I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. - Family (2)

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by Kaczynski: 1:23pm On Jan 30

This post is screaming incest .

Jeez why your brother performing the role of your husband.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by Iamajike(op): 1:37pm On Jan 30

Dzzzz:
You want your brother to buy a corrola,just because he wants to leave it for you..Mr man you get problem oo..Let him buy it then you can sell it to get the Corolla..No Dey do like nkapi..

If he buy benz, he'll believe he has a car to use in the country when next he's coming and I won't want to sell such.

I can buy Benz on my own when I get back on my leg and can hustle like before, but for now, I want peace of mind.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by YoobaNesan: 1:43pm On Jan 30

Whers is your husband in all these? shocked

Iamajike:
If he buy benz, he'll believe he has a car to use in the country when next he's coming and I won't want to sell such.

I can buy Benz on my own when I get back on my leg and can hustle like before, but for now, I want peace of mind.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by Iamajike(op): 3:18pm On Jan 30

YoobaNesan:
Whers is your husband in all these?

Widow

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by YoobaNesan: 5:12pm On Jan 30

Eyah sorry!
Since he believes driving Corolla is too low for his caliber, try talking with him to rent a Benz for him throughout his stay and he gives you the remaining money to buy your Corolla.

I understand your POV, which is the best for you.

Goodluck!

Iamajike:
Widow

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by Rrchrd(m): 6:33pm On Jan 30

So this is what is giving you insomnia?
While im here thinking of how to get a better job that i can marry.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by ChybuzzDD(m): 7:02am On Jan 31

Helpout12345:
In the current naija economy, if this is what is giving you sleepless nights, I don't know what to say.

Good luck.

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by frozen70(f): 3:19pm On Feb 01

Iamajike:
I cant remember the last time i had quality of sleep and this is the reason I am awake to write this, if you can see, the is almost 2am midnight...

In 2020, I got a car as a birthday gift from my brother. At that period, it was not that I could not afford a car, but I had another priority other than a car. Yeah, the car served me well until last year, when it kept giving me problem upon problem. The reality now is that I am not financially capable of getting a new car for myself, as I have health challenges that have drained me at the moment, and I pray God comes through fast.

So I recently called my brother to inform him about the current situation, and I told him I will be selling my car, but I need 3m to add to the car money to buy a nice, standard Nigerian used car to use in the meantime. I told him I have 1m naira cash, and if he can give me 1m or 1.5m to add to it, I can talk to one of my friends to get the balance, so he promised to give me the money by the end of January; however, I have spent the 1m I kept on medical again and can't meet up with my need.

The main problem I am having now is that I told him about it, and he said I should not worry, that he'll be coming to the country soon to spend 2 months, and the car he uses he'll drop it for me to use... This is where I get the issue, or call it mixed feelings.

He wanted to get a Benz, but I advised him to buy a Corolla since he'll be dropping it for me, but he said his standard can never use a Corolla. I told him to consider me since he promised to drop the car for me as my present condition would not make me able to maintain a Benz, and those who should help me might be calling me boss, and I would not want to be calling him for help or maintenance money every time.

I can maintain a Corolla on my own now, but this man does not see from my angle.

The truth is that I can't go out without a car, I can't use public transport at the moment, and I can't maintain Benz with this condition. And I also don't want to be a burden on anyone.

Please, how can I convince him to reason in my way? I am 100 percent sure he'll help if I ask, but I don't want to be asking him every time so I don't lose the little respect I get while still alive.

Modified...
Attached is the screenshot of what I asked him to get. Corolla 2011 or Camry Spider...

You all can see we had 1hr 57min of conversation and another 1hr 19mins to convince him but failed.

Collect it and sell the car when he goes back, reason that you can't afford to maintain the car

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by InvestSmart(f): 8:01am On Feb 04

Exactly my suggestion too!

Kobojunkie:
Have you made your argument to him then? Also, ask him if he would be OK with you selling the Benz after he has given it to you, so you can get yourself a Corolla. 🥱🥱🥱

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by illicit(m): 3:19am On Feb 05

Person wey get car no get legs

Person wey get leg no get car

Life

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by illicit(m): 3:21am On Feb 05

Kaczynski:
This post is screaming incest .

Jeez why your brother performing the role of your husband.

We never finish with comfort zone

Now u carry incest come

Na wa 2 u o

👁️👁️

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by thomas2024: 7:16am On Feb 11

Iamajike:
I cant remember the last time i had quality of sleep and this is the reason I am awake to write this, if you can see, the is almost 2am midnight...

In 2020, I got a car as a birthday gift from my brother. At that period, it was not that I could not afford a car, but I had another priority other than a car. Yeah, the car served me well until last year, when it kept giving me problem upon problem. The reality now is that I am not financially capable of getting a new car for myself, as I have health challenges that have drained me at the moment, and I pray God comes through fast.

