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| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Kobojunkie: 9:06pm On Dec 13, 2025 |
Elock1:Have you suggested your doctor place you on a cheaper alternative, for instance? This could also mean fewer adverse side effects. 🥱🥱 2. And what personal reasons would you have to wish that you would wish to discontinue treatment for an illness that you know is detrimental to your quality of life? ![]() |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Elock1: 9:18pm On Dec 13, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Just see a doctor bro. He has all ur answers. |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by omo17(m): 12:03am On Dec 14, 2025 |
Elock1:Good to hear, how is the condition presently, have u overcome it. Pls I need to hear from. Thanks |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by ChybuzzDD(m): 4:48am On Dec 14, 2025 |
Diamond098454:You don see the type una go fit manipulate easily |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Elock1: 8:41am On Dec 14, 2025 |
omo17:1.you can't overcome it just like that. 2.im about a month+ with the dose so it's gradual 3. First 2 weeks was rugged via the effects (Sleepiness, headache and random pimples on my face) But I've adjusted .. I still have the pimples but it's less now 4. I have times I wake up so happy. U know that today is gonna be good (which I couldn't boast of b4) But some days can be so gloomy especially the first week. For now it's just that small small happiness. Although I am not socializing per say but I'm just happy in my soul (and I don't overthink how I look when going out) the wins are small for now but a win is a win...also consider it's just barely a month Yeah and I'm exercising daily too to help my mood 20 push up and 10 sit up can help then fruits too |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Diamond098454(f): 9:17am On Dec 14, 2025 |
ChybuzzDD:hahaha hahaha nawa for you ooooo |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by omo17(m): 9:37am On Dec 14, 2025 |
Elock1:Ohh... Thanks so much |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by omo17(m): 3:27pm On Dec 14, 2025*. Modified: 11:38am On Dec 15, 2025 |
Elock1:I also bought Zoloft sometimes Last yr although not on proscription but by my personal findings but I didn't use it after reading some of its side effects especially erectile dysfunction. I had to discard it |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Mineisgrace(f): 4:57pm On Dec 14, 2025 |
Just pray and fast against it and you will be inspired to live right and associate with confidence |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by lilsmart(m): 4:58pm On Dec 14, 2025 |
You go pray till kingdom come Mineisgrace: |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Kobojunkie: 7:09pm On Dec 14, 2025 |
omo17:DId you have low libido while on the drug, or was it just the possibility of that side effect that scared you off taking the medication? Did you at least try any of the other options? ![]() |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Kobojunkie: 7:10pm On Dec 14, 2025 |
lilsmart:You dey mind dem! ![]() |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Kobojunkie: 7:12pm On Dec 14, 2025 |
Mineisgrace:Did you know that the primary reason why your churches and mosques are filled to the brim has to do with mental illness, primarily generalized anxiety and panic disorder? Yes, most of your prayers — fights against the devil, spirits, enemies, etc.— are driven by underlying mental illness. ![]() Mentally sound individuals do not go around believing they are being chased or targetted by invisible enemies, spirits, demons, etc. ![]() |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by omo17(m): 9:56pm On Dec 14, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:I did not even use the drug not to talk of low libido I did not try anty other medication |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Kobojunkie: 9:59pm On Dec 14, 2025 |
omo17:And you did this because you believe you are better off handling your mental illness without medication? ![]() |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by omo17(m): 11:38am On Dec 15, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:I'm scared of the side effects |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Kobojunkie: 5:15pm On Dec 15, 2025*. Modified: 7:17pm On Dec 22, 2025 |
