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| Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Hussein27(op): 9:27pm On Feb 05 |
I won’t gossip about my husband to friends or family. What happens between us stays between us. I won’t abuse him—verbally, emotionally, or physically. Respect flows both ways. I won’t emasculate him, in public or private. Building him up is part of building us. I won’t weaponize intimacy. Withholding affection as punishment isn’t love—it’s manipulation. I won’t compare him to other men—brothers, strangers, or social media highlight reels. I won’t air our problems online. Our marriage doesn’t need an audience. I won’t disrespect him in front of our children. Unity in parenting is non-negotiable. I won’t nag him into resentment. I’ll communicate clearly, then trust him to step up. I won’t dismiss his feelings because they’re expressed differently than mine. I won’t use his vulnerabilities against him during arguments. Trust is not a weapon. I won’t make him choose between me and his family unless there is genuine harm—and we pray that never happens. I won’t keep score. Marriage isn’t a competition. I won’t stop being the woman he fell in love with just because I got the ring. I won’t ignore his love language while demanding fluency in mine. I won’t make major life decisions alone and expect him to simply follow. Above all, I will choose to be his peace, his partner, and his best girl. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by AbuTwins: 9:10am On Feb 06*. Modified: 2:27pm On Feb 07 |
Kobojunkie:Islam is the Only Religion That Gave Women Identity Islam uniquely honors and grants women a clear, dignified identity rooted in divine guidance, setting it apart from Christianity and other faiths. Islam’s Affirmation of Women’s Identity: #The Qur'an explicitly recognizes women as full moral and spiritual beings with rights and responsibilities. Allah says: “And for women are rights over men similar to those of men over women...” (Qur’an 2:228) #The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) emphasized respect and kindness toward women, stating: “The best of you are those who are best to their women.” (Tirmidhi) #Islam grants women rights to inheritance, education, marriage consent, and economic independence—rights that were revolutionary at the time of revelation. Comparison with Christianity: #While Christianity preaches spiritual equality, traditional interpretations often placed women in subordinate roles, sometimes limiting their public religious participation. For example, 1 Corinthians 14:34 instructs women to be silent in churches, which has historically been used to restrict women’s roles. #The Bible’s creation narrative (Genesis 2) has been interpreted by some to imply woman’s secondary status, created from man’s rib, whereas Islam teaches that men and women were created from a single soul: “O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul...” (Qur’an 4:1) #Islam’s legal and social framework actively protects women’s rights and identity, while Christianity’s historical practices often reflected patriarchal cultural norms. Checking the Christian scriptures you'll never see the input of any woman in the compilation of the Bible! They were all men - Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, Paul, Peter, etc! This is too loud! Islam is the only religion that gave women a clear, honored identity with comprehensive rights and dignity from its inception, supported by divine scripture and prophetic teachings. It elevated women’s status spiritually, socially, and legally, ensuring their full humanity and individuality, unlike Christianity’s historical approach which often subordinated women under cultural interpretations. See the Bible verses below that affirms women must submit to men! They are created as men helpers! 1 Timothy 2:11-14 A woman must learn in quietness and full submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman who was deceived and fell into transgression. 1 Corinthians 14:33-34 Women are to be silent in the churches. They are not permitted to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. / For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. / Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Genesis 3:16 To the woman He said: “I will sharply increase your pain in childbirth; in pain you will bring forth children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” 1 Peter 3:1-6 Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your husbands, so that even if they refuse to believe the word, they will be won over without words by the behavior of their wives / when they see your pure and reverent demeanor. / Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair or gold jewelry or fine clothes, ... Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 1 Corinthians 11:3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Esthered: 11:24am On Feb 06 |
AbuTwins:The women in Afghanistan are honored with identity.... as you claim? |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by dele1727: 11:26am On Feb 06 |
May God continue to bless you for this response AbuTwins: |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by dele1727: 11:28am On Feb 06 |
Respond to the question Which choice or freedom does the bible give to women Esthered: |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Btruth: 11:30am On Feb 06 |
Nice one. One thing that I like about Muslim sisters is their love, dedication and respect for their husbands. God bless them. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Zackattack: 11:30am On Feb 06 |
Kobojunkie:I knew you were somewhere lucking. So being a virtuous woman is humiliating 🤷🏽♂️💁🏻♀️ This is about everything a good woman should be and more, but you would certainly disagree. You need help o. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Worryingly: 11:31am On Feb 06 |
Kobojunkie:I'm just trying to find the correlation between your response and the post. What connects Islam to this post exactly. The OP is just common sense and nothing else. That said, I think Islam sympathies with terrorism. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by advanceDNA: 11:31am On Feb 06 |
dele1727:And you dont see anything weird with this response sir?? |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Ochyes: 11:31am On Feb 06 |
If you do as you said, you can be termed a"VIRTUOUS WOMAN". |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by abbasajao(m): 11:33am On Feb 06 |
Hussein27:Any woman that abide by the above will have a happy home |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by BILLSMAN: 11:33am On Feb 06 |
Islam is the only religion where the men feel so insecure about their women. If not that the eyes is use for sight, they would've covered their women's eyes too cos most of them are still very jealous that another man can see their women's eyes..... These people are so insecure that some marriage homes is basically a prison to many women. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by DeltaBachelor(m): 11:34am On Feb 06 |
Hmmmm. Here we go again ooo |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Antwan99: 11:41am On Feb 06 |
