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pocohantas:
I hope they listen to you.
Young girls these days no dey hear word.

The wise ones will always listen while the foolish ones continue to wallow in their delusions until time is no longer on their sides.

Pointless thread.

You can't be coercing women to carry babies ehen they are not ready to for men who are not responsible enough or ready for for fatherhood.

If you want women to have babies early, then most will be single mothers, and grandmother youngerthan 40 years, others will marry early, give birth early and divorce early or become a widow e[b][/b]arly. Then those who will marryned nwoko age mate because their mates are still doing yahoo yahoo and jumping from skirt to skirt.

Last last women will give birth when they are ready to and in due time, not because of your thread.

Jman06:
I remember while growing up, my mom used to have some episodes of stomach pain. It was usually so severe that it gets everyone around her tensed up. On one occasion, she was actually diagnosed of fibroid.

However, the doctor said there was no need of carrying out surgery on her since she was already bearing children. The doctor emphasized that the fact that she started bearing children early helped to suppress the growth of the fibroids. This goes to show that, against the feminists campaigns for women to delay child bearing, starting out early actually has alot of medical benefits.

Fibroids is a common problem among women in this part of the world and it is largely responsible for cases of infertility among couples. There's a trend of married ladies not conceiving after years of marriage. I can count many of such couples that I know personally. This trend is a reflection of the fact that ladies now delay marriages sometimes to their 40s!

By the time she gets married, it becomes difficult for her to conceive. Her husband is now dragged into the problem and sometimes even accused of being responsible. He's made to start gulping different medications both orthodox and herbal. This is because, the couple is usually "treated" together. Some go from one herbal treatment to the other, taking all sorts of concoctions in the name of herbal medicines. To make matters worse, many people believe that the so called herbal medicines are more effective treatments for infertility than orthodox medicines. For this reason, they rather continue taking herbal stuff than go to hospitals! These herbalists do not know how to properly diagnose the condition to know what the issue really is. It is usually based on trial and errors while the condition is given different names like "infection", "staph", spiritual problems and so on.

However, many of these cases are usually due to fibroids which have grown and taken over a huge part of the woman's reproductive system. Some of these fibroids are so terrible that even after surgery, conception is still not achieved.

So, in order to avoid all the hassles of trying to conceive, getting married on time can help ladies who are desirous of having children to avoid all the problems and emotional trauma associated with infertility.

There's also the benefit of witnessing your children's successes as they grow and thrive while you're still alive. Therefore, you'll most likely live to enjoy your children's wealth and not have others rip the fruits of your labor when you're gone.

Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls. Thank you

In women, there is no health benefit for giving birth "early", rather, increased probability of terrible outcomes, can be very dangerous before 20 years of age, and a little less dangerous if just a little older than 20, I'll always advise 25 and up is perfect.
Anyone who is normal in the head surely knows to discard this terrible advice, there is a reason countries where women go by the way of Op's kin are never first or second world, and none of such women ever reach their full potential as a human being, just because they have reduced themselves to baby spitting machines.
Women, go to school, learn a skill, have dreams and chase them, find a worthy man if that's your thing, have a kid or two when you can afford to take care of them alone ( life can happen), having kids when you should be pursuing a dope degree, or learning a skill in demand, is a recipe for lifelong depression, financial decapitation, self sabotage, which leads to being in a position of being subdued by the male, thus, the universe and God disappointed.

Jman06:
The wise ones will always listen while the foolish ones continue to wallow in their delusions until time is no longer on their sides.

I know right. We have more wise ones on Nairaland. No worry.

How would the mother be responsible when she'd be a single mother with different baby daddies due to pressure to conceive before her 30s? Wouldn't those children grow up in a dysfunctional family?

The whole thing will only encourage baby Mama culture because many women will start having children with random men.

femi4:
That’s not even true

Dysfunctional family is a product of irresponsible parenting not single parenting

Samantha125:
How would the mother be responsible when she'd be a single mother with different baby daddies due to pressure to conceive before her 30s? Wouldn't those children grow up in a dysfunctional family?

The whole thing will only encourage baby Mama culture because many women will start having children with random men.

Responsibility is a decision not a status

This is not new, we have women raising kids from two different fathers due to circumstances beyond their control and raised them well

There are many responsible single parents out there

Samantha125:
So you're basically encouraging the baby mama culture... You say women should get married and have children early as if by the time they turn 20, they'll find marriage with their desired spouses waiting for them.

