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Fenrir:
Proud Yoruba? You keep saying it like repetition makes it true. Culture isn’t cosplay. It isn’t empty slogans and recycled ego. It’s practice, values, and discipline the things the majority of your crowd abandoned a long time ago.

You talk like Yoruba heritage is gold plated, yet what do we see?

A culture where the majority will call a woman “traditional” even after a full tour of men by her own choice, then demand prostration, honour, and respect like nothing happened. Endless musts, endless rules, endless noise but zero consistency. That’s not tradition. That’s cosplay sprinkled with hypocrisy.

And you? You’re not proving Yoruba pride. You’re proving Yoruba confusion.

You sound less like a custodian of a rich lineage and more like a UK Croydon roadman reject who smuggled slang out of the streets:

“G this, G that.”
“Scared this, scared that.”

Fella, where is the Yoruba in that? You claim purity while speaking like someone whose identity got outsourced to British street culture. That’s not heritage. That’s an accent with no origin story.

You don’t sound like a son of Ogun you sound like you learned culture from Ali G reruns. Every sentence is “G this, G that,” like a cartoon gangsta who misplaced his heritage and replaced it with UK street slang. Yoruba pride doesn’t sound like a man auditioning for a Channel 4 parody.

If you’re the example of what Yoruba pride looks like today, no wonder the majority are mistaking ego for culture.

At this rate, your future wife under your definition of Yoruba culture won’t be a queen she’ll be your personal “Me Julie”, loud, chaotic, permanently on vibes, while you stand beside her pretending it’s tradition instead of confusion.

You back Olaf? Sorry your comment was deleted I guess it wasn't PG . Enough of this Projections man who hurt you . You haven't seen me in the flesh G you can't judge me based on my comment. Yo Gold plaited? of course no culture is perfect there are flaws in every culture. I don't know the cause of your frustration that's making you project what you nothing about . I'm not the one out here screaming Nordski and picking up my heritage from documentaries and Chatgpt I'm more connected to my roots than you'd ever be to yours. I grew up inside it, I was immersed in it, shaped by it, Raised by it and I will take it with me wherever part of the world i find myself. And Yes because I'm a free thinker not all part of my cultural practice and traditions I will hold on too I will drop the ones that need to be dropped. Me Using Slangs have nothing to do against my culture. Lol broski talking about my wife but I'm not the on NL looking for a Gigolo to take care of her when I'm away. You're out here talking about a Culture you don't know much about, you can't use the experience of people or comments to judge the entire culture . Perhaps if you had come from a Rich lived-in Culture you'd have had a better understanding.

Omoawoke:
What’s happening here


@Fenrir I am curious, what made you relocate to Nigeria , what’s the catch?

My little girl begged to learn about her mother’s culture so she could feel proud and connected. Her mother was Yoruba, but she passed away from cancer when my daughter was 2. Now, I am married to a wonderful Igbo woman.

The heartbreaking part is that after all her hope and excitement about her mother’s side of the family, my little girl came away disgusted. Last year, she met some of her Yoruba relatives. They were abusive to her, and I had to defend her, breaking one man’s hands.

Over the past 20 years, the most frustrating change is this: before social media, weddings were genuine. Families were humble and gracious, taking the bride price with respect and gratitude because it was a fair expectation. Now, so many people lie about weddings and treat the process as a display of ego and status.

Nigeria used to feel like a safe haven for me an escape from the madness of Europe and the horrors of military life between tours. It’s heartbreaking to see how quickly social media has shifted people from being humble and welcoming to being self-centered, narcissistic, and ego-driven.

