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All of you blaming the mom might not know where this boys courage is coming from. Maybe she is in an abusive household where the boys get to see her being abused and she is not allowed to exert authority on them or him therefore they have no respect for her.

Mothers role in paying school fees may not be compulsory but made a role of commitment to the family. You are good to go.

Its important for every man to carry your children along oooo... let them understand your struggle . This boy here his father have downloaded everything to him

We4all:
I blame the mother for exchanging words with him. She should have reset his fish brain with slaps, and any attempt to fight back should follow with a grave punishment: a night in a police cell.

I'd prefer not to have any children than have a kid like him. I am certain he talks down on his mom because his father also disrespects her too.

The other day in my neighborhood, I overheard a boy outrightly insulting his mom, and even called her a prostitute. Pathetic lots!

Chai.... This woman is probably sick or not physically fit, if not.... Someone I gave birth to will be telling me calling me rubbish.... Haaaaa... E would've died several times and resurrected

Or na to go to school and arrange better discipline with the most wicked male teacher... She needs to get to his school and report to the class teacher and principal, that's if there's respect for the teachers sha... This English the genz are speak and theAmerican movie they copy is destroying our society

He said she's supposed to pay for all. As how naw? When children misbehave and don't get disciplined immediately, this is what happens. I pity the girl this one will marry tomorrow. May God help the mother to put him right

In as much as this is wrong it is what most girls in this generation will face when they become mothers, lazy bunch they don't contribute shishi to helping the man they want him to carry all the family load.

The woman is simply reaping the fruits of how she raised her son.

Kobojunkie:
Nigerian women need to do better when it comes to raising their boys. All these women married to men they keep propping up, pretending that they do good by reducing their efforts to make the man look good, only to keep hurting their children with these lies. How in the world would these boys understand the true value of their mothers in these relationships if they are constantly seeing their mothers lying on behalf of fathers who may be nowhere in the picture?

I am not certain what transpired, but given that the woman posted the video, it seems she feels her efforts in the home go unappreciated, and something tells me it may have to do with her not telling her children the truth.

That boy's resentment towards his mother did not come out of nowhere. He has probably had it for a long time that the mother is merely a mooch who contributes nothing to his life and development as a whole, and that is a problem that mothers need to pay attention to early in their development.

No descendant of mine would dare treat my woman like that.

Even if I do everything, how e come use concern am? When me and my woman started whatever it is we had, was the silly kid there to know what his old man agreed to live with?

I once had a woman I simply wanted to be at home for me, she refused but I insisted and we later had a compromise. She was managing a business instead...

My child no go fit get the mind as I no dey use the women in my circle play with anybody.

And the best thing the useless mother could say and do is you will see yourself on the internet. What a generation we found ourselves.

The boy is a potential cultist in the making and his mum is just a weak woman even at almost nearing 50years now I can't shout on my mum for whatever reasons, she will just give u a dirty slap and u won't be able to talk back at her ever again

correctguy101:
➜No descendant of mine would dare treat my woman like that. Even if I do everything, how e come use concern am? When me and my woman started whatever it is we had, was the silly kid there to know what his old man agreed to live with?
I once had a woman I simply wanted to be at home for me, she refused but I insisted and we later had a compromise. She was managing a business instead... My child no go fit get the mind as I no dey use the women in my circle play with anybody.

This isn't about you but the reality of most so-called Nigerian women out there — the single-married women brigade— many of whom are forced to pay the bills, take care of the households, and also tolerate the tantrums from their frustrated children, who they also lie to about how their wonderful absent fathers are the ones responsible for it all. 🥱🥱🥱

There should be a special day set aside as men's day here @ Seun Osewa, where men should be celebrated and asked to share experiences so the singles here can learn something.

Most women contribute nothing in marriage than give birth, even the intimacy aspect, some men would still be the ones to always make the move. Marriage can be tiring and we men always need encouragement, intimacy can also be less interesting and monotonous not because you're promiscuous or you have ojukokoro but because you've got loads of responsibilities on your shoulders as a man. This is the reality. In all these, we still stay committed and faithful. She comes to you only when she feels like, not because she feels you want intimacy and if you say you're too tired due to work stress and she should give you sometime, she begins to suspect you, until that day you broke down and the dr says your hbp is too high.

She cries out in case things go awry and says she doesn't even stress you at all. She won't remember when she nags uncontrollably at you and all the responsibilities you shoulder. She doesn't remember you have just one life, one body and one brain to organise things. She brings her bills and you still settle everything without complaining.

