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Numerous selfish interests have resulted in numerous failed marriages worldwide. God forbids blasphemy as the greatest sin, and love prohibits cheating because it can lead to more serious crimes and negative consequences within marriage. When love forms the foundation of marriage, it tends to last forever, eliminating any reason for either partner to cheat.
https://agbole..com/2025/11/marriage-should-never-be-built-on-lust.html

PolyGamous:
Numerous selfish interests have resulted in numerous failed marriages worldwide. God forbids blasphemy as the greatest sin, and love prohibits cheating because it can lead to more serious crimes and negative consequences within marriage. When love forms the foundation of marriage, it tends to last forever, eliminating any reason for either partner to cheat.
https://agbole..com/2025/11/marriage-should-never-be-built-on-lust.html

U support polygamy but preaching against lust and cheating??

advanceDNA:
U support polygamy but preaching against lust and cheating??

Lol, you were told to believe polygamous was all about cheat and lust.

According to elderly ones, polygamy in the tradition of Africa was not because of lust, but because of productive purposes. People with many wives are more productive (amount of land they cultivated or the amount of trades they own), people don’t just marry in African traditions if they are not capable to take care of wife or wives and the children.

If marriage is still based on the traditional knowledge, it will be far better.

Polygamy is for growth not for lusting around!!

PolyGamous:
Lol, you were told to believe polygamous was all about cheat and lust.

I was not told anything ..its basic common sense that a man must at some point have control over his carnal desires otherwise there will be no limit to how he surrenders to his lust...this is the reason we now have gay men and pple that sleep with animals and other forms of sexuality.....lack of discipline
Baba.....U cant be a polygamist without continuously lusting.... because that's how your number of wives increase from 1 to 2 to 3, 4 ...and so on....

PolyGamous:
According to elderly ones, polygamy in the tradition of Africa was not because of lust, but because of productive purposes.

Lol.....unless you are king that pple bring wives to, to marry for ethnic, trade, peaceful and other forms of alliance and collaboration, an average man increasing the number of women he's sleeping with is just a man full of lust with no discipline over his sexual desires.... It has nothing to do with productivity

PolyGamous:
People with many wives are more productive (amount of land they cultivated or the amount of trades they own), people don’t just marry in African traditions if they are not capable to take care of wife or wives and the children.

your attempt to justify having many wives with increased productivity is lame

..this is 2025... people engage in modern technological drive. principle of farming and trade .....
Having many wives & being more productive are mutually exclusive things ......please try to sound more factual....u are online with a large audience

PolyGamous:
If marriage is still based on the traditional knowledge, it will be far better.

marriage has always been based on traditional values, it's one of the oldest institutions still alive.....but sadly u are the one trying to paint polygamy as core principle of traditional marriage ....which is not ...

.while some of our forefathers married plenty women, because many of them tried to copy kings and men of affluence in their society, the truth is many of our fathers and great grand fathers did not have plenty wives....many were monogamist even before the white men came.. but pple like you to paint picture that white me brought monogamy........

PolyGamous:
Polygamy is for growth not for lusting around!!

again.....u cannot be a polygamist without lusting around...ur sexual discipline must be very low and u must be a highly superficial person ....it is uncontrolled lust that makes u see another woman and decide to have her in addition to the ones you already have....

PolyGamous:
Lol, you were told to believe polygamous was all about cheat and lust.

According to elderly ones, polygamy in the tradition of Africa was not because of lust, but because of productive purposes. People with many wives are more productive (amount of land they cultivated or the amount of trades they own), people don’t just marry in African traditions if they are not capable to take care of wife or wives and the children.

If marriage is still based on the traditional knowledge, it will be far better.

Polygamy is for growth not for lusting around!!

And you did not have the sense to know that this was a lie and a stew ..... excuse to cover their lusts and greed and in slavement of women?

Dtruthspeaker:
And you did not have the sense to know that this was a lie and a stew ..... excuse to cover their lusts and greed and in slavement of women?

Lol, funny how you are the one that failed to do your research, why are women and their kids entitled to the properties of their husbands?

If they are slaves they wouldn’t be entitled to it, do your research well and know how polygamy works in africa not in the Arab nation!!!

advanceDNA:
I was not told anything ..its basic common sense that a man must at some point have control over his carnal desires otherwise there will be no limit to how he surrenders to his lust...this is the reason we now have gay men and pple that sleep with animals and other forms of sexuality.....lack of discipline
Baba.....U cant be a polygamist without continuously lusting.... because that's how your number of wives increase from 1 to 2 to 3, 4 ...and so on....


