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Predictor3:
The woman has poisoned the mind of the children. But how did this man stay so far away from his children for so long?

If such a thing happened to you , your decision will likely be similar. Why the man never make contact when they needed him financially (I mean when they're not grown enough to provide for themselves). The woman hustle to make both ends meet and you say he shouldn't 'poisoned' their minds?
It happened to me guy and at a point I was eager to change my surname and replace It with my third name without anyone advice. But later dropped the idea.
He can't accept the appeal just easily but he'll still do.

lwisee:
Nothing pains a man more than finding himself in a situation like Calvin's father.

FEAR WOMEN.

What do you mean by fear women in this case?
Have you heard from the said woman you said Women should be feared?
Any man who neglect his responsibility to his child(ren) when they were young should not wake up from sleep at old age to claim he has children when they have made it in life.
As a man, your querel or divorce with your wife/girlfriend should not make you to forget your fatherly responsibility to your children.
What legal effort did he make to re-connect with the children when the wife left with them?
Shebi he and the family are staying in the aclaimed saner clime with good judicial system?Did he approach the law court? No! He was busy flying from Italy to Ireland, from Ireland to London and from London to Leicester to see only Calvin Bassey bcuz that one has made it in life.
Why is he so particular about Calvin Bassey?
What about the other 3?
That shows you that if Calvin was to be like the rest economically,he wouldn't have looked for any of them.
Do you know what it takes for a single mother to singlehandedly cater for 4 male children in abroad?
Abeg make unah rest!
If there is any gender to be feared in this particular case, should be men and not women.
As a man that I am, I'm not happy with some comments I'm seeing in this thread by my gender.

omoredia:
Then he should be pushed out finally cos if Calvin Bassey was a drug addict today he will not be asking to see him

God bless you my brother!
Why is he so particular about Calvin Bassey?
What about the other 3?
The same way he is busy flying from Italy to Ireland, from Ireland to London, from London to Leicester City, and from there to Abidjan and finally to Abuja looking for reconciliation with Bassey,why is he not dissipating the same energy looking for others if his intention was genuine?
A certain news source says one of the children is a gangster in London.Why is he not looking for reconciliation with that one?
Bcuz Bassey is a professional footballer with plenty money,fame and popularity,he now remember he is his child after 18 solid years!

Yea.

Nice quote.

I really appreciate.

sweetkev:
That woman don spoil the guy mind. Women are naturally wicked. Most of them don't mean well for their husbands.

You have try to reconcile with dem especially bassey. So the rest no get value. U travel to Leicester to see bassey, which effort did u make to see the rest. Definitely if no be money, he won't bother to find those kids

Predictor3:
The woman has poisoned the mind of the children. But how did this man stay so far away from his children for so long?

That's a lie ...say what u know

Akwaibom women especially oron women are very dangerous.Them get A1 for manipulation but then again where was he all these years.As an Igbo man he really no try at the initial stages

alphonsojidebab:
Calvin Bassey’s Father Begs for Reconciliation After 18 Years: “Please Forgive Me”



https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/01/27/calvin-basseys-father-begs-for-reconciliation-after-18-years-please-forgive-me/

She ended up manipulating all children against their dad even to the extent of dropping father’s name for mother’s name. There is a real danger when a female raise a male child, that child end up being a sissy, while an average female child raised by a female ends up becoming a macho man

[quote author=Tchinaidi post=138281188]Akwaibom women especially oron women are very dangerous.Them get A1 for manipulation but then again where was he all these years.As an Igbo man he really no try at the initial stages[/q

THE WOMAN IS SO STRONG TO FATHER 4 ABANDONED CHILDREN....

HIS NAME IS CALVIN BASSEY...HE HAS AKWA IBOM BLOOD IN HIS VEIN

thomas2024:
She ended up manipulating all children against their dad even to the extent of dropping father’s name for mother’s name. There is a real danger when a female raise a male child, that child end up being a sissy, while an average female child raised by a female ends up becoming a macho man

Doubting Thomas...a man abandoned 4 children....went an marry another a Igbo woman like him


But a strong Akwa ibom woman survive and father 4 children on her own


Who manipulate the child..no ONE.....

Nuelstar:
That's a lie ...say what u know

It's in the report and if she didn't do that she would have encouraged the children to see their father

thomas2024:
She ended up manipulating all children against their dad even to the extent of dropping father’s name for mother’s name. There is a real danger when a female raise a male child, that child end up being a sissy, while an average female child raised by a female ends up becoming a macho man

She didn't change their surname, it was Calvin that changed his name after he became a profess footballer. In fact, it was his father's surname he was bearing at Leicester city. He changed to his mother's surname for reasons best known to him. The remaining boys are still bearing their father's surname

dominique:
She didn't change their surname, it was Calvin that changed his name after he became a profess footballer. In fact, it was his father's surname he was bearing at Leicester city. He changed to his mother's surname for reasons best known to him. The remaining boys are still bearing their father's surname

Noted. Thanks for the clarification.

Tenses:
People lie. Men lie, women lie over everything. We must hear the wife's side of the story and the Calvin side of the story to shook mouth for this obviously family matter.

If Calvin has not be successful would the father frantically make attempt to reconnect with him?

Do you think all parent - child reconciliations are because of money? Do you think the father travelling all over the globe do not have money?

Passionate888:
If he wasn't doing well, would he (father) have begged for reconciliation?

Do you think the father wasn't rich? You need to develop your logical reasoning skill

Belurved1:
Baba, you messed up no doubt. But you’re still their father. For now, leave the boys alone; they’re closer to their mother. He won’t fully reason like a man until he gets married. You’d be better off enjoying your life and letting go of all this “my son, my son” talk things can never be the same again.

How did he mess up?

Some people just dey this thread with no logical reasoning skill.

A man who owns his role as a father, even under pressure, keeps his place in his children’s lives. Everything else is noise.

scait:
How did he mess up?

Exactly!

ufotunang:
.. the man is already getting old

NevetsIbot:
It’s is crazy. You know my mom’s manipulation was bad so much so that both sisters I have saw it too that same last year. And ofcourse, I was the only one my father opened up to when I started asking questions- even at that he was still trying to stop me from hearing other damaging information about my mother. He had always been quiet….. I almost shut down my mind about marriage cos I felt if a couple can spend over 30yrs together can have the woman treat the man this terribly, what will a lady I’ve not even spent two years with do to me??

Women take advantage of quiet men. People know me as a quiet person but I am not quiet in my marriages. You bring manipulation i shut you down immediately, even if it is public

dominique:
Awon my children will look for me when they're grown up, shey una dey see how e dey go?

The old man should spare us the sob stories jare. What efforts did he make over the years to reach out to his boys? 2008 was not that far away, there were telephones, emails and travel within European countries us very convenient. How many times did he go and check up on them? If he wanted to, he would have found a way.

Calvin was 8 when his parents separated, the dad thinks him and his brothers didn't understand what was going on leading to the separation? Children observe and understand more than you give them credit for. Besides why is it only Calvin he's running after, are Mathew and Mathias not also his sons?

Whenever a man says him and his wife separated over marital issues without deep-diving into what the wife did, just know that he's 101% at fault.

Shallow and dáft can conclusion.
Just like that??
Once again, you give off this notion that...