You guys are the same people complaining of how women nowadays should have sources of income since life is generally expensive, but you still want to guilt trip them for getting married at their own desired time knowing very well that had they gotten married early, many of you guys would've tied them down as housewives... And if it happens that you meet your demise before her, your families would come and claim everything, leaving her with nothing since she'd have sacrificed her prime years for your selfish fragile egos.

And my sister started having issues with fibroids are the age of 21 when she was still in varsity, would you have suggested that she had children as a teenager? What was your mother's occupation that she started having children early? Because you can't have your cake and eat it.

I'm not implying that they should not try to improve themselves or do other stuffs. The point is that those who are desirous of having children should know that the earlier they start, the better. Also, I'm not encouraging the culture of baby mama, instead young girls should set their priorities right and marry early if a responsible man comes.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Pointless thread.

You can't be coercing women to carry babies ehen they are not ready to for men who are not responsibleenoughor ready for for fatherhood.

If you want women to have babies early, then most will be single mother, and grqndmother youngerthan 40 years, others will marry early, give birth early and divorce early or become a widow early. Then those who will marryned nwoko age mate because their mates are still doing yahoo yahoo and jumping from skirt to skirt.

Last last women will give birth when they are ready to and in due time, not because of your thread.

My message has been passed and I'm sure those with wisdom would grab the point I'm making. Thanks for your contribution though

njokuuche77:
➜I see where you’re coming from, and you’re correct that fibroids can develop at any age and that women have multiple reproductive options later in life. The point of the original post isn’t that early childbirth guarantees you won’t have fibroids, or that it’s the only way to have children. It’s just a biological observation: studies show that early pregnancies can reduce the risk or growth rate of fibroids in some women, and fertility tends to be higher in the 20s and early 30s.
➜ So it’s not about fear or forcing anyone to rush, it’s about awareness. Knowing how age affects fertility and fibroid risks lets women make informed choices, whether they decide to have children early, later, or pursue other reproductive options.

But this point is moot since women who have early pregnancies are also at risk of developing fibroids later on. Also, biologically, a decline in fertility is not an absence of fertility: women can have babies well into their late 40s and even early 50s in many cases.

2. It is fear since it insists that women should have babies earlier in life, in some attempt to avoid having to run into problems of infertility and fibroids. It conveniently fails to inform the same women, among so many other things, that fibroids could happen to them even after these early pregnancies, and that the chances are 5-10% that infertility could result from fibroids removal surgery, and that IVF and surrogacy could be a workaround even in such cases.

So, yes, overall, the OP is a terrible opinion piece meant to coax ignorant women into considering early pregnancy when there is really no benefit to be had by women from it.

Yet you guys still shame those single mothers on a daily basis.

And every child needs a father figure in his or her life... So let's not encourage the culture of single parenthood in the name of having children early.

femi4:
Responsibility is a decision not a status

This is not new, we have women raising kids from two different fathers due to circumstances beyond their control and raised them well

There are many responsible single parents out there

Samantha125:
Yet you guys still shame those single mothers on a daily basis.

And every child needs a father figure in his or her life... So let's not encourage the culture of single parenthood in the name of having children early.

So if the father dies before his birth, he won't succeed in life?

Not everyone will be married

A lot of things cause fibroids it's not always about delayed conception

Whether the father is dead or alive, you guys would still shame those women for being single mothers with different baby daddies.

femi4:
So if the father dies before his birth, he won't succeed in life?

Not everyone will be married

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Nigerians copy the wrong thing the wrong way.
They want to act and live like Americans.
Unbeknownst to them, those baddies online already have all their children before 25. Most of them are single mothers being catered by the government. It is normal to see a 24yrs old with 3 kids. But a 35-yrs old Nigerian lady is still out there competing with 20yrs olds and cheering life without children nor husband.

Who wins? Whoever is organizing Shiloh every year-- female customers full ground. Rub their insecurities in their faces, give them hope and the ladies open their wallets.

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DrAda:
So much misinformation in one post. SMH

I'm telling you. He's not even a medical doctor.

folake4u:
I'm telling you. He's not even a medical doctor.

It's terrible.

DrAda:
It's terrible.

You can say that again.

Samantha125:
So you're basically encouraging the baby mama culture... You say women should get married and have children early as if by the time they turn 20, they'll find marriage with their desired spouses waiting for them.

You guys are the same people complaining of how women nowadays should have sources of income since life is generally expensive, but you still want to guilt trip them for getting married at their own desired time knowing very well that had they gotten married early, many of you guys would've tied them down as housewives... And if it happens that you meet your demise before her, your families would come and claim everything, leaving her with nothing since she'd have sacrificed her prime years for your selfish fragile egos.