Lol.....unless you are king that pple bring wives to, to marry for ethnic, trade, peaceful and other forms of alliance and collaboration, an average man increasing the number of women he's sleeping with is just a man full of lust with no discipline over his sexual desires.... It has nothing to do with productivity

your attempt to justify having many wives with increased productivity is lame

..this is 2025... people engage in modern technological drive. principle of farming and trade .....
Having many wives & being more productive are mutually exclusive things ......please try to sound more factual....u are online with a large audience

marriage has always been based on traditional values, it's one of the oldest institutions still alive.....but sadly u are the one trying to paint polygamy as core principle of traditional marriage ....which is not ...

.while some of our forefathers married plenty women, because many of them tried to copy kings and men of affluence in their society, the truth is many of our fathers and great grand fathers did not have plenty wives....many were monogamist even before the white men came.. but pple like you to paint picture that white me brought monogamy........


again.....u cannot be a polygamist without lusting around...ur sexual discipline must be very low and u must be a highly superficial person ....it is uncontrolled lust that makes u see another woman and decide to have her in addition to the ones you already have....

You made a lot of sense which answered the fact that marriage wasn’t all about sex, for everyone that believes marriage is all about sex then polygamy is a way to feed his sexual cravings, which is what the article is all about!

You said something about the kings been given wives for some purpose which tells a lot about marriage in Africa as it was not basically about sexual fantasies.

And also, I appreciate that you made mentioned of grandfathers not having more than a wife, that’s because the culture was not mandating it as maltreatment of women was a big crime here in Africa.

Sane married people will tell you marriage is beyond sexual fantasies and all.

PolyGamous:
Lol, funny how you are the one that failed to do your research, why are women and their kids entitled to the properties of their husbands?

If they are slaves they wouldn’t be entitled to it, do your research well and know how polygamy works in africa not in the Arab nation!!!

Where did I mention that slavery was in accordance with Arab nation practices?

Secondly, it is God through natural law Who made it very solid and sure that wives and children must/should inherit the husband and father's property. So, this is off point.

And the main point is that you cannot counter that men acquired wives the same way we acquire cars. And funny, the wives are treated exactly how their cars are treated, which is reign today discarded tomorrow. Not to talk of where they now even said that women cannot inherit their husbands property.

https://www.nairaland.com/7476032/does-wife-right-husbands-property#119087975

Dtruthspeaker:
Where did I mention that slavery was in accordance with Arab nation practices?

Secondly, it is God through natural law Who made it very solid and sure that wives and children must/should inherit the husband and father's property. So, this is off point.

And the main point is that you cannot counter that men acquired wives the same way we acquire cars. And funny, the wives are treated exactly how their cars are treated, which is reign today discarded tomorrow. Not to talk of where they now even said that women cannot inherit their husbands property.

https://www.nairaland.com/7476032/does-wife-right-husbands-property#119087975

The thing about people taking wives as a car wasn’t a tradition here, men marry wives as a partner in the African tradition. Which is missing today.

Imagine marrying a lady that supports you in what you do brilliantly, women were part of everything here because their importance is well known.

The moment people started acquiring wives as cars because of their sexual appetite change the purpose of marriage (be it polygamy or monogamy)

The main point is, marriage should be based on love not lust. The ancestors didn’t marry wives based on how beautiful or how sexual active, but how helpful she will be in achieving dreams and raising kids!!!

PolyGamous:
The thing about people taking wives as a car wasn’t a tradition here, men marry wives as a partner in the African tradition. Which is missing today.

Show me a polygamous man of the past whose wives were his partners beyond sex.

PolyGamous:
Imagine marrying a lady that supports you in what you do brilliantly, women were part of everything here because their importance is well known....

See, you said "a lady", which is monogamy.

PolyGamous:
The main point is, marriage should be based on love not lust..

And we all agree on this but AdvanceDNA was simply trying to remind you that polygamy means lust.

Dtruthspeaker:
Show me a polygamous man of the past whose wives were his partners beyond sex.



See, you said "a lady", which is monogamy.



And we all agree on this but AdvanceDNA was simply trying to remind you that polygamy means lust.

Marriage (be it monogamy or polygamy) can mean lust. That’s why I said the foundation of marriage should not be lust.

Monogamous man with a high sex interest will cheat and eventually have several baby mamas.

I’m not someone that will advice people to go polygamy without a tangible need for it, an instance of tangible reason is that of Abraham having another woman to have a child and there are series of them, that even the wife will be the one to push for it.

I’m polygamous for growth, just as I am doing my best to have multiple sources of income to be a better child and a better father, not to impress!

PolyGamous:
Marriage (be it monogamy or polygamy) can mean lust. That’s why I said the foundation of marriage should not be lust.

Monogamous man with a high sex interest will cheat and eventually have several baby mamas.

