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I remember while growing up, my mom used to have some episodes of stomach pain. It was usually so severe that it gets everyone around her tensed up. On one occasion, she was actually diagnosed of fibroid.

However, the doctor said there was no need of carrying out surgery on her since she was already bearing children. The doctor emphasized that the fact that she started bearing children early helped to suppress the growth of the fibroids. This goes to show that, against the feminists campaigns for women to delay child bearing, starting out early actually has alot of medical benefits.

Fibroids is a common problem among women in this part of the world and it is largely responsible for cases of infertility among couples. There's a trend of married ladies not conceiving after years of marriage. I can count many of such couples that I know personally. This trend is a reflection of the fact that ladies now delay marriages sometimes to their 40s!

By the time she gets married, it becomes difficult for her to conceive. Her husband is now dragged into the problem and sometimes even accused of being responsible. He's made to start gulping different medications both orthodox and herbal. This is because, the couple is usually "treated" together. Some go from one herbal treatment to the other, taking all sorts of concoctions in the name of herbal medicines. To make matters worse, many people believe that the so called herbal medicines are more effective treatments for infertility than orthodox medicines. For this reason, they rather continue taking herbal stuff than go to hospitals! These herbalists do not know how to properly diagnose the condition to know what the issue really is. It is usually based on trial and errors while the condition is given different names like "infection", "staph", spiritual problems and so on.

However, many of these cases are usually due to fibroids which have grown and taken over a huge part of the woman's reproductive system. Some of these fibroids are so terrible that even after surgery, conception is still not achieved.

So, in order to avoid all the hassles of trying to conceive, getting married on time can help ladies who are desirous of having children to avoid all the problems and emotional trauma associated with infertility.

There's also the benefit of witnessing your children's successes as they grow and thrive while you're still alive. Therefore, you'll most likely live to enjoy your children's wealth and not have others rip the fruits of your labor when you're gone.

Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls. Thank you

So you're basically encouraging the baby mama culture... You say women should get married and have children early as if by the time they turn 20, they'll find marriage with their desired spouses waiting for them.

You guys are the same people complaining of how women nowadays should have sources of income since life is generally expensive, but you still want to guilt trip them for getting married at their own desired time knowing very well that had they gotten married early, many of you guys would've tied them down as housewives... And if it happens that you meet your demise before her, your families would come and claim everything, leaving her with nothing since she'd have sacrificed her prime years for your selfish fragile egos.

And my sister started having issues with fibroids are the age of 21 when she was still in varsity, would you have suggested that she had children as a teenager? What was your mother's occupation that she started having children early? Because you can't have your cake and eat it.

Any daughter of ‘ZION’ that stresses me is going back to her father’s house. Sorry— I can’t be escorting you to Shiloh every year…..

Are they going to marry their father's mate or their age mate because if it's the latter, they have not been responsible with responsibility

Jman06:
➜Fibroids is a common problem among women in this part of the world and it is largely responsible for cases of infertility among couples. There's a trend of married ladies not conceiving after years of marriage. I can count many of such couples that I know personally. This trend is a reflection of the fact that ladies now delay marriages sometimes to their 40s!
By the time she gets married, it becomes difficult for her to conceive. Her husband is now dragged into the problem and sometimes even accused of being responsible. He's made to start gulping different medications both orthodox and herbal. This is because, the couple is usually "treated" together. Some go from one herbal treatment to the other, taking all sorts of concoctions in the name of herbal medicines. To make matters worse, many people believe that the so called herbal medicines are more effective treatments for infertility than orthodox medicines. For this reason, they rather continue taking herbal stuff than go to hospitals! These herbalists do not know how to properly diagnose the condition to know what the issue really is. It is usually based on trial and errors while the condition is given different names like "infection", "staph", spiritual problems and so on.
However, many of these cases are usually due to fibroids which have grown and taken over a huge part of the woman's reproductive system. Some of these fibroids are so terrible that even after surgery, conception is still not achieved.
So, in order to avoid all the hassles of trying to conceive, getting married on time can help ladies who are desirous of having children to avoid all the problems and emotional trauma associated with infertility.
There's also the benefit of witnessing your children's successes as they grow and thrive while you're still alive. Therefore, you'll most likely live to enjoy your children's wealth and not have others rip the fruits of your labor when you're gone.
Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls.

This is, in many ways, very unsound advice. Women should never listen to or accept this nonsense, particularly given what has been recently revealed in the area of women's reproductive health.

Also, for one, in most cases, removing fibroids does not cause infertility. Studies have shown that the likelihood of infertility after fibroid removal is generally low, around 5-10%.(This variation depends on factors such as the size, location, and number of fibroids removed, as well as the surgical technique used.)

