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Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 5:27am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
DD dear. Ok see this.

1. Yes, the word is Mid-Stream and not Main-stream.

2. No, I never mentioned that "both the sea and land are called offshore". I said that the land is called On-Shore (On-Land), while the Sea is called Off-Shore (Out-of-Land).

3. You are asking why some oil workers spend only 2 weeks, outside their homes, while others spend 2 months, 3 months, and more? Well, the 2 weeks to go to Off-Shore work locations, by Off-Shore workers, is a standard practice all over the world and it is fixed.

But if an Onshore worker spends 2 months, or 3 months, or more outside his or her home, these are the 3 possibilities:

1. They are presently working on a intensive project and are being lodged or accommodated close to the project site until that project is completed.

2. That oil worker lives in a private lodge very close to his or her workplace, but may have built or bought or rented another apartment quite distant from his workplace, and that is where you people his family are now living in. Such people knows what goes on inside there and may not want his family to be exposed to that. If you know what I mean.

3. That oil worker has another family somewhere else. Maybe a baby mama with child or children for him. Or a sugar daddy. So when they say they are going off for 2 or 3 months, they are actually going to stay with him or her.

But your dad is not that kind of person. So, it may be either the Number 1 or the Number 2.
hahaha hahaha hahaha🤣🤣🤣 my dear you are right hahaha hahaha hahaha men are doing alot ooooo hahaha
I remember my primary and secondary school days my mum is the only one taking me to school, my mum younger sisters will be like
We ask you not to marry him. His job is not a good one , his job is way off, but my mum is not even complaining
Well two graduated on the same school and they were dating then
When the job offer comes up she advice him to take it.

Some women are trying. 3 months and more is not for me
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 5:39am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
hahaha hahaha hahaha🤣🤣🤣 my dear you are right hahaha hahaha hahaha men are doing alot ooooo hahaha
I remember my primary and secondary school days my mum is the only one taking me to school, my mum younger sisters will be like
We ask you not to marry him. His job is not a good one , his job is way off, but my mum is not even complaining
Well two graduated on the same school and they were dating then
When the job offer comes up she advice him to take it.

Some women are trying. 3 months and more is not for me
Ok your mum is a wise woman.

Why did I say so?

I so much like people who do not complain about the job or profession of their spouses, after marriage, if before marriage, they clearly know that this is what the person was doing or was going to do. Imagine I marry a movie actress now. And I clearly know she is a movie actress. Then tomorrow I begin to complain that I don't like how men kiss and romance her in movies. That means I am a very very stupid guy.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 5:44am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
hahaha hahaha hahaha🤣🤣🤣 my dear you are right hahaha hahaha hahaha men are doing alot ooooo hahaha
I remember my primary and secondary school days my mum is the only one taking me to school, my mum younger sisters will be like
We ask you not to marry him. His job is not a good one , his job is way off, but my mum is not even complaining
Well two graduated on the same school and they were dating then
When the job offer comes up she advice him to take it.

Some women are trying. 3 months and more is not for me
But you need to really find out from your dad how come he is an Onshore worker yet spends 3 months away from home. Something is not just adding up.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Tohsynetita1(m): 6:41am On Dec 11, 2025
nnamdi640:
I'm a private school teacher and I can say that I earn more than some people in others fields, my colleague earn up to 1.5million and she is a private school teacher. Just make sure you are good in what you're doing and don't think all teachers are thesame. Beside, you don't know who God Has planned for you to marry, again don't think that all those with big occupations are earning well or will make it big
You think the reason for the post is financial one? Union is not only for financial reasons, but companionship, procreation, peace etc.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 7:15am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
But you need to really find out from your dad how come he is an Onshore worker yet spends 3 months away from home. Something is not just adding up.
all his brothers are into the same type of work 3 months

His dad ( my grandfather) was the one that brought the contact through his friend so, all my dad 3 elder brothers are in the same offshore onshore work 3 months

Some of their sons is into it too. My brother would have been in it too but
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 7:20am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
Ok your mum is a wise woman.

Why did I say so?

I so much like people who do not complain about the job or profession of their spouses, after marriage, if before marriage, they clearly know that this is what the person was doing or was going to do. Imagine I marry a movie actress now. And I clearly know she is a movie actress. Then tomorrow I begin to complain that I don't like how men kiss and romance her in movies. That means I am a very very stupid guy.
no no no the person is not stupid because after marriage one need to adjust some things .
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 7:22am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
DD dear. Ok see this.

