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Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 11:07am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
When it comes to your spouse, enjoying sex is something very dicey. As your sexual appetite might differ from his/hers.

A married friend of mine, once told me she cringe with the way married men now crave anal_ sex. Now such appetite can only or should I say, might only be satisfied with side chics_ and hoes_ etc.

People marry according to societal expectations. And many married women are very shy and timid about their sexual appetite. They think it makes them look like hoes_ to their husbands. You can ask your female married friends, even the ones here, how many times they've ever initiated sex with their husbands. Their answer will shock you.

Many women/men are unhappy in their marriage. Don't let them fool you. Ones unhappiness shouldn't deprive the other of their wet desires....
Ah na wa. I think there should be some form of compromise in that area, I think.

Hmmm if the married men are craving for anāl sêx, the ideal thing to do is for them to unleash their fantasies on their spouses but again, people marry for various reasons quite alright but it is foolhardy to marry due to societal expectations and then cheat on your partner.

In all honesty, Men are the cause of this problem. If you like having sex so much, you're better off with someone who aligns with you on that instead of stringing along an innocent woman who has a low libido and expecting her to do prisoner style sex position or other forms of extreme positions. The solution is simple: Marry a sexually expressive woman that shares same value with you.

I have a few married women I talk to, friends and colleagues alike. I was talking with one recently and she told me she would speak to me later as she's going to do one or two, we both laughed heartily to it.

Again, there are women these days that are now really sexually expressive about what they want. I'd take my circle of friends as an example. My friend cancelled an engagement with a man after careful thinking, we asked her what's up and she said he didn't satisfy her and it was a big problem she can't allow to slide.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 11:10am On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
Worrying is insufficient. Women need to organise and educate and protect each from pigs.
Yes indeed, we actually need to protect ourselves from folks like that. It's quite terrible, Buda.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Teymanhenry(f): 11:10am On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
First, I have not got any dirty linen. And second, only weak people expect "all the responses to be positive", since not everyone has an equal ability to comprehend what they read, like you for instance, who thinks expressing ones view on a Nairaland topic is bringing ones dirty linen to social media, and gives you the right to insult one's trainers, which just shows your own non-training.
Your response says it all.... 😂 Merry. Christmas in advance
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 11:12am On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
Well, you are making it very easy to be ignored since I don't generally entertain boys who resort to insults because their egos have been bruised.
Temper Temper. Party pooper. No cake for you. Lmao.
budaatum:
What a shameful juvenile immature thought, though its noted you did not limit it to girls, though I bet you are implying girls.
Amongst the magnificent things I said in that awesome post, that is only what you can pick, no? grin
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 11:20am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
Ah na wa. I think there should be some form of compromise in that area, I think.

Hmmm if the married men are craving for anāl sêx, the ideal thing to do is for them to unleash their fantasies on their spouses but again, people marry for various reasons quite alright but it is foolhardy to marry due to societal expectations and then cheat on your partner.

In all honesty, Men are the cause of this problem. If you like having sex so much, you're better off with someone who aligns with you on that instead of stringing along an innocent woman who has a low libido and expecting her to do prisoner style sex position or other forms of extreme positions. The solution is simple: Marry a sexually expressive woman that shares same value with you.

I have a few married women I talk to, friends and colleagues alike. I was talking with one recently and she told me she would speak to me later as she's going to do one or two, we both laughed heartily to it.

Again, there are women these days that are now really sexually expressive about what they want. I'd take my circle of friends as an example. My friend cancelled an engagement with a man after careful thinking, we asked her what's up and she said he didn't satisfy her and it was a big problem she can't allow to slide.
1. Did she inform him, before she canceled him?

2. That should tell you a thing or two.

3. I can equally blame women, who don't reveal their naughtiness when dating a man, all in the name of "he will see me as a how".

4. How will you react if your spouse ask you for anal_ sex?
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by GloriousGbola: 11:29am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
1. Did she inform him, before she canceled him?

2. That should tell you a thing or two.

3. I can equally blame women, who don't reveal their naughtiness when dating a man, all in the name of "he will see me as a how".

4. How will you react if your spouse ask you for anal_ sex?
I think anal sex is a bridge too far [inspired by porn clips of women with washed and bleached orifices who are very eager] but yes a lot of women and men ARE sexually conservative and get more so after they get married
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 11:33am On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
1. Did she inform him, before she canceled him?

2. That should tell you a thing or two.

3. I can equally blame women, who don't reveal their naughtiness when dating a man, all in the name of "he will see me as a how".

4. How will you react if your spouse ask you for anal_ sex?
1. Inform who? I thought your married friend was talking about married men in general.

2. Lol tell your fellow men to go after women that are best suited for them.

3. Oh yes, I blame women who don't show their true self in the dating stage.

4. I don't know Joe, I'm not married yet but never say never.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 11:37am On Dec 23, 2025
GloriousGbola:
I think anal sex is a bridge too far [inspired by porn clips of women with washed and bleached orifices who are very eager] but yes a lot of women and men ARE sexually conservative and get more so after they get married
Thank you G.G

Some men want anál sex based on what they see from porn.

