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Kalulu44:
➜ You never asked for reverse role and you're still mentioning the man to take over cooking. ➜ Is cooking made for the man, if you say yes.
➜ Then providing is also made for the woman

1. Again, why should his taking over of cooking duty mean she should take over providing? 🥱🥱
2. That man cooked for himself when he was single... so why this suggestion that cooking is not made for men? 🥱🥱🥱

3. You still have yet to provide an answer to my original question to you, but you assert an unfounded idea as a conclusion. Why? 🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
Can't you do the cooking? Go out there and look for a cheap wife that will cook with firewood for you.

Biggerpicture

Charcoal is the bigger picture you got for your own wife

You guys are so selfish.....let Men continually suffer to maintain y'all ego and standard right?.

You're expecting him to foot the bills and do the cooking and supporting the "you like" wife that isn't ready to contribute to maintain the standard she wants in the house but wants the standard to be maintained by all means possible right?.

Why is ur genda so selfish and cruel?. .

Kobojunkie:
Again, why should his taking over of cooking duty mean she should take over providing? 🥱🥱
2. That man cooked for himself when he was single... so why this suggestion that cooking is not made for men? 🥱🥱🥱

3. You still have yet to provide an answer to my original question to you, but here you already assert your unfounded idea as a conclusion. Why? 🥱🥱

You make me laugh with your always rigid assertion about men. So the man was cooking for himself while single, agreed. So the woman wasn't providing for herself while single too.
I'm here with you

Kalulu44:
➜You make me laugh with your always rigid assertion about men. So the man was cooking for himself while single, agreed. So the woman wasn't providing for herself while single too. I'm here with you

You still haven't answered my question. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
You still haven't answered my question. 🥱🥱🥱

As if you have answered mine

As I read this thread
That nollywood movie song ‘ orji aka gum’ just begin play for my head.
Op, I have a suggestion
Buy clear pot, I was told it keeps water cold. More energy saved from use of fridge.

Make Una Dey check Una pocket before Una marry o
Have you stayed where Dey use charcoal to cook before? Smoke go show you shege banza.

If your daughter/ sister is in this situation what will you advise her?

Dzzzz:
Wetin person no fit finish,make e no better start am..Bro the guy should be answering some questions on this matter..I understand you well but let’s not blame the woman for everything cause he’s saying she should “contribute” but let’s ask him,Was she contributing from the start??

Your angle is correct too. We really need to ask for sure if she’s contributing from the start. Well, I believe things like this are minor issues that can be fixed. He’s the man, so he should just soft-pedal by using his emotional and social quotient

Oga try to sit your wife down and explain everything to her, she will definitely want a better future for her children. Most times we men just think and conclude alone when we are not the only person in the marriage. If you have been explaining it to her she would have brought the idea of coal pot before now

bigpicture001:
Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources..

So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..

Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside..

Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..

By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..

Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly..

Abeg wetin I go do for this case

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Abeg show me the type of charcoal stove you got for her to use that she refused to use it.

If the gas finishes, make we see whether she go adjust or not. In this economy , families are making a adjustments here and there to survive o!

thomas2024:
Your angle is correct too. We really need to ask for sure if she’s contributing from the start. Well, I believe things like this are minor issues that can be fixed. He’s the man, so he should just soft-pedal by using his emotional and social quotient

Because you see some men eh.When things are going good they will say”I don’t want my wife to stress”and when the lady has finally relaxed that’s when things go bad and the same man will push her to go hustle..So make the guy answer us,if she was contributing from the start and why she stopped contributing or she never did!

Dzzzz:
Because you see some men eh.When things are going good they will say”I don’t want my wife to stress”and when the lady has finally relaxed that’s when things go bad and the same man will push her to go hustle..So make the guy answer us,if she was contributing from the start and why she stopped contributing or she never did!

You’re right indeed💯

thomas2024:
You’re right indeed💯

Most times when my babes asks me for something’s,I Dey personally turn her down to see what next!..If I keep saying yes to everything she wants,im setting myself up for disappointment.I told her plainly that if we are to get married,I will bring and you will bring cause no be only me go suffer for marriage..I’ve told myself that instead of me to kpai for inside marriage,Na my wife go kpai..Gbamsolutely..

bigpicture001:
Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources..

So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..

Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside..

Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..

By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..

Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly..

Abeg wetin I go do for this case

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Cooking with charcoal is giving yourself unnecessary stress. The cost of charcoal and that of gas are almost the same. You need about N500 charcoal to cook a pot of food N500 worth of gas is enough to cook same pot of food

Dzzzz:
Most times when my babes asks me for something’s,I Dey personally turn her down to see what next!..If I keep saying yes to everything she wants,im setting myself up for disappointment.I told her plainly that if we are to get married,I will bring and you will bring cause no be only me go suffer for marriage..I’ve told myself that instead of me to kpai for inside marriage,Na my wife go kpai..Gbamsolutely..

Lol 😂 Ọmọ, that’s the way ooo. Most men nowadays suffer in silence in marriage with no one to complain to. Na why dem Dey die quickly before their time. I don leave marriage matter for who sabi run am, no be person like us dem Dey find😂😂😂

thomas2024:
Lol 😂 Ọmọ, that’s the way ooo. Most men nowadays suffer in silence in marriage with no one to complain to. Na why dem Dey die quickly before their time. I don leave marriage matter for who sabi run am, no be person like us dem Dey find😂😂😂

I Dey tell you bro..I done sign and will never fall for all that hype wey go later wound me for old age..Marriage in Nigeria sef done worse pass marriage for Yankee..