So I recently called my brother to inform him about the current situation, and I told him I will be selling my car, but I need 3m to add to the car money to buy a nice, standard Nigerian used car to use in the meantime. I told him I have 1m naira cash, and if he can give me 1m or 1.5m to add to it, I can talk to one of my friends to get the balance, so he promised to give me the money by the end of January; however, I have spent the 1m I kept on medical again and can't meet up with my need.

The main problem I am having now is that I told him about it, and he said I should not worry, that he'll be coming to the country soon to spend 2 months, and the car he uses he'll drop it for me to use... This is where I get the issue, or call it mixed feelings.

He wanted to get a Benz, but I advised him to buy a Corolla since he'll be dropping it for me, but he said his standard can never use a Corolla. I told him to consider me since he promised to drop the car for me as my present condition would not make me able to maintain a Benz, and those who should help me might be calling me boss, and I would not want to be calling him for help or maintenance money every time.

I can maintain a Corolla on my own now, but this man does not see from my angle.

The truth is that I can't go out without a car, I can't use public transport at the moment, and I can't maintain Benz with this condition. And I also don't want to be a burden on anyone.

Please, how can I convince him to reason in my way? I am 100 percent sure he'll help if I ask, but I don't want to be asking him every time so I don't lose the little respect I get while still alive.

Modified...
Attached is the screenshot of what I asked him to get. Corolla 2011 or Camry Spider...

You all can see we had 1hr 57min of conversation and another 1hr 19mins to convince him but failed.

All you need to do is train your mindset. I remember when I wanted to buy my first car, someone suggested I go for a Benz. I immediately said no, I was going for a Toyota. In my mind, Benz was too expensive to maintain and felt like a car meant only for very rich and loud people. That was my mindset at the time until I changed it. Today, I drive a Benz. And what changed? My mindset. Sometimes the only thing standing between you and your next level is the story you keep telling yourself. And trust me, when you finally step into that new level, when you start driving the Benz of your life, the experience will completely different unlike before.

Don’t make decisions based on what people might say and don’t limit yourself because of inherited fears or assumptions. Train your mind. Stretch it. Adapt.

And never forget that after “Mr Niger D” comes “A”, and that stands for “Adaptability”.

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Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by Nobody: 6:55pm On Mar 07

Iamajike:
I cant remember the last time i had quality of sleep and this is the reason I am awake to write this, if you can see, the is almost 2am midnight...

In 2020, I got a car as a birthday gift from my brother. At that period, it was not that I could not afford a car, but I had another priority other than a car. Yeah, the car served me well until last year, when it kept giving me problem upon problem. The reality now is that I am not financially capable of getting a new car for myself, as I have health challenges that have drained me at the moment, and I pray God comes through fast.

So I recently called my brother to inform him about the current situation, and I told him I will be selling my car, but I need 3m to add to the car money to buy a nice, standard Nigerian used car to use in the meantime. I told him I have 1m naira cash, and if he can give me 1m or 1.5m to add to it, I can talk to one of my friends to get the balance, so he promised to give me the money by the end of January; however, I have spent the 1m I kept on medical again and can't meet up with my need.

The main problem I am having now is that I told him about it, and he said I should not worry, that he'll be coming to the country soon to spend 2 months, and the car he uses he'll drop it for me to use... This is where I get the issue, or call it mixed feelings.

He wanted to get a Benz, but I advised him to buy a Corolla since he'll be dropping it for me, but he said his standard can never use a Corolla. I told him to consider me since he promised to drop the car for me as my present condition would not make me able to maintain a Benz, and those who should help me might be calling me boss, and I would not want to be calling him for help or maintenance money every time.

I can maintain a Corolla on my own now, but this man does not see from my angle.

The truth is that I can't go out without a car, I can't use public transport at the moment, and I can't maintain Benz with this condition. And I also don't want to be a burden on anyone.

Please, how can I convince him to reason in my way? I am 100 percent sure he'll help if I ask, but I don't want to be asking him every time so I don't lose the little respect I get while still alive.

Modified...
Attached is the screenshot of what I asked him to get. Corolla 2011 or Camry Spider...

You all can see we had 1hr 57min of conversation and another 1hr 19mins to convince him but failed.

Your brother indeed grin

You mean your boyfriend undecided

Re: I Am In A Dilemma, And I Don't Know How To Handle It. by Iamajike(op): 11:51am On Mar 08

Ninaffivadit:
Your brother indeed

You mean your boyfriend

It cost me nothing to state it if he's my boyfriend.

For the record, he's my elder brother and has always been there.

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