1. Yes, the word is Mid-Stream and not Main-stream.

2. No, I never mentioned that "both the sea and land are called offshore". I said that the land is called On-Shore (On-Land), while the Sea is called Off-Shore (Out-of-Land).

3. You are asking why some oil workers spend only 2 weeks, outside their homes, while others spend 2 months, 3 months, and more? Well, the 2 weeks to go to Off-Shore work locations, by Off-Shore workers, is a standard practice all over the world and it is fixed.

But if an Onshore worker spends 2 months, or 3 months, or more outside his or her home, these are the 3 possibilities:

1. They are presently working on an intensive project and are being lodged or accommodated close to the project site until that project is completed.

2. That oil worker lives in a private lodge very close to his or her workplace, but may have built or bought or rented another apartment quite distant from his workplace, and that is where you people his family are now living in. Such people knows what goes on inside there and may not want his family to be exposed to that. If you know what I mean.

3. That oil worker has another family somewhere else. Maybe a baby mama with child or children for him. Or a sugar daddy. So when they say they are going off for 2 or 3 months, they are actually going to stay with him or her.

But your dad is not that kind of person. So, it may be either the Number 1 or the Number 2.
my dad is not number one or two

His eldest brother maybe but definitely not my dad
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 7:36am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
all his brothers are into the same type of work 3 months

His dad ( my grandfather) was the one that brought the contact through his friend so, all my dad 3 elder brothers are in the same offshore onshore work 3 months

Some of their sons is into it too. My brother would have been in it too but
But... What?

Please tell me, if its not too personal or sensitive.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 8:04am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
But... What?

Please tell me, if its not too personal or sensitive.
he died. He's my elder brother and my only sibling he died 2019


Essential please let me ask you and don't be offended
People that follows vessels to Cotonou or Cameron

What did they call them? Onshore or offshore or what exactly?
And how many weeks or months did they spend depending on the nearest states or county they went or go?
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 8:08am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
he died. He's my elder brother and my only sibling he died 2019


Essential please let me ask you and don't be offended
People that follows vessels to Cotonou or Cameron

What did they call them? Onshore or offshore or what exactly?
And how many weeks or months did they spend depending on the nearest states or county they went or go?
Oh no. That's so sad to hear. I am so sorry about him. May his soul continue to Rest in Peace.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 8:09am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
But... What?

Please tell me, if its not too personal or sensitive.
he died. He's my elder brother and my only sibling he died 2019


Essential please let me ask you and don't be offended
People that follows vessels to Cotonou or Cameron

What did they call them? Onshore or offshore or what exactly?
And how many weeks or months did they spend depending on the nearest states or county they went or go?
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by LordBiden(m): 8:29am On Dec 11, 2025
nnamdi640:
I'm a private school teacher and I can say that I earn more than some people in others fields, my colleague earn up to 1.5million and she is a private school teacher. Just make sure you are good in what you're doing and don't think all teachers are thesame. Beside, you don't know who God Has planned for you to marry, again don't think that all those with big occupations are earning well or will make it big
No private school in Nigeria pays 1.5m monthly, because it's a faceless forum shouldnt make you guys spill lies anyhow.
Even those foreign American or British Nigerian schools highest you get is 500k.

I know you want to start yapping about extra lesson fees, highest 3 students and it still won't earn you 1.5m monthly.

Suffre with the lie bros.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 8:36am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
he died. He's my elder brother and my only sibling he died 2019


Essential please let me ask you and don't be offended
People that follows vessels to Cotonou or Cameron

What did they call them? Onshore or offshore or what exactly?
And how many weeks or months did they spend depending on the nearest states or county they went or go?
DD dear, petroleum workers working on vessels going to Cotonou (Benin Republic) or Cameroon typically do offshore work – since it involves operations at Sea, or on Water, as we discussed earlier. Please, that means he is fully an Off-Shore worker, and not an On-Shore worker.

Concerning the time the person can spend away from his or her home: For such offshore petroleum workers on vessels or routes like Cotonou or Cameroon, their rotations often depend on:

1. Their Company policies

2. Their Projects needs

3. The specific Location where he or she is assigned to work.

Common patterns:

1. West Africa off-shore ops: They often spend 4 to 8 weeks on board + 2 to 4 weeks off duty (it varies).

2. If they work closer to Nigerian waters: they might have shorter rotations (like 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off).

