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Mehn…..

It’s been a crazy journey so far. On my bed thinking of life… I am 25. Turned 25 in July and suddenly my age sounded serious. Realizing that I don’t really have time on my side.

I am just looking at life, my dreams and all of that. Looked at my account and all I have is about 3.5M savings. No girlfriend (had only one gf all my life, a distant one and got crashed), I can’t even approach girls cause I feel I am not settled. I mean my pay just got increased to 800k/monthly recently but just thinking, is this how I wan make am? Also cause I don’t really enjoy my work even tho some seem to be comfortable with it. I want more out of life…….

The dreams and all of that. On top of that, first son and first born. Just a lot going on my mind. Staying in lagos isn’t even making matters easy. Accomodation and transport expensive here (prolly will have achieved more outside here)

I’ve thought of starting a start-up by the side but then my mind has left this country man. Also cause I think it may take time for the start up to get off the ground.

As it is, I am just thinking what next. Getting closer to God to get a clearer view of my life.

I am currently applying for MBA in the USA. I think the best think that will happen to me this year is getting a fully funded MBA program in a top school and getting visa, by December I’ll know my date on that. I know my life will rake a huge turn after this.

I just want to vent out using this my unknown moniker.

Crazy stage in life

God help me.

lajid:
Mehn…..

It’s been a crazy journey so far. On my bed thinking of life… I am 25. Turned 25 in July and suddenly my age sounded serious. Realizing that I don’t really have time on my side.

I am just looking at life, my dreams and all of that. Looked at my account and all I have is about 3.5M savings. No girlfriend (had only one gf all my life, a distant one and got crashed), I can’t even approach girls cause I feel I am not settled. I mean my pay just got increased to 800k/monthly recently but just thinking, is this how I wan make am? Also cause I don’t really enjoy my work even tho some seem to be comfortable with it. I want more out of life…….

The dreams and all of that. On top of that, first son and first born. Just a lot going on my mind. Staying in lagos isn’t even making matters easy. Accomodation and transport expensive here (prolly will have achieved more outside here)

I’ve thought of starting a start-up by the side but then my mind has left this country man. Also cause I think it may take time for the start up to get off the ground.

As it is, I am just thinking what next. Getting closer to God to get a clearer view of my life.

I am currently applying for MBA in the USA. I think the best think that will happen to me this year is getting a fully funded MBA program in a top school and getting visa, by December I’ll know my date on that. I know my life will rake a huge turn after this.

Can’t even ask girls out cause my self-esteem is just low right now. Also maybe cause I am 5’5 as a guy so scared to approach them.

I just want to vent out using this my unknown moniker.

Crazy stage in life

God help me.

Is this the new format to attract the female folks,

Celestialsword:
Is this the new format to attract the female folks,

Get off my mention pls. I just say things off my mind. What the heck do I need to get a girl from nairaland. I am talking of my desire to get more out of life this one is talking of girls. Run off man

If your story is really true, then you are an ungrateful individual.
Your salary, if divided by 4 is what a lot of married folks are aiming to earn,be grateful and work harder.

Demetrix:
If your story is really true, then you are an ungrateful individual.
Your salary, if divided by 4 is what a lot of married folks are aiming to earn,be grateful and work harder.

Oga I am not ungrateful. Not need to insult me. I am grateful…. Is it bad to want more Cause I don’t get I am ungrateful

lajid:
Oga I am not ungrateful. Not need to insult me. I am grateful…. Is it bad to want more Cause I don’t get I am ungrateful

I didn't insult you sir
Wanting more is okay,but down playing yourself and efforts in the face of progress tells a lot about who you really are.

Demetrix:
I didn't insult you sir
Wanting more is okay,but down playing yourself and efforts in the face of progress tells a lot about who you really are.

You know nothing Mr man. Please run along

lajid:
Get off my mention pls. I just say things off my mind. What the heck do I need to get a girl from nairaland. I am talking of my desire to get more out of life this one is talking of girls. Run off man

All the things you wrote up there are lies

lajid:
You know nothing Mr man. Please run along

I see the reason why you feel empty and depressed.
Try being grateful and you'll feel better.

