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tollyboy5:
➜Ah! Pikin wey need to suck breast? ➜Can a man breast feed?

Pikin dey drink can milk and grow up strong too. Yes, babies whose mothers die also survive without issues when raised by nurturing fathers.

Mamaafrik1:
you too, take a look at what you've typed and tell me if there is any sense in what you wrote. you need to grow up.

We are told that fathers raise better children than mothers. So, yes! There is every sense in suggesting that the baby's father will raise that child even better than the baby's mother can. 🥱🥱🥱

SpencerForbes:
It’s clear some people just aren't ready for the commitment marriage demands, regardless of gender. I’m curious to hear her perspective— because it’s hard to imagine the kind of 'misunderstanding' that would push a mother to walk away from her three-month-old baby.

Believe me, you don't need to experience misunderstanding with modern ladies for them to divorce you.
Even if you are good, caring and loving, some of them will still divorce you anyway.
Have seen 2 women abandon their children with the husbands just to japa.
Not because of Love to another man nor were they suffering in the marriage before leaving.
It is the drawback of capitalizing.
So many women are highly ambitious and believe they have what it takes to make huuge money and marriage is tying them down to achieve their dreams.
No. 1 dropped 2 boys of 5 and 9 just to follow her friend to I think Qatar or Oman.
Who in their right senses will go to such place? What kind of dream was sold to her?
And the man is not doing bad according to Nigeria standard but to her, it is just not enough - a 3 bedroom flat decently furnished and a Toyota Camry 2008.
For a lady I doubt is a graduate or if she is, a mere house wife with no tradable skill, I want to guess she went there to become a prostitute.

emmaodet:
➜Believe me, you don't need to experience misunderstanding with modern ladies for them to divorce you. Even if you are good, caring and loving, some of them will still divorce you anyway. Have seen 2 women abandon their children with the husbands just to japa. Not because of Love to another man nor were they suffering in the marriage before leaving. It is the drawback of capitalizing.
➜ So many women are highly ambitious and believe they have what it takes to make huuge money and marriage is tying them down to achieve their dreams.
➜ No. 1 dropped 2 boys of 5 and 9 just to follow her friend to I think Qatar or Oman. Who in their right senses will go to such place? What kind of dream was sold to her?
➜ And the man is not doing bad according to Nigeria standard but to her, it is just not enough - a 3 bedroom flat decently furnished and a Toyota Camry 2008.
➜ For a lady I doubt is a graduate or if she is, a mere house wife with no tradable skill, I want to guess she went there to become a prostitute.

. Men have mostly dangled a better life to women since the time of our ancestors, and many of these women have gone on to regret their decisions to marry and have babies in the name of a better married life. Na love dem dey call that? Na love make our fathers and ancestors use women until their nothing left of them but the miserable rest of their days? 🥱🥱🥱

2. Most of these women grew up watching their grandfathers and fathers use and abuse their grandmothers and grandmothers, with the women literally having no way or place to go to save even their own children from all of the violence and toxicity that has been life in marriage up until now for most women. 🥱🥱🥱

3. People, including women with a reason to live a better life for themselves and for their children's sake, are going there every day. 🥱🥱🥱

4. Good! He can raise his children better than a woman can.... that is what we have been told for the longest. So, let him raise them while their mother goes off to make money and sends him child support regularly for their sake. 🥱🥱🥱

5. Women are going back to school even past their 60s and doing really well for themselves, even at that.

The most educated demographic in America by overall attainment are Asian Americans, with a higher percentage holding Bachelor's degrees or higher; however, Black women are often cited as the most educated due to significant recent gains and leading in degree earning rates, surpassing other groups in the number of degrees awarded relative to historical barriers, notes a report by the Postsecondary National Policy Institute, a study on Asian students, the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES) via ThoughtCo, and Pew Research Center, the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES) via an Instagram post and an Instagram post, the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES) via an Instagram post.

Saint99:
➜I think it is premeditated. She had planned doing it and waited for the slightest disagreement as an excuse to execute the plan. She didn't want the burden of nursing a baby to stand on her way. This type can even kill the baby just to be free.

When it's the man abandoning his baby with the baby mama, is he also a type that could even kill the baby just to be free? Nonsense! 🥱🥱🥱

Afriifa:
Women are innately selfish bro. There is no justification for this.

This is from the same person who earlier suggested that the man selfishly abandon the baby with his mother so he, the man, can go on to selfishly live his own life? What is wrong with you people? 🥱🥱🥱

wordychap:
You didn't marry a human being

When it is the man that abandons the baby and its mother, is the man also not a human being in those cases? 🥱🥱

FaAbData:
➜The child is his. The woman won't act that way if it isn't his- she would have left with the child. The woman doesn't just dislike the man alone, seems she dislike the child too

. Nonsense! Are you insinuating that when a baby's father abandons his child with the baby mama, he equally hates the child along with the baby mama?

Famous606:
➜i pray not to see myself in such situation if not the number of days she left we be the number of years she we use her eye to see the child .

