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3kay945:
If Bassey still seek his mother consent before accepting his dad then he is still a baby.

He may be SIMP if cares is not taking.

Later in the future after deep thinking. Probably when the man has gone to the beyond. Bassey will regret his action and inaction now.

Money isn't his problem so? What is your problem?

Abi the man wanted to use his head for rituals back then,? If no.. so ??

..we have not heard from the woman side what really happened..it's better to hear from both sides and even hear from the children what truly happened

Guyman02:
She has successfully brainwashed the 4 boys against their father only contacting him when she needed to get Nigeria passports for them after many years of hiding them away from him. That gender get mind oo.

Unfortunately for the man he has no daughters with his former wife who can convince her brothers to give their father a chance in their lives by reconnecting with him.
Now we can understand why Churchill is so happy with Tonto Dike repentance and reconnecting him with their son who was hidden far from him for 10 years.

Calvin Bassey Ughelumba please its time to give your father a chance in your life, listen to his own side of the story, calling your mother asking for permission to meet your father is not the way to go

You said everything on my mind💯

AMI3:
That is what most of them learn from African magic.
Within their mind the children will find their root.
Some men are heartless

The moment he said the woman left with the children, the man is wicked..

Which means, the woman has tolerated for long, enduring him until when she needs to safe the feature of her children and her..

If I were directly to see this man, he should tell us the truth and how wicked he's to the wife and children.

I'm not blaming the wife and the children.
I'm a man and father. Many father and men are cruel to their wives in many ways..

Tenses:
I don't if is just me. I know when a person lie.

She will deceive you especially when she becomes emotional and start crying while telling you her own side of the stories. I know that gender too well. Very manipulative and wicked souls.

Lonestar124:
So the day the man will die, Calvin, the wife and other children will not attend his burial, Our generation is mean!!

Whether they attend or not is of no consequence to the dead man. That is a problem for the living.

Personally, as long as the boy no longer bears my surname, i would not bother with him. Not after 18 years. The father should get on with his life. Attempting to establish contact will kill him faster.

Knowing that the children and their mother are doing well should be enough for him. He laid the foundation.

omoredia:
As a father I will always fight for my kids. I wont now show up when they have made it without me

This is very apt. The father seemed happy to let go of the children and he's now interested in them because of their success. They all live abroad and he could have fought for partial custody which would have been granted unless it was proven he was a danger to them. The children never saw him for a very long time: they're sensible enough to treat him as he treated them. He should go and make peace with their mother first.

You don't know women.
They can leave you just because you said Hi to another woman. While they can discuss, chat, visit and play with another man and claim there is not problem.

dominique:
Awon my children will look for me when they're grown up, shey una dey see how e dey go?

The old man should spare us the sob stories jare. What efforts did he make over the years to reach out to his boys? 2008 was not that far away, there were telephones, emails and travel within European countries us very convenient. How many times did he go and check up on them? If he wanted to, he would have found a way.

Calvin was 8 when his parents separated, the dad thinks him and his brothers didn't understand what was going on leading to the separation? Children observe and understand more than you give them credit for. Besides why is it only Calvin he's running after, are Mathew and Mathias not also his sons?

Whenever a man says him and his wife separated over marital issues without deep-diving into what the wife did, just know that he's 101% at fault.

So calvin is igbo i thought he is either cross river or akwa ibom state?

Hi

Tenses:
People lie. Men lie, women lie over everything. We must hear the wife's side of the story and the Calvin side of the story to shook mouth for this obviously family matter.

If Calvin has not be successful would the father frantically make attempt to reconnect with him?

Frantically? The same man that paid for everyones flight, housed all of them l, gave them all necessary documents to facilitate their Nigerian citizenship in 2017 before they became anything?

delzbaba:
A broken marriage is never good on the children, do you know Calvin basseys brother is one of hardest gangsters in the UK, imagine going astray because there's no father figure.

Why can't calvin set him up to leave the streets?

True. If I were in the father's shoes, I would have moved on forever.

koning:
Whether they attend or not is of no consequence to the dead man. That is a problem for the living.

Personally, as long as the boy no longer bears my surname, i would not bother with him. Not after 18 years. The father should get on with his life. Attempting to establish contact will kill him faster.

Knowing that the children and their mother are doing well should be enough for him. He laid the foundation.

SmartyPants:
I thought Igbos say when a man abandons his family, the children belong to the wife's family? It suddenly doesn't apply when you want to claim a successful young man who achieved everything he did without your help.

according to the Ihiala man, he never abndoned them but the woman left with them.

NOETHNICITY:
I be think say Igbo men no dey treat women anyhow

Some women are naturally insatiable very difficult to please it doesn't matter how hard you try.

EleventhWeirdo:
What is igbo blood about being a footballer? Is messi igbo? You no geh sense

Probably MESSI is too

Orlandoo:
I knew that Igbo blood runs in Calvin. Please he should make peace with his dad before the old man dies.

The name "Basset* sounds Igbo?

When they tell you unexposed Yoruba people to travel and read, they refuse.

Traveling is a form of education itself and it's clear you aren't educated.

Sad

skywalker240:
What if it's the mother pushing him away from them?

How long does she thinks she can be able to push him away from his own father? Calvin obviously still have a foreign mindset once he starts fully integrating into the nigerian culture and society no one will tell him to go look for his father and reconcile with him. In some nigerian cultures a child is not even respected in his mother's land they are mostly mocked at and labelled a bastard.

CodeTemplarr:
according to the Ihiala man, he never abndoned them but the woman left with them.

And you think that's all there is to it?

In all of those years didn't you notice how he never mentioned what he did to get those boys back until 2017? So it took over 10 years before he developed that strong interest in seeing his boys?