Celestialsword:
All the things you wrote up there are lies

Ok. I don’t need to prove anything to you pls. Now get the heck outta my thread.

Demetrix:
I see the reason why you feel empty and depressed.
Try being grateful and you'll feel better.

You know it’s easier to assume when you don’t wear the shoes. Run along

lajid:
You know it’s easier to assume when you don’t wear the shoes. Run along

Nothing to assume bro
I'm in a far worse condition than you
I'm doing my best, no results.
I bleed,I feel pain,I cry but I know I'm putting efforts.
I'm still grateful

Argumentative, unable to take criticism, lacking self awareness, and sexually frustrated. You’re a good catch, just make more money and you’ll find peace ☺️

Double0h7:
Argumentative, unable to take criticism, lacking self awareness, and sexually frustrated. You’re a good catch, just make more money and you’ll find peace ☺️

Bro nobody is frustrated. Stop saying silly things

lajid:
➜Mehn…..
It’s been a crazy journey so far. On my bed thinking of life… I am 25. Turned 25 in July and suddenly my age sounded serious. Realizing that I don’t really have time on my side.
I am just looking at life, my dreams and all of that. Looked at my account and all I have is about 3.5M savings. No girlfriend (had only one gf all my life, a distant one and got crashed), I can’t even approach girls cause I feel I am not settled. I mean my pay just got increased to 800k/monthly recently but just thinking, is this how I wan make am? Also cause I don’t really enjoy my work even tho some seem to be comfortable with it. I want more out of life…….
The dreams and all of that. On top of that, first son and first born. Just a lot going on my mind. Staying in lagos isn’t even making matters easy. Accomodation and transport expensive here (prolly will have achieved more outside here)
I’ve thought of starting a start-up by the side but then my mind has left this country man. Also cause I think it may take time for the start up to get off the ground.
➜As it is, I am just thinking what next. Getting closer to God to get a clearer view of my life. I am currently applying for MBA in the USA. I think the best think that will happen to me this year is getting a fully funded MBA program in a top school and getting visa, by December I’ll know my date on that. I know my life will rake a huge turn after this.
I just want to vent out using this my unknown moniker. Crazy stage in life. God help me.

As someone who is almost two times your current age, I can assure you that you are doing OK for your age, and you have absolutely no reason to become anxious about where you are in life at this point. Life will continue "life-ing" and time will continue time-ing, no matter how anxious you work yourself into, so you gain nothing from being anxious about anything... literally anything.

Those anxious feelings you have there are literally energy you are wasting on things that will lead to nothing in the end. If having no girlfriends causes you anxiety, you are better off redirecting that energy into self-reflection exercises and/or adopting hobbies that would build you mentally, emotionally, and intellectually — hobbies are skills after all. When I say hobbies, I literally mean anything that is both legal and productive can be a hobby— playing chess, reading books, sports such as biking, hiking, etc., crafts(home development, carpentry, dressmaking, flower arrangements, miniature model building, etc.), volunteering in your community, etc.

If there are no hobby clubs out there that serve what you like, you can create one and invite like-minded individuals to join up with you, so you all can exchange skills, ideas, and also network outside of your regular work lives. This is, in fact, a good way to build lasting non-work-related/school relationships with people, either in your community from across all age ranges.

2. At this point, you literally know nothing about this God word you throw around except for false ideas that your head has been filled with by either those around you or those gods of men out there who are pretty much all fraudsters and liars. Take your time in studying yourself and understanding what makes you you and not someone else. Work on knowing and loving the you that is you, apart from all the ideas that have formerly been thrown at you. You can spend the rest of your twenties and even your thirties on this endeavor. Afterward, you can embark on a quest to find out who this God you have heard so much of truly is.

Living according to the ideas and notions of others is one of the biggest mistakes anyone can make in life. Many of us made it, and I am suggesting you do not make the same mistake.

Double0h7:
Argumentative, unable to take criticism, lacking self awareness, and sexually frustrated. You’re a good catch, just make more money and you’ll find peace ☺️

he likely attract a gold dsggsr

i hope you really do awrse hul