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Please how can I get a divorce lawyer within Ikorodu axis

Hugose:
Please how can I get a divorce lawyer within Ikorodu axis

Courts aren't open until January 2026.

I'm sure a Family Lawyer can reach out here for briefing, also check on X.

Have you been separated for a minimum of 2 years? Because there's no filing prior to that.

The ones I know are good, their fee is like N1.5 to N6 million, they'll file and do a good job, no delays. Most lawyers won't take a kobo below N500,000 and that will be for a straightforward, uncontested case and the court will send legal officers to make sure she knows she's being divorced, you'll pay their expenses.

Any extra expenses like printing and transport, you'll also pay the lawyer.

Be prepared to spend at least 2 years filing in court (High court is backed up). If your wife fights back, expect more like 3-5 years.

Divorce is Federal High Court, Custody is Magistrate Court and Traditional Marriage dissolution is Customary Court.

Your case will be heard with several other cases and they'll call your wife to testify as well. So both of you will wash your dirty linen in public for the entertainment of everyone. Please note that bloggers will be there in court and if your case is interesting, they are free to cary it on their blogs with your full government names. Unless your lawyer can do something about that.

Do you want custody of your child or will you share custody? The Magistrate court will have to send a Child Welfare officer to inspect your home and everything and you will pay extra money for their transportation and lodging.

Oh, some schools don't like Separated and Divorced parents due to the legal implications of them getting dragged into a messy custody battle.

Oh, you'll need to be able to pay for a house for your children. You're required by Law to provide accomodation and upkeep for them. So you'll be getting even more expenses.

Now, the reality is much worse than the little I've described (I left out more).

Would you like to go ahead or...

Will you be willing to take a deep breath, calm down for a short while and vent here, I'm sure there are reasonable people who will tell you one or two things that can help get you away from the dangerous ledge you're dangling on?

Please? 🙂

Hugose, please take a deep breathe.

Onegai:
Courts aren't open until January 2026.

I'm sure a Family Lawyer can reach out here for briefing, also check on X.

Have you been separated for a minimum of 2 years? Because there's no filing prior to that.

The ones I know are good, their fee is like N1.5 to N6 million, they'll file and do a good job, no delays. Most lawyers won't take a kobo below N500,000 and that will be for a straightforward, uncontested case and the court will send legal officers to make sure she knows she's being divorced, you'll pay their expenses.

Any extra expenses like printing and transport, you'll also pay the lawyer.

Be prepared to spend at least 2 years filing in court (High court is backed up). If your wife fights back, expect more like 3-5 years.

Divorce is Federal High Court, Custody is Magistrate Court and Traditional Marriage dissolution is Customary Court.

Your case will be heard with several other cases and they'll call your wife to testify as well. So both of you will wash your dirty linen in public for the entertainment of everyone. Please note that bloggers will be there in court and if your case is interesting, they are free to cary it on their blogs with your full government names. Unless your lawyer can do something about that.

Do you want custody of your child or will you share custody? The Magistrate court will have to send a Child Welfare officer to inspect your home and everything and you will pay extra money for their transportation and lodging.

Oh, some schools don't like Separated and Divorced parents due to the legal implications of them getting dragged into a messy custody battle.

Oh, you'll need to be able to pay for a house for your children. You're required by Law to provide accomodation and upkeep for them. So you'll be getting even more expenses.

Now, the reality is much worse than the little I've described (I left out more).

Would you like to go ahead or...

Will you be willing to take a deep breath, calm down for a short while and vent here, I'm sure there are reasonable people who will tell you one or two things that can help get you away from the dangerous ledge you're dangling on?

Please? 🙂

WTF HAAAAA. Is it that stressful? We have been separated for 3 years plus. I did not want it but she wants it, I have even pleaded for her to return as a family she has refused. She is in a better position to take care of my daughter so she doesnt let me see her. My life is halted no girlfirend, side chic or new wife because I am respecting the institution of marriage while I dont know where she has been or who she has been with.

I have seen a new lady who is willing to stay with me and grow again but I need to dissolve this first. Now this looks like big wahala.

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Hugose:
WTF HAAAAA. Is it that stressful? We have been separated for 3 years plus. I did not want it but she wants it, I have even pleaded for her to return as a family she has refused. She is in a better position to take care of my daughter so she doesnt let me see her. My life is halted no girlfirend, side chic or new wife because I am respecting the institution of marriage while I dont know where she has been or who she has been with.

