₦airaland Forum

SpencerForbes:
I dislike offering verbal appreciation; I’d rather communicate through my work ethic. Compliments often get to people's heads, and they start believing they are doing you a favor. I prefer to let my results speak for me. If the employer is treating me well, he will see the gratitude in my productivity. However, if he starts misbehaving, he will notice the shift in my actions immediately.

Thanks For knowing Your Worth .. A Progressive Relationship!

The messages truly got her attention... I perceived that she would like getting such messages from him every month as tradition.

The questions are;

Is she complaining to the social media.
2. May be she wants to do survey to please her intentions.
3. Hmmmm...m she is trying to play safe.
4. Why would you published someone messages to the social media with his permission.

Hardeybohwarley:
Even though her action is commendable, we need to let go of such mentality as it doesn't work in saner climes and better organisation in Nigeria.

I find it hard to see why an employer will be expecting me to show appreciation for receiving a salary I toiled for.

Was the employer thanking me while I was doing the job.

Not everything done in "saner clime" should be copied. And what do you even mean by saner clime? The rest of the world is living in an insane clime? That's a back end comment to yourself and your country. Showing appreciation is just the way some people are brought up.

Nazgul:
Thanking your boss for paying you for services you rendered seems awkward to me.

Your salary is not a gift. It’s not charity. It’s not a personal favour. You showed up for 30 days, dealing with stress, deadlines, pressure, sickness, unexpected tasks...etc, and all the wahala that comes with the job. Yet you still gave your best to keep the company moving. That is value. And value deserves compensation.

Sadly, a lot of Nigerians have been conditioned to see basic their rights as privileges. So instead of standing confidently on the fact that you earned your pay, they act like the boss did them a special favour by releasing the salary they already worked for.

Yes, you can be respectful, professional, and appreciative of good working conditions, but collecting your salary is not something you should feel indebted for. You’re not being blessed, you’re being paid what you deserve.

It’s time people started valuing their effort and understanding that compensation is a Right, not a privilege.

In an Environment Of Tyrants and Terrors In Suit, You just have to be licking Their Nyansh to keep getting Favour But One day go be day ... The Ogas would still Molest You like Rag ....

Be Humble but Stand For Your Worth!!

pocohantas:
I would be bored if my staff does this. I have just one, a housekeeper and I don't want her to ask how I am . Do your job well and we are good. Don't act like I saved you from the apocalypse, even if you think I did.

The housekeeper is even Saving You from "Madnesses" accruing from Running House Chores With Your Professional Jobs ....

Is the aunty a lesbian or what?

Why is her handle Aunty_Les?

SpencerForbes:
My bad. I guess this was written by me🤦‍♂️. You’re going the emotional way 😂 I thought all your crew members were going to meet the captain prostrating and thanking him for letting you all ride with him🤔

Is the ship yours?? Why aren’t you greeting but you want others to greet. Seems you’re a Nigerian politician.

Well we don't read upsidedown,thanks

Justiceleague1:
Well we don't read upsidedown,thanks

You can’t read up and down or what?? Do y’all speak another kinda English on Nairaland because I’m getting some other kind of vibes🤷‍♂️

Mr Spencer, don't mistake "what should"be for "what is". I know very smart dudes, way smarter than I was, but who have refused to accept office dynamics stuck in one revolving position for decades. I am not even speaking of not outshining the master. No, I'm speaking of sulking up to the Boss to boost his/her ego. Once you are good at what you do, cause that must be a given, then to grow, you should add the subtle skill of robbing the boss's ego; it takes nothing from you, doesn't demean you in any form. It only shows you are not egoistic enough to do what you need to do to get ahead.

Over the years, I have discovered 3 categories of people who find it hard to align with this belief: those who are very smart(they have too much ego), those in the sciences(they are very analytical and believe life should be) and those who are very stubborn and poor(suffering from insecurities).

SpencerForbes:
If you are a boss that your subordinate only appreciate because of their salary, then you should watch your back because they’ll surely be coming for you. Apart from salary there should be things you’re doing for them. Incentives, gifts, recommendations and help. If not, then you don’t deserve the gratitude.

Yes, I support showing appreciation, but only for the boss's helpful actions or favors—never for the salary I’ve earned. The rule of power, 'Never outshine the master,' is useful in office politics, but I discard it entirely when demanding my professional rights.