I’m not someone that will advice people to go polygamy without a tangible need for it, an instance of tangible reason is that of Abraham having another woman to have a child and there are series of them, that even the wife will be the one to push for it.

I’m polygamous for growth, just as I am doing my best to have multiple sources of income to be a better child and a better father, not to impress!

Like I said, we agree on the foundation of lust and no where do we imply that monogamy is lust proof. No

The point we are just pointing out is that polygamy is automatically lust founded. And that is where we stop

PolyGamous:
Numerous selfish interests have resulted in numerous failed marriages worldwide. God forbids blasphemy as the greatest sin, and love prohibits cheating because it can lead to more serious crimes and negative consequences within marriage. When love forms the foundation of marriage, it tends to last forever, eliminating any reason for either partner to cheat.

Human love does not last forever. Let's stop telling that particular lie. Even a marriage built on a foundation of love— whether chemical love, duty-bound, or whatever kind you can come up with— can and do end. We need to accept that where humans are concerned, everything is temporary—for a time— and that is the reality of life on this earth for us all.

PolyGamous:
➜Lol, you were told to believe polygamous was all about cheat and lust.
According to elderly ones, polygamy in the tradition of Africa was not because of lust, but because of productive purposes. People with many wives are more productive (amount of land they cultivated or the amount of trades they own), people don’t just marry in African traditions if they are not capable to take care of wife or wives and the children.
If marriage is still based on the traditional knowledge, it will be far better. Polygamy is for growth not for lusting around!!

It was for productive purposes yet many of them failed to produce anything in their lives except children that they could not feed or raise well?

2. If it was so good, why didn't the people fight to keep those traditions going?

Kobojunkie:
It was for productive purposes yet many of them failed to produce anything in their lives except children that they could not feed or raise well?

2. If it was so good, why didn't the people fight to keep those traditions going?

I wish I could emphasize more on that, but you need to realize how crucial population is to every economy if they are not liabilities. Western education made the country’s population became liabilities which was not its purpose, education was meant to make the population improve their crafts and eventually increase their output, but instead, people chose to be educated to secure job rather than creating one!

So, why keep the tradition when the population goals of being more productive has changed overnight to being a liability by seeking jobs from the few that creates?

Kobojunkie:
Human love does not last forever. Let's stop telling that particular lie. Even a marriage built on a foundation of love— whether chemical love, duty-bound, or whatever kind you can come up with— can and do end. We need to accept that where humans are concerned, everything is temporary—for a time— and that is the reality of life on this earth for us all.

You’ve got a mindset towards love already, but sincerely it’s a misrepresentation of what love is.

If love forgives and heal, then why will it end?

Most men are chanting spec, that’s lust not love! Because immediately the spec fade, the feelings goes with.

PolyGamous:
✓ You’ve got a mindset towards love already, but sincerely it’s a misrepresentation of what love is.
✓ If love forgives and heal, then why will it end?
✓ Most men are chanting spec, that’s lust not love! Because immediately the spec fade, the feelings goes with.

You clearly didn't comprehend what I wrote there of people who claim.their marriages are built on foundation of what they refer to as love. The chemical kind of love ends since those hormones in the brain running those delusions people refer to as love in that situation eventually run down and stop after a couple of weeks/months or in osme cases years and reality then sets in. Then you have those whose version of love is what I like to call the performative sort of love(duty bound love based on the illusion that if one continues in duty to please the other partner, somehow that other partner for will continue to appreciate and love in return). That is the kind that usually ends the moment that disappointment begins to pile on and resentment becomes overwhelming. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Well, love can forgive forgive does not imply that love should continue to abide abuse. Nor does it mean that one can or should love in a place of unhappiness and misery. Before one can healthily love others, one has to and should love oneself. No one who has love of self can live or abide an unhappy/toxic/unfulfilling situation or marriage. So, when your marriages last many years through toxicity/unhappiness/unfulfillment for either the husband or the marriage, such marriages are not built on love but unhappiness/toxicity/unfulfillment/misery which have no part in love and nothing of happiness.

3. Well, humans will always be humans.

PolyGamous:
➜I wish I could emphasize more on that, but you need to realize how crucial population is to every economy if they are not liabilities.
➜ Western education made the country’s population became liabilities which was not its purpose, education was meant to make the population improve their crafts and eventually increase their output, but instead, people chose to be educated to secure job rather than creating one!
➜ So, why keep the tradition when the population goals of being more productive has changed overnight to being a liability by seeking jobs from the few that creates?

1. Your forefathers produced liabilities, and that custom continues to this day, where the polygamous setting is notorious for producing just that.... liabilities who have nothing to offer society as a whole other than more unskilled bodies.