3. But wahala wahala is if they work further Off-Shore to places like Cameroon: They could remain there 1 to 3 months on, before they have 1 to 3 months off, depending on their logistics. By that I mean if they travel only in Sea Vessels, they stay longer, than those who travel using choppers to oil fields and oil rigs.

Since you mentioned going Off-Shore to Cotonou and Cameroon, that will explain why he stays 2 to 3 months offshore and away from home.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 8:48am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
DD dear, petroleum workers working on vessels going to Cotonou (Benin Republic) or Cameroon typically do offshore work – since it involves operations at Sea, or on Water, as we discussed earlier. Please, that means he is fully an Off-Shore worker, and not an On-Shore worker.

Concerning the time the person can spend away from his or her home: For such offshore petroleum workers on vessels or routes like Cotonou or Cameroon, their rotations often depend on:

1. Their Company policies

2. Their Projects needs

3. The specific Location where he or she is assigned to work.

Common patterns:

1. West Africa off-shore ops: They often spend 4 to 8 weeks on board + 2 to 4 weeks off duty (it varies).

2. If they work closer to Nigerian waters: they might have shorter rotations (like 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off).

3. But wahala wahala is if they work further Off-Shore to places like Cameroon: They could remain there 1 to 3 months on, before they have 1 to 3 months off, depending on their logistics. By that I mean if they travel only in Sea Vessels, they stay longer, than those who travel using choppers to oil fields and oil rigs.

Since you mentioned going Off-Shore to Cotonou and Cameroon, that will explain why he stays 2 to 3 months offshore and away from home.
okay. But do you like that can of work? If I where to be a man , that's the type of work I will like to do but

Only 2weeks is okay for me
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 8:54am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
okay. But do you like that can of work? If I where to be a man , that's the type of work I will like to do but

Only 2weeks is okay for me
I have no issues with that kind of work. It is socially respectable, it is financially rewarding, and it is professionally enviable.

I like that kind of work a lot.

But ladies do it too. Not men alone. Though it's like military work. More men do it than ladies.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by nnamdi640: 9:12am On Dec 11, 2025
LordBiden:
No private school in Nigeria pays 1.5m monthly, because it's a faceless forum shouldnt make you guys spill lies anyhow.
Even those foreign American or British Nigerian schools highest you get is 500k.

I know you want to start yapping about extra lesson fees, highest 3 students and it still won't earn you 1.5m monthly.

Suffre with the lie bros.
I never said it was a salary paid in a school. Let me give you the breakdown, my colleague earn above #100k in the school we are both teaching, she has 3 three clients, 2 in US and 1 in UK, separate families 2hours per day for 3 days in a week, the US families pay her 250 dollar per month each while the UK pay her 200 pound per month. She has almost 15 students she teaches after school before going home for her online classes and each of this students pays 10k to 20k, now do the calculations for yourself. Her case is almost similar to mine but earns more than me
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 9:13am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
okay. But do you like that can of work? If I where to be a man , that's the type of work I will like to do but

Only 2weeks is okay for me
Nigeria's coastal neighbours are:

1. Cotonou (Benin Republic) (to our West)

2. Cameroon (to our East)

These are the only 2 countries that have maritime borders with our country Nigeria.

Most Off-Shore petroleum workers do this type you talk about which is 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off. Only very specialized workers who get to work at further Off-Shore places like Cotonou and Cameroon get to spend like 2 to 3 months out from their homes. Na distance cause am.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by nnamdi640: 9:18am On Dec 11, 2025
Tohsynetita1:
You think the reason for the post is financial one? Union is not only for financial reasons, but companionship, procreation, peace etc.
That is a big lie, if union is not about finances, why is that the parent of the lady you want to marry will always want to know your occupation including the lady you want to marry. Beside, can you marry a bus conductor or can you allow your daughter to marry a bus conductor if truly what you said stands
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by nnamdi640: 9:20am On Dec 11, 2025
Smartguyboy:
1.5m as a teacher
I guess the person work in island
Not in Island, let me give you the breakdown, my colleague earn above #100k in the school we are both teaching, she has 3 three clients, 2 in US and 1 in UK, separate families 2hours per day for 3 days in a week, the US families pay her 250 dollar per month each while the UK pay her 200 pound per month. She has almost 15 students she teaches after school before going home for her online classes and each of this students pays 10k to 20k, now do the calculations for yourself. Her case is almost similar to mine but earns more than me
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by nnamdi640: 9:28am On Dec 11, 2025
Smartguyboy:
1.5m as a teacher
I guess the person work in island
One thing we failed to understand is that no matter what you do, if God has destined you that you will be successful in that area, nothing can take that from you, no matter the obstacles, she earns 150k in that private school but get more than that at the end of the month. She was the one that connected me to one of my client in UK and one thing about this foreign parent, once you are good and you don't disappoint, just have it in mind that the whole children in that family, you will be the one that will do the work of coaching them all.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 10:06am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
I have no issues with that kind of work. It is socially respectable, it is financially rewarding, and it is professionally enviable.