Irrational fear of fibroids or infertility is not a reason enough for a woman, any woman out there, to sacrifice her youth and freedom to have babies.

Don't forget to place financial sustainability above other factors...
Birthing is no problem but taking responsibility is what matters

Is not an easy road ...

Marriage

This post looks so truthful, genuine and true only if life is so mathematical and straightforward. You give birth, you live old and then die. We all know life is a sharp contrast. With or Without illness, people die, both babies, young and old die by the second daily. People with or without fibroid have child delay, accidents happen, mysterious evil events happen which greatly contradict the opinion of the thread owner.

Jman06:
I remember while growing up, my mom used to have some episodes of stomach pain. It was usually so severe that it gets everyone around her tensed up. On one occasion, she was actually diagnosed of fibroid.

However, the doctor said there was no need of carrying out surgery on her since she was already bearing children. The doctor emphasized that the fact that she started bearing children early helped to suppress the growth of the fibroids. This goes to show that, against the feminists campaigns for women to delay child bearing, starting out early actually has alot of medical benefits.

Fibroids is a common problem among women in this part of the world and it is largely responsible for cases of infertility among couples. There's a trend of married ladies not conceiving after years of marriage. I can count many of such couples that I know personally. This trend is a reflection of the fact that ladies now delay marriages sometimes to their 40s!

By the time she gets married, it becomes difficult for her to conceive. Her husband is now dragged into the problem and sometimes even accused of being responsible. He's made to start gulping different medications both orthodox and herbal. This is because, the couple is usually "treated" together. Some go from one herbal treatment to the other, taking all sorts of concoctions in the name of herbal medicines. To make matters worse, many people believe that the so called herbal medicines are more effective treatments for infertility than orthodox medicines. For this reason, they rather continue taking herbal stuff than go to hospitals! These herbalists do not know how to properly diagnose the condition to know what the issue really is. It is usually based on trial and errors while the condition is given different names like "infection", "staph", spiritual problems and so on.

However, many of these cases are usually due to fibroids which have grown and taken over a huge part of the woman's reproductive system. Some of these fibroids are so terrible that even after surgery, conception is still not achieved.

So, in order to avoid all the hassles of trying to conceive, getting married on time can help ladies who are desirous of having children to avoid all the problems and emotional trauma associated with infertility.

There's also the benefit of witnessing your children's successes as they grow and thrive while you're still alive. Therefore, you'll most likely live to enjoy your children's wealth and not have others rip the fruits of your labor when you're gone.

Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls. Thank you

SMH Haaaa na wa!
Nothing I no go read 4 Nairaland.

It's their inalienable right except not interested

Samantha125:
So you're basically encouraging the baby mama culture... You say women should get married and have children early as if by the time they turn 20, they'll find marriage with their desired spouses waiting for them.

You guys are the same people complaining of how women nowadays should have sources of income since life is generally expensive, but you still want to guilt trip them for getting married at their own desired time knowing very well that had they gotten married early, many of you guys would've tied them down as housewives... And if it happens that you meet your demise before her, your families would come and claim everything, leaving her with nothing since she'd have sacrificed her prime years for your selfish fragile egos.

And my sister started having issues with fibroids are the age of 21 when she was still in varsity, would you have suggested that she had children as a teenager? What was your mother's occupation that she started having children early? Because you can't have your cake and eat it.

You actually made some good points, but let’s be clear, nobody said women should rush into having kids without stability. The post was just highlighting a medical fact: fertility and risks like fibroids are often easier to manage when childbirth happens earlier in life.

That doesn’t mean “go and get pregnant at 19.” It simply means biology has its timing and we shouldn’t ignore that while chasing other goals.

Yes, women should be educated, independent, and secure but that can go hand-in-hand with early planning for family life. It’s all about balance, not pressure.

And about your sister, fibroids can appear at any age, true but medical studies still show early childbirth helps reduce the risk, even if it doesn’t eliminate it completely.

So, both views can coexist. The goal isn’t to shame anyone but to create awareness and make informed choices, not emotional arguments.

Na you go tell women when they go have their kids.

Noo, please don't come, I'm not feeling well...

njokuuche77:
I am coming to respond to you.

So much misinformation in one post. SMH

They will be waiting on the imaginary rish man illusion till they get old

What must be must be not by our choice

Samantha125:
Noo, please don't come, I'm not feeling well...

Ah ah, no hiding now o . I go dey gentle sha, just dropping facts.

very wrong information here, why rub1sh like these are moved to frontpage baffles me. It speaks a lot about our value system as Nigerians. Are we that uneducated?

Nigeria is already over populated. Everyone must not born na

Samantha125:
So you're basically encouraging the baby mama culture... You say women should get married and have children early as if by the time they turn 20, they'll find marriage with their desired spouses waiting for them.