2. So, the northerners in Nigeria who notoriously breed some of the most liabilities— almajiris, many of whom are now into banditry— are thus because of Western education?

3. You tell me cause you came in attempting to argue that there is still value to the tradition that has now helped the country turn from a failed one in less than 70 years.

Kobojunkie:
1. Your forefathers produced liabilities, and that custom continues to this day, where the polygamous setting is notorious for producing just that.... liabilities who have nothing to offer society as a whole other than more unskilled bodies.

2. So, the northerners in Nigeria who notoriously breed some of the most liabilities— almajiris, many of whom are now into banditry— are thus because of Western education?

3. You tell me cause you came in attempting to argue that there is still value to the tradition that has now helped the country turn from a failed one in less than 70 years.

I wouldn’t like to bring in religions to this, that’s why I am so much staying clear with traditions and western education.

Skills are essential during our forefathers era, and it was the form of education they had. Maybe you forgot this forefathers’ were relied upon by the government (kings), not them relying on the government.

Skills became something people avoid when western education came it, it was meant to be an upgrade, but people took it differently, sadly the skills are now what they fall back to after they couldn’t get a job.

I am not trying to tell you people should compulsorily practice polygamy, no! The case of lust in monogamy is worse not to talk of lust in polygamy….

PolyGamous:
➜I wouldn’t like to bring in religions to this, that’s why I am so much staying clear with traditions and western education.
➜Skills are essential during our forefathers era, and it was the form of education they had. Maybe you forgot this forefathers’ were relied upon by the government (kings), not them relying on the government.
➜ Skills became something people avoid when western education came it, it was meant to be an upgrade, but people took it differently, sadly the skills are now what they fall back to after they couldn’t get a job.
➜ I am not trying to tell you people should compulsorily practice polygamy, no! The case of lust in monogamy is worse not to talk of lust in polygamy….

1. Tradition and religion are pretty much the same, and since your idea of polygamy comes from tradition/religion, what do you think you have been arguing all this time?

2. Skills? You literally said that productivity was pegged on having so many kids who were, in turn, considered farmhands. Where did their skills come into all of this? How farm hands dey gain whatever skills they had then if not from being born and dragged to the farms from as soon as they popped out of their mother's uterus?

3. Nonsense! Skills were gained from being repetitively beaten by work that was available to be done. Most of your fathers have no farms and hence no work, and so no skills to pass to their kids. Sending the kids to school is the best way to get them the skills needed in today's world. So what sort of B.S. are you trying to shove down our throats here?

4. Unbeweavable! So, your only argument for polygamy — a system that has proven dangerous given the almajiri scourge from the North that has now reduced Nigeria to a failed state overrun by bandits — is that it is best for curbing lust in men? Are you f-king ok in the head?

Kobojunkie:
1. Tradition and religion are pretty much the same, and since your idea of polygamy comes from tradition/religion, what do you think you have been arguing all this time?

2. Skills? You literally said that productivity was pegged on having so many kids who were, in turn, considered farmhands. Where did their skills come into all of this? How farm hands dey gain whatever skills they had then if not from being born and dragged to the farms from as soon as they popped out of their mother's uterus?

3. Nonsense! Skills were gained from being repetitively beaten by work that was available to be done. Most of your fathers have no farms and hence no work, and so no skills to pass to their kids. Sending the kids to school is the best way to get them the skills needed in today's world. So what sort of B.S. are you trying to shove down our throats here?

4. Unbeweavable! So, your only argument for polygamy — a system that has proven dangerous given the almajiri scourge from the North that has now reduced Nigeria to a failed state overrun by bandits — is that it is best for curbing lust in men? Are you f-king ok in the head?

Maybe you should go back to the conversations!!! Agriculture was not the only thing mentioned, trade was there and what made you feel farming isn’t a skill?

Traditions and religion are two different things! It will be a difficult task to argue with you when you can’t differentiate between religion and tradition.

And Productivity isn’t a term for agriculture alone, you really need to get a lot of things right before getting into arguments.

PolyGamous:
➜Maybe you should go back to the conversations!!! Agriculture was not the only thing mentioned, trade was there and what made you feel farming isn’t a skill?
➜ Traditions and religion are two different things! It will be a difficult task to argue with you when you can’t differentiate between religion and tradition.
➜ And Productivity isn’t a term for agriculture alone, you really need to get a lot of things right before getting into arguments.

1. It was the primary source of livelihood for most of your ancestors. Trade was secondary.

2. There aren't different. They are both political systems used to keep people in check through the use of ideas and values born of delusions.

3. Your ancestors had large numbers of children primarily to plow their hands and produce enough for them to sell. That is a historical fact that cannot be changed in our current information age, no matter how good a liar you think you are.