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mikejones07:
➜I do not want another child because of the financial, emotional, and mental strain it would place on me. I am 39 years old, and my wife is 33. Being pregnant will also make it even more difficult for her to find employment, she I have been encouraging her to. At the moment, I am fully responsible for all household expenses, including rent, utilities, and food. Throughout our ten years together, I've carried 100% of the financial burden and was happy doing so, even during the times she was working. I never pressured her or asked for anything in return We live in a rented basement and have no support system in this new country—all our family members are back home. When I asked her to explain her reasons for wanting to keep the baby, just emotions and wanting to have a baby girl. She even requested a scan picture of the fetus afterwards we saw a radiographer. Pushing for an appointment
➜ I strongly believe in being able to adequately provide for my children, including their future education, whether college or medical school. Adding another child would significantly increase the pressure on me and delay any sense of financial stability or retirement. I am content with the two sons we have and feel that another child would limit my ability to be fully present and supportive for them.
➜ When I shared my concerns and mentioned the possibility of an abortion, my wife became very upset and started crying. I am worried that pressuring her could lead to resentment, and I do not want to force her into a decision. At the same time, I feel that my situation and perspective are not being fully considered.
➜ I am struggling to find a way for her to truly understand my point of view while also respecting her feelings, and I am unsure what the best next step should be. I love my wife but this is too much on me.

mikejones07:
When I shared my concerns and mentioned the possibility of an abortion, my wife became very upset and started crying. I am worried that pressuring her could lead to resentment, and I do not want to force her into a decision. At the same time, I feel that my situation and perspective are not being fully considered.

mikejones07:
I must say I messed up here, I too should have had a vasectomy.

Kobojunkie:
1. You had all of these many reasons, yet you did not consider getting a vasectomy or at least ensuring you use protection every time you had sex as a result?

2. You knew all of this, yet you did nothing to protect the future you supposedly want for them? 🥱🥱

3. Well, getting an abortion would impact her body and mind in many ways. But I guess that all means little to you since the reason why you did not bother using protection yourself or getting a vasectomy to preserve your dreams is that you reasoned your body would not need to deal with any of the impacts if pregnancy happened, right? 🥱🥱

4. Seems you love everybody, but seem unwilling to do even the bare minimum, which is maybe to use protection yourself or get a vasectomy to protect anybody. Goodluck! 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. You had all of ,these many reasons, yet you did not consider getting a vasectomy or at least ensuring you use protection every time you had sex as a result?

2. You knew all of this, yet you did nothing to protect the future you supposedly want for them? 🥱🥱

3. Well, getting an abortion would impact her body and mind in many ways. But I guess that all means little to you since the reason why you did not bother using protection yourself or getting a vasectomy to preserve your dreams is that you reasoned your body would not need to deal with any of the impacts if pregnancy happened, right? 🥱🥱

4. Seems you love everybody, but seem unwilling to do even the bare minimum, which is maybe to use protection yourself or get a vasectomy to protect anybody. Goodluck! 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. You had all of these many reasons, yet you did not consider getting a vasectomy or at least ensuring you use protection every time you had sex as a result?

2. You knew all of this, yet you did nothing to protect the future you supposedly want for them? 🥱🥱

3. Well, getting an abortion would impact her body and mind in many ways. But I guess that all means little to you since the reason why you did not bother using protection yourself or getting a vasectomy to preserve your dreams is that you reasoned your body would not need to deal with any of the impacts if pregnancy happened, right? 🥱🥱

4. Seems you love everybody, but seem unwilling to do even the bare minimum, which is maybe to use protection yourself or get a vasectomy to protect anybody. Goodluck! 🥱🥱

mikejones07:
Please bear with me I created a new account to remain anonymous.

Greetings everyone. I am currently facing a very difficult situation and would appreciate some guidance.

I have been married for ten years, and my wife and I have two wonderful boys. Like any marriage, we’ve had our challenges, but we have always worked through them and made things work. I have been the sole financial provider for our family.

In early 2025, we relocated to a new country and have been gradually settling in. When we arrived, we both found employment, but unfortunately, my wife’s lost her job. Since then, she has been passively searching for work and has been quite selective about the type of job she is willing to take, but so far she hasn’t received any interviews.

