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On this subject matter, you can be a feminist in your workplace, but if you bring it to your home, you will enjoy the brunt. Cos to begin with, a a man of peace I won't drag anything with you, but just inform your parents and your kids that you re now the father of the house period!!! I will resign from my fatherly duties, and become extremely quiet to stupor....... Who get time for nonsense

kenchop:
Same nonsense that was tried with me, I quickly hired a cook. Have had a cooks for over 2 years now, wifey now struggling to get back into the kitchen but no vacancy for her there.
USELESS FEMINISM

She succeeded in getting you to hire a cook? That is actually a win. 🥱🥱

Samantha125:
A child belongs in his or her father's house across all cultures in the world, as long as they answer to your surname, they're yours and where is it written that child support is not a thing in your country? Your women are either uninformed, or they lack the financial means to take things the legal way.

Just because you're not exposed, it doesn't mean child support is not a thing in Nigeria.

Like he told you he is a deadbeat, he doesn't care, there are people like that, both men and women, I know a married woman who wants to divorce her husband and leave including her children with the man, though in her case she intends seeing them from time to time and sending support whenever she can but she doesn't want to live with them.

I've heard of others who left without even looking back at all, but child support in Nigeria can be enforced if any of the party gets the support to enforce it.

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

Exactly!

The group of men that their women like working and contributing financially- now complaining of feminism?

Brendaniel:
➜Like he told you he is a deadbeat, he doesn't care, there are people like that, both men and women, I know a married woman who wants to divorce her husband and leave including her children with the man, though in her case she intends seeing them from time to time and sending support whenever she can but she doesn't want to live with them.
➜I've heard of others who left without even looking back at all, but child support in Nigeria can be enforced if any of the parties gets the support to enforce it.

More women should take to doing this.

2. If women would enforce it a lot more on their end, making certain to document or keep bank records of every amount sent and received by their single-father parties( in case the child needs to learn the truth in the future), then I believe enforcement will eventually become more serious than it has been before now.

Kobojunkie:
She succeeded in getting you to hire a cook? That is actually a win. 🥱🥱

Perfect - no more heats and burnt hands in the kitchen

RPG2020:
Coming from a 38 years old woman with no Man in her life continue you are doing well

You Sabi am!

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

You think it's funny,huh?
It's ok until he starts eating another woman's food...

Kobojunkie:
The lady is clearly an eejiot who
1. Does not know what feminism means or is about.
2. Thinks it makes sense to claim she tried it on --- my guess she means she has weaponized it -- someone while in a contract which clearly states that she be a slave/servant to her husband. 🥱🥱

2. I think she should go back to the drawing board to learn exactly what feminism means and entails. And how even her right to speak publicly is thanks to feminism. Yes, she needs to reeducate herself so she stops making these senseless videos showcasing her brand of stewpidity. 🥱🥱🥱

So, I finally watched the video, and heard nothing sensible in the statements made by both the commentator and the woman. 🥱

In the video, the woman claimed she attempted no longer submitting to her husband, all this while still supposedly religiously/traditionally married by way of a contract that stipulates she be the subjugate/slave in the arrangement, only to then wonder why it backfired. She then stewpidly concluded that it came down to her being married to an Edo man. I can't even imagine how dense one would need to be to come to such a conclusion.

If one violates the terms of the contract one signed up for, what does one expect to happen? What aspect of feminism leads these to believe that it is possible to violate the terms of a contract and somehow avoid consequences for it? 🥱🥱

Of course, the religious/traditional marriage contract requires that a woman exist as a submissive partner in the union. With the man as the sole provider, head/master over the woman, who is herself a servant/slave in the agreement. If a woman in that capacity decided she no longer wishes to submit/be a slave/servant to a god/head, what she would need to do would be to exit her current contract (not breach it), and then consider signing a partnership agreement, which comes with no submission requirement at a later date. 🥱🥱🥱

It's all good until that partnership agreement gets to the part about sharing bills 50/50 and they will suddenly remember men are supposed to be providers.

If you want an equal partnership agreement,be ready to make everything ironclad with a prenup.

