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The marriage would end up a mirrage...
#100,000 is not feasible financially for a man or woman who wants to marry and live comfortably with their spouse....
Imagine the kids
Imagine the food expense...
Transportation...
Other financial obligations and commitments

You gonna be choked......

MONEY247:
The marriage would end up a mirrage...
#100,000 is not feasible financially for a man or woman who wants to marry and live comfortably with their spouse....
Imagine the kids
Imagine the food expense...
Transportation...
Other financial obligations and commitments

You gonna be choked......

I’ve got some questions:

— What if both of them are earning #100,000 ?🤔

— If you’re able to save 30k monthly, what’s stopping any of them from starting a side hustle like POS or provision sales?

— Let’s imagine the lady is industrious and has a skill (hairdressing or make up skills) what’s stopping you from marrying her?

— If you’re above forty but you have a house and everything is put in place, why shouldn’t you get married?

— If the family is supportive and don’t need an elaborate wedding for now till you’re okay, should you still boycott marriage?

SpencerForbes:
I’ve got some questions:

— What if both of them are earning #100,000 ?🤔

— If you’re able to save 30k monthly, what’s stopping any of them from starting a side hustle like POS or provision sales?

— Let’s imagine the lady is industrious and has a skill (hairdressing or make up skills) what’s stopping you from marrying her?

— If you’re above forty but you have a house and everything is put in place, why shouldn’t you get married?

— If the family is supportive and don’t need an elaborate wedding for now till you’re okay, should you still boycott marriage?

Nice points...
Combined income of 200k and diversifying streams of income...
Would go a long way

As a single man earning 110K a month, I just cannot sustain until end of the proceeding month. Shey you dey craze ni? Shey feeding, transport,utilities,rent savings,personal effects,e.t.c dey inside d money?

I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

HUSTLER001:
As a single man earning 110K a month, I just cannot sustain until end of the proceeding month. Shey you dey craze ni? Shey feeding, transport,utilities,rent savings,personal effects,e.t.c dey inside d money?

you are extravagant i no dey earn anything and im still existing

You can do a small marriage ceremony. You don't have the right to tell me to marry or not, even if I'm jobless. Ozwor

SpencerForbes:
I’ve got some questions:

— What if both of them are earning #100,000 ?🤔

— If you’re able to save 30k monthly, what’s stopping any of them from starting a side hustle like POS or provision sales?

— Let’s imagine the lady is industrious and has a skill (hairdressing or make up skills) what’s stopping you from marrying her?

— If you’re above forty but you have a house and everything is put in place, why shouldn’t you get married?

— If the family is supportive and don’t need an elaborate wedding for now till you’re okay, should you still boycott marriage?

What if you wake up and be realistic?

Even me earning 308k Net dey fear...
My woman earning 500k Net dey pressure me with marriage but i still dey observe.

No let any woman pressurize you into marriage... Focus on improving your income

mactoni91:
Even me earning 308k Net dey fear...
My woman earning 500k Net dey pressure me with marriage but i still dey observe.

No let any woman pressurize you into marriage... Focus on improving your income

link me up with Ur babe

Myrrhis:
What if you wake up and be realistic?

That doesn’t answer any of my question
Cos I didn’t see any point in the text.

Someone earning 250k should not try to go close. The person earning 100k should not even promised any woman marriage.

I used to advice men to marry quick but now...I really do not have any advice to give again.

If u don't marry wisely,the marriage would hit u like where a trailer had a head on collision.

Marriage is very dangerous without adequate money to run its internal costs.

I earn 200k plus but it doesn't last me two days. After paying my nanny,pay my children teachers and give to my parents,set aside Nepa bill,fueling two cars in a month,feeding in a month...I might have spent close to
1.2m...it is crazy...not to mention other sundry expenses...all thanks to my side income.

What do i know self..marriage is not for the faint hearted my people.

If u must marry,marry a financially prepared spouse. That doesn't mean u should look for a rich woman or man ...no! but a woman/ man who is financially prepared to manage with u,live with u in tough days and not a downer

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

Pampas alone go make u understand some advice.

ibechris:
Pampas alone go make u understand some advice.

I have seen many men begging for money for their wife's delivery in the hospital many times.

Marriage...

ibechris:
Pampas alone go make u understand some advice.

there was time without pampers and humans survived

timibare:
link me up with Ur babe

Lol...

Why?

