in several Northern States and seen the conditions of these children and your gaslighting ain't going to work with me.

Abandoning your vulnerable kids in whatever guise is still abandonment.

Whatever exactly is the difference between them and their street Urchin Southern counterparts,oh they get to visit their parents?

DarkJeddi:
So are they counted as living with the parents whilst they travel from Sokoto to Kano to go and beg,abi seek knowledge?

BlackViper:
https://x.com/StatiSense/status/1986814650055553384?t=QjGX229RhLXMeor3Vb1BIw&s=19[/quote]So all the Almajiri kids are living with their parents?

ebukal67x:
The South West data is curious.

Olamilekan1555:
Now igbos are no longer in South West again due to divorce rate.. you too just don't want to be accountable 😂 😂 always blame other people. I really thank God that I lived in Aba and Onitsha ooo if not so I for dey believe all this east are always innocent Nawa oo. [color=#000099][/color]

lailo:
I agree with the statistic? very accurate. SW is copying western culture, that's why there is high rate of divorce. The region is losing family values to western culture. Western culture has more influence on SW than any other region. It is better to marry an hausa lady than a SW lady. The hausa lady will never contemplate leaving no matter what but a yoruba girl at slight inconvenience will pick race. I had dated an hausa lady before, so I know what I'm talking about but I missed that opportunity and I regret it.

Fejoku:
➜To answer a question properly, one has to understand it clearly. The report says the percentage of children living with both parents. Both parents in this case means the same father and mother. It doesn't include a mix home of one divorcee or two divorcees. It is strictly a normal nuclear family setting. Going by this, some almajiris still tick the box because although, they maybe far away from their homes and are treated as homeless boys, it isn't really so for all of them. Some do visit their parents homes mostly polygamous but nonetheless, their own homes with both parents.
➜ Another twist is that the high divorce rate in the NW is compensated for by government sponsored marriage that pushes those divorced women into another marriage and give the new children the opportunity to stay with both parents. This helps to reduce the instances of single parenthood that is now the new norm in most liberal countries and cultures.
➜ Finally, that some kids don't live with their parents from the same home doesn't affect the stats if their siblings remain with the parents in their home. Therefore, the main focus here is based in single parenthood and high divorce rate without remarrying.
➜ Any culture where women seek so much independence through divorce and incidents of high teenage pregnancies will perform poorly in this category.

Almunjid:
➜Take your time before replying—read and fully understand the conversation first. It seems you’ve lost track of our discussion. Everything I’ve written has been directly related to our topic. Let me remind you: our conversation began with polygamous marriages and the “baby mama” phenomenon. You clearly stated that polygamy hasn’t addressed any substantial problems in society, just as baby mama culture has not. I then offered a comparative analysis of both issues and concluded that, although polygamy has its disadvantages, it is far better than the baby mama trend. We’re dealing with two serious problems now, and if caution isn’t taken, the baby mama phenomenon will destroy the institution of marriage and create societal issues that polygamy could not cause in a thousand years.
I’ve known you for years as a critic on Nairaland, especially on topics concerning women. I understand that a rough childhood might have shaped some of your opinions or behaviors, but criticism alone is not a solution. You can’t keep offering negative commentary on issues you may not fully understand; instead, why not study them in depth and offer constructive solutions? I agree that polygamy cannot resolve all the societal problems caused by the baby mama trend and other Western influences, and vice versa—the baby mama lifestyle isn’t a solution to the issues arising from polygamy and related cultural practices. Instead of focusing on criticism, let’s work towards proposing solutions that can address one or both of these problems. That’s a more productive place to start. What do you think?

Kobojunkie:
A culture that literally denies a woman the right to inherit both her father's and her marital communal wealth is one that respects women? What a joke!

parags:
✓ Is this about yoruba culture or igbo culture ? Your submission is not submitting .

Kobojunkie:
Igbo culture, of course! 🥱🥱🥱

parags:
✓ I was referring to yoruba culture ma

Chachalogo:
This means that the north Keeps and maintains marriages better than any other region in Nigeria. Kudos to the Arewa on this one.

Gerrard59:
That is up for debate. Except you want to use Lagos to cover the entire region. Are people in Osun and Ekiti that westernised? Are Yoruba Muslims that westernised? What is your definition of being "westernised"?

BTW, what are these family values that are lacking in Yoruba women but exist in Hausa ladies (Christian or Muslims)?

Kobojunkie:
You were? .
Look...it is about time you all buried that "My culture is better than yours" flag because not a single culture in that entire country respects children and women. 🥱🥱🥱

Yoruba culture is just as deplorable as igbo and Hausa culture when it comes to respecting of women's and children's rights. 🥱🥱🥱

parags:
➜There are no perfect cultures . Culture is the way of a people . Their beliefs , philosophy and ideologies formed over a significant period of time. Usually based on social interactions , observations and experiences .
➜ On the women and children angle, do you agree with me that it has varying degrees across cultures ?
➜ Culture is dynamic. . It changes as time passes and experience changes . America did not get there overnight . It took time . Respecting the root of why a cultural norm exist is a step.towards changing it . Not by aggression .

lailo:
Check it. The Igbos hold their culture at high esteem and especially in the area of marriage, same thing with most SS states. You can hardly see an Igbo woman leave her marriage no matter what. Hausa is even worse in that regards, their culture and religion have supremacy over any external influence.

But u see the Yoruba people , bcs of that Lagos influence u just mentioned, the divorce sunami is spreading fast to other Yoruba states u just mentioned. Any small challenge in marriage just like the white, they are off. Go to Europe and see most of the Nigeria marriages collapsing, they are mostly yorubas. They will even send their husband they left Nigeria together to prison.

Most other culture especially the Igbos and SS believe that if a woman cheat, the husband will die or the wife will develop some strange illness or all her children will die.

This believe is still very much influential among the Igbos and those other minority ethnicities but the Yorubas don’t believe all that, that’s why they move from one husband house to another easily and can cheat without fear or consequences.

madridguy:
This is effect of single mothers everywhere due to unwanted pregnancy.

South West leaders seriously need to address the issue.

If you line 10 ladies between the age of 17-22 years old, you must see like 7 single mothers among them.

Niwdog:
You don't know how the almajiris system works so I advise you to keep shut and ask

RollinTNDA:
I already knew South West will be the lowest

The highest number of baby mamas I have ever seen in my life was in SWest.
One woman go born for 6 different men

Plus their divorce rate is very high too
My Aunt who lived in Lagos her whole life always warned me about marring from that side.
I would argue with her until I saw it reality hit me and I thank her and God for not making that mistake.