After the birth of our second child, I clearly communicated that I did not want to have any more children. I encouraged my wife to use contraception, which she agreed to, and I frequently asked for reassurance that it was still effective because I was certain I did not want another child. I must say I messed up here, I too should have had a vasectomy.
Last week, she told me she had missed her period. We took a pregnancy test, which came back positive, and a scan today confirmed that she is six weeks pregnant. She is very excited about the pregnancy, but I am deeply distressed and unsure how to express my concerns without causing harm.

I do not want another child because of the financial, emotional, and mental strain it would place on me. I am 39 years old, and my wife is 33. Being pregnant will also make it even more difficult for her to find employment, she I have been encouraging her to. At the moment, I am fully responsible for all household expenses, including rent, utilities, and food. Throughout our ten years together, I've carried 100% of the financial burden and was happy doing so, even during the times she was working. I never pressured her or asked for anything in return We live in a rented basement and have no support system in this new country—all our family members are back home. When I asked her to explain her reasons for wanting to keep the baby, just emotions and wanting to have a baby girl. She even requested a scan picture of the fetus afterwards we saw a radiographer. Pushing for an appointment

I strongly believe in being able to adequately provide for my children, including their future education, whether college or medical school. Adding another child would significantly increase the pressure on me and delay any sense of financial stability or retirement. I am content with the two sons we have and feel that another child would limit my ability to be fully present and supportive for them.

When I shared my concerns and mentioned the possibility of an abortion, my wife became very upset and started crying. I am worried that pressuring her could lead to resentment, and I do not want to force her into a decision. At the same time, I feel that my situation and perspective are not being fully considered.

I am struggling to find a way for her to truly understand my point of view while also respecting her feelings, and I am unsure what the best next step should be. I love my wife but this is too much on me.

mikejones07:
➜How am I suppose to know the contraceptive implant will fail.
➜ She has been on the contraceptive implant for the last 3 years and it was working fine until now We did take some precautions.
➜ When you say getting an abortions will impact her body can you expatiate on this, abortion is legal over here? Before we had her two boys her first three pregnancies were lost and we did have an abortion to take out the gestation sack

mikejones07:
Please bear with me I created a new account to remain anonymous.

Greetings everyone. I am currently facing a very difficult situation and would appreciate some guidance.

I have been married for ten years, and my wife and I have two wonderful boys. Like any marriage, we’ve had our challenges, but we have always worked through them and made things work. I have been the sole financial provider for our family.

In early 2025, we relocated to a new country and have been gradually settling in. When we arrived, we both found employment, but unfortunately, my wife’s lost her job. Since then, she has been passively searching for work and has been quite selective about the type of job she is willing to take, but so far she hasn’t received any interviews.

After the birth of our second child, I clearly communicated that I did not want to have any more children. I encouraged my wife to use contraception, which she agreed to, and I frequently asked for reassurance that it was still effective because I was certain I did not want another child. I must say I messed up here, I too should have had a vasectomy.
Last week, she told me she had missed her period. We took a pregnancy test, which came back positive, and a scan today confirmed that she is six weeks pregnant. She is very excited about the pregnancy, but I am deeply distressed and unsure how to express my concerns without causing harm.

I do not want another child because of the financial, emotional, and mental strain it would place on me. I am 39 years old, and my wife is 33. Being pregnant will also make it even more difficult for her to find employment, she I have been encouraging her to. At the moment, I am fully responsible for all household expenses, including rent, utilities, and food. Throughout our ten years together, I've carried 100% of the financial burden and was happy doing so, even during the times she was working. I never pressured her or asked for anything in return We live in a rented basement and have no support system in this new country—all our family members are back home. When I asked her to explain her reasons for wanting to keep the baby, just emotions and wanting to have a baby girl. She even requested a scan picture of the fetus afterwards we saw a radiographer. Pushing for an appointment

I strongly believe in being able to adequately provide for my children, including their future education, whether college or medical school. Adding another child would significantly increase the pressure on me and delay any sense of financial stability or retirement. I am content with the two sons we have and feel that another child would limit my ability to be fully present and supportive for them.

When I shared my concerns and mentioned the possibility of an abortion, my wife became very upset and started crying. I am worried that pressuring her could lead to resentment, and I do not want to force her into a decision. At the same time, I feel that my situation and perspective are not being fully considered.