You Wan collect am from me?

mactoni91:
Lol...

Why?

You Wan collect am from me?

abi now

MONEY247:
➜Nice points... Combined income of 200k and diversifying streams of income... Would go a long way

Combined income with whom? A woman that Mr.100K would also expect submission from, in addition to treating him as head of her life in marriage, right? Poor men never know wetin don happen to them and their ilk in that country. 🥱🥱

HUSTLER001:
As a single man earning 110K a month, I just cannot sustain until end of the proceeding month. Shey you dey craze ni? Shey feeding, transport,utilities,rent savings,personal effects,e.t.c dey inside d money?

Anyone telling you to go get married in that condition is someone who not only hates you but wants to ensure your life ends up miserable for his gloating pleasure.

always247:
I swear to God if i get stable and secure form of income that will fetch me 70k monthly na only death go stop me from getting married

Economy has been steadily getting worse, yet your wish is to see to it that you destroy your life's joy by your own hands? OK naw!

Na woman wey fit deal with you in this hard economy go dey out there on that budget for you to find. I hope you are ready for them, too.

always247:
there was time without pampers and humans survived

That is, times have really changed. How many people buys nappy these days?

always247:
there was time without pampers and humans survived

. Will you be the one in charge of putting those napkins on your children and washing them? Or are you simply looking for ways to make life a living hell for someone else's daughter, all so you can claim you are married and head over a woman?

Wealthyonos:
You can do a small marriage ceremony. You don't have the right to tell me to marry or not, even if I'm jobless. Ozwor

And after doing this small marriage ceremony, everything will magically be taken care of because you have obtained that marriage status, abi?

I am reminded of that imbecilic man sometime earlier this year who could not afford to pay the cost of delivery, only for the wife and unborn child to end up dead. If we check now, the man has moved on to another woman who may also end up 6ft under for the same thing. 🥱🥱

People like you are so unconcerned because, at the end of the day, it is the woman you marry and the children that will suffer the brunt of these bad decisions — their lives will be literally ruined, all because you had to have yourself a wife and child in poverty.

One thing many fail to know is the different between need and want... Many people spend their money on what they want every month and end up broke. They fail to recorgnise what they need... Just because your friend is using a phone of 450k now you want to force yourself to have it against your poor earning at the end you get it but hungry dey wire you now you are complaining that your salary is not enough... Haba now.. No be everyone have fast speed in financing in Life ooh

harjay1986:
✓One thing many fail to know is the different between need and want... Many people spend their money on what they want every month and end up broke. They fail to recorgnise what they need... Just because your friend is using a phone of 450k now you want to force yourself to have it against your poor earning at the end you get it but hungry dey wire you now you are complaining that your salary is not enough... Haba now.. No be everyone have fast speed in financing in Life ooh

By that, is marriage/having children a need or a want?

ibechris:
That is, times have really changed. How many people buys nappy these days?

Our issue is that we love copying others without looking at our own pockets. You don't have to use premium brands just because society dictates it. Babies have been raised successfully without breaking the bank for generations.

Let’s be realistic: if we wait until every man has millions in savings before procreating, the population would crash. A struggling young man and a hardworking partner can build from scratch. There are affordable apartments in decent areas—you don't need luxury to be a good parent.

The blueprint is simple: Start small, stabilize, and then expand. The only major issue is rent and the initial infant stages when the child needs premium food and care . Honestly, if a man earning ₦200k plans well and cuts his coat according to his cloth, coupled with a sensible wife (not all this urban Gen Z) he can raise a small family while working on increasing his income. We need to stop discouraging people with unrealistic standards. How many men do you think will end up with more than 10 million naira savings in Nigeria?

SpencerForbes:
Our issue is that we love copying others without looking at our own pockets. You don't have to use premium brands just because society dictates it. Babies have been raised successfully without breaking the bank for generations.

Let’s be realistic: if we wait until every man has millions in savings before procreating, the population would crash. A struggling young man and a hardworking partner can build from scratch. There are affordable apartments in decent areas—you don't need luxury to be a good parent.

The blueprint is simple: Start small, stabilize, and then expand. The only major issue is rent and the initial infant stages when the child needs premium food and care . Honestly, if a man earning ₦200k plans well and cuts his coat according to his cloth, coupled with a sensible wife (not all this urban Gen Z) he can raise a small family while working on increasing his income. We need to stop discouraging people with unrealistic standards. How many men do you think will end up with more than 10 million naira savings in Nigeria?