Sometimes you might even feel entitled due to the praise which might becloud your judgement of merit (hardwork) and more of favoritism (praises) due to ‘formalities’

Any praise I give is strictly for his positive impact; regarding my pay, the only communication he gets is the receipt notification. I keep my employment strictly professional and transactional. If my work merits a promotion, then so be it

forexprophet:
I see. It is clear you don't understand this law. The law of honor and appreciation is one the most powerful laws that open doors speeding. If don't understand, it means you will not understand. It is difficult to understand. Giving to people richer than you is another advanced mode of the same law....... I just wish you understand it..... but your heart is hardened already..... So sorry.

How is my heart hardened for not expressing approach after receiving my salary. Such thing only happens in a small organisation.

Hardeybohwarley:
Even though her action is commendable, we need to let go of such mentality as it doesn't work in saner climes and better organisation in Nigeria.

I find it hard to see why an employer will be expecting me to show appreciation for receiving a salary I toiled for.

Was the employer thanking me while I was doing the job.

Don't worry, you will be thrown out of the job, so that those more appreciative can take it.

Nobody owes you a job.

You sef resign, open your company, spend money on logistics, recruitment, taxes, utility, rent, marketing, raw materials, salaries and then have one of your staff insult you after paying them salaries.

Make body tell you too.

Must I thank you for the service I render to elevate your company? Has the employer sent a thank you text to the employee for a job well done? There's nothing professional about this

Low self-esteem

Amumaigwe:
Just like asking why one should thank the waiteress for the diligence employed in serving one's meal in a restaurant. In the saner clime you referenced, some clients even show their gratitude with good tips.
You forget that one can pay for a service without getting the promised service level or value. The employers make the promises to clients, the employees keep those promises and may choose not to fully provide the promised value or even do it grudgingly. Who is cheated is the client, and it is wisdom for them to help encourage those first line employees to continue to deliver quality services. Wirh that, the business owner wins, the clients wins and employee wins too.

Some of you are getting me wrong, giving tips for job well-done is different. Do you think people working in big organisations will be thanking their bosses after getting their salaries.

It can only happen in a small-medium organisations and it's because of our mentality as Nigerians.

I'm not going against being appreciative but not in work place, especially when it comes to salary.

profmallor:
Mr Spencer, don't mistake "what should"be for "what is". I know very smart dudes, way smarter than I was, but who have refused to accept office dynamics stuck in one revolving position for decades. I am not even speaking of not outshining the master. No, I'm speaking of sulking up to the Boss to boost his/her ego. Once you are good at what you do, cause that must be a given, then to grow, you should add the subtle skill of robbing the boss's ego; it takes nothing from you, doesn't demean you in any form. It only shows you are not egoistic enough to do what you need to do to get ahead.

Over the years, I have discovered 3 categories of people who find it hard to align with this belief: those who are very smart(they have too much ego), those in the sciences(they are very analytical and believe life should be) and those who are very stubborn and poor(suffering from insecurities).

So apart from salaries, there’s nothing else you can be praised for? My boss has given me lots of online gigs. He even gave me opportunity to learn by approving I could do my masters while still working with him and even went on to post me to an environment close to the school. He gives me fatherly advice and lots of incentives and you feel I still need to thank him for salary??

He knows I appreciate him and I do thank him for the rest but salaries and rights, he knows he must pay it as at when due or he’ll have to explain the reason for the lateness. This pattern only works in organization that don’t operate on merits and if it doesn’t suit me, I leave. I ain’t in this life to slave myself for anyone or please everyone. Not even my superiors.

Hardeybohwarley:
Even though her action is commendable, we need to let go of such mentality as it doesn't work in saner climes and better organisation in Nigeria.

I find it hard to see why an employer will be expecting me to show appreciation for receiving a salary I toiled for.

Was the employer thanking me while I was doing the job.

U have a point, but there are some little harmless gesture that can open doors for you... appreciation makes things smooth on both ends.... won't you b happy if Ur boss tells U thank you when U do Ur job ??.. it's same feeling d boss gets too

I discourage this from my team members. We are the ones who are luck and blessed to have them.

She worked for the money so why the thank

Thunderfayamods:
Mr saner clime please which clime is sane in this world.? In the developed country where I live people still say thanks you when paid, it is your right but saying thank you is just a form of normal courtesy. I am sure you have probably not stepped out of Nigeria Mr Saner clime.

I have travelled out of Nigeria twice for your information and it doesn't matter the destination.