Shey dem dey always talk for here say the child will go looking for its father after the child grows up, when na babymama the father abandon the child with? Well, that child of yours will go looking for its mother when it grows up, too... so the woman doesn't need to worry. 🥱🥱🥱

BrutusOj:
➜Where do some guys marry from for goodness sake? Dont the wife have a family to report her to? Or he prefers the online inlaws to react with online solution?

You go report the wife to the family, and the family will force her back into living with a toxic man? In this 2026 wey we all dey enter so? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

The child is his, too. And he can be a nurturing father to it, too.

Samantha125:
It's his child as well and he should share the responsibility of looking after the child when the mother is absent.

hmmmm,some of una get mind oo

dominique:
Let's hear her side of the story. Did you give her peace or you think you're the only one deserving of peace of mind.

One of the few times I'll be agreeing with this Righteousness fellow

regardless of "her side of the story", abandon a 3 month old?
Wow,some ladies get mind sha oo

The same way some men have minds to be deadbeats.

Arlee:
hmmmm,some of una get mind oo

Tell that to those deadbeat brothers of yours first...😂😂😂

In fact, women should start normalising leaving their babies with their fathers...😃😃😃

Mamaafrik1:
you too, take a look at what you've typed and tell me if there is any sense in what you wrote. you need to grow up.

Arlee:
➜regardless of "her side of the story", abandon a 3 month old? Wow,some ladies get mind sha oo

Men abandon their babies while in the woman, and so many women ar abandoned while still in the labor rooms, and not so much as a squeak from their fellow men. 🥱🥱🥱

So you don't have formulas in Nigeria to feed the babies in the absence of their mothers?

tollyboy5:
Ah! Pikin wey need to suck breast?
Can a man breast feed?

Kobojunkie:
. Nonsense! Are you insinuating that when a baby's father abandons his child with the baby mama, he equally hates the child along with the baby mama?

You're talking gibberish.
Did you see me insinuating anything- stop insinuating for me what I did not- nonsense!

emmaodet:
Believe me, you don't need to experience misunderstanding with modern ladies for them to divorce you.
Even if you are good, caring and loving, some of them will still divorce you anyway.
Have seen 2 women abandon their children with the husbands just to japa.
Not because of Love to another man nor were they suffering in the marriage before leaving.
It is the drawback of capitalizing.
So many women are highly ambitious and believe they have what it takes to make huuge money and marriage is tying them down to achieve their dreams.
No. 1 dropped 2 boys of 5 and 9 just to follow her friend to I think Qatar or Oman.
Who in their right senses will go to such place? What kind of dream was sold to her?
And the man is not doing bad according to Nigeria standard but to her, it is just not enough - a 3 bedroom flat decently furnished and a Toyota Camry 2008.
For a lady I doubt is a graduate or if she is, a mere house wife with no tradable skill, I want to guess she went there to become a prostitute.

It’s a pity, but many ladies today are just chasing the 'wedding experience.' They forget that a wedding lasts a day, but marriage is for life. Once the honeymoon phase ends and reality kicks in, they lose interest because they were never mentally ready for the long haul.

Kobojunkie:
Men abandon their babies while in the woman, and so many women ar abandoned while still in the labor rooms, and not so much as a squeak from their fellow men. 🥱🥱🥱

using the action of few irresponsible men to generalise and justify this lady's action? Strange.

Note,I didn't blame all ladies, i blamed the action of this particular lady

Arlee:
➜using the action of few irresponsible men to generalise and justify this lady's action? Strange. Note,I didn't blame all ladies, i blamed the action of this particular lady

. Irresponsible men that are never called out or punished in any way, while the women — the baby mamas—left behind are dehumanized and humiliated? Of course! Why not? Let women have the same freedom to leave when they know the relationship is too toxic for them to remain in. And let the men raise the children themselves. 🥱🥱🥱

Women need to normalize leaving the babies with the baby fathers. That way, society can talk down less on baby mamas, and the woman can breathe while the children thrive by being raised by their baby fathers who we are told raise better children. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
This is from the same person who earlier suggested that the man [s]selfishly[/i] abandon the baby with his mother so he, the man, can go on to selfishly live his own life? What is wrong with you people? 🥱🥱🥱

Merry Christmas Kobojunkie

Samantha125:
Oh! After all the bashing ladies have been receiving on this forum for being useless with nothing to offer, now our breasts are considered as useful?

There are baby formulas in every food store, he should purchase one.

God also gave you guys masculinity to protect and provide for your children, but some of you are absent fathers, it's only fair that you get a taste of your own medicine every once in a while...

There's no such a thing as "our breast", you have no clue how the breast was formed on your chest. It's wasn't formed for "YOU" that was nature preparing to be a mother.

Your opinion or thought process doesn't change natural settings. Your gender wars is of no importance to me.

The breast on your chest is the first sign nature gave you as a mother.
There's no man on earth who isn't proud of taking his fatherly responsibilities.

