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Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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Most uncle's, and aunts are very terrible people and also very annoying. That's why it's best one pretends to be all respectful, with fake smiles whenever one is around them.

He slapped you first, I get. But just apologize to him, not just apologizing, get him drinks accompanied with other olders persons in your family and apologize to him. Ensure he accepts the drinks, and also drinks it in your presence and that of others.

Suggesting this, incase he is diabolic and wants to hurt because of what happened.

Tenrack:
what if he dies early?

I dèy tell you... If he is from those culture that has strong family ties and strong cultural value system by now everybody go Don hear this issue is going to be a long one.

Forget all the cho cho cho

U messed up.

No justification for ur action

FreeStuffsNG:
✓ You think that I meant do no slap him back is same as tolerate the nuisance?Smh.I don't do cheap talk o

You get slap measuring meter to determine slap intensity, abi? 🥱🥱🥱

Blakjewelry:
So the rich and wealthy don't grow old and weak too?

I don't follow! 🥱🥱🥱

SpencerForbes:
Look, I’ll keep it casual, but the truth is you just disgraced your entire lineage. Instead of being the shield for your family, you’re the one slapping your own uncle. You’ve basically signaled to the world that anyone can treat your family like a punching bag. If escaping poverty makes you think you’re above advice, it just proves your family tree is average at best.

Honestly, you’re a hazard to the future. If you have kids, family meetings are going to look like a bar fight with "slaps being served like dry gin," because you’ll just raise them to be as classless as you are.

You think you’re big, but you just proved you’re on the same low level as the man you’re disrespecting. You’re a "Person of Particular Concern." If nobody in your circle is telling you how wrong this is, then your upbringing is a total write-off.

I’m looking for the name of your village because no sane person would marry into a family where the youth have zero respect for their elders. You’re lucky he’s old; if he were your age, he would’ve beaten the city life right out of you. Even someone as big as Davido would be forced to apologize if he crossed his uncle. You guys are mid, and if you don't watch it, a seed from that man’s house is going to come back to settle the score.

You’re out here acting like a self-made king, but all you’ve actually made is a family legacy where the only thing being passed down is a lack of shame and a handful of slaps.

Leave the guy

He's arrogant and disrespectful

Forget if na my father u slap like that we'll gather with my bros and beat living daylight outta u

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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Nigeria is gone and there's nothing Tinubu and obi can do about it. The citizens lack control, temperance and perseverance. A society like that will fail.
The north is on the brink and the southern part will follow soon.
Young man unfortunately you are a disgrace to your ancestors. Sane humans prize control, patience and good character. I hope that you posted this under a new moniker otherwise nairalanders would not respect those involved in your upbringing.
You are in the world to learn. Shame on the people supporting you..
You should have reported the matter to the elders or chiefs in your family. Nigeria will be gone very soon.

SpencerForbes:
Some things are just hard to explain. Where I’m from, I’ve seen how diabolical people can get. They’re just waiting for you to step out of line so they can start plotting something. Whether that stuff actually works is a mystery, but I’m definitely not interested in being the guinea pig.

I used to be just like the original poster. When I was 15, I’d talk back and banter with my uncle, but as I grew up, I realized it was a mistake. He still holds a grudge, and looking back, I wouldn't do it again. I know that if anything ever happened to my dad, I'd probably need my uncle's help. The poster should just apologize; it’s not going to kill him. I wonder how he’d feel if his own nephew did the same thing over some misunderstanding.

How much development has the diabolical and wicked acts brought to your community? This is 2026,there's no pride in what you wrote about your community.

tunjijones:
Hey... In this world, every man to himself.

Pls stop sulking on how he did not check on you while growing.

You know karma is a real, it will always catch on you.

How about he is his uncle's karma? Stop creating unnecessary fears for him.

Kobojunkie:
You get slap measuring meter to determine slap intensity, abi? 🥱🥱🥱

Slap na poor man and bolekaja thing abeg. I didn't even see my father have physical altercations with anyone so where will I learn it.

If a poor man like that his uncle slaps me, I will just ignore. May I not be unfortunate to be caught in "two fighting " with such a poor and miserable fellow.

Awọn dabinṣeda

Babalegba:
✓ Nigeria is gone and there's nothing Tinubu and obi can do about it. The citizens lack control, temperance and perseverance. A society like that will fail.
The north is on the brink and the southern part will follow soon.
Young man unfortunately you are a disgrace to your ancestors. Sane humans prize control, patience and good character. I hope that you posted this under a new moniker otherwise nairalanders would not respect those involved in your upbringing.
You are in the world to learn. Shame on the people supporting you..

Your society failed not because of this young man but because of old men like his uncle who believes he is entitled to commit misdemeanors and get away with it because of his age. 🥱🥱

When you all start respecting your own laws, then you can talk of having a society that has hope. 🥱🥱

Blakjewelry:
I dèy tell you... If he is from those culture that has strong family ties and strong cultural value system by now everybody go Don hear this issue is going to be a long one.

no be lie. The uncle sef no try make we talk true

What your uncle did was totally wrong. I won't blame you for returning the slap, why because, an unexpected action can make someone do something he won't have done under a normal circumstance, we are all human beings that can make mistakes. But my advice to you is, in order to give yourself peace, go and apologize to him, not that he deserves it, more so he is a drunkard, but for the sake of yourself, just to give yourself peace, that is my advice for you

FreeStuffsNG:
✓ Slap na poor man and bolekaja thing abeg. I didn't even see my father have physical altercations with anyone so where will I learn it.
If a poor man slaps me like that his uncle slaps me, I will just ignore. May I not be unfortunate to be caught in "two fighting " with such a poor and miserable fellow.