Interesting take but I'm also of the opinion that people are exploring these days and anál sex tops the charts.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by GloriousGbola: 11:46am On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
Thank you G.G

Some men want anál sex based on what they see from porn.

Interesting take but I'm also of the opinion that people are exploring these days and anál sex tops the charts.
porn makes it look straightforward when it actually requires a lot of prep
example porn stars actually bleach and evacuate their a**s first

what will your reaction be as a man be looking into a standard poopy a**s

and the same goes for oral. there is a joke about eating pineapple which making c*m taste easier to swallow

sidechicks are usually much more ready to knack because unlike wives, they are not burdened by marriage issues /baggage and are as willing as the wives were when they were gfs.

there is also the for want of a better word - i don born pikin attitude of naija women which translates to - i am a secure mrs now - no more need to put up a show for an ordeal i am not interested in
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 11:57am On Dec 23, 2025
GloriousGbola:
porn makes it look straightforward when it actually requires a lot of prep
example porn stars actually bleach and evacuate their a**s first

what will your reaction be as a man be looking into a standard poopy a**s

and the same goes for oral. there is a joke about eating pineapple which making c*m taste easier to swallow

sidechicks are usually much more ready to knack because unlike wives, they are not burdened by marriage issues /baggage and are as willing as the wives were when they were gfs.

there is also the for want of a better word - i don born pikin attitude of naija women which translates to - i am a secure mrs now - no more need to put up a show for an ordeal i am not interested in
Oh damnnn! I never knew those actors bleach their asses before showdown. What I was told about anál is that it's quite painful and you'd need lots and lots of lubricants.

As for the oral, I'm aware that women take pineapple, cranberry juice to taste better down there. Never knew men ate pineapples for tasty cum. cheesy

True that. Sidechicks lifestyle always look glamorous because they're not burdened with marriage wahala.

Loool. I think that's a general problem where some women resign to fate after childbirth. Well, it depends on the women cos some get their mojo back and continue their spicy sexual life.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 12:15pm On Dec 23, 2025
Teymanhenry:
Your response says it all.... 😂 Merry. Christmas in advance
Merry Christmas to you too.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 12:27pm On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
Temper Temper. Party pooper. No cake for you. Lmao.
I don't want cake from you because I can make my own better cake. Just stop with the unnecessary insults please or go on my ignored list and enjoy your own cake.

I'm saying the above because I do not want you to deprive me of the content of your mind that I have faith you might develop and possess, please.

joseph1832:
Amongst the magnificent things I said in that awesome post, that is only what you can pick, no? grin
You can't put "magnificent things" next to stupid juvenile things, because it's pretty much like putting new wines in old skins.

And to be honest, a poet ought to know the consequences of such a needless faux pax!
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 1:20pm On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
I don't want cake from you because I can make my own better cake. Just stop with the unnecessary insults please or go on my ignored list and enjoy your own cake.
unnecessary insults? Now first off, how do you know your own cake is better than mine, like you've ever tasted mine.

I'm saying the above because I do not want you to deprive me of the content of your mind that I have faith you might develop and possess, please.
that's exactly my intent. To deprive you of my mind because I wonder how you can jump to conclusions and just conclude a possess one, albeit a healthy one. Know what they say about assumption, I'll tell you what Pen in Undersiege 2: Dark Territory thought "it is the mother of all fvck-ups_".


You can't put "magnificent things" next to stupid juvenile things, because it's pretty much like putting new wines in old skins.
Now this is all you trying to state and define things according to how you see and view them. Little did you forget, the world doesn't revolve around you. It never have, it never will.

And to be honest, a poet ought to know the consequences of such a needless faux pax!
You can't take subtle jabs at me using euphemism, thinking I won't notice.

Judging how you almost threw your skirt up, when I took a slight jab at you, I'd say you really do think the world revolve around you. I'm here to show you it's not. It's why I said earlier, you're unbearably naive.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 1:29pm On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
1. Inform who? I thought your married friend was talking about married men in general.

2. Lol tell your fellow men to go after women that are best suited for them.

3. Oh yes, I blame women who don't show their true self in the dating stage.

4. I don't know Joe, I'm not married yet but never say never.
Now. Lemme rephrase. How will you feel/react if your boyfriend ask you for anal_ sex?
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 1:32pm On Dec 23, 2025
GloriousGbola:
I think anal sex is a bridge too far [inspired by porn clips of women with washed and bleached orifices who are very eager] but yes a lot of women and men ARE sexually conservative and get more so after they get married
I hear those who engage in it say, the hole is tighter, and haven't really been ravaged by too many dicks_ 🤦
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 1:34pm On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
that's exactly my intent. To deprive you of my mind because I wonder how you can jump to conclusions and just conclude a possess one,...
I too wonder why I am jumping to the conclusion that you have a mind or know how to use one. But I guess it's the faith I choose to have in you despite all the contrary evidence.

buda stands very corrected, and henceforth reserves for now whatever faith buda had in you until you give buda reason for its restoration.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by folake4u: 1:39pm On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
Now. Lemme rephrase. How will you feel/react if your boyfriend ask you for anal_ sex?
I'd politely turn it down.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 1:41pm On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
Judging how you almost threw your skirt up, when I took a slight jab at you, I'd say you really do think the world revolve around you. I'm here to show you it's not. It's why I said earlier, you're unbearably naive.
Almost, says you? As in, you failed to make me give you a glimpse of the treasure underneath said skirt? Makes me wonder who's showing whom what.