Dzzzz:
I Dey tell you bro..I done sign and will never fall for all that hype wey go later wound me for old age..Marriage in Nigeria sef done worse pass marriage for Yankee..

I’m telling you. Marriage, love, relationship are now transactional. That institution is nothing but shitty to me.

Funny man, why not cut firewood from the bush nearby, it will be cheaper, lol
Anyway I applud you for cutting your coat to size. On the other hand, how much is, 12kg gas, 13k and that shit last forever unless you are being cheated.
You even lucky say you get wife weh get time wan cook for you, appreciate am ohh. If na gas she want give am, before guyman weh de find woman weh sabi cook (and him get gas) collect am for your hand.

Where una dey see all these kind husband sef??
Oya na leave your house and enter bush, so you can save house rent money, or go exchange your TV for black and white so u can reduce cost of electricity

being:
@bigpicture001, nah true she talk.. cooking everytime is stressful enough.. having to add something that fumes makes it more stressful. 15k every 1.5month will not kill u.. if a must, take that money from something else - maybe ur own person comfort or car fuelling or even data

God bless you, sir. Let's not even factor in the possibility of carbon monoxide poisoning from the use of the charcoal stove and the possibility of fire hazards( the coals don't die off that easily).

JuanDeDios:

See where dis wun mind go. So he should stop fueling his car. Ok. If e do am now say make them enter keke go church and the wife revolt, you go still tok.

You clearly don't own a car. Cutting your monthly fuel supply by 15k is very inconsequential to the overall fuel consumption in a month. That is less than 20 litres of fuel, which can be forgone. All poster needs do is cut down on unnecessary "waka about".

I thought they said dt ur economy is improving

Juliearth:
Will a difference of 12 to 15k (price for refilling a 12.5kg cylinder) per month make your financial status any better? Did you carry her along in this decision? Are there no other expenses that can be cut? Expenses such as cost of fuelling your car, hangout with the boys, alcohol, peppersoup..?

It's the ' I barred her' for me.

If you have something like this, why not. Its very popular in Kenya but built differently and is outdoor.

Mattswaggz:
You guys are so selfish.....let Men continually suffer to maintain y'all ego and standard right?.

You're expecting him to foot the bills and do the cooking and supporting the "you like" wife that isn't ready to contribute to maintain the standard she wants in the house but wants the standard to be maintained by all means possible right?.

Why is ur genda so selfish and cruel?. .

What do you mean by selfish and cruel?
If his wife can't cook with charcoal stove, he should do the cooking for now pending when he will buy gas
As simple as alphabet🔡

Hope your night was sweet?
Have a lovely weekend

She's not an understanding wife, she should reason with you and comply.

WhiteIverson:
You encouraged him not to do anything illegal but same you still encouraged him to bypass his meter. What kind of hypocrisy is this?

That's Nigerians' version of religion

Diamond098454:
Can't you do the cooking? Go out there and look for a cheap wife that will cook with firewood for you.

Biggerpicture

Charcoal is the bigger picture you got for your own wife

So that she will wreck her lungs and develop COPD when she is older abi.

Oga should make more money simple.

Or he should start eating frozen foods with the wife and children. Wife will cook with gas double or triple the portion, package the extras then microwave the next portion. Simple.

Juliearth:
God bless you, sir. Let's not even factor in the possibility of carbon monoxide poisoning from the use of the charcoal stove and the possibility of fire hazards( the coals don't die off that easily).

let's not forget the health repercussions for the woman years down the line.

Are we not tired of seeing grandmothers coughing all the time in the village? COPD is real o.

All to please a man.

Marriage is looking less attractive day by day

Juliearth:
You clearly don't own a car. Cutting your monthly fuel supply by 15k is very inconsequential to the overall fuel consumption in a month. That is less than 20 litres of fuel, which can be forgone. All poster needs do is cut down on unnecessary "waka about".

You're going off on a tangent. I assume you own a car, so that makes you right? You, not me, brought up the matter of cutting on fuel.

BTW, 15k (the figure you've chosen to make your point) may be inconsequential to your overall expenses in a month. So is the cost of cooking by gas or electricity. So are most things really. But they all ADD UP. So you choose where to cut.

bigpicture001:
Because of the high cost of energy, I barred her from overly use of electric hot plate, also gas finishes so fast.. all these are draining the family maintainance resources..

So I deviced a means to bring down the cost of energy by purchasing gokpo charcoal stove.. it's a new kinda charcoal stove that doesn't fume, it's clean energy and also burns faster..

Just that u need to infuse charcoal enough and cook straight hours so u can exchaust the charcoal, lest it won't stop burning inside..

Believe me, it doesn't darken pot nor fume..

By she has refused to use it, claiming I am taking her to olden days and causing lots of stress..

Okay I suggested she start to part pay the cost of cooking energy if sh must stick with her choice.. but sh has not filled gas since then nor part pay the huge NEPA bill that comes monthly..

Abeg wetin I go do for this case

*File photo

Stick with her and cut cost in other areas.
Extreme sacrificial life is all you can live for now and triple your hustle.