I salute the bravery of this young man, though not every child could be that vocal.

While we shoulder our responsibilities as men without complaining, most women do little or nothing and not because they don't have, but because they're selfish. It's same habit globally, irrespective of race or ethnicity. Men always have high BP,heart attacks and other health issues early in life, not because it's hereditary. Marriage stress is mainly the contributing factor and that's why I always encourage men to create time to enjoy. I'm not talking about sex. Sex is the least of man's form of enjoyment cos you're the one losing both financially,spiritually and healthwise. If you can afford travels, spend the money, enjoy spas and massage, go on sightseeing. These are highly therapeutic to your soul. Stop working your ass out cos that money will be spent anyhow, should the unexpected happen. And if you cant afford travel, find time to give yourself a nice treat. She will still leave you to spend time with her children when you're old. Always remember YOLO

Enough said

That mother has been hurting the father .I believe that the boy is responding trying to defend his dad in his own way . Though i don't support Indiscipline but that boy is reacting to something .

Imagine the effrontery!

Kobojunkie:
Nigerian women need to do better when it comes to raising their boys. All these women married to men they keep propping up, pretending that they do good by reducing their efforts to make the man look good, only to keep hurting their children with these lies. How in the world would these boys understand the true value of their mothers in these relationships if they are constantly seeing their mothers lying on behalf of fathers who may be nowhere in the picture?

I am not certain what transpired, but given that the woman posted the video, it seems she feels her efforts in the home go unappreciated, and something tells me it may have to do with her not telling her children the truth.

That boy's resentment towards his mother did not come out of nowhere. He has probably had it for a long time that the mother is merely a mooch who contributes nothing to his life and development as a whole, and that is a problem that mothers need to pay attention to early in their development.

Nairaland Judge, Jury and Executioner don talk with her kukunase led thinking

ChybuzzDD:
Punishing him for doing what exactly??
For saying the truth about his dad being the sole financier of the family?
If truth pains you, then you have a problem

That it is not his place to say anything of such, he has no right, and he is not privy to the financial arrangement between his mother and his father.
Even if what he said is the truth, it is not his truth to tell and, he has no standing to even tell it to his mother. The kiddo needs to know his place, he was not part of the negotiation or transaction that gave him life or even nurtured him to this point that he he even knows these words he is speaking.

Caaz:
Iya wura...person like me go don break him neck since as he stand there dey sharp mouth... Oyono honestly hes a learner.

E go get how my 10yrs old daughter go reply me...i dey run her down completely.

lol the reason why gen zs are so annoyingly rude,entitled and so audacious with their rudeness is because of this una woke soft parenting and I said soft parenting is not for African teenagers. African teens and oyinbo kids aren't the same

Kobojunkie:
Nigerian women need to do better when it comes to raising their boys. All these women married to men they keep propping up, pretending that they do good by reducing their efforts to make the man look good, only to keep hurting their children with these lies. How in the world would these boys understand the true value of their mothers in these relationships if they are constantly seeing their mothers lying on behalf of fathers who may be nowhere in the picture?

I am not certain what transpired, but given that the woman posted the video, it seems she feels her efforts in the home go unappreciated, and something tells me it may have to do with her not telling her children the truth.

That boy's resentment towards his mother did not come out of nowhere. He has probably had it for a long time that the mother is merely a mooch who contributes nothing to his life and development as a whole, and that is a problem that mothers need to pay attention to early in their development.

Total nonsense and gibberish.

That it is not his place to say anything of such, he has no right, and he is not privy to the financial arrangement between his mother and his father.
Even if what he said is the truth, it is not his truth to tell and, he has no standing to even tell it to his mother. The kiddo needs to know his place, he was not part of the negotiation or transaction that gave him life or even nurtured him to this point that he he even knows these words he is speaking.

ChybuzzDD:
Punishing him for doing what exactly??
For saying the truth about his dad being the sole financier of the family?
If truth pains you, then you have a problem

Sirchiboy:
Is your mum black or a fair woman?

How does that concern the subject at hand??

This boy's outburst is a culmination of many things. I strongly suspect that this boy has grown up to watch his mother disrespecting & abusing his father. There is very little or no love between his parents. Because no young boy would have the effrontery to speak to his mother in that manner, if he grew up in a home where love and mutual respect between parents is nurtured. 😎

SpencerForbes:
Truth without respect is just insults. Truth has a tone—there’s a way you speak and a way you don't. Let’s stop backing n nsense. This is Nairaland, not Dollarland; our values still mean something. Stop supporting what’s wrong. We grew up knowing that even if you disagree with your mother, you don't 'correct' her like she’s your mate. That’s a failure of home training, plain and simple.

