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Their mother is the main reason he has not reconciled with his children.

Pray you do not marry a very bad and unforgiven woman as a wife.

The environment they were raised contributed majorly on this.

Fear women! But Calvin is old enough to exercise his free will rather than allow his mother dictate to him. He will surely live to regret ever disrespecting and disowning his own father.

Complete Igbo colonized into a Ibom dude.

So the day the man will die, Calvin, the wife and other children will not attend his burial, Our generation is mean!!

skywalker240:
Okay

Let any of us not be in such situations, been shut out completely out of life of your spawn's deliberately, is a kind of dead alive situationi

Well said.

You dont have sense o. With all you have read, does the man look like a poor ma. Someone who travels round the world, worked abroad, had all his kids in uk, raised them in uk b4 the wife'sshenanigans. Read to comprehend please.

Passionate888:
If he wasn't doing well, would he (father) have begged for reconciliation?

Men dey see pepper no be small. It is well with all men hustling to keep their games tight.

Doing well? Does the father looks or sounds like a broke man to you.

Passionate888:
If he wasn't doing well, would he (father) have begged for reconciliation?

Sure...couples may have their issues and either party may truly have been badly hurt. But the kids they have should not be made to be part of the fued or be brainwashed/instigated....a grown up kid should know better sha...

lwisee:
Nothing pains a man more than finding himself in a situation like Calvin's father.

FEAR WOMEN.

Reconcile with your father... don't fight unnecessary battle

That's why some families the fear inter-tribal marriage. If the marriage fails, the chances of the man losing his kids are high.

CodeTemplarr:
Complete Igbo colonized into a Ibom dude.

Passionate888:
If he wasn't doing well, would he (father) have begged for reconciliation?

which well is he doing

Predictor3:
The woman has poisoned the mind of the children. But how did this man stay so far away from his children for so long?

Why are you talking from both sides of the mouth? If the man truly wants reconciliation why is it Calvin he is so particular about??

If Bassey still seek his mother consent before accepting his dad then he is still a baby.

He may be SIMP if cares is not taking.

Later in the future after deep thinking. Probably when the man has gone to the beyond. Bassey will regret his action and inaction now.

Money isn't his problem so? What is your problem?

Abi the man wanted to use his head for rituals back then,? If no.. so ??

CodeTemplarr:
Complete Igbo colonized into a Ibom dude.

I thought Igbos say when a man abandons his family, the children belong to the wife's family? It suddenly doesn't apply when you want to claim a successful young man who achieved everything he did without your help.

Team "It doesn't matter, my children will look for me when they grow up".

I guess none of the 4 boys are grown ups yet.

Oga, wait. let them grow.
They will look for you.
Time still dey.

He wants to reconnect with them esp Calvin because he is a professional footballer doing well in his career.

Anambra man that should have married Anambra woman, have new children and move on with his life , is busy looking for the children he had with a Calabar woman

How shameful!

dominique:
Awon my children will look for me when they're grown up, shey una dey see how e dey go?

The old man should spare us the sob stories jare. What efforts did he make over the years to reach out to his boys? 2008 was not that far away, there were telephones, emails and travel within European countries us very convenient. How many times did he go and check up on them? If he wanted to, he would have found a way.

Calvin was 8 when his parents separated, the dad thinks him and his brothers didn't understand what was going on leading to the separation? Children observe and understand more than you give them credit for. Besides why is it only Calvin he's running after, are Mathew and Mathias not also his sons?

Whenever a man says him and his wife separated over marital issues without deep-diving into what the wife did, just know that he's 101% at fault.

To add it all nobody wants to hear the woman side of her story.
Why waiting all these years before making it a news
Why can't he not go to his ex and discuss issues rather seeking for public validation or sympathy?
We men like to do things anyhow sometimes in a wrong way, later the society will blame the women.

Chai. The best way to revenge is to do well. Shikena

Some fathers are wicked and heartless sha.

Lets stop making it look as if na only women.

I will say calvin should look deep into the matter to know wedar the fada really was bad. Calvin should start asking questions from senior relatives, close-family-friends and colleagues to both his mum and dad.

Oga, you have tried to reconcile.
This is Christ like to forgive and restitute.
But you are also told that if you are not accepted, leave.

You cannot force a relationship and the more you broadcast it the worse the chances of achieving it will get.

Move on sir in joy and dignity.

richiemcgold:
Their mother is probably the reason the children are yet to reconcile with their father. But I want to believe the father and mother are now old enough to understand they can't keep their grudges forever at the expense of the children.

most women no dey old enough to understand that o

Start another family and forget about them if they don't want you in their lives! Fear women!!

alphonsojidebab:
Calvin Bassey’s Father Begs for Reconciliation After 18 Years: “Please Forgive Me”



https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/01/27/calvin-basseys-father-begs-for-reconciliation-after-18-years-please-forgive-me/

Some father doesn't worth it to be honest with you guys..

I'm speaking from many experiences with another one with very close relative.

This man, God blessed him in the military, treating his wife badly with Allan e of 30,000 monthly for food and schools fees, that was 18yrs ago till their final seperation.

The woman suffered, i mean first class suffering to raise these two Boyz till now.
With the help of me and others, her life returned to normal with the said husband abandoned them from 2010 till now.

Now! In later years, this man also would want to go to news, social media and more to splash words.

This man going around having babies with different baby mamas...

Arostar2023:
That's why some families the fear inter-tribal marriage. If the marriage fails, the chances of the man losing his kids are high.

how?

Predictor3:
The woman has poisoned the mind of the children. But how did this man stay so far away from his children for so long?

..the woman did not allow the man to get in contact with the children or communicate with the children

Tenses:
People lie. Men lie, women lie over everything. We must hear the wife's side of the story and the Calvin side of the story to shook mouth for this obviously family matter.

If Calvin has not be successful would the father frantically make attempt to reconnect with him?

You will never hear the truth from the woman side. That gender are very wicked.

Apel147:
Start another family and forget about them if they don't want you in their lives! Fear women!!

.. the man is already getting old

oluxy:
Some father doesn't worth it to be honest with you guys..

I'm speaking from many experiences with another one with very close relative.

This man, God blessed him in the military, treating his wife badly with Allan e of 30,000 monthly for food and schools fees, that was 18yrs ago till their final seperation.

The woman suffered, i mean first class suffering to raise these two Boyz till now.
With the help of me and others, her life returned to normal with the said husband abandoned them from 2010 till now.

Now! In later years, this man also would want to go to news, social media and more to splash words.

This man going around having babies with different baby mamas...

That is what most of them learn from African magic.
Within their mind the children will find their root.
Some men are heartless

That man is manipulative. His bringing this to the media proves this point. He is trying to use public preesure to destabilize and blackmail his son. What sort of father does that? No wonder his children don’t want to have anything to do with him

Love800:
Some fathers are wicked and heartless sha.

Lets stop making it look as if na only women.

I will say calvin should look deep into the matter to know wedar the fada really was bad. Calvin should start asking questions from senior relatives, close-family-friends and colleagues to both his mum and dad.

That woman don spoil the guy mind. Women are naturally wicked. Most of them don't mean well for their husbands.

alphonsojidebab:
Calvin Bassey’s Father Begs for Reconciliation After 18 Years: “Please Forgive Me”



https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/01/27/calvin-basseys-father-begs-for-reconciliation-after-18-years-please-forgive-me/

So she just up and disappeared with her children... What an interesting story... Until we hear from the other party, cos obviously you would paint a picture that will favour you.

sweetkev:
You will never hear the truth from the woman side. That gender are very wicked.

I don't if is just me. I know when a person lie.