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Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by millionboi(m): 6:31pm On Nov 30, 2025
Zanzibar1:
Just know you are in for a very rough start if you are the only one earning and your wife isn't earning other than having a petty shop.
Things works in marvelous ways tho but not always .

All that aside, where are you people seeing jobs that give 100k? I'm willing to send my CV
lol even if you and your wife is working,if the money coming in no reach be say e no reach.
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Jman06(m): 6:33pm On Nov 30, 2025
This whole thing boils down to mindset. God made this life very simple but humans are the ones complicating it.
I know an average family of nine children where the dad was a construction worker who operated caterpillars and other machineries for some expatriate construction companies especially in South South Nigeria while the wife was a petty trader cum subsistence farmer in the village.

All the children attended public schools both in town and in the village. During holidays, they helped their mom with trading and farming and in the process, they gather enough foodstuffs and funds in readiness for school resumption. That was how they continued until the first child graduated from higher institution and started working. She was then rendering financial help to the family until the second child graduated as an engineer and also started working and contributing towards raising the rest of his siblings. That was how ALL of them managed to graduate from different universities in the country.

Today, this family is doing very well financially and many of the children are now abroad making hard currencies. Though their dad is late, the mom is still very much alive and enjoying the fruits of her labour.

What I'm saying in essence is that, with the right strategy and orientation, people can still start from the scratches and get to the top. That man who got married on a salary of 100k per month can still raise great children with the right approach. The soil is still one of the greatest resources God gave to mankind, but how many youths in this confused generation ever thinks of what they can make out of the soil?

People just give themselves unnecessary pressure. Why waste funds on private schools when it is now obvious that those schools add little to no values to children? Yet, they make you pay huge amount of money which the proprietor enjoys with his or her family! Government schools are still the best in terms of quality of teachers!

You must not use pampas for your babies! Instead, use napkin and save yourself the cost of buying pampas. Your baby will still grow up healthy and strong. Nowadays, healthcare has become more accessible than in the past and you don't have to pay through your nose to afford it. If you don't have money to visit big hospitals, make use of the pharmacies and take advantage of the improved pharmacy training by asking to see the pharmacist free of charge when you go to buy medications. Many of them are more knowledgeable than some doctors you may be seeing in the hospitals.

In summary, stop trying to impress or to belong to a particular class because our races are different and the end justifies the means. Happiness is relative and depends on your mindset. Some of my happiest moments were the times I was growing up in the village because we had a lot fun activities then, unlike now that life is more about work, work and more work with little fun.
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Progress321: 6:34pm On Nov 30, 2025
Kingzjayzee:
I think say na only me oo. i never even work where them pay me that kind money before. 100k? Some people get money o. Bosses in the house, Abeg show us the way na grin grin grin
Stopeet 😂 😂 😂
There are people who earn that amount bro, but omo na to see where dem dey see the job dey hard sef
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by AngelSlay: 6:36pm On Nov 30, 2025
Tailorcaesar:
It all boils down to location, for Lagos 100k is nothing but for my place Onitsha, Anambra state Omo I earn 40k as a teacher and I feed like a king cos food, accommodation is cheap.
3-rooms and parlour here is 400k ....so tell me why I can't marry with the salary of 10pk with my woman
Where in Anambra?
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by AngelSlay: 6:37pm On Nov 30, 2025
Zanzibar1:
Just know you are in for a very rough start if you are the only one earning and your wife isn't earning other than having a petty shop.
Things works in marvelous ways tho but not always .

All that aside, where are you people seeing jobs that give 100k? I'm willing to send my CV
Join that channel on telegram, they even have a remote channel. They are also on Facebook

Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by TheFloatingSwan: 6:39pm On Nov 30, 2025
I got married with a salary of 72,500 after tax deduction in March 2018.

My position will always: Marry right! Marry an olorire. Don't go and marry person wey no get ogo!

Today, my take home monthly salary is 8.2m after tax and pension deduction.