omo17:You are more scared of the side effects than what the harm the mental illness is causing your brain and your mind by remaining in their unchecked state 24 hours a day? Well, I was kind of like you until the toll the mental illness on my brain included mental loss, impact on Short term memory -- I eventually had to drop out of a masters program as I went from As to Fs almost overnight -- loss of language (aphasia), and impact on my motor skills(I began having seizures more regularly than before). That was when I said f-ck side effects and got myself on all the medications I could to get me working again. Turned out to be the best decision I ever made in my life. Those were the best days of my life, and they lasted approximately 5 years too. But because I waited so long to get on medical treatment for my conditions— apparently, I had at least 3 of them since I was a child — the medications could not prevent what eventually happened. My doctors told me of it, but I thought that since the medications were able to help me somewhat in my daily life, maybe they will oe resolve the crash to come. But, no! Anyways, after having to go through the eventual crash -- I lost my mind -- for what seemed approximately 8 years, I am partly back to the best version of me that I ever had— I never had it as good as this, even during my developmental years. If I had to do it all over again, I would go on medication beginning in my teen years when I was certain that I had a problem— I knew something was certainly wrong, but I lacked the confidence and the knowledge to know for certain what it was, partly because I grew up surrounded by a lot of noise and ignorance. What I learned from my experience is that it is essential to learn as much as one can of one's conditions to better make decisions for oneself. ![]() You say the side effects scare you, but did you also know that side effects are not guaranteed, and you can switch medications and doses to counter them? Did you also know that depending on your diagnosis, the side effect that may hit you may be more tolerable when compared to the possible disaster that may result from not treating the illness? 🥱🥱 |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by omo17(m): 9:23pm On Dec 15, 2025 |
[/quote]Those were the first best days of my life and it lasted approximately 5 years too. But because I waited so long to get on medical treatment for my conditions, the medications could not prevent what eventually happened. My doctors told me of it but I thought that since the medications were able to help me some in my daily life, maybe they will oe resolve the crash to come. But, no! Anyways, after having to go through the eventual crash -- I lost my mind -- for what seemed approximately 8 years, I am partly back to the best version of me that I ever had. If I had to do it all over again, I would choose to have gone one medications back in my teens than when I did. But I learned from my experience is that it is essential to learn as much as one can of ones conditions to better make decisions for oneself. undecided Pls can u make dis clearer.. I really want to learn from ur experience. Thanks Sir |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Kobojunkie: 12:59am On Dec 16, 2025 |
omo17:. Basically, the best decision I made was to get myself on medication when I did. I did not experience many of the side effects I had been afraid of. And the few that I did, I was able to manage using other medications provided to me by my psychiatrist. She did a very good job helping me manage my medications and my dosage — I had to switch out medication now and then for alternatives too. Overall, those were the best days I ever had in my entire life up until that point in time. (I should add that I had struggled with major depression, adhd, and anxiety along with a neurological disorder since childhood, but I feared, and ignorance kept me from getting treatment for any of it until well into my adult years.)🥱🥱 Don't let fear keep you from living the best life that is possible to you. 🥱🥱 |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by omo17(m): 7:02am On Dec 16, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Wow, u have booster my moral I have to act fast Thanks so much for your contributions. |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Kobojunkie: 7:11am On Dec 16, 2025 |
omo17:For the best experience: ➜ You need a good doctor(don't be afraid to find a new one if you meet an arsehole. ➜ You also need to be willing to do extensive research on your mental illness and medications for yourself, so you have full insight into decisions that are being made as far as your treatment. ➜ You also need to keep a daily journal so you can monitor your own progress, know what medications are working, when, and at what dosage you noticed the best effects ➜ You also should keep track of goals you are working on at any given time and track progress so you can discuss with your doctor if there is help to be had from tweaking your meds ➜ Consider eating better. I would recommend increasing your daily protein, fruit, and vegetable intake while cutting back a bit on the carbs. ➜ Another thing is to keep a sleep journal and also exercise at least 3 days a week to help build better stress management While I was on my meds, I commuted on a bicycle, and that helped me a great deal in the area of exercise and stress management. I was never a runner or a gymer, but biking was a great way for me to relieve stress in the morning and after work. It helped a whole lot. 🥱🥱 |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by omo17(m): 11:34am On Dec 16, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Thanks bro, dis ur contributions will really help |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Abcruz(m): 6:16pm On Dec 17, 2025*. Modified: 7:42pm On Dec 17, 2025 |