I have seen a new lady who is willing to stay with me and grow again but I need to dissolve this first. Now this looks like big wahala.

Yesso. And I didn't even add all the "fun" parts like the Judge can decide that you people didn't try hard enough to reconcile and send you to Mediation and Counselling, see you in 3 months' time.

Or that Court can be adjourned forever and ever, including strikes by legal clerks.

Or that her lawyer can decide to file in Ebonyi state, just to piss you off and be making you pay transport money for every court sitting. Lagos is the most understanding court but also the crowded one, Ogun state used to be faster but too many people started going there.

And una go still have to accuse each other publicly, because Nigeria doesn't have No-Fault Divorce, so your gist, we go hear am. Complete with pictures and screenshots (all admissible in Court).

So...

Tell Big Auntie ...when was the last time you saw your daughter and how much are you paying for her monthly upkeep?

Because it is your RIGHTS as a PARENT to have access to your child. But you must also carry out your RESPONSIBILITY towards that child.

Or have you washed your hands off and are saying "She will look for me as an adult"?

Because bro...have you met this Gen Z and Gen Alpha kids of nowadays?!!!!

😭😮‍💨🤐😱

Hugose, do you have documentation as proof that you tried for reconciliation in the last 3 years?

Do you have documentation that you are paying upkeep for your daughter? E no matter if she doesn't let you see her, are you paying? And are you making effort to see the child frequently? Like, did she block you everywhere and you even contacted your in-laws to ask them to intervene and all this is documented?

Have you tried taking this to the Lord in prayer? (I know you haven't 😠)

You have a case, since it's 3 years. You can notify your wife that you intend to file and see what her reaction please.

And let that notification be so polite, respectful and calm that even her family reading it will wonder why she's divorcing you. And it should be written. Not verbal.

If she writes back "go ahead!", then go ahead. It may be uncontested and that's the best possible scenario. She may have moved on and wants it too. If uncontested and both of sit down with a lawyer to draft a Child Support agreement, everything can be sorted in 1 year.

But be prepared that she may suddenly decide to start fighting you again, people are weird, I've seen men living with another woman get mad that their wives filed (because they were using that wife as excuse not to marry their side chics and "how dare you divorce me, you dey crase?!" (Ego sturves).

If she replies in any manner that gives you even 20% chance that she doesn't want that divorce, please give Reconciliation a final chance.

Far too many divorces were foolish mistakes from both parties: pride, anger, resentment and ego getting in the way.

But the most important thing is to make sure you have access to your child, who NEEDS her 2 parents.

Hugose:
WTF HAAAAA. Is it that stressful? We have been separated for 3 years plus. I did not want it but she wants it, I have even pleaded for her to return as a family she has refused. She is in a better position to take care of my daughter so she doesnt let me see her. My life is halted no girlfirend, side chic or new wife because I am respecting the institution of marriage while I dont know where she has been or who she has been with
I have seen a new lady who is willing to stay with me and grow again but I need to dissolve this first. Now this looks like big wahala.

It's amazing how some of you guys sound at times

A man shouldn't be sounding so incapacitated like this. It's such a shame!

Hugose:
Please how can I get a divorce lawyer within Ikorodu axis

Contact Naijalegal. She can better explain things to you, I think. 🥱🥱

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ChybuzzDD:
It's amazing how some of you guys sound at times

A man shouldn't be sounding so incapacitated like this. It's such a shame!

At least you’ve seen the reason why he got divorced.

Very big shame.

thanks guys and sorry for the very late response I didn't know there were so many responses.

Okay let me give you the update. She and I are cool. Very cool at least for now. I found a better lady who wants to stay with me.

My ex doesn't know about her and will never know until all this is over cos like someone said, people are weird.

So far we talk like friends and she lets me see my daughter. She understands I am broke but I know thats not a good reason not to send monthly stipends of my daughter's upkeep.

The problem is, I have tried so many things to make good money so I can proudly say Daddy is doing well for his daughter but life has not been so pleasant.

So far she my ex get money pass me now and she is taking good care of our daughter better than I can right now. So I really dont see any sense in dragging my daughter from her as long as she lets me see her.