I like that kind of work a lot.

But ladies do it too. Not men alone. Though it's like military work. More men do it than ladies.
no no no both military is not good for a lady
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by MarkNsukkaBread: 10:08am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
I would have asked my dad about it again but I can't because he will start talking about my private life which i don't like

But next time he returns home i will try and ask him just to be clear about

Mainstream and Downstream



Onshore and offshore
So you don't want your dad to know that you have a boyfriend grin
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 10:17am On Dec 11, 2025
MarkNsukkaBread:
So you don't want your dad to know that you have a boyfriend grin
hahaha hahaha don't mind that man abeg . He should live my private life out of his mouth
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Tohsynetita1(m): 10:22am On Dec 11, 2025
nnamdi640:
That is a big lie, if union is not about finances, why is that the parent of the lady you want to marry will always want to know your occupation including the lady you want to marry. Beside, can you marry a bus conductor or can you allow your daughter to marry a bus conductor if truly what you said stands
I can see you have bad view on why marriage exist.
I can see you would prefer to sob in Lamborghini than to laugh in tricycle.
Proceed
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 10:31am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
no no no both military is not good for a lady
I have not stopped laughing. So gender equality dies once Military and Off-Shore gets involved? Una no do gender equality reach there? Ehn, fine girl.


Hahahhahahahahhah
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 10:34am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
I have not stopped laughing. So gender equality dies once Military and Off-Shore gets involved? Una no do gender equality reach there? Ehn, fine girl.


Hahahhahahahahhah
essential gender equality no reach that side abeg...

Don't go there please......... Hahaha hahaha hahaha
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 10:34am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
no no no the person is not stupid because after marriage one need to adjust some things .
I was going to come back to this. Willingness to adjust one's pre-marital lifestyle after marriage, depends on the person, and not on their Spouse. As for the Spouse, you know he or she was exactly like that before you chose to marry that person.

If they on their own decide to adjust, then fine.

But if not, you stick to it because you left others and chose him or her.
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 10:37am On Dec 11, 2025
For example, I don't smoke.

Now a lady leaves all the guys that do not smoke, claiming they are not her spec. She goes ahead to marry a guy who smokes. Then starts doing prayer and fasting after marriage for him to stop smoking.

Is that one religion or madness?
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by essentialone(m): 10:38am On Dec 11, 2025
Diamond098454:
essential gender equality no reach that side abeg...

Don't go there please......... Hahaha hahaha hahaha
I see. So ladies first, na for only when better dey front.

But if na war or risk dey front, una go run back so that the man can go and die. Ehn. E good like that?
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by nnamdi640: 10:40am On Dec 11, 2025
Tohsynetita1:
I can see you have bad view on why marriage exist.
I can see you would prefer to sob in Lamborghini than to laugh in tricycle.
Proceed
My brother, in this present situation we are as a country, marriage majorly is based on finance, most of the ladies we have now knows that, don't let you and I deceive ourselves, can you laugh inside tricycle with an empty stomach or can you laugh inside a tricycle when your children are sent back home for not paying their school fees completely. Nobody, I mean nobody including the so called pastor that preaches to you that God's time is the best will take you serious if you don't pay your tithe
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by Diamond098454(f): 11:09am On Dec 11, 2025
essentialone:
I see. So ladies first, na for only when better dey front.

But if na war or risk dey front, una go run back so that the man can go and die. Ehn. E good like that?
hahaha hahaha na so God made it to be.

Essential hope your babe is not in this forum because I don't want her to start seeing me as her rival.

I'm always careful with guys una babe no dey get joy
Re: Which Career Is Turn Off For A Serious Relationship? by RealityKings1: 11:11am On Dec 11, 2025
nnamdi640:
oing and don't think all teachers are thesame. Beside, you don't know who God Has planned for you to marry, again don't think that all those with big occupations are earning well or will make it big
God Is actually not interested in choosing for anybody who they'll marry. It's your responsibility.
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