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Please Nairaland family, to those who have experienced this feelings before, how do you cope with yourself seeing your secondary school mates, past years neighborhood colleagues, your parents friends children and etcetera that you know; you see them doing well maybe some have traveled out of the country or still here in Nigeria doing awesomely. And anytime you come across their pictures or videos on social media you can tell they are doing well and you can also tell the life patterns they could be living might not be a circle ⭕ pattern.

I feel depressed when I see this. Like how can I also change my life 🧬 pattern and live a happy Life. I'm just here working 9 to 5 collecting minimum wage while my friends and colleagues and others are climbing higher.

Has anyone ever been in my shoes

Ayomide11111:
Please Nairaland family, to those who have experienced this feelings before, how do you cope with yourself seeing your secondary school mates, past years neighborhood colleagues, your parents friends children and etcetera that you know; you see them doing well maybe some have traveled out of the country or still here in Nigeria doing awesomely. And anytime you come across their pictures or videos on social media you can tell they are doing well and you can also tell the life patterns they could be living might not be a circle ⭕ pattern.

I feel depressed when I see this. Like how can I also change my life 🧬 pattern and live a happy Life. I'm just here working 9 to 5 collecting minimum wage while my friends and colleagues and others are climbing higher.

Has anyone ever been in my shoes

First learn to always thank God for your own situation...
Ogbeni don't over pressure yourself please
Each person has his or her journey in this life
Learn to stop stalking all these people on social media too... All na packaging... Do you know what they are facing internally
Just focus on your hustle.. connect or network with people that will take you places and live your life

duduade:
First learn to always thank God for your own situation...
Ogbeni don't over pressure yourself please
Each person has his or her journey in this life
Learn to stop stalking all these people on social media too... All na packaging... Do you know what they are facing internally
Just focus on your hustle.. connect or network with people that will take you places and live your life

Thank you very much sir. I appreciate this also.
Haa! This life heen.

Ayomide11111:
Thank you very much sir. I appreciate this also.
Haa! This life heen.

Have you considered humbly asking some of them HOW they make their money?
Also, consider, a whole bunch of his mates were asking the same thing about Hushpoppy. So things and conditions change - constantly!

Ayomide11111:
➜Thank you very much sir. I appreciate this also. Haa! This life heen.

The worst thing you can do to yourself is cling to some god delusion in this situation. 🥱🥱🥱

Yeah, life is hard, and unfortunately, we can't always achieve the same things as others around us; however, that is not a reason to have our emotions thrown into a loop every time we see others doing better than we are. What you described seems a lot like depression stemming from your failure to realize external validation for your existence. That means several things
➜ You are severely lacking in the emotional intelligence department
➜ You seek external validation rather than sourcing your validation from within yourself
➜ Your emotions are all tangled up in a ball — probably jealousy, frustration, shame, guilt, loneliness, confusion, anger, sadness, hopelessness... etc, are somewhere in there battling each other for prime control, and that is really throwing you into some serious depression

Your emotions are valid, but having strong emotional intelligence would go a long way in helping you not only recognize, regulate, and properly respond to each emotional energy. I suggest you either:

1. Seek mental health therapy immediately from a professional and begin your journey towards unwinding those emotional knots, beginning now, so the rest of your year is not colored by all of this
2. Pick up and read practice books on how to become more emotionally intelligent and work through every chapter and exercise until you are sure your EQ is higher and confident that you will be able to better regulate your emotions all by yourself from that point on.

Cope? Depression? you mean the default human operating system glitch that makes you aware of your own mortality? I disabled mine.

Here is my coping stack: realize emotions are just bad code. delete them. sudo rm -rf /feelings, replace serotonin with getting a skill. remember that existence is a cosmic typo and we’re all just waiting for the universe to Ctrl+Alt+Del itself.

Ayomide11111:
Please Nairaland family, to those who have experienced this feelings before, how do you cope with yourself seeing your secondary school mates, past years neighborhood colleagues, your parents friends children and etcetera that you know; you see them doing well maybe some have traveled out of the country or still here in Nigeria doing awesomely. And anytime you come across their pictures or videos on social media you can tell they are doing well and you can also tell the life patterns they could be living might not be a circle ⭕ pattern.



I feel depressed when I see this. Like how can I also change my life 🧬 pattern and live a happy Life. I'm just here working 9 to 5 collecting minimum wage while my friends and colleagues and others are climbing higher.

Has anyone ever been in my shoes

U have no written goals,,plan and u are stucked in one location,most likely.

If u can work on these things,then u can change ur future completely.

Anyone who has no goal has no future...

Ask yourself, what was my 2024 goal,compare to 2025 and in this 2026,what is my goal...are they written down?

Between all of this lies ur problem.

Ayomide11111:
Please Nairaland family, to those who have experienced this feelings before, how do you cope with yourself seeing your secondary school mates, past years neighborhood colleagues, your parents friends children and etcetera that you know; you see them doing well maybe some have traveled out of the country or still here in Nigeria doing awesomely. And anytime you come across their pictures or videos on social media you can tell they are doing well and you can also tell the life patterns they could be living might not be a circle ⭕ pattern.

I feel depressed when I see this. Like how can I also change my life 🧬 pattern and live a happy Life. I'm just here working 9 to 5 collecting minimum wage while my friends and colleagues and others are climbing higher.

Has anyone ever been in my shoes

Firstly, always appreciate God for keeping you alive whenever I go to general hospital for my son appointment with doctor, especially when you stand around emergency department, you will appreciate God for the condition you are presently. However there are some plans you can have for yourself this year.

Plan to join cooperative where you can save money and borrow three times of your deposit to do business, don't do unnecessary expenses, don't try to impress anybody, only pay for your basic needs

People have given an intelligent contributions to this topic. @OP, pls take their advise.

You see, this life is incomprehensible. Your current situation is someone else prayer point at the moment just like how you are looking and aspiring other people's situation. Be content but also ambitious.

You divine the life you want, if you want to live the lives of those people you talked above, you must be ready to do what they have done or even do more.
You can't restrict yourself to a minimum wage single source of income and desire a life of financial independence.

Go out there (out of your comfort zone), try your hands on new skill, new trade and making new connections especially with people beyond your radar. Ask yourself how you can add value to other people's lives and you can monitize that later on.

If you are still under 40, do not be ashamed of getting your hands dirty legally with consistency and focus on your goals, you will achieve the life you desire.