And my sister started having issues with fibroids are the age of 21 when she was still in varsity, would you have suggested that she had children as a teenager? What was your mother's occupation that she started having children early? Because you can't have your cake and eat it.

You read without comprehending…let me help you out

‘ Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls. Thank you’

At no time did the OP vouch for ‘baby-mamaism’ but we all know your mind traffic na one-way.

belikewater:
➜You read without comprehending…let me help you out
Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls. Thank you’
At no time did the OP vouch for ‘baby-mamaism’ but we all know your mind traffic na one-way.

The OP did exactly that— make an argument for babymamarism. The vast majority of babymamas out there are women who had early pregnancies, not late pregnancies. This will include women who got married early, had children early as well, but were later abandoned in marriage to join the single motherhood train.

No study out there has linked women marrying early or having early pregnancies to the raising of great families. It is important to point out the falsehood of this claim contained in the OP and your post.

Study after study has shown that when women spend their twenties building themselves mentally and financially, they are less likely to become babymamas and single mothers.

You can't tell me you're not vouching the baby mama culture unless you want us to marry ourselves in order to have children early.

Because you have to first meet your desired partner before you can start thinking of having children and many women have only met theirs when they were already in their 30s or even 40s.

belikewater:
You read without comprehending…let me help you out

‘ Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls. Thank you’

At no time did the OP vouch for ‘baby-mamaism’ but we all know your mind traffic na one-way.

I remember this post about women and feminism. They don't dislike men, it's women who don't listen to them.

The beautiful thing about the whole thing is time. Women don't have the luxury of time that men have. Biology does not work with sentiments so don't bother arguing with women, with time, they find out. The older women know but if they are wicked, they will lead the young girls on because they are jealous of their youth. I have heard what the OP said before from doctors and it's not new but again, let's keep arguing and be doing theatrics with life. FAFO

One beauty of this same social media, depending on who you follow is when they ask older people what they regret in life or what they wish they could do if they were younger. You hear it all the time from women. CHILDREN!!!

SixSeven:
✓ I remember this post about women and feminism. They don't dislike men, it's women who don't listen to them.
✓ The beautiful thing about the whole thing is time. Women don't have the luxury of time that men have. Biology does not work with sentiments so don't bother arguing with women, with time, they find out. The older women know but if they are wicked, they will lead the young girls on because they are jealous of their youth. I have heard what the OP said before from doctors and it's not new but again, let's keep arguing and be doing theatrics with life. FAFO
✓ One beauty of this same social media, depending on who you follow is when they ask older people what they regret in life or what they wish they could do if they were younger. You hear it all the time from women. CHILDREN!!!

This is nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

2. Recent Scientific Research revealed in 2025, that women have never, in fact, had time against them. It was all false conclusions that led them to believing in such things. A woman is as capable of conception until she is into menopause; the DNA of her eggs remain quite stable until much later in her 40s and early 50s. 🥱

There are in fact little to no benefits of early pregnancy for women, especially and no study out there links early pregnancy to success whether in the raising of children, marriage , or career(financial and fulfillment wise) for women. There are literally no incentives out there for women who chose early pregnancy.

3. Stop following people and begin following knowledge and wisdom, so you stop parroting debunked foolishness. 🥱😒😒

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That woman in the picture there, Kate Mulvey's book, Accidental Singleton ought to tell you that far from being a feminist, she was a woman desperate to find herself --- she was signed on to dating services for much of her 30s and 40s-- a man to love her but has yet to. Her book does not portray her as a woman requiring equal rights but a woman looking for a man to complete her.

Kobojunkie:
This is nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

2. Recent Scientific Research revealed in 2025, that women have never, in fact, had time against them. It was all false conclusions that led them to believing in such things. A woman is as capable of conception until she is into menopause; the DNA of her eggs remain quite stable until much later in her 40s and early 50s. 🥱

There are in fact little to no benefits of early pregnancy for women, especially and no study out there links early pregnancy to success whether in the raising of children, marriage , or career(financial and fulfillment wise) for women. There are literally no incentives out there for women who chose early pregnancy.

3. Stop following people and begin following knowledge and wisdom, so you stop parroting debunked foolishness. 🥱😒😒

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That woman in the picture there, Kate Mulvey's book, Accidental Singleton ought to tell you that far from being a feminist, she was a woman desperate to find herself --- she was signed on to dating services for much of her 30s and 40s-- a man to love her but has yet to. Her book does not portray her as a woman requiring equal rights but a woman looking for a man to complete her.

