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Richtaiwo:
➜What exactly has this one been typing all over this thread? The comments reek of a complete absence of basic maternal instinct, something even the lowest animals possess. It is pure, unfiltered nonsense.
➜ So the argument now is that because a nursing mother has issues with her husband, she should abandon her baby just to score cheap points? How depraved does one have to be to even think like that? What kind of woman contemplates walking away from her breastfeeding child?
➜ At this point, one can only conclude that such a woman is a shameless gold digger who suddenly realised she had been digging in the wrong soil and, out of spite and disappointment, lost all regard for life itself, even when that life is her own baby’s.
➜ If she hates the man, does she also despise her child? One is forced to question whether such a person has any humanity at all, because even animals would not display this level of cruelty, selfishness, and moral bankruptcy to her own baby

1. Your basic maternal instinct idea is confirmed as a myth. What you refer to as maternal instincts are instead behaviors that women are trained for, but like all training, they do not always materialize into someone who should be depended on. 🥱🥱

There are women out there who should be having kids, and there are also women out there whose children should be protected from, as in, they are terrible mothers, and there are children who are mentally and emotionally not right for raising children. That is the biological fact that exists. 🥱🥱

2. It is not an argument, but what happened. And yes, nursing mothers are not obligated to continue to raise their newborns. They, too, can walk away from their child in a similar manner to many baby daddies do when they abandon their baby mamas.

There is nothing depraved about leaving a child with its own father, same way that society does not consider it depraved for a man to abandon his children with their mother, leaving her, in most cases, to fend for them all alone.

A woman who places her peace of mind over living with a man she does not meld with is a woman who can do that. She may not be like her mothers and her grandmothers, who were pushovers and remained in toxic situations, claiming they did so for the children—the same children that ended up severely traumatized by the whole situation. And she may also realize that making her past mistakes run the rest of her life is one of the biggest mistakes she will ever make in life.

3. Nah! She is a smart woman that instead realizes that just like a man can, a woman can also walk away and choose herself.

4. She has a child with the man. Hating the man means that if she remains with the man, she will create a toxic situation for the child. That is definitely not a good thing for that child. And since the man can equally raise that child, she chose to leave it to him — hopefully she will be paying him child support without fail. 🥱🥱🥱

If indeed she chose to leave, she made an intelligent and rational decision. By the way, all humans are selfish. If the man had been the one to abandon that woman claiming she was toxic to him, you and others would have probably praised him for it. Do the same for the woman.

Samantha125:
It's not just her baby, but THEIR baby, they made him or her together, meaning they should have equal responsibilities in looking after their baby...
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The father should also be able to care for the baby without any complaints in the mother's absence.

Your first sentence, you said they both have equal responsibilities. But in the second sentence, you said the father should take care of the baby alone and he should not complain.
I'm sure that you can clearly see that you and common.sense are miles apart.
Equal responsibility means one partner goes out to look for money they will use to take care of the baby while the other partner looks after the baby physically.

Hhh4444:
➜There is no better way to say it than you just did. Even animals don't reason the way these women reason. They are just too dumb.

Animals' dads raised their own kids when they needed to. In the same way a woman can be a single mother, a man can also be a single father.

Richtaiwo:
What exactly has this one been typing all over this thread? The comments reek of a complete absence of basic maternal instinct, something even the lowest animals possess. It is pure, unfiltered nonsense.

So the argument now is that because a nursing mother has issues with her husband, she should abandon her baby just to score cheap points? How depraved does one have to be to even think like that? What kind of woman contemplates walking away from her breastfeeding child?

At this point, one can only conclude that such a woman is a shameless gold digger who suddenly realised she had been digging in the wrong soil and, out of spite and disappointment, lost all regard for life itself, even when that life is her own baby’s.

If she hates the man, does she also despise her child? One is forced to question whether such a person has any humanity at all, because even animals would not display this level of cruelty, selfishness, and moral bankruptcy to her own baby

You know some of them here on Nairaland are actually not normal, like something in them has actually damaged. They would defend the actions of their fellow gender no matter what those one did, it is tiring. I see them as Trolls

dalass:
That's actually the best punishment for him. If she left with the baby, he would have hastily and joyfully brought in another lady.

It is his type who would be asking the wife that what does she do around the house? Just to take care of only one baby? Sebi he's finding it easy

She has her own life to live too. If he can not go out to work because of one baby... There are many ladies out there, backing their their baby to hustle. Let him do same.. bloody ingrate... If she no born, wahala, she born, problem! Some men are just wicked. For her to drop baby and run, he's probably the one who drove her away, thinking she'll come begging because of the baby.

Nothin. should happen to that baby

Spot on! You just said the bitter truth!

Jman06:
Some of you are just deceiving yourselves with this women's love thing! Women's 'love' is very short-lived! She may have claimed to be madly in love with op at the time they got married but the whole 'love' disappeared within a few weeks.