I am grateful to God for how far I and my wife has come
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Omowale2023(m):
I rejected a 150k job twice and a 180k job once. If I can't accept a salary or 150-180k. Is it now 100k I will now use to get married?
99% of people who says they can manage 100k salary for marriage won't accept that salary has job offer. People like deceiving themselves
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Omowale2023(m): 6:49pm On Nov 30, 2025
TheFloatingSwan:
I got married with a salary of 72,500 after tax deduction in March 2018.

My position will always: Marry right! Marry an olorire. Don't go and marry person wey no get ogo!

Today, my take home monthly salary is 8.2m after tax and pension deduction.

I am grateful to God for how far I and my wife has come
Please sir, what job or business are you running?
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kingzjayzee: 6:54pm On Nov 30, 2025
SpencerForbes:
The people you are talking about are those really struggling—the ones pulling in just ₦30k or ₦40k—and doing it all alone.

The critical difference is that they don't have a hardworking partner, side income, strategic planning or any spousal support. That lack of teamwork is what really kills them. That’s why we keep selecting ₦100k from both parties as the leverage point for discussion. I once read a book, The Millionaire Mindset, which distinguished between people who are actually rich and those who just want to impress others with the perception of wealth. The author noted that those who lived moderately always had spare cash to give than those who went the extra mile to maintain a lavish appearance. Below average income is a struggle, but hitting above minimum wage by both parties definitely gives you the leverage to start planning.

I know a perfect example: A man with multiple shops in Ladipo International Market was intentionally living in a room self-contain. He had the money but firmly decided not to buy cars until both his children had finished university. Now, that man owns more than three cars, and both his daughters are doing exceptionally well.

If being raised in luxury was guaranteed to produce successful children, we wouldn’t have examples like Elon Musk’s child or even children of high-profile political candidates struggling with issues linked to bad influence and a lack of proper home training.

There is no two ways about this:

Luxury without proper training will always create a problematic child, but an average life backed by solid values will always create a good child.
the title of the book is actually "The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America’s Wealthy
Authors by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko
"
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by maasoap(m): 6:58pm On Nov 30, 2025
kpankpangolo:
Did not read. What is this thread about?

Okay, I glanced through. Anybody making 100K monthly is only securing his lineage in poverty if marriage comes to mind. Two people earning 100K each cannot raise a family and should not consider doing so.

The moderators honestly are the ones encouraging people to open separate threads when they could post opinions and call it a day.
Of course, they can. The deal is how they want to run their marriage. Having kids immediately or postponed? One or two kids total or more than two? Cost of house rent in area they choose to live, readiness to make extra income and so on
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by thomas2024: 7:01pm On Nov 30, 2025
NewLife14:
I came across this beautiful post about the above topic here https://www.nairaland.com/8571178/someone-earning-100k-naira-should
In the comments, many great minded Nairalanders argued for and against "Marrying with a 100K income" from many perspectives.

This post is all about putting the theories in figures. STAY TUNED cool.

Now the man (From a supportive family) earns 100K and decides to Marry. That is #1,200,000 per annum (1.2M).
His expected expenditure should look like this:
➡️Cost of wedding =Free (Family Sponsors).
➡️ House rent =Free (Has 2 rooms in his family house).
➡️ Electricity Bill (2K a month X 1 year) = #24,000.
➡️Feeding with wife and kid/s (At least 2K a day X 1 year)= #730,000.
➡️Clothing =Nil (He doesn't change clothes cheesy).
➡️Wife Expenditure = Nil (Her parents supports her and fends for her in his house shocked)
➡️Baby Diapers = Nil (Baby wears Napkin).
➡️ Water (Sachet water and others) =Free.
➡️Baby Food and Groceries (Milk, etc, 5K per month X 1 year) =#60,000.
➡️Transportation to work (500 Naira per day X at least 270 days a year) =#135,000.
➡️Recharge card and Data for our man and wife (#200 a day x 1 year) = #73,000.

TOTAL SO FAR =#1,022,000 (1M, 22K)
Our man will be left with #178,000 (178K) at the end of the year in review.

⚠️You will observe that I was extremely prudent in the expenditure, in the hope that both his family and the wife's family support the marriage which is most times unlikely; what applies is that you the man is the one supporting them instead.