A child 'correcting' his mother like a peer isn't a sign of growth; it’s a sign of a failed upbringing. If he lacks a filter at this age, his future is a major red flag. That’s not 'honesty'—it's pure disrespect. In my day, his father would have corrected that energy mercilessly. Does he even understand the traditional roles his parents agreed upon? Probably not. We need to stop validating lawlessness in the name of modernization. Normalizing nonsense doesn't make us 'civilized'—it just brings madness.

That boys attitude is a reflection of his upbringing. Obviously the mother didn't do a good job raising him.

I don't want to talk about her not contributing shishi

We4all:
I blame the mother for exchanging words with him. She should have reset his fish brain with slaps, and any attempt to fight back should follow with a grave punishment: a night in a police cell.

I'd prefer not to have any children than have a kid like him. I am certain he talks down on his mom because his father also disrespects her too.

The other day in my neighborhood, I overheard a boy outrightly insulting his mom, and even called her a prostitute. Pathetic lots!

but no be you dey talk the other day say spanking a child is akin to abusing them?
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Stay one place na

SpencerForbes:
How does that concern the subject at hand??

Answer my question now before me and you get big issue

Mindlog:
Failed parenting.

There are many things wrong in that video.

The mother is clearly afraid of him, the boy weilds power.

So wrong recording and uploading the son's burst of emotional dysregulatiion. The parents are certainly not on the same page regarding such behaviour thus his "boldness".

That boy is very likely to struggle to regulate himself as he grows older if this behaviour is not curbed but like they say, we will meet in the front.

He will end up like so many of them here who regard women as nothing, even their mother.

The mother was obviously trained that she is nothing without her husband cum son

That boy will beat his mom one day. And he won't have regard for girls outside.. A potential woman beater in the making.. Wrong parenting.... Your dad pays your fees,and so? If your dad was not okay with your mom doing nothing,he for don send her go her papa house. The dad have got a lot of work to do on that boy, before he goes to join cult or arms robbery gang

Kaczynski:
So the dad is the payment gateway, and the mom is the unverified vendor.

This is what happens when you don't implement a proper ledger. The kid's just performing an unscheduled audit.

Congratulation kid. You’ve just exposed the raw transactional nature of family.

you just spewed what I bore in mind. The woman was also prolly trying to downplay the role of the father in his life hence why he blurted out. Marriage no just follow again.

correctguy101:
No descendant of mine would dare treat my woman like that.

Even if I do everything, how e come use concern am? When me and my woman started whatever it is we had, was the silly kid there to know what his old man agreed to live with?

I once had a woman I simply wanted to be at home for me, she refused but I insisted and we later had a compromise. She was managing a business instead...

My child no go fit get the mind as I no dey use the women in my circle play with anybody.

See the way men are defending the integrity and respect of the mother. Let's flip the page, let's assume the child is saying the same thing about his father. No woman will condemn the boy or demand respect from him to his father. Infact, they will hail him that he has done the right thing to his irresponsible father who couldn't pay school fee.

Sirchiboy:
Answer my question now before me and you get big issue

Sirchiboy is here again 😂😂😂 my mom isn’t looking for sugar boy Sirchiboy, she already has us😂

Diamond098454:
Thank you

You have spoken my mind

Some mothers are the ones paying family bills but lying to their kids that their father did, just to make the man look good in front of the kids

It's mostly the opposite bro.
This Sunday (if you're a church goer) ask 20 random kids in your church who bought their fine clothes for them . The answer will shock you.

It's the parent that didn't pay for it that they'll call for you.

If a woman buys a pen for her child, the child will know it the her that bought. Women are good at that

Idaytesj29:
➜See the way men are defending the integrity and respect of the mother. Let's flip the page, let's assume the child is saying the same thing about his father. No woman will condemn the boy or demand respect from him to his father. Infact, they will hail him that he has done the right thing to his irresponsible father who couldn't pay school fee.

The boy in the video is likely saying all of those things to his mother because the mother covered her husband's shame with lies that he is a providing father. Yes, tradition and religion do not mind telling women to lie through their teeth to their own children in the name of covering the husband's shame. 🥱🥱🥱