@VeryBoi I have social anxiety too and I'm fully aware of it. But I don't let it stop me from engaging in any important activity including attending classes in school. Even when I sometimes feel shy around people, if I have to be there I must be there and seated at the front. If I have a presentation to make I don't shy away from it. And when I finish speaking my colleagues always feel surprised. Some of my colleagues in school who noticed I'm always quiet and reserved and would want to intimidate me with words, I confront them immediately and let them know that doesn't sit with me... Some have noticed it and I do hear them whispering "he no dey like make person they oppress am oo." I'm small in stature, but I respect myself enough to speak up when I feel bullied by anybody and I also walk away from disrespectful people without a word if need be. You need to learn "Assertiveness" One thing that has been helping me to cope and I believe can also help you too is gradual exposure to people and places you're scared of and not to overthink things. Except you're a celebrity people aren't concerned about your shortcomings as much as you think they do.. they're also dealing with their own inner struggles so just live life as a free bird cos life is too short to be scared of being human. |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Oldhead: 2:38pm On Dec 22, 2025 |
Elock1:You’re right . Just yesterday I attended a family member’s naming ceremony, the thing is my own anxiety dosent just start immediately , it starts when I stay longer. In the first two hours , I’m good. When I decide to take my leave, these same family members who have witness subsequent panic episodes of mine will insist that I stay, that I’m too proud blah blah , why I’m I leaving when everyone is gathered. If only they knew all the strength I had to gather to even be there, they wouldn’t judge me so much. Because they are the only ones that could really bring me out of my house , I don’t have any friends that could invite me anywhere. And not a month or two goes by that a family member won’t have anything to celebrate. My life is quite similar with yours , though I work , but I had sacrifice a higher pay department because of the crowd in that department , and go for a department with lesser pay where we are just 5 in numbers. Even at that , it’s still hell for me. All I do is go to work and return home , neighbors don’t get it , like you , they think I’m proud , aloof , although I exchange pleasantries, but obviously, it’s not enough. They want something I can’t give. And I can identify with all the symptoms you listed. |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Oldhead: 2:43pm On Dec 22, 2025 |
Winterhaven:Exactly bro , it’s not a confidence issue , it’s an illness . Even people who have witness me in my element when interacting one on one or interacting in a group of 5 , still judge when I can’t keep my shit together in a crowd , we don’t take stuff like this serious in these parts. I don’t even know where I can see a support group in this Lagos or where I can seek help, are there even any? |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Abcruz(m): 3:24pm On Dec 22, 2025 |
Oldhead:I'll advice you to visit a psychiatrist. It's something that can be resolved especially in it's early phase. |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Winterhaven(m): 3:33pm On Dec 22, 2025 |
Oldhead:You can use Google to look for medical institutions in Nigeria that treat SAD. For now, I don't know of any. |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Oldhead: 3:37pm On Dec 22, 2025 |
Winterhaven:Alright man |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Oldhead: 3:38pm On Dec 22, 2025 |
Abcruz:Okay, I’ll try to locate one. Thanks |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by Elock1: 5:56pm On Dec 22, 2025 |
Oldhead:Stay strong my dear...you are not alone I used to work though until I cast one kin cast way I cast for work ehn cause of anxiety.. LoL 😂 I had to jejely sack myself Coz omo to be coming to the same place everyday I couldn't just bear it Funny thing is it the panic and stuffs happens without warning Currently I'm learning coding and system related skills, My close friend circle that was about 3 has drastically reduced to only one person. Sometimes I wish there was a Whatsapp group were people with same issues could just hang out and make friends with people that understand, dunno if there is any Again stay strong my dear |
| Re: My Life-long Struggle With Social Anxiety by ThaThinka: 7:11pm On Dec 22, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Wow, this is a different part of you I was no longer used to! I thought you used to make helpful posts in the past until I started to see you as a troublemaker in recent years. But I have to admit you surprised me with this helpful, personal post.Oya, come collect kiss. ![]() |
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But I have to admit you surprised me with this helpful, personal post.