⚠️ I only added basic RECURRENT costs and didn't account for emergencies like Healthcare, or even miscellaneous. I also obviously avoided school fees, baby wears, etc.

❓Can you marry with 100K income? YES & NO!

You can if you already have a room in your parents house, your family and her family is supportive financially and otherwise, you like stress grin and you are comfortable with your current financial status (as marrying at this stage will give you little room for financial improvement and growth)

But if you desire to grow financially, break the chain of poverty, value your peace of mind, want to give your family the best and live in a city where you pay for rent and other things, then it'll be a suicide mission to marry with a 100K income.

My 2 cents wink
As a young man: DON’T DABBLE INTO MARRIAGE. IT IS NOT HEALTHY FOR YOU. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE THE ONES REGRETTING AT THE END. MARRIAGE AS AN INSTITUTION HAS LOST ITS TOUCH WITH REALITY.

Most men lose more in marriage unlike before. Marriage is strictly a business to women nowadays. Find a baby mama, and live your private life. You come to this world alone, you ain’t gonna need anyone.
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by TemporaryHansel(m):
Anybody earning that amount monthly has no business being in a relationship talkless of marriage. Too much misplaced priorities in this country.
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Procashtips(m): 7:11pm On Nov 30, 2025
So the OP is by default calling the wife a liability?


Why not:

Husband ₦100k

When married

Wife ₦100k

Total : ₦200k

Now, can a household survive with ₦200k?

Secondly, the OP automatically implied that the couple would have children and be buying pampers from day 1 of the marriage.

Too many unrealistic assumptions.

Lastly, there are family of 4-5 with household income below ₦200k even in Lagos surviving
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Jamesbiodun(m): 7:21pm On Nov 30, 2025
Food alone is more than 90k a month...
May God help us ooo
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Tailorcaesar: 7:21pm On Nov 30, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Stop lying to people! undecided

You earn 40K a month, and after transportation and other bills, how much of that is left over for food, let alone savings? E yin oniro oshi... stop deceiving others into poverty with you. undecided
Bro I trek to school my house is 5minutes to school and 10minutes to my church
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by TheFloatingSwan: 7:25pm On Nov 30, 2025
Omowale2023:
Please sir, what job or business are you running?
I am a leader in Tech/Cybersecurity.
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by BucketHat(m): 7:26pm On Nov 30, 2025
To survive this current administration ehn,nah to deh earn 1 million naira monthly.

Nigerian workers are poorly paid!💔

Many Nigerian workers deh earn below 100 dollars as in monthly wage oo💔
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 7:27pm On Nov 30, 2025
Tailorcaesar:
➜Bro I trek to school my house is 5minutes to school and 10minutes to my church
. Stop lying! Misery loves company is the true definition of many of you who come on here to boast of your obviously stagnant lives as though the way others should strive for. 🥱🥱🥱

You know very well that a man on 40k can barely save anything, and the gods forbid such a man falls sick or has a medical problem....his life might as well be close to the end. Yet you dangle it as the life that a sane individual should not only strive for but take on more mouths to feed? Wicked! 🥱🥱🥱
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Tailorcaesar: 7:28pm On Nov 30, 2025
SpencerForbes:
It is genuinely surprising how some people still doubt this, yet the evidence is clear when you factor in location. They forget that in smaller towns and villages, the cost of transport is almost zero because people either walk to their workplaces or rely entirely on personal bicycles and bikes.

Feeding is also manageable because of land access. Even if you don't own the land, you can usually lease a farmland annually. If a family cultivates just two plots every year with staple crops like cassava and maize, tell me how exactly they would ever go hungry?

Housing is where the savings truly become ridiculous. Where I’m from, people pay lower than ₦3k per month for rent, but try getting a decent single room in Lagos for less than ₦15k. The cost difference is massive and applies to everything else. Therefore, the simple truth remains: location is a huge, game-changing factor when calculating a family's financial ability.

