₦airaland Forum

Mariangeles:
Chekwube, onye asiri!

Who returns "pride prize" after the husband is deceased?

Yes, bride price is returned. If not, you are still married to the late husbands family.

Ours was returned and rejected for lack of respect for the family and the father of her children.

Note: we were never against her remarrying. No. But, at least, complete the one year morning period and then move on.

SixSeven:
Looks like a kid wrote this. Even with that, being buried 6 months ago does not mean he died 6 months ago.

Burial is the real confirmation of death. I could remember vividly how elders would refer to a corpse in the mortuary as "someone still in the hospital". I asked my uncle why and he told me that "a person remains alive until buried". This is the more reason why one's burial rite is conducted after fifty years of disappearance.

I am okay with her decision, as long as she does not have a hand in the kpai of her late husband

Orlandoo:
Made up stories just to get unmerited attention.

What's so new and unheard of in this story to you? Bro I too know

McBishop2020:
Yes, bride price is returned. If not, you are still married to the late husbands family.

Ours was returned and rejected for lack of respect for the family and the father of her children.

Note: we were never against her remarrying. No. But, at least, complete the one year morning period and then move on.

Only a man [husband] has the right to accept back the bride price of the woman[wife] he married.

emkz:
So the woman should put her life on hold because her husband died?

Who made such rules?

If she chooses not to remarry, she has the right to do so; if she chooses to remarry, she also has the right to do so.

Anyone bothered by her decision should explain how it disturbs him.

Let each person live the way he or she has decided. She is not accountable to you but her husband who is no longer bothered by such things.

No. But why the need to rush? Where she dey rush to? Six months is still within the grieving period for your husband (or wife) that you had three grown up kids for and left you and and your kids substantial amount of wealth.
What happened to you guys conscience? This world is really messed up, walahi

But didn't late governor Akeredolu of ondo state wife remarry his younger brother after 3 months of her husband demise and heaven didn't fall? or was akeredolu too not wealthy and all his kids grown up?

If it's the man he won't even wait for 2 weeks before he starts nacking another woman in my town here a man whom his first wife died not even up to a week and 4 days he had already started pressurizing my friend to sleep with him this was a man that still had 2 other wives I knew then o that's apart from the ones I didn't know!

Mariangeles:
Chekwube, onye asiri!

Who returns "pride prize" after the husband is deceased?

Well said 👏 👍🤣

Orlandoo:
Made up stories just to get unmerited attention.

This made up story is what is going on around the world. Wait until e happen to you, then you go know say even the made up stories dy happen live.

Kobojunkie:
if it has been the other way around, I bet this same gumba would have had only praises for his boss for quickly finding his feet after the of his wife.🥱🥱🥱

No mind them.
"Nature is truly unfair to men"
Can you believe someone actually said that!
Nature that gave men FREEDOM, the most cherished of things. While women are tied down with pregnancy, painful childbirth, nursing, monthly bleeding and PMS that goes with it, etc. Yet Nature is so unfair to men!

Mariangeles:
Only a man [husband] has the right to return the bride price of the woman[wife] he married.

Are you serious?
Pride price is now dowry,
Pride price is paid by the groom's family and is returned by the pride's family if the marriage is to discontinued.

Dowry is not returned to the pride's family at all. Probably in your culture, the reverse is the case and that's fine.

Orlandoo:
Made up stories just to get unmerited attention.

Nothing is ever real to you children of these days..

FreeSpirited:
But do you know that 80-90% of women will remarry in less than one year especially if their husband left considerable amount of wealth? Do your research and find out. It's so because the wealth will allow them to do and make any decision without consequence. Especially if the children are young. Older children can still caution or fight their mother if she tries nonsense, but younger children, most of the women will marry in 6month- one year

Bit men will remarry while the wife is still alive!😅🤣

QuinQ:
Bit men will remarry while the wife is still alive!😅🤣

You get us

But we won't bring you bastard child to train why ur alive

Chilipepper:
Man criticizes his late former boss's wife for getting married to another man months after his burial

There is nothing wrong if she decides to remarry after 6 months.

Islam permits her to remarry after a waiting period of 4 months.

Her life must continue. Same goes for the hubby 8f she is to die too.

All the attendance noise is just for sentiments and emotions.

Or would you rather have her to be climbed by all and sundry?

Mariangeles:
Only a man [husband] has the right to return the bride price of the woman[wife] he married.

McBishop2020:
Are you serious?
Pride price is now dowry,
Pride price is paid by the groom's family and is returned by the pride's family if the marriage is to discontinued.

Dowry is not returned to the pride's family at all. Probably in your culture, the reverse is the case and that's fine.