AbuTwins:This man. Are you from Mars? I am even surprised Aisha's husband being a Muslim allowed her to go public like she was and is about Peter Obi. No religion, I repeat, no religion subjugates women like Islam. In Afghanistan right now, ladies have been banned from schooling that everything they need, the husband was borne to provide and not them going it by themselves. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by tunde1200(m): 11:44am On Feb 06 |
Kobojunkie:You lied about this your write up. You know nothing about islam. Try and have small knowledge about it before you come here to say rubbish as usual of yours. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by tunde1200(m): 11:46am On Feb 06 |
Half baked information of yours cannot change anything than misleading uneducated once like you. Antwan99: |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Zocalite: 11:48am On Feb 06 |
Lolzzzzz 🤣 No woman on earth can do all this |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by RaySimran: 11:49am On Feb 06 |
Esthered:I read a publication that there's a law which forbade women from studying to become doctors and also forbade them from seeing a male doctor. Like a devil's bubble. Afghanistan (Taliban in this context) pride themselves as the first born of Islam, centering all it rules on Islamism. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by tunde1200(m): 11:50am On Feb 06 |
Worryingly:They're brainwashed to hate Muslims and islam |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Zocalite: 11:51am On Feb 06 |
tunde1200:You are really trying to deny the obvious Ku ise Kpele |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by LeeSmart: 11:54am On Feb 06 |
tunde1200:Na you dey lie my brother, islam is meant to denigrate women. It baffles me how u guys keep defending this backward religion |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by tunde1200(m): 11:58am On Feb 06 |
LeeSmart:Can u come down to my levels and educate me how islam denigrate women. Abi why u and ur family forced to practice it.? |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by tunde1200(m): 12:00pm On Feb 06 |
Zocalite:Tell me one thing islam use to denigrate women. No vex oh just one and I will translate it to you in fact scholars will also guide you to understand it if you're not. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by rafcrown(m): 12:04pm On Feb 06 |
The 16 commandments? Thou shall not have male secret friends. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Zocalite: 12:05pm On Feb 06 |
tunde1200:Wolai islam didn't denigrate women They only see them as s3x material Afi scholar |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by advanceDNA: 12:07pm On Feb 06*. Modified: 1:40pm On Feb 06 |
AbuTwins:emphasized kindness ?? Do u even read your quran and hadit or u just went to copy and paste chat gpt?? Your same prophet kidnap women in war and use them for exchange of horses, resources and sex slaves Q. 23.5-6; 70.29-30 …: see i dont have any issue with what you do to the enemy your capture … but lying that your prophet was nice to women is a bunch of lies.. AbuTwins:Lol…. Oga calm down dey lie… Your prophet started the practice of marrying children at age 6 which u pple practice in islamic nations and islam dominated areas…. How does this even look like promoting women education, marriage consent?? How does a child give consent to sex and marriage?? How does a girl child go to school when you already shipped her off to a man at age nine to start birthing children?? U pple deceive yourselves alot….: like i said ealier.. u claim religion of peace but do another.. AbuTwins:Yet…U see women pastors and preist everywhere yet you chose to lie just to make a point…. Islam and its followers only thrive on lies…. We already know this AbuTwins:Continuous lies…. Who are the some?? How many times has a woman started a call to prayer in your mosque or even at home in her own family.. Well done… be deceiving yourself AbuTwins:so u read that women have different soul in the bible? When genesis clearly states that God created them and breath life into them… Continue with More lies… if islam has not compared it self to christianity with lies.. it has no validity AbuTwins:Lol….. u have obviously run out of points…. U dint protect womens right… u see women as mere birthing property… Islam see women as property of men Islam allows men beat their wives Islam beleives in Quran (2:282) that it requires two female witnesses in place of one male… yet u are lying u uphold women rights If a woman was raped in islam with no clear evidence she cant win because a mans testimony is greater than hers .. and if she get pregnant she can still be punished for fornication.. AbuTwins:which of mohammed followers he used to kill and raid mecca are women ?? Like i asked earlier…how many times has a woman started a call to prayer in your mosque or even at home in her own family.. U dint even read the bible u are using to defend you quran… mary magdalene, tabitha, salome, martha were all disciples of jesus… Baba..be deceiving yourself AbuTwins:U cant even prove how islam gave women honor…. Someone tackled you with points of women subjugation all u started doing is lying and comparing to Christianity.. you cant even defend your religion without looking for christianity to compare it to…. . u marry women off at 6 year old, you allow husband beat the their wives, Without any form of formal divorce and inheritance, islam allows a man to divorce his wife and send her away with nothing…but u are claiming honor…. Go to afghanistan, there are places women cant go. Women are no allowed to participate in many public events.. women are not allowed to study some course, women are not allowed to drive until recently in saudi. Until recently women cant watch football ball in statdiums in saudi… in many other islamic states women are still nit allowed in many public events .. yet you claim you give honor to women.. Which honor?? By taking their right to decide and marrying them off at 9 years old?? See baba.. i dont care what you do to your women ..but stop the lies.. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by tunde1200(m): 12:08pm On Feb 06 |
Zocalite:Are you a Christian? Respect is reciprocal bro Respect others believe and leave hate. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Antwan99: 12:10pm On Feb 06 |
tunde1200:It wasn't intended to change anything. Just stating the obvious you surprised me not to be aware of. Furthermore, once you can't express yourself without denigrating the person you're addressing, know you lack a quality I don't want to mention because I don't denigrate. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by LeeSmart: 12:12pm On Feb 06 |
tunde1200:The best decision my late grandfather made was leaving that religion, and uptill now dey (your people) still do persecute my family. Than God for the little influence my dad have in the grand scheme of things in this country, if not my family would have become history. |
| Re: Things I Won’t Do As A Wife by Zocalite: 12:12pm On Feb 06 |
tunde1200:Okay sir That's what you were supposed to have said, instead trying to proof It's a belief Thank you ore |
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