But in towns, it can also be done if both parties agrees and are supportive just that the ladies now have been corrupted by online feminism.
My brother tells them, my school is 5minutes from my house and church is 10minutes away, I stay very close to the almighty coke-market in Onitsha, and I pay my house rent of 14k 2-rooms and nepa bill of 7k for the two rooms. As a teacher I properly organise my spending, and still save. Remember am Igbo man I still gat to hustle other things to make money
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Tailorcaesar: 7:30pm On Nov 30, 2025
dreamxhaser:
This is a big fat lie. How can you live as a king with 40k salary? Bro com’on

I live In kaduna, which is the north where things a far cheaper and i can confidently tell you that 100k isn’t a good salary to marry with.

It is your type that makes the government see 70k minimum wage as the next big thing after sliced bread.

Those that married with that amount are currently living a depressing life, always complaining about money, taking debts and begging.

Seems alot of you don’t like good life. Seems alot of you want to be suffering till you grow old.

Like don’t you want to take your kids to good schools?

Eat balanced diet?

Go on family outing and dates?

Live in a good neighborhood? (Like you want dey live for tranches)

Have good cars? (both husband and wife, abi una want dey fly bike up and down)

Wear good cloths?

As them say 100k wont be enough to marry, instead of you to be living in denial, swallow the harsh truth and start looking for multiple sources of income. Else you go suffer no be small.
my school is 5minutes from my house and church is 10minutes away, I stay very close to the almighty coke-market in Onitsha, and I pay my house rent of 14k 2-rooms and nepa bill of 7k for the two rooms. As a teacher I properly organise my spending, and still save. Remember am Igbo man I still gat to hustle other things to make money
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by femi4: 7:31pm On Nov 30, 2025
He should not even consider living alone. How can he meet up with house rent
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by ExudeLoveToAll: 7:34pm On Nov 30, 2025
Is this someone a man alone, marriage is for two person and not one. It's joint income and not one. Don't ever use others opinion to run your life.
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Tailorcaesar: 7:37pm On Nov 30, 2025
dreamxhaser:
This is a big fat lie. How can you live as a king with 40k salary? Bro com’on

I live In kaduna, which is the north where things a far cheaper and i can confidently tell you that 100k isn’t a good salary to marry with.

It is your type that makes the government see 70k minimum wage as the next big thing after sliced bread.

Those that married with that amount are currently living a depressing life, always complaining about money, taking debts and begging.

Seems alot of you don’t like good life. Seems alot of you want to be suffering till you grow old.

Like don’t you want to take your kids to good schools?

Eat balanced diet?

Go on family outing and dates?

Live in a good neighborhood? (Like you want dey live for tranches)

Have good cars? (both husband and wife, abi una want dey fly bike up and down)

Wear good cloths?

As them say 100k wont be enough to marry, instead of you to be living in denial, swallow the harsh truth and start looking for multiple sources of income. Else you go suffer no be small.
Remember you said marriage not breeding kids

And I don't fold my hands all tru the month, am a man I do hustle, hold evening classes and so on.

But wait oooo....why will I be dreaming of a car with 40k salary ? If I try that in my dreams make EFCC come arrest me cos na tif dey enter my eye
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie:
Tailorcaesar:
➜Remember you said marriage not breeding kids. And I don't fold my hands all tru the month, am a man I do hustle, hold evening classes and so on. But wait oooo....why will I be dreaming of a car with 40k salary ? If I try that in my dreams make EFCC come arrest me cos na tif dey enter my eye
You shouldn't be dreaming of a car, but you should be dreaming of adding another human being to the equation? You people literally hate women and children since you consider them cheaper to get than a car. undecided
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kingzjayzee: 7:55pm On Nov 30, 2025
Progress321:
Stopeet 😂 😂 😂
There are people who earn that amount bro, but omo na to see where dem dey see the job dey hard sef
U just said it all bro. I no doubt am say people no dey earn that kind money o but make them show us the way na...haba! Not too much to ask na
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by spiSeyi: 7:58pm On Nov 30, 2025
Stephen0mozzy:
Chief, I know wetin I dey talk. Na man wey go marry woman wey no get value for her own body. All humans are materialistic, but not everyone is obsessively in competition with other people (i.e I better pass my neighbor mentality).

