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Kobojunkie:
For you to rule out the possibility entirely despite not knowing anything about the man except for they spewed by a third-party whose narrative reveals he took is a complete outsider in speaks volumes of your mentality. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Why should I waste my time doing any such when you can easily learn these things by making Google your friend? 🥱🥱

3. You are indeed Nigerian at your core. I merely pointed that out since it is obvious from, again, your mentality. 🥱🥱🥱

I knew you won't be able to answer those questions, you can see the difference between us now, you rely on Google to approach an issue, while I rely on real life situation or practical experience to do the same.

The earlier you understand that Google only bring people posts/opinions for you as answers (which in most cases could be wrong), the better for you. I have personally seen my posts numerous time on Google search, does that made me an expert or best answers to such issues?

If you can't take your time to get practical knowledge/experience from those who are concerned, you have no right to question my practical knowledge because you lack the same and only depends on others through Google( in which their opinions could be right or wrong).

Until you tell me what is wrong in thinking like Nigerian, or why do you believe thinking like Nigerian is bad, you don't have point but to keep wallowing in whatever thinking mentality you believe is right.

budaatum:
You may be talking about a "Nigerian family here", but I am talking about human beings in general, since Nigerian parents are not unique at all.

All the same, the below is a Nigerian parent.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2025/08/horror-pastor-rapes-own-daughter-for-4-years-blames-it-on-generational-curse/

Now, talk please!

Wrong example
This is extreme
This happens in Human Rights capital of the world too (USA)

guobe:
He is alive and doing very well over there.
His counterparts that got same scholarship do come to Nigeria and go back.

doing well? how many Nigerians are doing well in Russia... lol. maybe una don over tax the guy and now he just realized that he needs to focus on himself and his family over there. how much is minimum wage in the country? e no pass 1k dollars.

Kalulu44:
Do his counterparts tell you they have seen him and doing well

He is okay,he just wants to dissociate himself from his immediate family.

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PepeXKermit:
doing well? how many Nigerians are doing well in Russia... lol. maybe una don over tax the guy and now he just realized that he needs to focus on himself and his family over there. how much is minimum wage in the country? e no pass 1k dollars.

You are missing the point, he broke off communication completely with the home front.
Nobody is talking about billing here.
Someone that cut off communication na billing you wan come bill am.you reason am na.

guobe:
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You are missing the point, he broke off communication completely with the home front.
Nobody is talking about billing here.
Someone that cut off communication na billing you wan come bill am.you reason am na.

Hes been brainwashed
They should move on without him
The earth has a way of spinning around
Africans don’t fully cut off their immediate family like whites do
Maybe he’s really struggling over there too, Shame no gree make he talk
Russia is not USA, Canada, Australia or Western Europe o

yinkeys:
Hes been brainwashed
They should move on without him
The earth has a way of spinning around
Africans don’t fully cut off their immediate family like whites do
Maybe he’s really struggling over there too, Shame no gree make he talk
Russia is not USA, Canada, Australia or Western Europe o

They have long moved on.
Even his younger siblings are doing very well too with one in the USA and two others in other European countries

guobe:
She is heartbroken and now blaming herself when she is actually not the problem.
Alot of us as kids passed through worst things from our parents but still we didn't hold the grudges against them.
A kid that holds a grudge against their parents even to the grave is evil

You're wasting your time responding to this guy trying to justify bad behavior.

I'm suspecting he's the guy in this story or he's doing same thing.

Offpoint1:
You're wasting your time responding to this trying to justify bad behavior.

I'm suspecting he's the guy in this story or he's doing same thing.

Their reactions shows that they will do same to their parents too.
A parent that fed you when you were a baby,you suckled your mum crying, flight to the abroad was also paid by your parents and you went abroad and say they are now bad people.
How pathetic can one be.

guobe:
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You are missing the point, he broke off communication completely with the home front.
Nobody is talking about billing here.
Someone that cut off communication na billing you wan come bill am.you reason am na.

he broke off communication, wetin happen before that. omo the story no add up...

guobe:
He is okay,he just wants to dissociate himself from his immediate family.