Everything na content nowadays. Why can't people just stay off social media when it comes to family issues?

When we say don't marry a SLAY QUEEN with multiple earrings, nose rings, leg chains and other acts and symptoms of waywardness, you guys will call us old school.
What you don't know is that, these wayward girls lack SELF-DISCIPLINE! They just want to do whatever they like not minding who is affected or disturbed so long they are fine. It takes a lot of SELF-DISCIPLINE for a man and a woman to stay in marriage. Sometimes, marriage is like slavery. You slave away your life for your children and family and yet you stay there.
A slay queen can't slave away herself for anyone, more reason she chose to be wayward afterall. It's easier to put nose rings, plenty earrings, tattoos, legs chains etc than to stay pure and restrained. There are lots of disciplined women out there, with great character, self-sacrificing, good career plan, focus, ambition and potentials but todays men would rather go for aesthetics - big breasts, big yansh, raves and vogues. Now this is the outcome. If you don't get a bastard child, you will be abandoned!
We will all learn in the end...

Samantha125:
I don't see anything wrong with what your friend's wife did... Even if your friend refuse her access to the child, at least the child is safe with his or her father, she can still move on and have more children with another man... Once the child is an adult, he or she will choose whether to locate the mother or not.

I don hear you. No stress the matter again. I know say you no go gree hear word. Merry Chrismas.

Berankis:
When we say don't marry a SLAY QUEEN with multiple earrings, nose rings, leg chains and other acts and symptoms of waywardness, you guys will call us old school.
What you don't know is that, these wayward girls lack SELF-DISCIPLINE! They just want to do whatever they like not minding who is affected or disturbed so long they are fine. It takes a lot of SELF-DISCIPLINE for a man and a woman to stay in marriage. Sometimes, marriage is like slavery. You slave away your life for your children and family and yet you stay there.
A slay queen can't slave away herself for anyone, more reason she chose to be wayward afterall. It's easier to put nose rings, plenty earrings, tattoos, legs chains etc than to stay pure and restrained. There are lots of disciplined women out there, with great character, self-sacrificing, good career plan, focus, ambition and potentials but todays men would rather go for aesthetics - big breasts, big yansh, raves and vogues. Now this is the outcome. If you don't get a bastard child, you will be abandoned!
We will all learn in the end...

Bros for where you want see disciplined woman for this present generation....you might as well require Tinubu's connection to find one.

You don't get to dictate what we should do with our bodies, our bodies, our choice.

If there's no man on earth who isn't proud of taking fatherly responsibilities, then why so many deadbeats all over the world to a point that women even have to take the legal route in order to force you to perform your fatherly responsibilities?

Offpoint1:
There's no such a thing as "our breast", you have no clue how the breast was formed on your chest. It's wasn't formed for "YOU" that was nature preparing to be a mother.

Your opinion or thought process doesn't change natural settings. Your gender wars is of no importance to me.

The breast on your chest is the first sign nature gave you as a mother.
There's no man on earth who isn't proud of taking his fatherly responsibilities.

Carry your pikin go work.
You be surprised that you will receive alot of help.
The first thing u have done right is the video.
No allow shame catch u. Carry your pikin commot when u want to go out

Kobojunkie:
Shey dem dey always talk for here say the child will go looking for its father after the child grows up, when na babymama the father abandon the child with? Well, that child of yours will go looking for its mother when it grows up, too... so the woman doesn't need to worry. 🥱🥱🥱

That child is to small nobody we tell her the story of the mother don't forget that the child is just 3 month old no proper breast feeding no recognition of the mother face or anything to show ,the woman that we take care of her at that stage becomes the mother automatically for life am judging her action for punishing the innocent child just to get to the father i just believe they are so many ways she can deal with the husband without involving the child .

Kobojunkie:
. Irresponsible men that are never called out or punished in any way, while the women — the baby mamas—left behind are dehumanized and humiliated? Of course! Why not? Let women have the same freedom to leave when they know the relationship is too toxic for them to remain in. And let the men raise the children themselves. 🥱🥱🥱

Women need to normalize leaving the babies with the baby fathers. That way, society can talk down less on baby mamas, and the woman can breathe while the children thrive by being raised by their baby fathers who we are told raise better children. 🥱🥱🥱

Good thing is,this is not how nature wired a responsible mother,

She is naturally programmed to have feelings for her fragile innocemt baby.

With this your logic : What happens to the excess breast milk nature placed on the woman for the nourishment of the baby?

What becomes of 6 months exclusive breast feeding necessary for the well being of the innocent baby?

Its never about selfish feelings, its about the innocent child

Samantha125:
You don't get to dictate what we should do with our bodies, our bodies, our choice.

If there's no man on earth who isn't proud of taking fatherly responsibilities, then why so many deadbeats all over the world to a point that women even have to take the legal route in order to force you to perform your fatherly responsibilities?

There's no such thing as "My body" I can't make a strand of hair.

You don't call people you don't know 000.5% of their stories "Deadbeat"... Every narrator is an innocent.