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Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Eagleways: 10:29pm On Dec 21, 2025
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budaatum:
I can't really understand why you'd want to mount me when I'm not pleased with you.

If you loved and respected me as you should, I'd want to mount you myself. But I guess you don't love nor respect me and just want to satisfy your urge despite my displeasure with you.

My advice? Use your hands!
just satisfy his or her urge and save us your wicked manipulative logics. If you respect him yourself, you should know that his urge in marriage is his right
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by omooba969(m): 10:32pm On Dec 21, 2025
budaatum:
I can't really understand why you'd want to mount me when I'm not pleased with you.

If you loved and respected me as you should, I'd want to mount you myself. But I guess you don't love nor respect me and just want to satisfy your urge despite my displeasure with you.

My advice? Use your hands!

Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by omooba969(m): 10:35pm On Dec 21, 2025
Jman06:
Sometimes I wonder how people enjoy sex without the full consent and participation of their partners. Before making love to your wives, guys, learn how to put her in the mood first. This may require prepping her psychologically by being more romantic prior and during the period
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Why can't she prepare the man psychologically as well, by being more romantic. This is her matrimonial role...c'mmon na! 😡
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by mayor1814: 10:41pm On Dec 21, 2025
This issue is very sensitive. A woman can madly in love with u but sexually not energetic... She might try to keep up for some months or years but after sometimes it will be clear to all that the man is ten times sexually more energetic than her ... Then wen that happens the man and woman might find it hard to understand each other


Especially some women who have undergone miscarriage; surgical operations due to child birth; etc


But in this life some people are just fortunate to meet partners they are in sync with sexually and they keep enjoying each other day in day out... Week in week out... With the bed shaking rigorously every night... Life is deep mehn
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Kobojunkie: 10:46pm On Dec 21, 2025
Eagleways:
➜By just satisfy his or her urge and save us your wicked manipulative logics.
➜If you respect him yourself, you should know that his urge in marriage is his right
. Why should she, particularly if she is not happy in the relationship, as the other commentator suggested? The manipulation here is the expectation that the man should have his urges satisfied even when he is clearly not reciprocating the energy she has been pouring into the relationship. Even the prostitutes that the man probably runs off to on the side get so much more out of their encounters with him than the wife, so what incentive does she have to give her body to him? 🥱🥱

2. Respect in marriage is meant to be both ways, not one way, even in your marriage. So, why insist it is OK when the man does not respect his wife, but expects her to respect him regardless? 🥱🥱🥱
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by MrCamron(m): 11:13pm On Dec 21, 2025
Dpsychologist:
Let’s stop dancing around uncomfortable truths.

Marriage is a partnership, not a power game.
And when one partner .,.........

#Marriage #EmotionalIntelligence #HealthyPartnerships #ConflictResolution #Adulting
Hmmm...
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Amaggedon: 11:37pm On Dec 21, 2025
budaatum:
I can't really understand why you'd want to mount me when I'm not pleased with you.

If you loved and respected me as you should, I'd want to mount you myself. But I guess you don't love nor respect me and just want to satisfy your urge despite my displeasure with you.

My advice? Use your hands!
This only happens when women gets married because of their selfish gain.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Kobojunkie: 11:43pm On Dec 21, 2025
Amaggedon:
This only happens when women gets married because of their selfish gain.
A man who marries a woman to have his sexual needs met, among other things, also does so for selfish purposes. 🥱🥱🥱

There is literally nothing wrong with people being selfish —no one else can love you better than you can love yourself, after all. Saying someone is selfish is not an insult but a possible sign the person knows how to center themselves and not others. What is more of an insult, particularly in a relationship, is when one partner is guilty of failing in the area of reciprocity. 🥱🥱
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Amaggedon: 11:47pm On Dec 21, 2025
Kobojunkie:
A man who marries a woman to have his sexual needs met, among other things, also does so for selfish purposes. 🥱🥱🥱