You still didn't answer my question. How do you know he's doing well

Kalulu44:
You still didn't answer my question. How do you know he's doing well

His sibling chatted with him on socials recently.
He is now a Doctor in Russia.

SpencerForbes:
Possible reasons:

Fear of the Unknown: He might be genuinely afraid of spiritual interference or jealousy from people back home (village pipu )

The Pressure to Succeed: Not everyone abroad is "living the dream." He might be struggling quietly with finances or his mental health and feels he can't come home until he has "made it."

Painful Memories: There could be hurtful experiences from his childhood that make the idea of returning triggering or painful for him.

Quality of Life Differences: Once you get used to a system that works, it can be mentally difficult to prepare yourself for the stress and struggles of life back home.

Discouraging Stories: He might be reacting to scary stories he’s heard from friends—people who visited home and regretted it or faced danger.

New Family Bond: He is receiving so much love and support from his wife and her family that he no longer feels a strong void or need to reconnect with his extended family.

and does that stop him from sending money home or attending his parents funeral?

ultraviolet27:
and does that stop him from sending money home or attending his parents funeral?

The clear answer is No. But we all think differently. We might not know what he’s passing through. Financially, emotionally or psychologically. Sometimes bills and other utilities can be so choking you wouldn’t even want to receive calls or he might just be plain selfish.

budaatum:
No it is not "absolutely absurd"! And you better be grateful if you have not got reason to break off from your parents and siblings, because, some might choose to break off from their siblings and family because their family is toxic, or because the breakee himself is mentally damaged and mad like those you see walking around naked and lost in some of our markets and far away from family.

But his parents and siblings weren't toxic when they were gathering money for him to travel abroad? even if his mum is a witch she didn't use it kill him when he was a toddler then she is a good witch

yemmit90:
I knew you won't be able to answer those questions, you can see the difference between us now, you rely on Google to approach an issue, while I rely on real life situation or practical experience to do the same.

The earlier you understand that Google only bring people posts/opinions for you as answers (which in most cases could be wrong), the better for you. I have personally seen my posts numerous time on Google search, does that made me an expert or best answers to such issues?

If you can't take your time to get practical knowledge/experience from those who are concerned, you have no right to question my practical knowledge because you lack the same and only depends on others through Google( in which their opinions could be right or wrong).

Until you tell me what is wrong in thinking like Nigerian, or why do you believe thinking like Nigerian is bad, you don't have point but to keep wallowing in whatever thinking mentality you believe is right.

You get time to argue with that one person wey get skuchis for head

guobe:
Their reactions shows that they will do same to their parents too.
A parent that fed you when you were a baby,you suckled your mum crying, flight to the abroad was also paid by your parents and you went abroad and say they are now bad people.
How pathetic can one be.

It's quite pathetic...

budaatum:
I'm very certain you call me wicked because I have been wicked to you. For you wouldn't dare make such an assumption unless you've experienced my wickedness.

Below is a mother who "carries the pregnancy of a child for nine months with pains, did not abort the child, fed him with her two breasts till he is able to crawl and walk, fed him" and then killed him.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cp84xed0g18o

I feel you'd claim her children should love their mother if they were still alive. But kindly confirm please.

All the situations you cited aren't applicable to this story now you are just one heartless person naturally his parents didn't suitcase murder him.or his siblings if not he won't be alive to travel out nor was he ever raped when he was little you are so unreasonable and incorrigible

guobe:
His sibling chatted with him on socials recently.
He is now a Doctor in Russia.

Ehen! Now you're talking

yemmit90:
✓ I knew you won't be able to answer those questions, you can see the difference between us now, you rely on Google to approach an issue, while I rely on real life situation or practical experience to do the same.
The earlier you understand that Google only bring people posts/opinions for you as answers (which in most cases could be wrong), the better for you. I have personally seen my posts numerous time on Google search, does that made me an expert or best answers to such issues?
If you can't take your time to get practical knowledge/experience from those who are concerned, you have no right to question my practical knowledge because you lack the same and only depends on others through Google( in which their opinions could be right or wrong).
✓ Until you tell me what is wrong in thinking like Nigerian, or why do you believe thinking like Nigerian is bad, you don't have point but to keep wallowing in whatever thinking mentality you believe is right.