Also funny how he doesn't mention what the "normal family problem" it was that led to a woman packing her four kids to go and struggle on her own for 10 years.

In fact from the narration you can see that they stayed with him at some point when they needed to do their passports. According to him, he was "nice to them"...as though they were guests that he was receiving cordially.

In all he said, did you see any effort to reach any of the other brothers apart from Calvin?

Once tribe gets involved all sense of justice and fairness gets thrown out of the window.

Do you know how much of a dullard you’d have to be to swallow just the man’s side of the story without hearing from the mother how the marriage went and why she left?

Timoleon:
Hi

Frantically? The same man that paid for everyones flight, housed all of them l, gave them all necessary documents to facilitate their Nigerian citizenship in 2017 before they became anything?

That's a frantical act. Did he state any action he took to reclaim those children when he discovered his then wife absconded with them?.

We must hear from all parties involved.

As I said earlier, men lie, women lie.

Passionate888:
If he wasn't doing well, would he (father) have begged for reconciliation?

Is the wretched??Going that far as switching surnames sha!His ex should come and and debunk his claim if he wasn't telling the truths

Passionate888:
If he wasn't doing well, would he (father) have begged for reconciliation?

This comment is not necessary.

NOETHNICITY:
I be think say Igbo men no dey treat women anyhow

Guy: This is 2026! Read up, comprehend or deduce b4 posting bs. Don't be stupid nah. Abi U no see comments above you b4 typing, PLEASE!

Dogalmighty17:
Only an evil woman will deny children relationship with their father. It doesn't matter what the man did, so long as he is still willing to remain in the life of his children, the wife has no right stopping him. She even went as far as changing their surnames to hers.

That said, the father's story should be taken with a pinch of salt. Did he approach the courts regarding custody or the courts mandating that the wife allows him spend time with his kids?

You can't really have a say until you listen to the woman's part of the story, the children's part of the story and the fathers part of the story. Yes I obviously understand that most women can be so manipulative when it comes to manipulating their children against fathers, but however they were several avenues the father would have reconnected back to his children years before now. We are talking about 18yrs of a single mother Taking care of 4 wild testosterone without the support of a father figure. Any mother would do the same. Besides the children were watching and they know the main player as far as their upbringing is concerned.

alphonsojidebab:
Calvin Bassey’s Father Begs for Reconciliation After 18 Years: “Please Forgive Me”



https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/01/27/calvin-basseys-father-begs-for-reconciliation-after-18-years-please-forgive-me/

Alot of men are really facing shit they can't come out telling..,it's never easy.J just literally hate it when you bite and still play the victim...A man get physically abused,slapped and told alot,he managed to keep em all...But the day wey him go react, opposite gender go begin deey show the kids where the man slap her...

He's got to first make peace with the ex-wife, cuz she's the only one who can talk to the children so that she'd change the narrative she gave to them at first, so that they can all make peace with their pops.
Though I don't really think she'd want to, seeing how she made them all answer her father's name

ALL the Father is talking about is SEEING BASSEY, money is something else. What about the others


As usual, if BASSEY wasn’t a Star, he wouldn’t be reaching out.

Well, no one knows how all these started. However, it doesn't make any sense denying a father access to his children under whatever guise. You have an issue with the man, not with the children and you also need to know that you are setting a bad precedent.

You went as far as changing the surname of the children to your own surname, as what exactly if I may ask? Who does that?

Whether you like it or not, his DNA run in the veins of those kids.

The kids are matured now, allow them decide for themselves how they want to relate with their father. it is no longer any of your business.

I also have a word for the father. Your absence in their lives give birth to all of this. If you had been present and responsible for their upkeep and education, your child would not deny you. It's another thing entirely if you have eagles with their mother or not. I pray you have closure in all of this.

For the child, Calvin, I pray you get wisdom. You will not be young forever. You will have your own family. I'm sure you would not pray that your wife does to you, the same thing your mother did for your father that made you to deny him even when he swallowed his pride to come looking for you. Under normal circumstances, it should have been the other way.

If you like, get sense. If you like, don't! What goes around comes around. And I hope you don't regret it when it's too late

SmartyPants:
And you think that's all there is to it?

In all of those years didn't you notice how he never mentioned what he did to get those boys back until 2017? So it took over 10 years before he developed that strong interest in seeing his boys?

Also funny how he doesn't mention what the "normal family problem" it was that led to a woman packing her four kids to go and struggle on her own for 10 years.

In fact from the narration you can see that they stayed with him at some point when they needed to do their passports. According to him, he was "nice to them"...as though they were guests that he was receiving cordially.

In all he said, did you see any effort to reach any of the other brothers apart from Calvin?

Once tribe gets involved all sense of justice and fairness gets thrown out of the window.

On a more Serious note the father has pertinent questions to answer. No woman would leave her marriage with 4 children to bear the whole burden herself just because of trivial family issues. In most case scenarios the woman abandons the 4 children with the husband and elopes with a more wealthier man to start another family.

They will walk away without looking back and then expect to reap where they did not sow.

Yes you are forgiven so go away and find your peace. How does one build a relationship with a stranger and a possible irritant. A snake never changes its spot.

alphonsojidebab:
Calvin Bassey’s Father Begs for Reconciliation After 18 Years: “Please Forgive Me”



https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/01/27/calvin-basseys-father-begs-for-reconciliation-after-18-years-please-forgive-me/

SmartyPants:
Why are you talking from both sides of the mouth? If the man truly wants reconciliation why is it Calvin he is so particular about??

Why are you talking like this? Is it not clear enough he doesn't want reconciliation with the woman but his children?