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

And he can get another woman to start preparing his food.
Choose your battles,not all are worth it and not all can you win.

Some women become combative and argumentive thinking that is feminism, that is why we have the alarming rate of divorce among our people living in diaspora.lt is so pathetic that some would make a fuss out of everything in their marital home thereby wrecking the nuclear bond that unites the family.

Samantha125:
So what? Not every woman is like your ex.

It has been proven many times before that many deadbeats tend to have unresolved childhood traumas which they'd in return take out on their children, and the circle will keep repeating itself.

I hi ij

FlipModeSquade:
➜It's all good until that partnership agreement gets to the part about sharing bills 50/50 and they will suddenly remember men are supposed to be providers.
➜ If you want an equal partnership agreement, be ready to make everything ironclad with a prenup.

1. In my opinion, a 50/50 agreement DOES NOT make sense for any woman who values her contribution to a relationship, particularly if she intends to have and raise children in that marriage.

2. Well, if you don't want your wife to have equal rights as you in the marriage, there is always traditional marriage, where you can carry 100% of the financial burden on your head and sing Kumbaya all the way. 🥱🥱🥱

Each time I read your comments on marital issues, it reflects the kind of person you may become in marriage, and I’m quite sure there will be many shortcomings because of your attitude, even you, don’t understand yourself. I think you need to calm your ego; that’s the only therapy I can honestly suggest for now.

Kobojunkie:
Stop spinning ridiculous lies against people! [/size]There are lots of women out there who don't know how to cook and are not ashamed of this very fact. I have friends who cook because their food tastes much better than their wives, and they are all OK with it. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Nonsense and eegridient! 🥱🥱🥱

➜Cooking is a skill that almost 50% of men and women don't have down to a T, no matter their years of training; and there is nothing to be ashamed about.

3. You small-brained individuals need to learn to shut up more often than not. So, just one babe seems to have some hiccups with her own cooking, but you took that to mean that every woman has the same issues? Are you Sure you are OK?

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

Kiss your marriage good-bye.

- I had to check the video to make sure, it wasn't my junior wife. I stopped eating her food a few weeks ago, and am actually happy with that. Saves me money.

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

Having read your comments on this thread, I must applaud you, you are truly a specimen. Bold, fearless, and refreshingly blunt, charging straight to the point like a bull with no sense of direction. Men should absolutely watch out for your type, the way one watches out for an unmarked pothole at night.

My only prayer, however, is that these magnificent principles of yours are clearly and exhaustively explained before marriage, preferably in capital letters, with diagrams, footnotes, and a warning label. Not after the wedding, and certainly not after children have arrived. A man deserves to know the exact nature of the contractual ambush he is about to walk into.

Once these terms are laid out plainly and without deception, no man with a functioning brain cell, or even a mildly alert house lizard, would ever sign such a document. Not with his name. Not with his blood. Not with someone else’s pen.

But if you conveniently conceal all this madness, only to start unveiling it after marriage and children, then let’s be honest, that is not bravery, ideology, or empowerment. That is calculated fraud. At that point, you’re not a partner, you’re a well-dressed disaster with a marriage certificate and the moral standing of a pickpocket caught on CCTV.

I no dey watch.

RPG2020:
Coming from a 38 years old woman with no Man in her life continue you are doing well

😁😁

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

You should provide for yourself too, don't depend on your husband for anything.

Kobojunkie:
Stop spinning ridiculous lies against people! [/size]There are lots of women out there who don't know how to cook and are not ashamed of this very fact. I have friends who cook because their food tastes much better than their wives, and they are all OK with it. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Nonsense and eegridient! 🥱🥱🥱

➜Cooking is a skill that almost 50% of men and women don't have down to a T, no matter their years of training; and there is nothing to be ashamed about.

3. You small-brained individuals need to learn to shut up more often than not. So, just one babe seems to have some hiccups with her own cooking, but you took that to mean that every woman has the same issues? Are you Sure you are OK?

You dabble into every marital topics in NL and you speak so passionately and authoritatively. If really you have your fingers wrapped around every marital matter, why are you still single?
Could it be that your ideologies are unworkable? If so, why are you forcefully selling an ideology that is not tested? That's a manifestation of bitterness.