Women don't really love men in the real sense of the word but some of you don't understand this fact.

My point!!!! I meant, i doubt she ever loved the guy from the start. Reason, i said she left without the child, so as to be piped by the man she ever loved. Just saying, if she truly loves you and mad at you, she would find it very hard to leave without the baby.

Some of us don see true love oh. I had to stop replying a married ex. She has two kids, still dey look for me. Na we dey run and still dey run.
Most of them na confusionists dem be.
Many women for Naija no love men. Na way out dem always dey find. Factors like, Poverty, age(the evening newspaper shaming), peer pressure,societal pressure, pepper dem gang etc dey make dem wan marry anybody wey ready. Rubbish.

kushme:
➜My point!!!! I meant, i doubt she ever loved the guy from the start.
➜ Reason, i said she left without the child, so as to be piped by the man she ever loved. Just saying, if she truly loves you and mad at you, she would find it very hard to leave without the baby.
➜ Some of us don see true love oh. I had to stop replying a married ex. She has two kids, still dey look for me. Na we dey run and still dey run.
Most of them na confusionists dem be.
➜ Many women for Naija no love men.
➜ Na way out dem always dey find. Factors like, Poverty, age(the evening newspaper shaming), peer pressure,societal pressure, pepper dem gang etc dey make dem wan marry anybody wey ready. Rubbish.

Do men who abandon women with babies love those women?🥱🥱

2. Men abandon their women and children so they can go pipe other women. Why is it OK for men to do that, but suddenly a problem when a woman does the same? 🥱🥱

3. If we ask you to define love now, you will find that a lot of men don't even hold to the ideas of love that you put forward. So, why are you expecting women to live by your expectations but not other men? You can't make that make sense. 🥱🥱

4. Many Nigerian men don't love women or even their children at all. So, why the fuss? 🥱🥱

5. Well, the woman chose to escape the man instead of use him for her poverty alleviation or age. So what exactly is your issue now? 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Do men who abandon women with babies love those women?🥱🥱

2. Men abandon their women and children so they can go pipe other women. Why is it OK for men to do that, but suddenly a problem when a woman does the same? 🥱🥱

3. If we ask you to define love now, you will find that a lot of men don't even hold to the ideas of love that you put forward. So, why are you expecting women to live by your expectations but not other men? You can't make that make sense. 🥱🥱

4. Many Nigerian men don't love women or even their children at all. So, why the fuss? 🥱🥱

5. Well, the woman chose to escape the man instead of use him for her poverty alleviation or age. So what exactly is your issue now? 🥱🥱

Do you understand the 22% human are emojis he adds. The man is a fraud.

Kobojunkie:
Ask yourself, what happens to a woman's supposedly engorged breast when a baby dies? 🥱🥱🥱

I know the answer 😢

Glimpsetv:
A man has taken to social media to share his heartbreak after his wife left him with their 3-month-old baby following a small disagreement. In the video, he is seen holding a baby feeder, trying to care for the child, and explaining that he never wanted to make the video but felt forced as his wife has been away for four to five days.

He revealed that they just got married last year, and he never imagined this would happen over a minor misunderstanding. The man also complained that he has been going out and can’t even go to work because his wife decided to leave the 3-month-old baby with him after such a small fight.
The video has sparked strong reactions online, with many blaming the woman for leaving despite the situation.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hyMtLyxT0Yk?si=hB9Doqcs84pgS4Tv

I dont care what the guy did or not... but neglect on that innocent baby is quite unforgiveable. Lord have mercy on man.

RollinTNDA:
She is dealing with Post Partum Depression

Do you think it's easy for the body to recover after 9 months of hormonal rush that her body goes through. .

Local Nigerian men are too dull to know what post Partum Depression is. They rather hurl insults at the poor woman. Instead of being their to support her during that phase after childbirth

Ask your father, he will tell you how your mother behave aggressive after you were birth.
It's called PPD google it and learn one thing today

Just because it happened to your mother don't mean it happens to everyone else

Frankaka8:
➜I dont care what the guy did or not... but neglect on that innocent baby is quite unforgiveable. Lord have mercy on man.

Neglect? The child is with the father, and hopefully, the mother will definitely pay child support to the father to ensure that the child has contributions from its mother.

Samantha125:
It's not just her baby, but THEIR baby, they made him or her together, meaning they should have equal responsibilities in looking after their baby... The father should also be able to care for the baby without any complaints in the mother's absence.

Wetin dis one dey talk? Their baby and equal responsibilities, huh. So, for ur head now you sound smart, abi? I think he should breastfeed the baby for the next 3months too, since she has done that for the last 3months, so the equal responsibilities go dey balanced.
Mother's absence!!! Where she talk say she dey go?