There is literally nothing wrong with people being selfish —no one else can love you better than you can love yourself, after all. Saying someone is selfish is not an insult but a possible sign the person knows how to center themselves and not others. What is more of an insult, particularly in a relationship, is when one partner is guilty of failing in the area of reciprocity. 🥱🥱
So why would you marry to a man knowing its for his sexual satisfaction, then went ahead to deny him the benefits of the marriage?
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Kobojunkie: 11:52pm On Dec 21, 2025
Amaggedon:
➜So why would you marry to a man knowing its for his sexual satisfaction, then went ahead to deny him the benefits of the marriage?
Marriage does not automagically guarantee you access to your spouse's body or grant you the right to sexual satisfaction. Whoever told you that it does lied to you. To this day, there is no legal statement that removes a woman's bodily autonomy in marriage, meaning explicit consent is needed before you can have sex with your woman. Similar to how you have to pay to access a sex worker's body, you also have to pay your dues in marriage — make your wife happy enough to want you to have her body. 🥱🥱

Of course, if you are not willing to do the work required to make her happy enough to give it up to you, you can always divorce her and seek your sexual satisfaction through sex workers, if that equation makes it easier for you to reason. 🥱🥱🥱
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Amaggedon: 12:06am On Dec 22, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Marriage does not automagically guarantee you access to your spouse's body or grant you the right to sexual satisfaction. Whoever told you that it does lied to you. To this day, there is no legal statement that removes a woman's bodily autonomy in marriage, meaning explicit consent is needed before you can have sex with your woman. Similar to how you have to pay to access a sex worker's body, you also have to pay your dues in marriage — make your wife happy enough to want you to have her body. 🥱🥱

Of course, if you are not willing to do the work required to make her happy enough to give it up to you, you can always divorce her and seek your sexual satisfaction through sex workers, if that equation makes it easier for you to reason. 🥱🥱🥱
Marriage grants you right to sexual satisfaction, traditionally, legally, religiously, morally. I dont know the opinion you trying so hard to shape here.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Kobojunkie: 12:09am On Dec 22, 2025
Amaggedon:
➜Marriage grants you right to sexual satisfaction, traditionally, legally, religiously, morally.
➜ I dont know the opinion you trying so hard to shape here.
Where is this right that you claim documented? I would very much like for you to provide us with the documentation of this right, which you claim that marriage grants you. 🤔🤔🤔

Simply provide us with a reference or image of the documentation of this right, which you say marriage grants to you. 🤔🤔
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Newyorkitis(m): 12:12am On Dec 22, 2025
Jman06:
Sometimes I wonder how people enjoy sex without the full consent and participation of their partners. Before making love to your wives, guys, learn how to put her in the mood first. This may require prepping her psychologically by being more romantic prior and during the period
What you are saying is in another context.
The context of this write-up is clear. Do not withhold sex from your partner. I know you might not agree with what is written in the Holy Bible if you are not a Christian.
In the Bible it is explicitly stated that once you are married, you no longer own your body. Your body belongs to your partner and it applies to both genders.
The only exception to this rule is if the husband and wife agree that they should abstain from sex if they are observing something like a spiritual fast. Which means sometimes you may not be in the mood, but your partner is in the mood. Thus, out of love for your partner you will then engage in the sexual activity Christian marriage, so Christian rules should be used as well)

This is different in the law when you have a court wedding. In this case, consent is important for sexual activity to take place.
That is why for me, I believe most men run away from court marriage and it'll not be logical to use the law of the court or solve the problems that occurs in a Christian marriage.
Aside religion, women can easily find frivolous excuses not to have sex and therapist are now letting married couples know that there are some challenges in the house that sex can solve between a husband and wife because it brings them close instead of the popular opinion that they should not have sex, until they settle some challenges in the family.
Sex can solve problems without even having a discussion.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Amaggedon: 12:19am On Dec 22, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Where is this right that you claim documented? I would very much like for you to provide us with the documentation of this right, which you claim that marriage grants you. 🤔🤔🤔