Lilosama:
A lady has come out to say what happened when she tried doing Feminism with her husband after years of being a submissive wife. The husband is an Edo man and she has said women should not try feminism with their husbands especially if he’s a Benin man.

What do you think? Watch the video to find out how her husband reacted.


Source:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSzuWQEHyTk?si=sr3PSDQUHZcPHXdr

Lucky he didn't trow u out of the house

Samantha125:
I'd store the food in the fridge and eat them later on, and since he wouldn't want my food, I'd start cooking only for me and the children while occasionally taking them to eat out...

This kind of foolish behaviour is a sure ticket to losing your husband, if you ever get to have one, and joining the league of bitter old women with no husband forming feminism online

irumole1975:
I’m a deadbeat. That’s all u need to know.

Lol... Happy new year bro

Amumaigwe:
➜You dabble into every marital topics in NL and you speak so passionately and authoritatively. If really you have your fingers wrapped around every marital matter, why are you still single?
➜Could it be that your ideologies are unworkable? If so, why are you forcefully selling an ideology that is not tested?
➜ That's a manifestation of bitterness.

1. Just so you know, being married is a choice... not a natural state. And every choice we have out there literally piles on responsibilities/burdens that do not necessarily alter our being in any way or form. So, pretty much anyone who understands human nature and human behaviors understands even married human beings. Just an fyi! 🥱🥱🥱

2. I have never forcefully sold any ideology here or anywhere else. I should instead ask you why my pointing out there there are alternative choices even in marriage for anyone out there seems to irk you.

3. This 2026, I am gonna need you to at least learn to use only terms you clearly understand, both the meaning and correct application of.

bit·ter·ness
/ˈbidərnəs/
noun
1. sharpness of taste; lack of sweetness.
2. anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly; resentment.

Anyone who has been unbiasedly following the conversations I have thus far could easily tell that my points do not come from a place of anger and disappointment as a result of being unfairly treated. 🥱🥱🥱

Let's do better, collectively, this year!

Samantha125:
Every legitimate child belongs in his or her father's house... They'd be better off there since he'd have built the house for them... This has nothing to do with feminism, but everything to do with the interests of the children.

You can as well take them to your father's house and change names to your father's name so the man can start afresh with his new family. No one gives a hoot. If you want to party with the devil come prepared and ready to go all the way. No such thing as halfway there. Go full throttle and be a real boss lady. Your kids will thank you later after all

Tendd:
Some women become combative and argumentive thinking that is feminism, that is why we have the alarming rate of divorce among our people living in diaspora.lt is so pathetic that some would make a fuss out of everything in their marital home thereby wrecking the nuclear bond that unites the family.

Most won't even allow you have a say without labelling you controlling and they're mostly of African descent worldwide. The ones in the US are worse off its why they hardly get wifed these days and then they still wonder why they're mostly single baby mamas. They're the most viable tools for family destruction but they don't know it yet that they're just tools being used by those with a deeper darker agenda

Then congratulations to you

Tendd:
➜Some women become combative a[b]nd argumentive thinking that is feminism, that is why we have the alarming rate of divorce among our people living in diaspora[/b].
➜ lt is so pathetic that some would make a fuss out of everything in their marital home thereby wrecking the nuclear bond that unites the family.

The alarming rate of divorce has absolutely nothing to do with feminism, but women individually bulking against the bullsheet they have had to settle with for a long time before reaching their limit.

And this divorce trend is not unique to the diaspora, as it has existed since even the time of our ancestors, who had tried so very hard to hide it all behind the refusal to officially declare marriage abandonment as divorce.

2. What is instead pathetic is how married men do not put in as much effort in maintaining their so-called marital homes but are all up in arms when teh women who have for the longest had to carry on without their input decide they will no longer put up with the neglect and abuse. 🥱🥱

pocohantas:
There are many young girls out of school, or distressed women. She didn't do that one because it won't give her the effect she wants. All these airhèads and pandering to male gaze is sickening.

Happy new year. May this year be better than last year in everything.