I don't have to travel to America or Europe to be able to know what's happening there, the world is now a global village.

Now calm down and imagine what happens in big organisations in Nigeria. Do you think CEO of Dangote Refinery with his huge salary will be sending thank you message to Dangote for paying him.

Just calm down and think.

grandstar:
I don't just think it's the salary.

The salary might be generous (above the going rate), and she might treat her employees very well.

The message sounds genuine and not forced.

However. If it's stems from abuse or intimidation, that's a different matter.

I like your line of thought.

DataDoc:
Dey there dey speak grammar.

You don't know what gratitude can cause. I can cite examples.

Again, this is not an "organization" as you think. It's probably a small scale business where everyone in the business know one another personally.

To find thankful people nowadays is a rare gift and can open doors for the person.

That was why I said this tokenism doesn't work in big organisation.

It only thrives in small to some medium size organisation.

Filipy:
You are very right!

Me, as an HR Personnel, the act of appreciation after salary is somehow unethical

Thanks for your comment.

Imagine how many thank you messages you will receive monthly such should be occurring in your organisation.

Many will go haywire if I were to say some organisations doesn't even require you to say Sir/Ma to your senior colleagues or bosses.

Even Mr or Mrs is not allowed in some settings, it's only pure business of addressing people by their names.

Justiceleague1:
And 36 hunkheads appended Thier likes to this thrash from an ungrateful person like you.....
Do you know of the parable in the Bible of the three servants whose masters gave certain amounts of talents (money in those days) to hold while he went on a journey? It's not that related to this topic but you fit perfectly well on the servant that was given the least talent and what he did with it and his response to his master when he came back

I admire your confidence in the absence of knowledge.

histemple:
Her action is NOT commendable at all. It's actually annoying, extremely unprofessional and absolutely reprehensible.

Imagine if every staff of UBA Plc start sending appreciation messages to Tony Elumelu every month end upon receiving salary.

I was only being modest.

It's annoying truly.

It's because of how culturally inclined we are as Nigerians that made such happenings occur.

Ndenomy:
Leave saner clim oga woke.. our culture is different with the said saner clim. Go China and see their culture too ajd how they treat their workers. Low-self esteem marafaka

You can pass your message without being insulting.

Engrkingsley:
U have a point, but there are some little harmless gesture that can open doors for you... appreciation makes things smooth on both ends.... won't you b happy if Ur boss tells U thank you when U do Ur job ??.. it's same feeling d boss gets too

Can what you infer while working in an organisation like Lafarge Cement.

A hardworking staff should be rewarded without taking into consideration whether he is appreciative of his salary or not.

Dalohad:
Don't worry, you will be thrown out of the job, so that those more appreciative can take it.

Nobody owes you a job.

You sef resign, open your company, spend money on logistics, recruitment, taxes, utility, rent, marketing, raw materials, salaries and then have one of your staff insult you after paying them salaries.

Make body tell you too.

I never said the staff should be rude.

Engrkingsley:
U have a point, but there are some little harmless gesture that can open doors for you... appreciation makes things smooth on both ends.... won't you b happy if Ur boss tells U thank you when U do Ur job ??.. it's same feeling d boss gets too

This only works in smaller organisations. As long as you're dedicated to your job and giving in your best I think not being appreciative about receiving your salary will be a problem.

That guys is looking for something else oooooo. Na you him want madam

Hardeybohwarley:
Even though her action is commendable, we need to let go of such mentality as it doesn't work in saner climes and better organisation in Nigeria.

I find it hard to see why an employer will be expecting me to show appreciation for receiving a salary I toiled for.

Was the employer thanking me while I was doing the job.

Even if employer is running at loss they still have to pay you. Nothing wrong in showing appreciation,please

Hardeybohwarley:
Even though her action is commendable, we need to let go of such mentality as it doesn't work in saner climes and better organisation in Nigeria.

I find it hard to see why an employer will be expecting me to show appreciation for receiving a salary I toiled for.

Was the employer thanking me while I was doing the job.

I do Thank my staff when doing the job for me.... While going round on routine check ... Cos if dem no put better mind do my job, na me go loose... So i still appreciate them for doing the normal thing and tip extra when necessary.... Those of you shouting in a sane clime it doesnt apply, it does oooo..... SAYING THANK YOU hasnt killed anyone.... Most times , people Thank bus drivers and train operators when they get to their destinations in those sane climes