Ah, I see! So, empirical studies that show that adults carry on unresolved traumas from childhood which influence decisions that make even into their later lives are all opinions and in most cases are wrong? Wow.... studies scientific studies that show up when you search Google for results are all wrong and personal biased reviews are better? 🥱🥱🥱

2. What I told you is that your mentality is abso-forking-lutely Nigerian at your core and all through the inches of you. 🥱🥱🥱

ultraviolet27:
✓ All the situations you cited aren't applicable to this story now you are just one heartless person naturally his parents didn't suitcase murder him.or his siblings if not he won't be alive to travel out nor was he ever raped when he was little you are so unreasonable and incorrigible

Not trying to hold brief for the other, given that we know absolutely nothing about this boys upbringing except for the fairy tale review brought us by the OP who happens to be a third party with rose goggles on, are you saying it could never have been the case that the man witnessed his parents murdering someone or something along those lines?

I recall reading a story brought here on Nairaland by a lady who said her parents were kidnappers, and she had been complacent until after she turned an adult and decided she no longer wanted to have anything to do with them. However, she didn't have much luck out in the world and was considering contacting them for help. I don't recall much else, but I know that story got on the front page, too. 🥱🥱

All the evil in the world is committed by people, some of whom are also parents. Basically, someone's father and/or mother in Nigeria is are murderer. All those lynchings that take place in that country are done by someone's relatives, father, mother, brother, etc. So, I think we should not discount these possibilities since we know nothing of the facts as far as this story and the reason why the man decided to go no contact. 🥱🥱

He will regret it when he gets older.

Caaz:
Maybe hes busy investing in his russian wife's pussybank.

Hahahahah you need to be blocked permanently, I nearly fall from upstairs

Offpoint1:
You're wasting your time responding to this guy trying to justify bad behavior.

I'm suspecting he's the guy in this story or he's doing same thing.

You telling guobe that all this happened to me, or are you justifying the bad behaviour of parents?

https://www.nairaland.com/8570531/he-went-abroad-got-lost#137621078

https://www.nairaland.com/8570531/he-went-abroad-got-lost#137620778

guobe:
He is alive and has been in Russia for ages.

Does he contact you people at all ? And if yes, pls leave him alone , he will learn on his own or better if you are a religious person, pray

pansophist:
They probably treated him wrong.

Most families are dysfunctional. Most families have not been to a therapist, and make effort to purge out unhealthy patterns.

It’s very difficult for a person to cut off with their biological families, and men typically do that when they create their own family.

Lots of dysfunction in families are revealed during adulthood, since the parents will take the backseat and the children will continue from there.

How the siblings will relate with each other especially with the differences in financial status, educational level, life challenges and past resentment will depend on the love they have for each other.


Since the siblings are adults with agency, they will iron out their past resentment which might lead to a permanent breakdown of the relationship.

In many cases, it is parents that are the glue to sibling relationships. Without a present parent, most siblings ain’t fan of each other.

And the more successful a sibling is, the more likely he would be the target of the others who ain’t successful, hence, a pressing need for the successful one to just cut off.

This is probably what’s going on here.

I can relate: going through this now currently.

Raalsalghul:
I can relate: going through this now currently.

Take am easy sha. No break anybody head or say things you might come to regret. It is a difficult place to be

Parents cover lots of stuff, especially when children are still dependent and live with them. But when parent gets old or pass away, you realise that if you have four siblings for example, maybe three na idiot inside, the other two na dem get sense.

Then due to the sake of family love and maintaining unity, one or two person have to always carry the weight of the others. It is not bad, but when such weight becomes permament, is choking you, and the beneficiary dont even want to help themselves, resentment sets in.

Because even you that is their helper needs help. You do not complain doesnt mean life is not tough and harsh on you. You just choose to be stoic.

But love conquers all. When you see any family in unity, just know that there is someone in the mix that is the glue keeping everyone bonded together.

In most cases, the glue are the parents, and when parents die, it becomes clear that siblings can be strangers, and family doesnt always means love.

Inside life.