This was the same unwise move a friend's wife pulled few years back. She came with the baby(4-5months then), gave me to carry, like for me to play with the baby. The next thing i heard was, take him to his Dad, before i could say jack, zooom she's gone. I took the boy to his dad, he took his son and did the equal responsibilities without disturbing the peace of anyone like this man.
Long story short, she and her mom came begging. Things are now the ways they're post(supposed) to be.

See, Man no be Woman. Na man pipe woman give her belle. So, carry that belle and carry that pikin. I no wan hear argument, again

Fenrir:
Do you understand the 22% human are emojis he adds. The man is a fraud.

Oh you catch the person using AI to reply?

kushme:
Oh you catch the person using AI to reply?

Its not exactly hard, its a few quid for an AI detector that cross checks all current AI on the market.

The free ones are useless and no point, £16-£20 per month are the best available options for detectors. But pidgin breaks AI detectors.

Kobojunkie:
1. Your basic maternal instinct idea is confirmed as a myth. What you refer to as maternal instincts are instead behaviors that women are trained for, but like all training, they do not always materialize into someone who should be depended on. 🥱🥱

There are women out there who should be having kids, and there are also women out there whose children should be protected from, as in, they are terrible mothers, and there are children who are mentally and emotionally not right for raising children. That is the biological fact that exists. 🥱🥱

2. It is not an argument, but what happened. And yes, nursing mothers are not obligated to continue to raise their newborns. They, too, can walk away from their child in a similar manner to many baby daddies do when they abandon their baby mamas.

There is nothing depraved about leaving a child with its own father, same way that society does not consider it depraved for a man to abandon his children with their mother, leaving her, in most cases, to fend for them all alone.

A woman who places her peace of mind over living with a man she does not meld with is a woman who can do that. She may not be like her mothers and her grandmothers, who were pushovers and remained in toxic situations, claiming they did so for the children—the same children that ended up severely traumatized by the whole situation. And she may also realize that making her past mistakes run the rest of her life is one of the biggest mistakes she will ever make in life.

3. Nah! She is a smart woman that instead realizes that just like a man can, a woman can also walk away and choose herself.

4. She has a child with the man. Hating the man means that if she remains with the man, she will create a toxic situation for the child. That is definitely not a good thing for that child. And since the man can equally raise that child, she chose to leave it to him — hopefully she will be paying him child support without fail. 🥱🥱🥱

If indeed she chose to leave, she made an intelligent and rational decision. By the way, all humans are selfish. If the man had been the one to abandon that woman claiming she was toxic to him, you and others would have probably praised him for it. Do the same for the woman.

Wow, kobo you're on a roll now. Down to 13% human.

It is women that thinks the way you do that men will consider as useless. Which woman abadon a breastfeeding child for whatever reason. This is a child that will most likely favour her more than the father when they grow up. Even, if she leaves eventually, the child will be fine and your ilks will likely become a frustrated old lady when the time comes.

Samantha125:
How did she abandon him or her when she or he is with his or her father?

You guys are the same people always complaining of how women have nothing to offer in a marriage, so go ahead and look after your babies yourselves since you consider women as useless.

hilaryCU:
➜It is women that thinks the way you do that men will consider as useless. Which woman abadon a breastfeeding child for whatever reason.
➜ This is a child that will most likely favour her more than the father when they grow up.
➜Even, if she leaves eventually, the child will be fine and your ilks will likely become a frustrated old lady when the time comes.

The same way a man can abandon a child with the mother of the child is the same way a woman can also abandon the child with the father of the child. If a baby's father is not useless for abandoning his baby with the mother, then the baby's mother is equally not useless for leaving the child behind with its father when she leaves. Only a deadbeat mother or father is useless.

2. It's OK! I mean, we have frequently heard that children are better off raised by their fathers and not their mothers. So long as the father does not turn around and abandon the child with his own mother or sister, the child will grow up well in the care of its father.

3. Women should definitely normalize leaving their babies with the father when they realize the relationship is too toxic to remain in, while they go off and become these frustrated old ladies you say they will. That is a win for the child and the father, right? 😐😐😐

I tire o

Samantha125:
Look after your babies yourselves and stop whining.

VladimirTheGrea:
➜I agree with you but I think it's cruel to walk out of her little self which suggests she is is selfish and in pursuant of greed

Walking out of a toxic relationship is not cruel, selfish or greedy, but trying to keep the peace the best one can. At least that is what men have been doing for the longest— walking away from their baby mamas and leaving their babies behind, with the excuse that they were toxic women.

The woman simply did what many men have been allowed to do for the longest. Also, we have heard that men raise better children. So that baby is literally in the best hands. 🥱🥱

Hopefully, she will send the father child support money, so she does not end up a deadbeat mother. 🥱🥱🥱

AfonjaPriest:
➜The guy should stop ranting. Does he not have a relative or someone he could trust to leave the baby with? He should check carefully, because where there's a will, there will definitely be a way.