You guys are the same people complaining of how women nowadays should have sources of income since life is generally expensive, but you still want to guilt trip them for getting married at their own desired time knowing very well that had they gotten married early, many of you guys would've tied them down as housewives... And if it happens that you meet your demise before her, your families would come and claim everything, leaving her with nothing since she'd have sacrificed her prime years for your selfish fragile egos.

And my sister started having issues with fibroids are the age of 21 when she was still in varsity, would you have suggested that she had children as a teenager? What was your mother's occupation that she started having children early? Because you can't have your cake and eat it.

see rant.. MEN don’t have fibroid Aunty…. Give birth early….

Samantha125:
So you're basically encouraging the baby mama culture... You say women should get married and have children early as if by the time they turn 20, they'll find marriage with their desired spouses waiting for them.

You guys are the same people complaining of how women nowadays should have sources of income since life is generally expensive, but you still want to guilt trip them for getting married at their own desired time knowing very well that had they gotten married early, many of you guys would've tied them down as housewives... And if it happens that you meet your demise before her, your families would come and claim everything, leaving her with nothing since she'd have sacrificed her prime years for your selfish fragile egos.

And my sister started having issues with fibroids are the age of 21 when she was still in varsity, would you have suggested that she had children as a teenager? What was your mother's occupation that she started having children early? Because you can't have your cake and eat it.

They don't need marriage to give birth. Their biological clock is messed up, no thanks to cancer. These days, you see women losing there breast, ovaries n wombs to cancer as early as 30s

Start giving birth as soon as you are ready financially n mentally

Jenny Clay.... Jenny Clay.... Jenny Clay

How many times I call you ?

Na who love you, go advise you 💕💕💕

it is time to forget about Slaying or being a Slay Queen...

Start having those Babies 🐥🐥🍼🍼

njokuuche77:
➜You actually made some good points, but let’s be clear, nobody said women should rush into having kids without stability. The post was just highlighting a medical fact: fertility and risks like fibroids are often easier to manage when childbirth happens earlier in life.
➜ That doesn’t mean “go and get pregnant at 19.” It simply means biology has its timing and we shouldn’t ignore that while chasing other goals. Yes, women should be educated, independent, and secure but that can go hand-in-hand with early planning for family life. It’s all about balance, not pressure. And about your sister, fibroids can appear at any age, true, but medical studies still show early childbirth helps reduce the risk, even if it doesn’t eliminate it completely.
➜ So, both views can coexist. The goal isn’t to shame anyone but to create awareness and make informed choices, not emotional arguments.

1. This is false information.

2. This is also a wrong conclusion since studies also show that some women could also develop fibroids even after early childbirth! Women are mostly capable of reproducing via several methods out there, even up until menopause, so a fear of fibroids shouldn't be considered reason enough to want to rush into such things at an early age.

Even at that, guys should avoid all single mothers. They are completely Toxic.

I know, because I know.

I'm just an emotional woman...

njokuuche77:
Ah ah, no hiding now o . I go dey gentle sha, just dropping facts.

Yes it is desirable to birth kids early, but circumstances beyond one's control make it no to happen.

Na condition bend Crayfish, no be say Crayfish like to bend.

Everyone with their own theories

Then there won't be any need to get married anymore and many women will be having different baby daddies due to pressure of conceiving early, meaning more children will grow up in dysfunctional families.

femi4:
They don't need marriage to give birth. They biological clock is messed up, no thanks to cancer. These days, you see women losing there breast, ovaries n wombs to cancer as early as 30s

Start giving birth as soon as you are ready financially n mentally

Kobojunkie:
1. This is false information.

2. This is also a wrong conclusion since studies also show that some women could also develop fibroids even after early childbirth! Women are mostly capable of reproducing via several methods out there, even up until menopause, so a fear of fibroids shouldn't be considered reason enough to want to rush into such things at an early age.

I see where you’re coming from, and you’re correct that fibroids can develop at any age and that women have multiple reproductive options later in life.

The point of the original post isn’t that early childbirth guarantees you won’t have fibroids, or that it’s the only way to have children. It’s just a biological observation: studies show that early pregnancies can reduce the risk or growth rate of fibroids in some women, and fertility tends to be higher in the 20s and early 30s.

So it’s not about fear or forcing anyone to rush, it’s about awareness. Knowing how age affects fertility and fibroid risks lets women make informed choices, whether they decide to have children early, later, or pursue other reproductive options.

Samantha125:
Then there won't be any need to get married anymore and many women will be having different baby daddies due to pressure of conceiving early, meaning more children will grow up in dysfunctional families.

That’s not even true

Dysfunctional family is a product of irresponsible parenting not single parenting

Jman06:
Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls. Thank you

I hope they listen to you.
Young girls these days no dey hear word.