We really need the population to crash...and as we won't get stuck of ur mentality. We need to move ahead and tap into every modern adventures.

Are u saying,u will be wearing elder people nappy and same with children in this age and time.

Stop being a Luddite,the world is govern by innovation and poverty is of the mind.

200k can't take care of any family except u an advocate of poverty,however if it comes to a single man or woman I agree but stop luring people into marriage with this 200k of a thing.

Many people are stepping up and many are going to make alot of money even before 10years of their work life. I am an example of such persons...I don't belive in the impossibilities. I am an advocate of gradualism and that has work for me.

Marry right...even if it means marrying a woman that earns more than u and believe in the principles of union between a man and a woman.

ibechris:
We really need the population to crash...and u won't get stuck of ur mentality. We need move ahead and tap into every modern adventures.

Are u saying,u will be wearing elder people nappy and same with children in this age and time.

Stop being a Luddite,the world is govern by innovation and poverty is of the mind.

200k can't take care of any family except u an advocate of poverty,however if it comes to a single man or woman I agree but stop luring people into marriage with this 200k of a thing.

Many people are stepping up and many are going to make alot of money even before 10years of their work life. I am an example of such persons...I don't belive in the impossibilities. I am an advocate of graduation and that has work for me.

Marry right...even if it means marrying a woman that earns more than u and believe in the principles of union.

Let's be real here. How many 40-year-olds walking our streets right now can actually boast of ₦2 million liquid cash? Plenty of them are struggling, yet they have families. Are we saying they shouldn't procreate? That’s not sustainable.

In Nigeria, hard work isn’t the ultimate solution. You can hustle for 30 years and still have nothing significant to show for it. If we base starting a family on the official minimum wage, literally nobody would be giving birth.

The real problem is not having a child, it’s having too many children without a plan. If you manage yourself and have just one kid, how is that a burden?

And seriously, why are we making Pampers the ultimate financial obstacle? It’s just a year or two out of a lifetime. If you have a solid plan, rent that is manageable (say, ₦200k/annum), and some decent savings (even ₦5 million figure), you have a great platform to start. It’s tough only at the beginning, but smart people grow.

If we agree with these standards, then what about people in villages and rural areas? How many of them earn ₦200k per month, let alone have ₦5 million saved? Yet, life goes on and families are raised.
Some of the kids even turn out better than children raised in luxury or even abroad. Modest with wisdom is good. The money isn’t the problem but lack of wisdom is the ultimate problem.

There is absolutely sense in what u have said...but the real issue here is this,theory and practical aren't the same.

U see,it is very easy to theorise this matter and after that,it looks cool and perfect but in reality,it is not.

I am a father of four,my salary does not last me more than two days to be honest with u. I got married when I had a reserved of about 4.5million to 7million in 2015.

That money is what is saving me till date and not my salary. It is always good for man and woman to see marriage first as a team and when that is done,everything would fall in place. Gradual building is good but it must be set as a goal.

One reason why I don't like people raising children in poverty is because it deprives the child of good things of this life and I was in that shoe and wouldn't want same for my children or even my neighbours child.

Thanks for ur insightful contribution.

SpencerForbes:
Let's be real here. How many 40-year-olds walking our streets right now can actually boast of ₦2 million liquid cash? Plenty of them are struggling, yet they have families. Are we saying they shouldn't procreate? That’s not sustainable.

In Nigeria, hard work isn’t the ultimate solution. You can hustle for 30 years and still have nothing significant to show for it. If we base starting a family on the official minimum wage, literally nobody would be giving birth.

The real problem is not having a child, it’s having too many children without a plan. If you manage yourself and have just one kid, how is that a burden?

And seriously, why are we making Pampers the ultimate financial obstacle? It’s just a year or two out of a lifetime. If you have a solid plan, rent that is manageable (say, ₦200k/annum), and some decent savings (even ₦5 million figure), you have a great platform to start. It’s tough only at the beginning, but smart people grow.

If we agree with these standards, then what about people in villages and rural areas? How many of them earn ₦200k per month, let alone have ₦5 million saved? Yet, life goes on and families are raised.
Some of the kids even turn out better than children raised in luxury or even abroad. Modest with wisdom is good. The money isn’t the problem but lack of wisdom is the ultimate problem.