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It began with a trickle in 2010. Some of the folks from school had gotten their PRs and were excited to be leaving for Canada. No problem.

Then a wave rose for Australia in 2013. Even more people from my circle had left the shores of Nigeria. It was okay. Not too bad.

Then the 2020 wave where everyone was convinced no life remained in Nigeria. You know about the exodus that occurred in the following years and how we continue to seek new lives abroad.

Now you’ve left and you’re busy with work and family. You rarely have time. Who will take care of the ones who raised you? How are we planning for our loved ones even as we seek greener pastures abroad?

Did you know that Elderly parents are at higher risk of falls and health issues without regular attention. If your parent needed daily help, would you hire a live-in caregiver or a home care company? Share your thoughts below please 👇”

Hmmmm. It is well. That's all I can say.

I have a similar situation here, someone i know his 2 brothers are in USA and UK, and he stays with their mum no help from the brothers

Setting up a home for the elderly will be of the hottest business in years to come. A lot of people are japa-ing out of the country without putting into consideration who will take care of their parents at old age. This trend is creating a gap for some set of people to fill business wise.

writetopoker:
I have a similar situation here, someone i know his 2 brothers are in USA and UK, and he stays with their mum no help from the brothers

...including financial help

How people manage to completely leave their families without even constantly visiting them still baffles me.

I don't know if it's a South African thing or what, but I've seen a number of South Africans of all races returning back to SA after living abroad for a while citing home sickness as their reason for their return, that they couldn't stay away from their family members for too long... One girl who was studying in France even took a transfer back to SA after complaining of the language barrier and loneliness there... There was a time everyone went away and my mom was left alone in the house, I'd call her every morning and evening to check up on her despite my sister's house being only a couple of walks away.

Even those people I know who are working abroad are still very much involved in their parents' lives by renovating their homes, getting them caregivers, and visiting constantly. Only few abandon their parents entirely... So if you're going to migrate abroad permanently, the least you can do for your parents is build them a comfortable house, it doesn't have to be big, but it should be comfortable for their old age and get them a caregiver while financially supporting them once they're too old to look after themselves... And please, whatever you do, visit your parents constantly because they're old and don't have much time left in this world, every moment they spend with their children and grandchildren counts.

Kindly take minute to indicate the option that would give you more peace of mind. Care visits or live-in caregivers. Thank you

DeltaBachelor:
Hmmmm. It is well. That's all I can say.

Quite a sad story. I agree.

writetopoker:
I have a similar situation here, someone i know his 2 brothers are in USA and UK, and he stays with their mum no help from the brothers

We do need to reimagine how we plan for retirement and the elderly among us. Imagine if he is no longer able to support her.

Samantha125:
How people manage to completely leave their families without even constantly visiting them still baffles me.

I don't know if it's a South African thing or what, but I've seen a number of South Africans of all races returning back to SA after living abroad for a while citing home sickness as their reason for their return, that they couldn't stay away from their family members for too long... One girl who was studying in France even took a transfer back to SA after complaining of the language barrier and loneliness there... There was a time everyone went away and my mom was left alone in the house, I'd call her every morning and evening to check up on her despite my sister's house being only a couple of walks away.

Even those people I know who are working abroad are still very much involved in their parents' lives by renovating their homes, getting them caregivers, and visiting constantly. Only few abandon their parents entirely... So if you're going to migrate abroad permanently, the least you can do for your parents is build them a comfortable house, it doesn't have to be big, but it should be comfortable for their old age and get them a caregiver while financially supporting them once they're too old to look after themselves... And please, whatever you do, visit your parents constantly because they're old and don't have much time left in this world, every moment they spend with their children and grandchildren counts.

I think it depends on the perceived value of remaining abroad. If they feel they have better economic chances there, they prefer to bring their parents to stay with them. I honestly think most people in diaspora are homesick. They just don’t think returning home is the safer option.

VSGcare on social

Even if you don't return, look after your parents from abroad and visit them constantly, don't abandon them back home.

And no offence, but who's gonna help fix Nigeria if you guys keep permanently migrating abroad at every chance given? Because trust me when I say things are also not as perfect as they might seem here in SA as well, but I'd rather die trying to make a difference than take an easy way out by migrating abroad.

Those countries that you call safe were once war torn and the natives had to build from scratch in order to create a better system for all... Even if you live abroad, don't forget where you come from.

Grimmm:
I think it depends on the perceived value of remaining abroad. If they feel they have better economic chances there, they prefer to bring their parents to stay with them. I honestly think most people in diaspora are homesick. They just don’t think returning home is the safer option.

VSGcare on social

Unless it is absolutely necessary, I mean a life-death-survival situation, don't ever dump your parents in a care home! Don't abandon them! As they grow older, your company becomes much more valuable than whatever money or life you are chasing!

Usmanovic95:
Setting up a home for the elderly will be of the hottest business in years to come. A lot of people are japa-ing out of the country without putting into consideration who will take care of their parents at old age. This trend is creating a gap for some set of people to fill business wise.

You want them to start accusing each other of witchcraft in the homes?

Why didn't the Mother and Father moved when they had the chance? The answer is obvious, they didn't have enough balls to go on that endeavor.

If I can do it, the only thing I owe them is hiring someone to care for them while I try to do the things they should have done

Grimmm:
➜Now you’ve left and you’re busy with work and family. You rarely have time. Who will take care of the ones who raised you? How are we planning for our loved ones even as we seek greener pastures abroad?
➜ Did you know that Elderly parents are at higher risk of falls and health issues without regular attention. If your parent needed daily help, would you hire a live-in caregiver or a home care company? Share your thoughts below please 👇”

Those who are elderly today were once young and likely had opportunity after opportunity to plan their retirement better — not make someone their retirement plan.

2. The elderly knew of these risks long before old age dawned on them.

I will get my mum a professional care give (live in) and a cleaner.

No

Samantha125:
How people manage to completely leave their families without even constantly visiting them still baffles me.

I don't know if it's a South African thing or what, but I've seen a number of South Africans of all races returning back to SA after living abroad for a while citing home sickness as their reason for their return, that they couldn't stay away from their family members for too long... One girl who was studying in France even took a transfer back to SA after complaining of the language barrier and loneliness there... There was a time everyone went away and my mom was left alone in the house, I'd call her every morning and evening to check up on her despite my sister's house being only a couple of walks away.

Even those people I know who are working abroad are still very much involved in their parents' lives by renovating their homes, getting them caregivers, and visiting constantly. Only few abandon their parents entirely... So if you're going to migrate abroad permanently, the least you can do for your parents is build them a comfortable house, it doesn't have to be big, but it should be comfortable for their old age and get them a caregiver while financially supporting them once they're too old to look after themselves... And please, whatever you do, visit your parents constantly because they're old and don't have much time left in this world, every moment they spend with their children and grandchildren counts.

You are right 👍 South Africans have strong connection tied to their home country . I recalled working with a Zulu Prof in Durban , he got good offer in the USA ,he rejected it . He said " who will take care of my mum " I need to see her often