SkengRay:
You back Olaf? Sorry your comment was deleted I guess it wasn't PG . Enough of this Projections man who hurt you . You haven't seen me in the flesh G you can't judge me based on my comment. Yo Gold plaited? of course no culture is perfect there are flaws in every culture. I don't know the cause of your frustration that's making you project what you nothing about . I'm not the one out here screaming Nordski and picking up my heritage from documentaries and Chatgpt I'm more connected to my roots than you'd ever be to yours. I grew up inside it, I was immersed in it, shaped by it, Raised by it and I will take it with me wherever part of the world i find myself. And Yes because I'm a free thinker not all part of my cultural practice and traditions I will hold on too I will drop the ones that need to be dropped. Me Using Slangs have nothing to do against my culture. Lol broski talking about my wife but I'm not the on NL looking for a Gigolo to take care of her when I'm away. You're out here talking about a Culture you don't know much about, you can't use the experience of people or comments to judge the entire culture . Perhaps if you had come from a Rich lived-in Culture you'd have had a better understanding.

Yo Skengray, listen G, you chat bare mix of words but bruv, it’s peak hypocrisy innit. You talkin’ like you some “free thinker,” dropping traditions you don’t like, keepin’ the ones you do but bruv, that’s not freedom, that’s cherry pickin’ and runnin’ from responsibility, fam.

You say you grew up inside it, shaped by it, raised by it, carryin’ it anywhere but actions speak louder. Bruv, the same culture you flex like gold plated? You twist it to fit slang, jokes, and your ego. That ain’t respect, that ain’t heritage that’s cosplay with a Croydon accent.

And you chat like my experiences and observations mean nothing, yet your own words prove it’s all about what you pick’n choose. “Not all my traditions I hold on to” fam, that’s just convenience, not wisdom. You cry “free thinker” but you ignore the weight of culture, the values, the discipline, the respect it requires.

Bruv, slang don’t make you modern, disrespect don’t make you clever, and cherry pickin’ don’t make you a free thinker. You just showin’ everyone how loud and messy ego looks when wrapped in fake pride.

So stop flexin’ “free thinker” like it’s a badge. Real culture ain’t selective, bruv it’s lived, respected, carried with integrity, not picked at like bits of takeaway you like.

Fenrir:
Yo Skengray, listen G, you chat bare mix of words but bruv, it’s peak hypocrisy innit. You talkin’ like you some “free thinker,” dropping traditions you don’t like, keepin’ the ones you do but bruv, that’s not freedom, that’s cherry pickin’ and runnin’ from responsibility, fam.

You say you grew up inside it, shaped by it, raised by it, carryin’ it anywhere but actions speak louder. Bruv, the same culture you flex like gold plated? You twist it to fit slang, jokes, and your ego. That ain’t respect, that ain’t heritage that’s cosplay with a Croydon accent.

And you chat like my experiences and observations mean nothing, yet your own words prove it’s all about what you pick’n choose. “Not all my traditions I hold on to” fam, that’s just convenience, not wisdom. You cry “free thinker” but you ignore the weight of culture, the values, the discipline, the respect it requires.

Bruv, slang don’t make you modern, disrespect don’t make you clever, and cherry pickin’ don’t make you a free thinker. You just showin’ everyone how loud and messy ego looks when wrapped in fake pride.

So stop flexin’ “free thinker” like it’s a badge. Real culture ain’t selective, bruv it’s lived, respected, carried with integrity, not picked at like bits of takeaway you like.

clown typing with Slangs has nothing to do with don't try to derail from your use of Chatgpt and your disconnection from your culture. I don't care if you're inlaws caused your pain and frustration from culture . You're moving away from logic here you should stick more to AI. And Yes I'm a free thinker I choose to do whatever I want to instead of throwing tantrums like you

SkengRay:
clown typing with Slangs has nothing to do with don't try to derail from your use of Chatgpt and your disconnection from your culture. I don't care if you're inlaws caused your pain and frustration from culture . You're moving away from logic here you should stick more to AI. And Yes I'm a free thinker I choose to do whatever I want to instead of throwing tantrums like you

Yo Skengray, fam, listen G, stop flexin’ that “pure blood” ting, innit. You chat like you deep in roots, but every line scream Ali G rerun mixed with Croydon cartoon gangsta, bruv. “Me Julie” ting for the future wife, loud and chaotic, while you parading like you culture legit? Nah, dat’s a mess.