I am struggling to find a way for her to truly understand my point of view while also respecting her feelings, and I am unsure what the best next step should be. I love my wife but this is too much on me.

mikejones07:
When I asked her to explain her reasons for wanting to keep the baby, just emotions and wanting to have a baby girl. She even requested a scan picture of the fetus afterwards we saw a radiographer. Pushing for an appointment and all. I've decided not to bring this topic up with her anymore. If she wants to keep the baby, that's fine. If she doesn't, that's also fine. However, if she chooses to keep it, she will need to share financial responsibility, including contributing to household expenses. She needs to find a job and start contributing—no more casual job searching. Currently, she spends much of her time volunteering and socialising on things not related to her career, which is admirable and I have always supported her, but circumstances are changing.

Throughout our ten years together, I've carried 100% of the financial burden and was content doing so, even during the times she was working. I never pressured her or asked for anything in return. The irony isn't lost on me: sometimes I wonder if my ability to provide is the main reason she has stayed with me during our tough times. If I were to lose my job, I suspect I'd see a very different side of her.

I genuinely appreciate everyone's insights and perspectives. In hindsight, I should have had a vasectomy. I come from a very remote part of Africa where such procedures aren't common, but I will get one done as soon as possible. This may actually put a strain on my marriage, as some members have pointed out here. It's really tough when couples are not aligned.

budaatum:
mikejones07, I forgot to add that you must tell your wife to finance the baby you put in her belly.

It will make her get off her asṣ.

I will be praying that the baby is not a boy.

Double0h7:
An abortion (forced) could cause serious resentments and trauma in your wife. The impact on your wife’s mental health if you push for an abortion will be devastating; especially when she is excited about the pregnancy.

I suggest having a good conversation about finances and the importance of your wife contributing to the family finance. Then you could get a vasectomy to avoid facing the same issues again.

Double0h7, abeg what is the matter with you? Why are you telling mikejones07 to cut off his d¹q? Don't you want us to read the next episode that his wife will be having twins? Be careful there and stop disturbing our entertainment please!

mikejones07:
Please bear with me I created a new account to remain anonymous.

Greetings everyone. I am currently facing a very difficult situation and would appreciate some guidance.

I have been married for ten years, and my wife and I have two wonderful boys. Like any marriage, we’ve had our challenges, but we have always worked through them and made things work. I have been the sole financial provider for our family.

In early 2025, we relocated to a new country and have been gradually settling in. When we arrived, we both found employment, but unfortunately, my wife’s lost her job. Since then, she has been passively searching for work and has been quite selective about the type of job she is willing to take, but so far she hasn’t received any interviews.

After the birth of our second child, I clearly communicated that I did not want to have any more children. I encouraged my wife to use contraception, which she agreed to, and I frequently asked for reassurance that it was still effective because I was certain I did not want another child. I must say I messed up here, I too should have had a vasectomy.
Last week, she told me she had missed her period. We took a pregnancy test, which came back positive, and a scan today confirmed that she is six weeks pregnant. She is very excited about the pregnancy, but I am deeply distressed and unsure how to express my concerns without causing harm.

I do not want another child because of the financial, emotional, and mental strain it would place on me. I am 39 years old, and my wife is 33. Being pregnant will also make it even more difficult for her to find employment, she I have been encouraging her to. At the moment, I am fully responsible for all household expenses, including rent, utilities, and food. Throughout our ten years together, I've carried 100% of the financial burden and was happy doing so, even during the times she was working. I never pressured her or asked for anything in return We live in a rented basement and have no support system in this new country—all our family members are back home. When I asked her to explain her reasons for wanting to keep the baby, just emotions and wanting to have a baby girl. She even requested a scan picture of the fetus afterwards we saw a radiographer. Pushing for an appointment

I strongly believe in being able to adequately provide for my children, including their future education, whether college or medical school. Adding another child would significantly increase the pressure on me and delay any sense of financial stability or retirement. I am content with the two sons we have and feel that another child would limit my ability to be fully present and supportive for them.

When I shared my concerns and mentioned the possibility of an abortion, my wife became very upset and started crying. I am worried that pressuring her could lead to resentment, and I do not want to force her into a decision. At the same time, I feel that my situation and perspective are not being fully considered.

I am struggling to find a way for her to truly understand my point of view while also respecting her feelings, and I am unsure what the best next step should be. I love my wife but this is too much on me.

Kobojunkie:
1. You had all of these many reasons, yet you did not consider getting a vasectomy or at least ensuring you use protection every time you had sex as a result?