Simply provide us with a reference or image of the documentation of this right, which you say marriage grants to you. 🤔🤔
Those that collected the bride price and gave out the lists for marriage rites owe you the obligations to explain the unwriten laws of marriage. If you dont want you body to be owned by your husband or wife stay out of marriage a freely share it with anybody you want. Peace
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Amaggedon: 12:39am On Dec 22, 2025
Context is very important while making reference to such law. Rest please leave marriage for those willing to get married ,its not for everybody.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Kobojunkie: 1:20am On Dec 22, 2025
Amaggedon:
Context is very important while making reference to such law. Rest please leave marriage for those willing to get married ,its not for everybody.
I laugh! I see you don't know where your right to marriage also comes from. 🥱

Again, I am waiting for you to provide us with the details of where this right to ownership of the body of the woman you marry(you own her as a slavemaster owns a slave after paying bride price) is documented. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Gunayo(m): 5:48am On Dec 22, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Marriage does not automagically guarantee you access to your spouse's body or grant you the right to sexual satisfaction. Whoever told you that it does lied to you. To this day, there is no legal statement that removes a woman's bodily autonomy in marriage, meaning explicit consent is needed before you can have sex with your woman. Similar to how you have to pay to access a sex worker's body, you also have to pay your dues in marriage — make your wife happy enough to want you to have her body. 🥱🥱

Of course, if you are not willing to do the work required to make her happy enough to give it up to you, you can always divorce her and seek your sexual satisfaction through sex workers, if that equation makes it easier for you to reason. 🥱🥱🥱
Hope you are not married? I pity your husband if you are married. He must be passing through hell.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Kobojunkie: 6:05am On Dec 22, 2025
Gunayo:
Hope you are not married? I pity your husband if you are married. He must be passing through hell.
Provide us here with the documentation of the law that guarantees you see from your woman in marriage without need for consent from your wife. That is what I am waiting to read from you lot who think in your tiny brains of your marriages are literal slave licenses. 🥱🥱🥱

Grown-arsed men comned by way of lies into marriage, crying foul after realizing marriage is not a license to treat their wives like slaves I don't know which is more pathetic --- the ones who lied to you alll of you who believed the lies sold you all by fraudsters. 🥱🥱🥱
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Hhh4444: 6:12am On Dec 22, 2025
Gunayo:
Hope you are not married? I pity your husband if you are married. He must be passing through hell.
No be small hell...if kobojunkie is the only woman in this world,I would rather be single.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Dtruthspeaker: 6:14am On Dec 22, 2025
joseph1832:
so the only reason why you'd want your husband to mount you, is when you're please with him? And if he refuse to do what he is suppose to do, as a man, because he is not please with you, what will be your response?

respect and love in whatever form is mutually exclusive and it's not only mutually exclusive to the woman.

I honestly don't know how much dildos_ cost.
He's a man ooo. I cannot understand the mind it takes for a man to speak as though he is a woman
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Dtruthspeaker: 6:15am On Dec 22, 2025
Hhh4444:
No be small hell...if kobojunkie is the only woman in this world,I would rather be single.
He is a man ooo both him and bubatom
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Dtruthspeaker: 6:27am On Dec 22, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Marriage does not automagically guarantee you access to your spouse's body or grant you the right to sexual satisfaction. Whoever told you that it does lied to you. To this day, there is no legal statement that removes a woman's bodily autonomy in marriage, meaning explicit consent is needed before you can have sex with your woman....
Keep your oyibo head in oyibo land don't bring there crase here for in Africa, Marriage means sex and full automatic bodily access and sexual satisfaction to the line where rape commences.

No sex, no marriage! E.o.story
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Teymanhenry(f): 7:23am On Dec 22, 2025
budaatum:
I can't really understand why you'd want to mount me when I'm not pleased with you.