As a man, make your woman know say you're doing your best - she knows how making money with skill and talent is.

Don't marry people who think the holes in their body is a capital investment.
If she no think am poverty might frustate her (there are lots of married women who don't want to sleep with another man but the poverty level in their marriage led them to such), I still maintain my stand because women mind are flexible and they can easily bend to pressure. A lot of married women are into low level hookup just to put food in the table especially those one who don't like unnecessary drama at home. If your wife doesn't bother you about anything their is a big god somewhere.
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Tailorcaesar: 8:09pm On Nov 30, 2025
Kobojunkie:
You shouldn't be dreaming of a car, but you should be dreaming of adding another human being to the equation? You people literally hate women and children since you consider them cheaper to get than a car. undecided
Bro we are talking about marriage not breeding kids.
As it stands in Nigeria with the way girlfriends bill their guys is as the same as expenses married men do.....
Like I said b4, I no dey just fold my hands dey hope on my salary, me na Igbo guy na....I dey also hustle
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by peacenow: 8:10pm On Nov 30, 2025
With 100k, if you can make your money your slave and suffer for 5 years by saving 50% of your salary for 2 months and continue to invest 40k of your salary for the rest of 4 years by investing for 4 years and 10 months using a money market fund that pays an average of 17% per year, you can do it. See the calculation done in the compound interest calculator. When you have saved your account up to 2-3M, you can move half of your money to federal government savings bonds to invest by investing 1m 3 months consecutively, you will be paid on the 4th month and you will be paid monthly for 3 years if you invest on 3 years bond and your capital will be returned on expiration and you can start again.
Capital needed =N=100,000
Consecutive monthly investment = N 40,000/month for five years

You will now be earning 17% of ₦3,975,820.60 yearly, which is ₦675,889.4, and will be divided into 4 for you paid every 3 months, which is ₦675,889.4 divided by 4 = ₦168,972.35 every 3 months while your capital is there. You have bumped your annual salary from ₦1.2M to ₦1,875,889. Go into Stambic into any IBTC bank and tell them you want to invest in a money market fund. Start investing and thank God later. Disregard the US dollar sign. I calculated everything in Naira, I am not affiliated with IBTC but I know I am helping somebody with my whole heart so that you can help another person too.

This is a lifetime icome as long as you dont withdraw your capital. You can grow your capital as you grow in life.

Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Tailorcaesar: 8:11pm On Nov 30, 2025
Kobojunkie:
. Stop lying! Misery loves company is the true definition of many of you who come on here to boast of your obviously stagnant lives as though the way others should strive for. 🥱🥱🥱

You know very well that a man on 40k can barely save anything, and the gods forbid such a man falls sick or has a medical problem....his life might as well be close to the end. Yet you dangle it as the life that a sane individual should not only strive for but take on more mouths to feed? Wicked! 🥱🥱🥱
Chai. I go explain taya
Bro I no dey fold hand dey hold for my salary oooo
Me na hustler oooo
I believe Igbo guy nwanne,
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Tailorcaesar:
AngelSlay:
Where in Anambra?
*******
Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Tailorcaesar: 8:16pm On Nov 30, 2025
Nazgul:
Do you even know what you're saying?

If someone earns 40k monthly and pays 400k for rent like you said, that’s 10 month's salary gone. How exactly is that cheap? If you have to save for 10 months before paying your rent, how exactly are you going to survive?

And we've not even talked about electricity bills, repairs, and all the little compulsory payments that come up in most compounds.

Back in Buhari’s time when fuel was 165, things were different. A a 100k salary was fairly ok, cos a standard 2-bedroom, all-ensuite in Abakaliki was around 200k–250k in 2020. Now that same apartment is 700k–1m. So your calculations don’t actually reflect the current reality at all.
Am not saying that I pay house rent of 400k
Yearly.....rather I said that house rent of 3-rooms and parlour goes for 400k in Onitsha

My rentage is 14k 2-rooms and I pay nepa bill of 7k monthly
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