You talk “free thinker” like dat means you select what to keep or drop bruv, dat’s not wisdom, dat’s lazy. You ain’t holding heritage, you pickin’ and mixin’ slang, rules, and vibes from everywhere like it’s a Channel 4 parody. “G this, G that, scared this, scared that” bro, where the Yoruba in dat?

Raised inside it? Bruv, sounds more like your culture got outsourced to UK street TV. Immersed? You immersed in confusion, mate. Every word you drop, you twist tradition into some cartoon gangster remix. Your “Me Julie” wife ain’t gonna be queen, she’s gonna be loud vibes, and you’ll pretend dat’s pride instead of admitting it’s pure chaos.

If this is how Skengray rocks Yoruba pride, no wonder the majority mistake ego, slang, and confusion for culture. End of.

Fenrir:
My little girl begged to learn about her mother’s culture so she could feel proud and connected. Her mother was Yoruba, but she passed away from cancer when my daughter was 2. Now, I am married to a wonderful Igbo woman.

The heartbreaking part is that after all her hope and excitement about her mother’s side of the family, my little girl came away disgusted. Last year, she met some of her Yoruba relatives. They were abusive to her, and I had to defend her, breaking one man’s hands.

Over the past 20 years, the most frustrating change is this: before social media, weddings were genuine. Families were humble and gracious, taking the bride price with respect and gratitude because it was a fair expectation. Now, so many people lie about weddings and treat the process as a display of ego and status.

Nigeria used to feel like a safe haven for me an escape from the madness of Europe and the horrors of military life between tours. It’s heartbreaking to see how quickly social media has shifted people from being humble and welcoming to being self-centered, narcissistic, and ego-driven.

Oh I see….

Thanks for sharing!

The problem lies in some parts of the country where’ there’s little exposure and people see all foreigners as racist and egocentric people that take advantage of them because they are Africans…. So that’s why some people may take sides against you and begin to show aggression to you without getting to know you…
I live in the US and have friends and colleagues from different races and I understand everyone is different and should be treated individually. Some of the best help I’ve gotten career wise and professionally even came from people outside of my race when my own very Nigerians failed me….

I’d advise to make friends and network with people who ar are more exposed and you don’t need to listen to every aggression you meet online… the social media isn’t a real place .

Fenrir:
Yo Skengray, fam, listen G, stop flexin’ that “pure blood” ting, innit. You chat like you deep in roots, but every line scream Ali G rerun mixed with Croydon cartoon gangsta, bruv. “Me Julie” ting for the future wife, loud and chaotic, while you parading like you culture legit? Nah, dat’s a mess.

You talk “free thinker” like dat means you select what to keep or drop bruv, dat’s not wisdom, dat’s lazy. You ain’t holding heritage, you pickin’ and mixin’ slang, rules, and vibes from everywhere like it’s a Channel 4 parody. “G this, G that, scared this, scared that” bro, where the Yoruba in dat?

Raised inside it? Bruv, sounds more like your culture got outsourced to UK street TV. Immersed? You immersed in confusion, mate. Every word you drop, you twist tradition into some cartoon gangster remix. Your “Me Julie” wife ain’t gonna be queen, she’s gonna be loud vibes, and you’ll pretend dat’s pride instead of admitting it’s pure chaos.

If this is how Skengray rocks Yoruba pride, no wonder the majority mistake ego, slang, and confusion for culture. End of.

Quote me when you're done with your Cuckolding

SkengRay:
clown typing with Slangs has nothing to do with don't try to derail from your use of Chatgpt and your disconnection from your culture. I don't care if you're inlaws caused your pain and frustration from culture . You're moving away from logic here you should stick more to AI. And Yes I'm a free thinker I choose to do whatever I want to instead of throwing tantrums like you

Look, Skengray, I’m done with this. I don’t care about your slangs or your “free thinker” act. You keep screaming culture and purity, but every time you’re offered a real moment to prove anything, you start ducking, dodging, and philosophising. That’s not confidence that’s panic dressed as pride.

