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What's that family Ethos and upbringing you had that you still stick to today.
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I can't believe at 45yrs of age now, I still do what my mum told me back in 80s and 90s of never ever eat your meat or fish except you finish the main food.
There's no amount of meat or chicken you put inside food for me. If I don't finish the main food I will not touch any. I still do that till date, except on some rare occasion when the meats are covering my soup or rice or anything.
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2. While growing up, mum always tell us to say thank you after eating to any elder around us. Irrespective whether they're the ones that provide the food or not.
I still do that till date.
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There's this last one my dad thought me that I still do till today. Washing of hands while eating eba, fufu or any swallow. I always have a bowl, basin or little washing hand plate aside when eating any swallow food. And I dip my hands into that water after every cutting of eba or fufu. The reason for this I got to know when I was growing up. You'll see some people mess up their eba or fufu with soup that, if they call you to come join them eat, it will be irritating.
I don't know if some people do it purportedly so as not to share their food, but the truth is. It's a dirty habits.
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So guys, here are some family upbringing I still do till date. Kindly share yours with us.

A child's mind is like soft clay...

You can mould and shape it easily to whatever form you want before it hardens.

That's why it's good to instill the right principles and ideas in them at that age that shapes them to be useful to themselves and society in future.

What most parents of nowadays are doing a disaster in the way they train their kids.

The tell tale effects are already becoming visible in society!

Well,my dad has always been a man of principles.... Perhaps,it's because he's a retired army officer but so many principles I'm stalk with till this day came from him..

For example,I find it very demeaning to call someone by abusive and insultive names....... People say I'm too soft ,cuz on a physical norms,I do everything possible to avoid quarrel and fights.... But generally,I think such kudos should be given to my popsman....

Many more,but my head's so wrapped up right now.

brain54:
A child's mind is like soft clay...

You can mould and shape it easily to whatever form you want before it hardens.

That's why it's good to instill the right principles and ideas in them at that age that shapes them to be useful to themselves and society in future.

What most parents of nowadays are doing a disaster in the way they train their kids.

The tell tale effects are already becoming visible in society!

Hmmmm..... You couldn't have said it better than this

Sonnobax15:

Well,my dad has always been a man of principles.... Perhaps,it's because he's a retired army officer but so many principles I'm stalk with till this day came from him..

For example,I find it very demeaning to call someone by abusive and insultive names....... People say I'm too soft ,cuz on a physical norms,I do everything possible to avoid quarrel and fights.... But generally,I think such kudos should be given to my popsman....

Many more,but my head's so wrapped up right now.

Hmm... Mehn! On this, we are on same boat o. Can you believe from the very first time I noticed hausa people especially guys now frown at been called "aboki" I have never ever call any of them that. Instead I now use the English version which is "my friend".
Me that can displease myself just to please others so that quarrel no go dey

Kalulu44:
➜What's that family Ethos and upbringing you had that you still stick to today.
I can't believe at 45yrs of age now, I still do what my mum told me back in 80s and 90s of never ever eat your meat or fish except you finish the main food.There's no amount of meat or chicken you put inside food for me. If I don't finish the main food I will not touch any. I still do that till date, except on some rare occasion when the meats are covering my soup or rice or anything.
2. While growing up, mum always tell us to say thank you after eating to any elder around us. Irrespective whether they're the ones that provide the food or not. I still do that till date.
There's this last one my dad thought me that I still do till today. Washing of hands while eating eba, fufu or any swallow. I always have a bowl, basin or little washing hand plate aside when eating any swallow food. And I dip my hands into that water after every cutting of eba or fufu. The reason for this I got to know when I was growing up. You'll see some people mess up their eba or fufu with soup that, if they call you to come join them eat, it will be irritating.
➜ I don't know if some people do it purportedly so as not to share their food, but the truth is. It's a dirty habits. So guys, here are some family upbringings I still do till date. Kindly share yours with us.

None of these things you do has to do with family ethos. All it says of you is that you hold on to habits you were raised with from childhood, habits that are probably of no value beyond your own household.

2. I don't do anything in my life today as I was trained to from my childhood. Why? Because I value efficiency and effectiveness above all things. I see no point in holding to habits just because...I raised kids on what works and not what my parents did or how they did it. I look for what works best for me and my situation, and I stick to it until I find what works better than that, and I switch over as soon as I can.

my upbringing was largely a sequence of predictable inputs and outputs. there were two primary parental units. their function was primarily logically, resources deemed necessary for basic societal integration. beyond that, my interaction with my parents was minimal.

my dad worked for icpc as a senior employee and my mom as a nafdac doing clerical work, before i will wake up, they have already gone out. mehnn lagos traffic bad that year. ikoyi was crazy, i go join one of my friend for him car day go school because him papa give am car with driver , so after school driver don wait for am . e get one time i begin call our maid mummy, my mama hear of this one sack the woman, i too like the woman.

i barely interacted with my parents except for few occasions like family dinner. my parents were so worklcholic that they sent me along with siblings to boarding school where i cultivated myself there. after writing waec, my parents don run Phd come day oppress me and siblings.

Kobojunkie:
None of these things you do has to do with family ethos. All it says of you is that you hold on to habits you were raised with from childhood, habits that are probably of no value beyond your own household.

2. I don't do anything in my life today as I was trained to from my childhood. Why? Because I value efficiency and effectiveness above all things. I see no point in holding to habits just because...I raised kids on what works and not what my parents did or how they did it. I look for what works best for me and my situation, and I stick to it until I find what works better than that, and I switch over as soon as I can.

It may not be family ethos to you, but it's for me and my siblings. We still hold on to so many of them. And again, I am not trying to say it should be for everyone out there. I'm just amused at myself for still doing them especially the one of not touching or eating meat till after meal.

I became a wonderful cook today because of my dad. That man? Sometimes, if I remember it today, I don't even know whether to cry or laugh

The ones i can remember, i threw away dem.

I mastered many things(principles, ideas, ethics) on my own that i see is best for me.

I just needed to see the world with me alone.