For your information, my world does revolve around me. And from your desire to try to show me otherwise, it seems to be revolving around you too, or you'd have moved along by now. But you and I know you can't.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Teymanhenry(f): 1:41pm On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
First, I have not got any dirty linen. And second, only weak people expect "all the responses to be positive", since not everyone has an equal ability to comprehend what they read, like you for instance, who thinks expressing ones view on a Nairaland topic is bringing ones dirty linen to social media, and gives you the right to insult one's trainers, which just shows your own non-training.
Have a wonderful Chrsitmas
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 1:46pm On Dec 23, 2025
budaatum:
Almost, says you? As in, you failed to make me give you a glimpse of the treasure underneath said skirt? Makes me wonder who's showing whom what.
if that was my intention, believe me, you'd have been drenched in sweat, sighing... Hehehe.

For your information, my world does revolve around me. And from your desire to try to show me otherwise, it seems to be revolving around you too, or you'd have moved along by now. But you and I know you can't.
Which information. The one you refuse sharing about what color of panties you wearing? grin

Oh please...
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 1:58pm On Dec 23, 2025
joseph1832:
if that was my intention, believe me, you'd have been drenched in sweat, sighing... Hehehe.

Which information. The one you refuse sharing about what color of panties you wearing? grin

Oh please...
.

Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by vdestro: 3:22pm On Dec 23, 2025
Dogalmighty17:
Withholding intimacy unto say na gold you carry for there? Any wife who does this is an unserious person.
I will keep saying this. Side chicks are the greatest contributors to the economic health of Nigeria. Side chicks are the reason why a great majority of marriages last long.

For crying out loud, all the men in the bible God loved had side chicks. Jacob carried OS. God told Hosea to go and get down with OS (Hosea 1:2). Abraham was given a loot. David had multiple women. Abi na Solomon own I go talk? Dude had more p--sy lying around than days in a year and yet him and God were leveling up. So WTF?

The same God that gave Moses the commandment against adultery ordered his prophet to go f--ck a prosti**te.

If she close leg, dem plenty outside. Go run your thing. No time for rubbish.
You lie when you say All the men in the Bible God loved had side chicks.

What a mighty liar you are!

Are Job, Noah and Daniel not Loved by God and commended by God and even called Righteous by Him? And did they have side chicks?

Did he ever call those men you mentioned Righteous? Their names are not on that List.

But see your life, you no see the men God commended to follow, it is the ones he did not commend you are following.

Follow your follow after all na your unalive but do it alone, stop looking for who to follow you.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by Kaczynski: 7:49pm On Dec 23, 2025
folake4u:
Thank you G.G

Some men want anál sex based on what they see from porn.

Interesting take but I'm also of the opinion that people are exploring these days and anál sex tops the charts.
Depend


Gen Z tends to explore more and are more liberal while millenials tend to do the opposite .
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 3:15pm On Dec 24, 2025
Anita Wise isn't very wise. Seeing how she jumped to make hasty generalization and non sequitur comment.
budaatum:
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Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by budaatum: 3:28pm On Dec 24, 2025
joseph1832:
Anita Wise isn't very wise. Seeing how she jumped to make hasty generalization and non sequitur comment.
I think Anita Wise has very wisely accurately described joseph1832.
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by joseph1832(m): 9:12pm On Dec 24, 2025
budaatum:
I think Anita Wise has very wisely accurately described joseph 1832.
Like you, she jumped to conclusion. I hope you both didn't hit your head on that tub?
Re: Withholding Intimacy In Marriage Is Abuse by descarado: 4:44pm On Dec 25, 2025
Seems like majority of the people are unmarried.

In the mounting arena, most times, men are actually the ones who disappoint on the long run.
Most men cant even get it up
Some will get it up and it flattens in few seconds.
Majority think sex is about pumping harder for women.
And to cap it, some spill and thats the end.

If there should be any complain at all, it should be the ladies. Wonder why we hear naija women sleep around so much. Cos their men never satisfies them.
What they cannot get at home the look elsewhere for it until they found it.
Not satisfying your woman in bed will automatically make her wanna say no always.
What's the need. The feeling will gradually die.

Men tend not to discuss about midlife crisis which can start as early as in their 30s and the biological effect it has on them.
All nairaland males are stallion in bed and king Solomon with words.


Imagine an idiat saying women withholding sex is a crime against men. What is the crime of seeing a prik every day that is dead when the woman want to mount yet brother can't get it up?

Before you write anything about women in 2026,go out in the street and conduct simple research from ordinary women in your street. They will give you the answer you need. Every woman matter, man go choke head.
Shame no dey catch una?
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