Okay Goodluck.

SixSeven:
➜Okay Goodluck.

That article was written in 2015, yet here we are in 2025, and women are still able to have babies well into their 50s. Since then, we have also learned that among the factors that most impact the probability of conception in women is, in fact, the male biological clock, which people have, on the most part, paid little to no attention to until this research was released.

The Male Biological Clock Is Ticking — Silently, Shamefully, Fatally.
We’ve all heard of the female biological clock.
But what about men?
Here’s what science now tells us:
🕒 Sperm quality declines with age — DNA fragmentation increases by up to 20% after age 40.
🧠 Untreated stress, anxiety, and isolation are silent killers — not just for fertility, but for lifespan.
💔 Men die 4–5 years earlier than women worldwide (WHO, 2022).
🧪 Men with high depressive symptoms have 60% lower sperm motility compared to non-depressed peers (Human Reproduction, 2018).

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/srividhya-s-ab86041a3_menshealth-mentalhealthawareness-maleinfertility-activity-7322850063368474624-TAtl

So, while fertility in women seems to decline with age, that decline is also impacted by such things as the age and overall health of the men they are trying to reproduce with. The younger the man is— the sperm donor—the less likely the woman, regardless of her reproductive age, is to have issues conceiving. And we are talking miscarriages, difficult pregnancies, and complications as a whole with her pregnancy. So, the problem isn't so much fertility but the age of the man from whom the sperm were drawn. A 50-year-old woman who has yet to enter menopause, for instance, has a higher chance of a pregnancy with a 20-29-year-old man than with an older man.

If you have yet to read up on any of the research for yourself, I suggest you take out time to educate yourself.

➜https://www.nairaland.com/8541960/men-actually-biological-clock-silent
➜ https://belibaby.com/blogs/resources/men-and-fertility-tick-tock-goes-the-biological-clock?srsltid=AfmBOopvOtX0DVkq1BLiR9Nvt0R3tTtPapiAmXP5IDTqUC3N0dZxxg-0

In all of this
Please remember that it’s only God that gives children
A woman in her 60’s gave birth after waiting for 40 years
God has his ways


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CES700uib08?si=oSKiJ38QnqMK6Kjk

Kobojunkie:
That article was written in 2015, yet here we are in 2025, and women are still able to have babies well into their 50s. Since then, we have also learned that among the factors that most impact the probability of conception in women is, in fact, the male biological clock, which people have, on the most part, paid little to no attention to until this research was released.
https://www.linkedin.com/posts/srividhya-s-ab86041a3_menshealth-mentalhealthawareness-maleinfertility-activity-7322850063368474624-TAtl

So, while fertility in women seems to decline with age, that decline is also impacted by such things as the age and overall health of the men they are trying to reproduce with. The younger the man is— the sperm donor—the less likely the woman, regardless of her reproductive age, is to have issues conceiving. And we are talking miscarriages, difficult pregnancies, and complications as a whole with her pregnancy. So, the problem isn't so much fertility but the age of the man from whom the sperm were drawn. A 50-year-old woman who has yet to enter menopause, for instance, has a higher chance of a pregnancy with a 20-29-year-old man than with an older man.

If you have yet to read up on any of the research for yourself, I suggest you take out time to educate yourself.

➜https://www.nairaland.com/8541960/men-actually-biological-clock-silent
➜ https://belibaby.com/blogs/resources/men-and-fertility-tick-tock-goes-the-biological-clock?srsltid=AfmBOopvOtX0DVkq1BLiR9Nvt0R3tTtPapiAmXP5IDTqUC3N0dZxxg-0

Lol Ask Ned Nwoko

yinkeys:
➜Lol Ask Ned Nwoko

I read somewhere that at least one of his children was born via IVF. Are you insisting that it is not the case?

All nairaland based evening newspapers have left the thread

The ones that met their partners at old age are mentally degraded ones.
This is on a cool note please. Not mocking anyone.

Samantha125:
You can't tell me you're not vouching the baby mama culture unless you want us to marry ourselves in order to have children early.

Because you have to first meet your desired partner before you can start thinking of having children and many women have only met theirs when they were already in their 30s or even 40s.

Same can be said about those men as well, making them a perfect match.

Love800:
The ones that met their partners at old age are mentally degraded ones.
This is on a cool note please. Not mocking anyone.