So now I got a lawyer who is running the matter but the hitch now is the marriage certificate which is with my ex and she is yet to bring it cos of her work and it is in another state.

So na so we dey push am for now.

Thanks guys.

Hugose:
thanks guys and sorry for the very late response I didn't know there were so many responses.

Okay let me give you the update. She and I are cool. Very cool at least for now. I found a better lady who wants to stay with me.

My ex doesn't know about her and will never know until all this is over cos like someone said, people are weird.

So far we talk like friends and she lets me see my daughter. She understands I am broke but I know thats not a good reason not to send monthly stipends of my daughter's upkeep.

The problem is, I have tried so many things to make good money so I can proudly say Daddy is doing well for his daughter but life has not been so pleasant.

So far she my ex get money pass me now and she is taking good care of our daughter better than I can right now. So I really dont see any sense in dragging my daughter from her as long as she lets me see her.

So now I got a lawyer who is running the matter but the hitch now is the marriage certificate which is with my ex and she is yet to bring it cos of her work and it is in another state.

So na so we dey push am for now.

Thanks guys.

Maintain that coolness, infact be extra nice to your ex.

She's the mother of your firstborn, don't ever let anyone talk about her anyhow.

I'm sad that you couldn't reconcile but God knows best.

Don't be in a rush to marry Sister Maria (aka the new lady). You may think you're ready but I promise you, you're not. You need to figure out all the problems you had in your previous marriage, acknowledge your faults and work on you. You'll still have baggage and Sister Maria will also have her own wahala. Love dey usually finish around Yr 3, so be prepared. I'd advise you to wait an additional year.

Also, does new lady know that she's going to be a Stepmother and may have to take care of your daughter at some point in the future? Because NL is full of men who are "suddenly shocked" that Wife No.2 doesn't want to be a Stepmom. Please make it very clear to her that she's gaining a daughter from the moment she says "I do" and that will be a problem, let her find another man.

Please take my last paragraph seriously. I'd rather date extensively and not remarry because kids are stressful and it's hard to love a child that isn't yours. And I'm saying that as someone who loves kids. Most people can only tolerate their biological ones.

I wish you could have reconciled but God will take care of it all

A lot of men with kids date like they're single men with no kids and believe they can "start afresh" with a new lady...

Give it 3 years and you'll understand why the Oyinbo people who propagated the gospel of Divorce and Remarriage have an entire industry of books, podcasts and seminars teaching people how to blend families and manage step-parents.

OP, sit the new lady down and tell her your plans for your child, stuff like "she will spend 3 months with us, what do you think about her schooling, she may have malaria and be admitted so you'll have to stay with her overnight on an uncomfortable hospital bed" etc.

That is what you should be looking out for in a 2nd Wife/Husband: someone who can act like an Aunt or Uncle to your child.

And it is rare.

I've seen man who asked me "how is your son?", for 2 years now. He has never bothered to ask me what the names of my other kids are. But if I'm a dunce, I'll go and catch feelings for him. The reality will be waiting down the road to knack my head with aluminum pot

Onegai:
Maintain that coolness, infact be extra nice to your ex.

She's the mother of your firstborn, don't ever let anyone talk about her anyhow.

I'm sad that you couldn't reconcile but God knows best.

Don't be in a rush to marry Sister Maria (aka the new lady). You may think you're ready but I promise you, you're not. You need to figure out all the problems you had in your previous marriage, acknowledge your faults and work on you. You'll still have baggage and Sister Maria will also have her own wahala. Love dey usually finish around Yr 3, so be prepared. I'd advise you to wait an additional year.

Also, does new lady know that she's going to be a Stepmother and may have to take care of your daughter at some point in the future? Because NL is full of men who are "suddenly shocked" that Wife No.2 doesn't want to be a Stepmom. Please make it very clear to her that she's gaining a daughter from the moment she says "I do" and that will be a problem, let her find another man.

Please take my last paragraph seriously. I'd rather date extensively and not remarry because kids are stressful and it's hard to love a child that isn't yours. And I'm saying that as someone who loves kids. Most people can only tolerate their biological ones.

I wish you could have reconciled but God will take care of it all

My brother, I have stayed over 3 years as a married bachelor, October this year will make it 4 years. I don try.
I have intentionally chased away every woman that has tried to come close to me. Na this "Sister Maria" say we die here.