All your chatter about being immersed and shaped by your roots? Bruv, it’s just noise. You’re a cultural chameleon lost in slang and vibes, masking confusion as pride. Ain’t no “me Julie” ting or Channel 4 parody gonna save that.

And let’s address the real embarrassment:
When the chance came for proof a straight, recorded video call, both sides showing face, credentials, lifestyle you folded. No storms, no obstacles, no cultural rituals stopping you. Just excuses.

You didn’t refuse because you’re “deep” or “free-thinking.”
You refused because you knew the moment reality appeared, your whole performance would crumble. You talk heritage, but when evidence knocks, you vanish like Danidosky all noise, no showing up.

That’s not Yoruba strength.
That’s not cultural pride.
That’s keyboard courage and poultry heart.

Fam, listen G, I’m proper done. Stop the big talk, stop the flex, innit. You chat like a warrior, but when it’s time to stand on something solid, you turn feathered and flighty. Man can’t claim Ogun’s blood while moving like a chicken that just escaped Tesco’s deli counter.

Safe, Skengray, proper respect, but this convo?
Finished. End of line, fam.
You clucked out.

SkengRay:
Quote me when you're done with your Cuckolding

😂😂 that the best you got? Fella im only one touching anyone now, she tried the "open relationship" thing here and Nigerian men made her skin crawl.

We do the "unofficial" polygamy thing now "official" isnt legal for me.

Omoawoke:
Oh I see….

Thanks for sharing!

The problem lies in some parts of the country where’ there’s little exposure and people see all foreigners as racist and egocentric people that take advantage of them because they are Africans…. So that’s why some people may take sides against you and begin to show aggression to you without getting to know you…
I live in the US and have friends and colleagues from different races and I understand everyone is different and should be treated individually. Some of the best help I’ve gotten career wise and professionally even came from people outside of my race when my own very Nigerians failed me….

I’d advise to make friends and network with people who ar are more exposed and you don’t need to listen to every aggression you meet online… the social media isn’t a real place .

No, im 40 and started coming here when I was 17 and met my first wife at university, none of you were like this before social media and ive seen more of the country than most Nigerians have. You cant see the change because for you it was gradual, for me coming and going it happened fast.

Omoawoke:
Oh I see….

Thanks for sharing!

The problem lies in some parts of the country where’ there’s little exposure and people see all foreigners as racist and egocentric people that take advantage of them because they are Africans…. So that’s why some people may take sides against you and begin to show aggression to you without getting to know you…
I live in the US and have friends and colleagues from different races and I understand everyone is different and should be treated individually. Some of the best help I’ve gotten career wise and professionally even came from people outside of my race when my own very Nigerians failed me….

I’d advise to make friends and network with people who ar are more exposed and you don’t need to listen to every aggression you meet online… the social media isn’t a real place .

No, you used to understand the difference between nationality and ethnicity

You used to actually be tribal like my clan back home and there a real connection between the old ways across oceans tribe and clan could connect fairly with skin color not in the way and respect was mutual in marriage and you understood the difference between " i cant and I dont want to" when it came to prostration and kneeling and the "whites no have culture" was British and American not tribal white from clans

I am a son of fire and frost
I am the truth given teeth
I am freedom that cannot be caged
I am the wolf’s kin

You used to understand

You lost your tribal souls and replaced traditions and humility for ego and pride

SkengRay:
Enough of irrational talks my Guy. I have nothing to do with those others guys. Just Admit it man I've noticed your comment couple times and bare man called you out for it But What do you expect from a Waterdown Knockoff of a Viking