So, dumping the child with a relative is how you all raise these better children that men are said to raise? Why have children you are unwilling to raise by yourselves?

Hhh4444:
➜you are a baaaad person for supporting what she did. Does the man have breast to give to this baby? I pity the man that will marry you.

Men abandon their children literally every day in that country. Why is she bad when she does what a man does? The baby will be fine with powdered milk and the father's love. A man can equally nurture his own child and, according to Nigerians, raise better children.

Afriifa:
➜ See this type of selfish women, I don't only pray against them for myself but also my friends. Should a man neglect his child because he's having fight with his wife? Why should a woman neglect her baby over fights with her husband? a breastfeeding baby and you trying to find reasons? GOD forbid

Men do that every day, and society never calls them out for it. So, why are you all gathering like monitoring spirits against the woman doing what men get away with every day in that same Nigeria? 🥱🥱

➜A woman can equally exit a toxic relationship the same way men can, leaving the child behind. A breastfeeding baby can eat canned milk and still grow up healthy. Top that off with being raised by the father and not the mother, the baby is bound to grow into a better human being than if raised by the mother... no be so una dey talk all the time?

Many children have deadbeat fathers, but I've never seen any man asking who's gonna provide for them... Their mothers have to play the roles of both mother by nurturing them and father by providing for them... So why can't you guys do the same?🤔🤔🤔

hilaryCU:
It is women that thinks the way you do that men will consider as useless. Which woman abadon a breastfeeding child for whatever reason. This is a child that will most likely favour her more than the father when they grow up. Even, if she leaves eventually, the child will be fine and your ilks will likely become a frustrated old lady when the time comes.

I don't see anything wrong with what your friend's wife did... Even if your friend refuse her access to the child, at least the child is safe with his or her father, she can still move on and have more children with another man... Once the child is an adult, he or she will choose whether to locate the mother or not.

kushme:
Wetin dis one dey talk? Their baby and equal responsibilities, huh. So, for ur head now you sound smart, abi? I think he should breastfeed the baby for the next 3months too, since she has done that for the last 3months, so the equal responsibilities go dey balanced.
Mother's absence!!! Where she talk say she dey go?

This was the same unwise move a friend's wife pulled few years back. She came with the baby(4-5months then), gave me to carry, like for me to play with the baby. The next thing i heard was, take him to his Dad, before i could say jack, zooom she's gone. I took the boy to his dad, he took his son and did the equal responsibilities without disturbing the peace of anyone like this man.
Long story short, she and her mom came begging. Things are now the ways they're post(supposed) to be.

See, Man no be Woman. Na man pipe woman give her belle. So, carry that belle and carry that pikin. I no wan hear argument, again

Do you also tell that to deadbeat fathers?

You should take full responsibility of your children in their mothers absence without complaining like many women are doing after the fathers of their children decided to abandon their responsibilities of providing for their children.

Stop being such cry babies when women decide to leave you with your children... The child calls by your surname, not hers.

maasoap:
Your first sentence, you said they both have equal responsibilities. But in the second sentence, you said the father should take care of the baby alone and he should not complain.
I'm sure that you can clearly see that you and common.sense are miles apart.
Equal responsibility means one partner goes out to look for money they will use to take care of the baby while the other partner looks after the baby physically.

What do you have to say about those deadbeat fathers who have also abandoned their children? Who provides for those children in their absence? Because children are very expensive.

Richtaiwo:
What exactly has this one been typing all over this thread? The comments reek of a complete absence of basic maternal instinct, something even the lowest animals possess. It is pure, unfiltered nonsense.

So the argument now is that because a nursing mother has issues with her husband, she should abandon her baby just to score cheap points? How depraved does one have to be to even think like that? What kind of woman contemplates walking away from her breastfeeding child?

At this point, one can only conclude that such a woman is a shameless gold digger who suddenly realised she had been digging in the wrong soil and, out of spite and disappointment, lost all regard for life itself, even when that life is her own baby’s.

If she hates the man, does she also despise her child? One is forced to question whether such a person has any humanity at all, because even animals would not display this level of cruelty, selfishness, and moral bankruptcy to her own baby

Samantha125:
How did she abandon him or her when she or he is with his or her father?

You guys are the same people always complaining of how women have nothing to offer in a marriage, so go ahead and look after your babies yourselves since you consider women as useless.

Ah! Pikin wey need to suck breast?
Can a man breast feed?

Samantha125:
How did she abandon him or her when she or he is with his or her father?

You guys are the same people always complaining of how women have nothing to offer in a marriage, so go ahead and look after your babies yourselves since you consider women as useless.

you too, take a look at what you've typed and tell me if there is any sense in what you wrote. you need to grow up.

Baba what is the simple cause of that simple misunderstanding tell us first.