Of course the very first thing I had to make clear to her was my child. Its non negotiable. Hanty say the pikin na her own from now on. She is more than willing to be her step mom, although its easier said than done which I told her cos now my daughter has not really come to stay with me or visit me. So it might be a different ball game when they meet.

The funny thing is, this lady is a GenZ I am 15 years older than her and she still really really wants to stay with me. I cant recall how many times I have told her I cant deal with these your GenZ wahala, oya bye bye. And she is still just coming back somehow. Na so I just let her in finally and hence the reason we are now working towards a future family.

Plus she is not some random girl I met, she was recommended by almost my entire church. My family likes her (which is a big deal because they never liked my ex wife). So yea its happening, but I keep testing her and making her know, I am very fine staying alone. But no matter what I do, she just wants to stay with me, always doing her best to show me love with whatever she can. Of course its not like she no get wahala...but its something we are working on and I am also working on mine.

But like Aunty below said,

Onegai:
sit the new lady down and tell her your plans for your child, stuff like "she will spend 3 months with us, what do you think about her schooling, she may have malaria and be admitted so you'll have to stay with her overnight on an uncomfortable hospital bed" etc.

That is what you should be looking out for in a 2nd Wife/Husband: someone who can act like an Aunt or Uncle to your child.

I have done all that and she really speaks like a willing mom. Either way I will date her for as long as needed if need be, because affliction no fit repeat itself

Hugose:
My brother, I have stayed over 3 years as a married bachelor, October this year will make it 4 years. I don try.
I have intentionally chased away every woman that has tried to come close to me. Na this "Sister Maria" say we die here.

Of course the very first thing I had to make clear to her was my child. Its non negotiable. Hanty say the pikin na her own from now on. She is more than willing to be her step mom, although its easier said than done which I told her cos now my daughter has not really come to stay with me or visit me. So it might be a different ball game when they meet.

The funny thing is, this lady is a GenZ I am 15 years older than her and she still really really wants to stay with me. I cant recall how many times I have told her I cant deal with these your GenZ wahala, oya bye bye. And she is still just coming back somehow. Na so I just let her in finally and hence the reason we are now working towards a future family.

Plus she is not some random girl I met, she was recommended by almost my entire church. My family likes her (which is a big deal because they never liked my ex wife). So yea its happening, but I keep testing her and making her know, I am very fine staying alone. But no matter what I do, she just wants to stay with me, always doing her best to show me love with whatever she can. Of course its not like she no get wahala...but its something we are working on and I am also working on mine.

But like Aunty below said,



I have done all that and she really speaks like a willing mom. Either way I will date her for as long as needed if need be, because affliction no fit repeat itself

Okay.

Please also look inward and fix yourself eh.

Unfortunately not every marriage survives but if you can mend yourself and co-parent beautifully, it can be manageable.

I wish you luck.

One last thing: never let anyone speak badly of your ex. She's the mother of your firstborn and human beings are not good: if I let you insult my ex husband, one day you go share that insult reach my pikin side.

Demand and give nothing but utmost respect to your ex

And don't think it's impossible, you set the tone.

I've seen a baby mama and a wife be so convivial that they ignored the man and were chatting as the baby mama was dropping off her child to spend weekend with her dad, talking

Baby Mama: "will you please take him to the barber, how's work, your wig is nice"

And the wife was like

Wife: "of course nau, does he have homework, did you bring it, how are your parents?".

The man was pissed

Me sef, I shock

Onegai:
Okay.

Please also look inward and fix yourself eh.

Unfortunately not every marriage survives but if you can mend yourself and co-parent beautifully, it can be manageable.

I wish you luck.

One last thing: never let anyone speak badly of your ex. She's the mother of your firstborn and human beings are not good: if I let you insult my ex husband, one day you go share that insult reach my pikin side.

Demand and give nothing but utmost respect to your ex

And don't think it's impossible, you set the tone.

I've seen a baby mama and a wife be so convivial that they ignored the man and were chatting as the baby mama was dropping off her child to spend weekend with her dad, talking

Baby Mama: "will you please take him to the barber, how's work, your wig is nice"

And the wife was like

Wife: "of course nau, does he have homework, did you bring it, how are your parents?".

The man was pissed

Me sef, I shock

I actually prefer this kind of vibe, than a tensed one. Make everybody just dey at peace biko. We will all enter 6 feet one day.