He made a mistake. How can husband return something he paid??😅

FreeSpirited:
You get us

But we won't bring you bastard child to train why ur alive

Why not?
See below

McBishop2020:
Burial is the real confirmation of death. I could remember vividly how elders would refer to a corpse in the mortuary as "someone still in the hospital". I asked my uncle why and he told me that "a person remains alive until buried". This is the more reason why one's burial rite is conducted after fifty years of disappearance.

Wise words but what I meant is that burial is a ritual, death is an event. Except he's Muslim, it's possible the man died a year ago and got buried 6 months ago

McBishop2020:
Are you serious?
Pride price is now dowry,
Pride price is paid by the groom's family and is returned by the pride's family if the marriage is to discontinued.

Dowry is not returned to the pride's family at all. Probably in your culture, the reverse is the case and that's fine.

I meant that only the man has the right to ask that the bride price of the woman he married be returned, and only a man has the right to accept back the bride price he paid.
Meaning, only he can give the go ahead.

Waiting come concern you bro you better go find another boss and live peacefully

I taya o...death has done them part...so no case here....sadly as it may seem to some but no sentiments.

They were prolly just cohabiting in te house before the demise.

Mariangeles:
Chekwube, onye asiri!

Who returns "pride prize" after the husband is deceased?

Kobojunkie:
if it has been the other way around, I bet this same gumba would have had only praises for his boss for quickly finding his feet after the of his wife.🥱🥱🥱

Stop this lies

grandstar:
✓ You made a point.
But the truth is that either way, there should be some reasonable time before moving on. It shows, if not love or appreciation, some decency and respect.
✓ What I'm saying, even if it was a loveless marriage, like many are today, don't brazenly move on too quickly after a demise.

1. You mean the same respect that many men have denied women for the longest, and society has been all too accepting of?🥱🥱🥱

2. Seems more like you are not placing on women expectations that society has rarely ever imposed on men for no reason. The way I see it, so long as the woman is not criminally responsible for the death, she should be free to move on as soon as she can. 🥱🥱🥱

Enough of the useless traditions that burden women and never the men. 🥱🥱🥱

CodeTemplarr:
✓ I underatand that demons or evilspirits are hybrid of women and rebellious angels so understand you anger with men.

Your own level of mental issues .... Na only psychiatrist fit deal with am.🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Your own level of mental issues .... Na only psychiatrist fit deal with am.🥱🥱🥱

lol

Orlandoo:
Made up stories just to get unmerited attention.

If you like don't take care of yourself e concern you.

Whether it's a credible story or not, I got the message, the message was clear to all wise men, not boys.

And what's wrong with her remarrying after 6 months?

Some are real. I was in a space where a guy in UK talked about how he did DNA test, found out their child wasnt his, confronted the wife before leaving for work. Upon returning, he was arrested by the police and that his wife called them that he raped her. That she only consented to sex but not ejaculation inside her which is false and outrageous.

Even Nigeria film cannot anticipate this type of craze. What saved him was that the wife did not mention the DNA test to the police and the fact that he confronted her that morning. Really crazy

pocohantas:
Twitter alpha males work overtime.
I wonder the prompt they give Chatgpt to generate these stories. Either their FRIEND did DNA and the child wasn't his.

Their FRIEND took his wife to America and in 1yr she chased him out and took over their mansion sitting on 4000 hectares of land.

Their CLIENT divorced her husband and now she is the 3rd sidechick of a polygamous man.

😂😂😂😂

Kobojunkie:
1. You mean the same respect that many men have denied women for the longest and society has been all too accepting of?🥱🥱🥱

2. Seems more like you are not placing on women expectations that society has rarely ever imposed on men for no reason. The way I see it, so long as the woman is not criminally responsible for the death, she should be free to move on as soon as she can. 🥱🥱🥱

Enough of the useless traditions that burden women and never the men. 🥱🥱🥱

I still stand by what I said that only decent for both can move but should not be too soon.

I am 100% for women remarrying after marriage. It is also scriptural.

Chilipepper:
Man criticizes his late former boss's wife for getting married to another man months after his burial

I only need the last sentence. Got that. Thanks

grandstar:
➜I still stand by what I said that only decent for both can move but should not be too soon.
I am 100% for women remarrying after marriage. It is also scriptural.

Respect is earned, not given! Women like men are free to move on in any way they desire at any time they are ready to.

Juoflife1:
And what's wrong with her remarrying after 6 months?

Even if she wants to remarry the day of the burial, there is no law against that, too. The same way men can do that, and even worse, is the same way women can.