And then you all wonder why Nigeria is lawless when no one thinks it makes sense to enforce the law. 🥱🥱🥱

Well i really do not like one sided talks but …..


If i be u, i for no slap am. I fit shakara am make e wan shit for body, i go come laff hysterically. Come sound am warning say i no send am at all.


At least. I no slap elderly. Lol

Person when u for greet jejely and buy him few bottles of beer , u go dey slap ur uncle and now u don carry generational curse

Dtruthspeaker:
Clearly tells you that in addition to all the other things, he also suffers inferiority complex which he is trying to turn into superiority complex

Not stooping to the suppression culture implies complex problems, right? I would have thought our generation will be better but.......

Lexzeey:
Of course I'm a bad person, Una wey good please go and submit to village people let them use you as they like, nobody will oppress me for any reason bro, including those you promised will slap me, I can't stoop so low to a position where I deserve a slap from someone younger because I respect myself, learn to respect yourself as well and fight for your personal space.

All this ur cho cho cho changes nothing

You're disrespectful and have bad character
Saying nigeria is backward then leave na go another country mtcheeeew

And about that even if it's in America if u slap ur uncle it won't go down well for u

silaswills01:
Leave the guy

He's arrogant and disrespectful

Forget if na my father u slap like that we'll gather with my bros and beat living daylight outta u

In my family alone, I have at least five people in my age bracket, and some are already running big businesses. I also have many seniors because I come from a large family; we move like a full squad if we travel, so you’d have to leave immediately to avoid the comeback. I can’t even dream of slapping the last born of my father’s siblings, let alone a brother.

Even the youth organization in my village would have called me to order. I remember correcting my dad as a boy and getting a stern warning for it—we don't joke with respect where I’m from. It’s clear this guy doesn't have a functional youth organization in his village, or maybe they’re all just stagnant. If he came from a place with structure, this matter would have been settled at the village council by now.

Lexzeey:
Of course I no send the man, you contributed nothing to my upbringing, schooling, even water you haven't sent me money for till I grew up and suddenly I owe you something, no, I'll remain arrogant, as far as I'm concerned I don't know him, let him respect it.

This tone of yours has a little sense of entitlement in it.
So only those who contributed money to your upbringing deserves respect?

Lolzzzzz 🤣

Your uncle wanted to ganu si

But na slap you give am

Lolzzzzz 🤣

Kobojunkie:
And then you all wonder why Nigeria is lawless when no one thinks it makes sense to enforce the law. 🥱🥱🥱

Smh.

It's obvious that you didn't have the experience in this kind of things and just catching cruise
Talk is cheap

You

Lexzeey:
In every family there's these uncles and aunts who knows nothing about you, they don't even know your name sometimes or how you survived into adulthood but feels you owe them allegiance whenever they see you.

first off I know it's an African thing to always respect people older than you, and before you crucify me I am also an adult now with his own adult life, I keep to myself and I don't force people to respect me as respect is earned.

A family member died and we all came back for it, coupled with the holidays, the whole extended family was present including some of those in diaspora, I'm an introvert so I keep to myself, I generally greeted everyone when I came and sat in my corner.

Then there's this useless Cockatoo who drank free beer until his brains froze, first he kept talking about yahoo boys, how they dress a certain way, how they do all sorts to be rich, how they kill people to be rich, they both with soap gotten from herbalist, they don't go to work yet they're living fine, they have cars at a young age etc.

Now when you're talking and you don't call my name trust me I won't answer you. Even if it's obvious you're talking about me, and from all indication this man was talking about me, one my mom is dead, two I earn online and don't physically go to work, third I am not begging I'm doing okay, but I still didn't pay him any mind, then he indirectly started talking about how they don't respect people enough, he was so pained for some reason and condescending.

I just got up and went to a shop outside our family house, as I was buying something this weyrey came, I got what I wanted and turned to leave and that was when I felt it, waaam at my back, this guy slapped me on my back, then he asked me directly, didn't you see me? Don't you know I'm your uncle?

I lost it, and like a reflex I slapped him back hard it was a resounding slap, he staggered backwards, and my cousins held me, before I know it has spread that I just slapped uncle whatever his name is, what's painful is everyone blamed me, for being disrespectful and suddenly it didn't matter what he did, I'm somehow supposed to attone for it.

this man didn't know how I survived till adulthood, not even a penny of his went into my upbringing, I don't know why he felt I owe him respect and allegiance, even if I did, why does he have to go about it that way.

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you messed up big time, there is no sugarcoating it. It's disrespectful of you

GboyegaD:
How much development has the diabolical and wicked acts brought to your community? This is 2026,there's no pride in what you wrote about your community.

What are you typing and who talked about pride? I’m talking about reality you’re talking about pride. Did I ever mention I’m proud of it? I’m talking about things that happens. Which development has corruption brought but are we not talking about it? Or there’s pride in that one.

Oga you lack respect. Just becaue he didn't contribute to your upbringing doesn't mean you should disrespect him that way.

This guy need therapy

Women should avoid this kind of people

This guys is broken

Normally, Y! boys no dey get brain.

And that is 1 of the reasons I detest & avoid them. Ditto my younger step brother.

Very unreasonable lots!

LordIsaac:
You don't slap anyone under any circumstances besides self defense, not even your uncle! There are sane and legal means of resolving all conflicts! Go and apologize to him.

in this 2026, make it a habit to read everything before making your opinion

From your explanation, you already knew his kind of person. Both of your knew yourself very very well
You have done so well by avoiding him
But slapping him
Is a big Nooooooo
Dis is Africa.
You could have reported him to other elders around, hitting him back is a big Nooooooo


What if he slumped and died from your slap, how will you explain that.

Two wrong they say, don't make a right.