2. You knew all of this, yet you did nothing to protect the future you supposedly want for them? 🥱🥱

3. Well, getting an abortion would impact her body and mind in many ways. But I guess that all means little to you since the reason why you did not bother using protection yourself or getting a vasectomy to preserve your dreams is that you reasoned your body would not need to deal with any of the impacts if pregnancy happened, right? 🥱🥱

4. Seems you love everybody, but seem unwilling to do even the bare minimum, which is maybe to use protection yourself or get a vasectomy to protect anybody. Goodluck! 🥱🥱

mikejones07:
How am I suppose to know the contraceptive implant will fail. She has been on the contraceptive implant for the last 3 years and it was working fine until now We did take some precautions.

When you say getting an abortions will impact her body can you expatiate on this, abortion is legal over here? Before we had her two boys her first three pregnancies were lost and we did have an abortion to take out the gestation sack

mikejones07:
Please bear with me I created a new account to remain anonymous.

Greetings everyone. I am currently facing a very difficult situation and would appreciate some guidance.

I have been married for ten years, and my wife and I have two wonderful boys. Like any marriage, we’ve had our challenges, but we have always worked through them and made things work. I have been the sole financial provider for our family.

In early 2025, we relocated to a new country and have been gradually settling in. When we arrived, we both found employment, but unfortunately, my wife’s lost her job. Since then, she has been passively searching for work and has been quite selective about the type of job she is willing to take, but so far she hasn’t received any interviews.

After the birth of our second child, I clearly communicated that I did not want to have any more children. I encouraged my wife to use contraception, which she agreed to, and I frequently asked for reassurance that it was still effective because I was certain I did not want another child. I must say I messed up here, I too should have had a vasectomy.
Last week, she told me she had missed her period. We took a pregnancy test, which came back positive, and a scan today confirmed that she is six weeks pregnant. She is very excited about the pregnancy, but I am deeply distressed and unsure how to express my concerns without causing harm.

I do not want another child because of the financial, emotional, and mental strain it would place on me. I am 39 years old, and my wife is 33. Being pregnant will also make it even more difficult for her to find employment, she I have been encouraging her to. At the moment, I am fully responsible for all household expenses, including rent, utilities, and food. Throughout our ten years together, I've carried 100% of the financial burden and was happy doing so, even during the times she was working. I never pressured her or asked for anything in return We live in a rented basement and have no support system in this new country—all our family members are back home. When I asked her to explain her reasons for wanting to keep the baby, just emotions and wanting to have a baby girl. She even requested a scan picture of the fetus afterwards we saw a radiographer. Pushing for an appointment

I strongly believe in being able to adequately provide for my children, including their future education, whether college or medical school. Adding another child would significantly increase the pressure on me and delay any sense of financial stability or retirement. I am content with the two sons we have and feel that another child would limit my ability to be fully present and supportive for them.

When I shared my concerns and mentioned the possibility of an abortion, my wife became very upset and started crying. I am worried that pressuring her could lead to resentment, and I do not want to force her into a decision. At the same time, I feel that my situation and perspective are not being fully considered.

I am struggling to find a way for her to truly understand my point of view while also respecting her feelings, and I am unsure what the best next step should be. I love my wife but this is too much on me.

Ovieemmanuel:
Bros do make u remove your balls. Una go just dey talk anyhow. Shey wen u remove am u can put am back abi?

budaatum:
Mba! Mba! Mba! mikejones07, don't listen to this person!

Double0h7, abeg what is the matter with you? Why are you telling mikejones07 to cut off his d¹q? Don't you want us to read the next episode that his wife will be having twins? Be careful there and stop disturbing our entertainment please!

Kobojunkie:
1. You had all of these many reasons, yet you did not consider getting a vasectomy or at least ensuring you use protection every time you had sex as a result?

2. You knew all of this, yet you did nothing to protect the future you supposedly want for them? 🥱🥱

3. Well, getting an abortion would impact her body and mind in many ways. But I guess that all means little to you since the reason why you did not bother using protection yourself or getting a vasectomy to preserve your dreams is that you reasoned your body would not need to deal with any of the impacts if pregnancy happened, right? 🥱🥱

4. Seems you love everybody, but seem unwilling to do even the bare minimum, which is maybe to use protection yourself or get a vasectomy to protect anybody. Goodluck! 🥱🥱