Viking wey dey Aba dey hustle

RollinTNDA:
Viking wey dey Aba dey hustle

No mind the Guy

Fenrir:
No, you used to understand the difference between nationality and ethnicity

You used to actually be tribal like my clan back home and there a real connection between the old ways across oceans tribe and clan could connect fairly with skin color not in the way and respect was mutual in marriage and you understood the difference between " i cant and I dont want to" when it came to prostration and kneeling and the "whites no have culture" was British and American not tribal white from clans

I am a son of fire and frost
I am the truth given teeth
I am freedom that cannot be caged
I am the wolf’s kin

You used to understand

You lost your tribal souls and replaced traditions and humility for ego and pride

I understand that you’ve seen Nigeria from both the outside and the inside, so your perspective is different. But when you generalize Nigerians or insult the country, people will react defensively. Maybe your point is really about culture, identity, and the shift you’ve witnessed, but the way you deliver it makes it hard for people to hear you.

And just to add some balance: Yoruba culture has a strong system of honor, hierarchy, and respect on the African continent.
We didn’t ‘lose’ our identity, we carry it in our language, our greetings, our names, our kingship system, our festivals, our proverbs, and our way of relating to elders and community.

If some individuals behaved badly toward you, that’s human weakness, not Yoruba culture.
True Omoluabi values are still very much alive.
So if we’re talking about clan heritage, discipline, and ancestral identity, Yoruba people are not lacking in that space.

Omoawoke:
I understand that you’ve seen Nigeria from both the outside and the inside, so your perspective is different. But when you generalize Nigerians or insult the country, people will react defensively. Maybe your point is really about culture, identity, and the shift you’ve witnessed, but the way you deliver it makes it hard for people to hear you.

And just to add some balance: Yoruba culture has a strong system of honor, hierarchy, and respect on the African continent.
We didn’t ‘lose’ our identity, we carry it in our language, our greetings, our names, our kingship system, our festivals, our proverbs, and our way of relating to elders and community.

If some individuals behaved badly toward you, that’s human weakness, not Yoruba culture.
True Omoluabi values are still very much alive.
So if we’re talking about clan heritage, discipline, and ancestral identity, Yoruba people are not lacking in that space.

Go through my posts, does any tribe argue about traditions and "the not mandatory nature" but 2 tribes? Honestly go through all my topics only 2 tribes directly lie in the majority. Out of 371 tribes only 2 lie about culture and the law in the majority

Has any other argued at all? And is it the women or the men?

Have any Nigerian women defended those men?
What 2 do I talk about mostly?

Fenrir:
Go through my posts, does any tribe argue about traditions and "the not mandatory nature" but 2 tribes? Honestly go through all my topics only 2 tribes directly lie in the majority. Out of 371 tribes only 2 lie about culture and the law in the majority

Has any other argued at all? And is it the women or the men?

Have any Nigerian women defended those men?
What 2 do I talk about mostly?

You invited me to ‘go through your posts,’ but I don’t have that kind of free time. I checked your profile and it’s full of hostility, racism, and hate toward Yoruba people and Nigerians in general. That already tells me everything I need to know about the source of your arguments.

I responded to you earlier out of courtesy, thinking you were giving cultural commentary. But what I see now is someone who is emotionally charged, obsessed with provoking Nigerians, and projecting personal grievances onto an entire tribe.

Yoruba people don’t need to prove anything to you.
We are not on trial.
Your bitterness is not our identity.

Whatever negative experiences you had with individuals does not give you the license to label an entire culture. That is prejudice, not insight.

Omoawoke:
I understand that you’ve seen Nigeria from both the outside and the inside, so your perspective is different. But when you generalize Nigerians or insult the country, people will react defensively. Maybe your point is really about culture, identity, and the shift you’ve witnessed, but the way you deliver it makes it hard for people to hear you.