If you loved and respected me as you should, I'd want to mount you myself. But I guess you don't love nor respect me and just want to satisfy your urge despite my displeasure with you.

My advice? Use your hands!
You'll understand when he goes out to mount another woman. You can only use that against a broken husband... You are not happy with him and will allow him to mount you but will collect money when he hands it over to you right?
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by AZControversial: 8:16am On Dec 22, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Marriage does not automagically guarantee you access to your spouse's body or grant you the right to sexual satisfaction. Whoever told you that it does lied to you. To this day, there is no legal statement that removes a woman's bodily autonomy in marriage, meaning explicit consent is needed before you can have sex with your woman. Similar to how you have to pay to access a sex worker's body, you also have to pay your dues in marriage — make your wife happy enough to want you to have her body. 🥱🥱

Of course, if you are not willing to do the work required to make her happy enough to give it up to you, you can always divorce her and seek your sexual satisfaction through sex workers, if that equation makes it easier for you to reason. 🥱🥱🥱
So, I'm only marrying her to be a household item in my home.....abi.
After fulfilling every marital rite, I'll still need to seek her permission?
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by harbbey000: 8:20am On Dec 22, 2025
The truth of the matter is that man in marriage suffer lack of sex than single out there so either you please her or not woman will use sex to have power over you [b][/b][color=#000099][/color]
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Hismajesty44: 8:27am On Dec 22, 2025
Jman06:
Sometimes I wonder how people enjoy sex without the full consent and participation of their partners. Before making love to your wives, guys, learn how to put her in the mood first. This may require prepping her psychologically by being more romantic prior and during the period
You no dey tire for daily moody ritual? Better turn her to deity wey you go dey worship. Don't allow any manipulative woman destroy your peace of mind.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by dahunsi12(m): 9:07am On Dec 22, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Marriage does not automagically guarantee you access to your spouse's body or grant you the right to sexual satisfaction. Whoever told you that it does lied to you. To this day, there is no legal statement that removes a woman's bodily autonomy in marriage, meaning explicit consent is needed before you can have sex with your woman. Similar to how you have to pay to access a sex worker's body, you also have to pay your dues in marriage — make your wife happy enough to want you to have her body. 🥱🥱

Of course, if you are not willing to do the work required to make her happy enough to give it up to you, you can always divorce her and seek your sexual satisfaction through sex workers, if that equation makes it easier for you to reason. 🥱🥱🥱
Each time I go through your comments on a matter like this I always pity your husband if you have any and I pity your future son-inlaw because you might end up passing this wickedness of yours to your daughter(s)
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by dahunsi12(m): 9:09am On Dec 22, 2025
AZControversial:
So, I'm only marrying her to be a household item in my home.....abi.
After fulfilling every marital rite, I'll still need to seek her permission?
You dey mind that wicked-being?

After providing food, shelter, children schools, buy them clothes, send money to their parents etc they will still deny you intimacy and if their husband wish to go to the street they will still call their husband names. Most married women are just too wicked.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Winterhaven(m): 9:25am On Dec 22, 2025
budaatum:
I can't really understand why you'd want to mount me when I'm not pleased with you.

If you loved and respected me as you should, I'd want to mount you myself. But I guess you don't love nor respect me and just want to satisfy your urge despite my displeasure with you.

My advice? Use your hands!
You probably didn't read the full article, you must have read only the heading
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Diamond098454(f): 9:32am On Dec 22, 2025
femi4:
You can't give what you don't have

A man without money can't be accused of withholding money

Likewise a prick that refuse to rise cant be accused of withholding sex
You have said it all


FEMI
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Silentgroper(m): 9:32am On Dec 22, 2025
joseph1832:
Actually they do. If they don't, they won't set it at all, whether they like the man or not.

It is more of the case of making it very difficult for the man they don't like, that's why they set standard for them.
For a man she likes the rules holds no water
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