And just to add some balance: Yoruba culture has a strong system of honor, hierarchy, and respect on the African continent.
We didn’t ‘lose’ our identity, we carry it in our language, our greetings, our names, our kingship system, our festivals, our proverbs, and our way of relating to elders and community.

If some individuals behaved badly toward you, that’s human weakness, not Yoruba culture.
True Omoluabi values are still very much alive.
So if we’re talking about clan heritage, discipline, and ancestral identity, Yoruba people are not lacking in that space.

I have never insulted the country and i have never actually insulted the cultures. I love this country its absolutely beautiful and id give my blood to protect every inch of it. Its lies in the wedding cultures thats the problem what kind of people would lie about something so petty how 2 people choose to start a life together. You dont raise traditional kids at all anymore thats why the law says its a choice not an obligation and the bride price is enough to respect the culture anything beyond that is greed and ego nothing more and the bride price is not even a legal obligation.

Omoawoke:
You invited me to ‘go through your posts,’ but I don’t have that kind of free time. I checked your profile and it’s full of hostility, racism, and hate toward Yoruba people and Nigerians in general. That already tells me everything I need to know about the source of your arguments.

I responded to you earlier out of courtesy, thinking you were giving cultural commentary. But what I see now is someone who is emotionally charged, obsessed with provoking Nigerians, and projecting personal grievances onto an entire tribe.

Yoruba people don’t need to prove anything to you.
We are not on trial.
Your bitterness is not our identity.

Whatever negative experiences you had with individuals does not give you the license to label an entire culture. That is prejudice, not insight.

No, its not racism. Its bigotry that's different

Yoruba and Islam are not races
Yoruba is ethnicity and Islam is belief system and there is not racial issues at all

Omoawoke:
You invited me to ‘go through your posts,’ but I don’t have that kind of free time. I checked your profile and it’s full of hostility, racism, and hate toward Yoruba people and Nigerians in general. That already tells me everything I need to know about the source of your arguments.

I responded to you earlier out of courtesy, thinking you were giving cultural commentary. But what I see now is someone who is emotionally charged, obsessed with provoking Nigerians, and projecting personal grievances onto an entire tribe.

Yoruba people don’t need to prove anything to you.
We are not on trial.
Your bitterness is not our identity.

Whatever negative experiences you had with individuals does not give you the license to label an entire culture. That is prejudice, not insight.

And go back to my very first topic. I came on here for advice on how to deal with an uncle thats not blood to my wife.

So check who drew first and attacked first, me or the Nigerians?

Fenrir:
I have never insulted the country and i have never actually insulted the cultures. I love this country its absolutely beautiful and id give my blood to protect every inch of it. Its lies in the wedding cultures thats the problem what kind of people would lie about something so petty how 2 people choose to start a life together. You dont raise traditional kids at all anymore thats why the law says its a choice not an obligation and the bride price is enough to respect the culture anything beyond that is greed and ego nothing more and the bride price is not even a legal obligation.

Then what’s this on your profile ?

You are 40, and after 4 decades on earth, this is the lowest thing expected of you….

If you insult people’s beliefs, it’s pardonable because belief was a choice

But if you insult people’s tribe/race/culture…. It’s unforgivable because no one chose their tribe or race, it was forged by the universe! You don’t want to err against the universe , do you? Son of fire?

Omoawoke:
You invited me to ‘go through your posts,’ but I don’t have that kind of free time. I checked your profile and it’s full of hostility, racism, and hate toward Yoruba people and Nigerians in general. That already tells me everything I need to know about the source of your arguments.

I responded to you earlier out of courtesy, thinking you were giving cultural commentary. But what I see now is someone who is emotionally charged, obsessed with provoking Nigerians, and projecting personal grievances onto an entire tribe.

Yoruba people don’t need to prove anything to you.
We are not on trial.
Your bitterness is not our identity.

Whatever negative experiences you had with individuals does not give you the license to label an entire culture. That is prejudice, not insight.

And check my profile again and point out where is mocking "Nigerians in general" its not

Its 2 types
There are 371 tribes and I can name them all. Point out when I openly go after any but 2 and use the others as an example

Bini dont act like Yoruba, its all jokes to them but as soon as you say no they respect it.

The two of you should getat

Omoawoke:
You invited me to ‘go through your posts,’ but I don’t have that kind of free time. I checked your profile and it’s full of hostility, racism, and hate toward Yoruba people and Nigerians in general. That already tells me everything I need to know about the source of your arguments.

I responded to you earlier out of courtesy, thinking you were giving cultural commentary. But what I see now is someone who is emotionally charged, obsessed with provoking Nigerians, and projecting personal grievances onto an entire tribe.

Yoruba people don’t need to prove anything to you.
We are not on trial.
Your bitterness is not our identity.

Whatever negative experiences you had with individuals does not give you the license to label an entire culture. That is prejudice, not insight.

What has this judgmental yoruba man done with his life?

Have you taken bullets to save innocent people?

Describe what makes you humble?

Describe why you think your arrogant people have the right to abuse other peoples religions, others peoples cultures, and people cant judge yours?

Describe how a yoruba family can tell someone their egotistical need for prostration is higher than persons religion and you are humble, how you think that someone has to beg you and your families not get on his stomach at his wedding, how you think have the right to humiliate someone on one of the most important days on their lives?

How you believe that you are only people in the entire country that believe you are above the law?

That in 371 tribes 370 ask for kneeling and they will substitute it for something else or just drop it but you think have the right to say "prostrate at your wedding or beg us privately to drop it"?

Nothing humble in you
And
Nothing respectful in you

Omoawoke:
You invited me to ‘go through your posts,’ but I don’t have that kind of free time. I checked your profile and it’s full of hostility, racism, and hate toward Yoruba people and Nigerians in general. That already tells me everything I need to know about the source of your arguments.

I responded to you earlier out of courtesy, thinking you were giving cultural commentary. But what I see now is someone who is emotionally charged, obsessed with provoking Nigerians, and projecting personal grievances onto an entire tribe.

Yoruba people don’t need to prove anything to you.
We are not on trial.
Your bitterness is not our identity.

Whatever negative experiences you had with individuals does not give you the license to label an entire culture. That is prejudice, not insight.

You’re speaking as if you’ve understood who I am, but you haven’t even scratched the surface. My identity isn’t some shallow performance you can summarise from a profile. I am not a tourist here my life forged me long before Nigeria ever entered my orbit.

I am Norwegian born, carrying Norwegian, Swedish, and Danish blood. A cultural hybrid by design, not by confusion. I wasn’t raised with walls I was raised with borders I had to cross alone. I was emancipated and legally on my own at 13. No family. No safety net. No tribe waiting to catch me. Sent to the UK and left to figure out survival the hard way.

Most of my life has been spent around Africans, not Europeans. A Yoruba woman in Southampton made sure I stayed alive. She never controlled me, never told me who to be. She just made sure a young boy didn’t die or destroy himself. And she drummed one lesson into me not out of hatred, but out of pain and experience: “Never trust Yoruba men.” Those were her words, not mine. Life tested those words, and I learned she wasn’t speaking out of fantasy.

By 15 I was travelling the world alone. By 21 I was a Royal Marine. My identity wasn’t gifted it was earned, mile by mile, scar by scar. I live by an old code, not the modern illusion people hide behind when it suits them.

I am son of fire.
I am truth given teeth.
I am freedom that cannot be caged.
I am wolfs kin I protect my own, always.

So don’t talk to me about bitterness. I don’t need a tribe to validate who I am. I don’t cling to traditions that have lost their meaning. I don’t preach respect I refuse to practice. If something becomes irrelevant, I acknowledge it I don’t cosplay culture for ego.

Your accusation doesn’t define me. It exposes what you refuse to face: identity without integrity is just noise. I know exactly who I am. That’s why you felt the need to question it.