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Wande22:
I don learn something new today....


Mek I quickly go and make money before my kids hits teenage years to avoid stories like this...

Ire O.

P.S. Omihanifa wassup?

Exactly .. this is the point ... Hmm , I have this similar issue o . But okay .. I pray o , you go make enough money , to even fly them out of this country....

Gospel artist committing adultery?

starpower:
worst of values, shared same experience recently, sometimes felt there fanaticism my be untreated mental 🤒 illness

The things wey my eyes don see, my mouth no fit talk am finish.

I'm

Namaster:
ALL of them are like that.

Once a marriage BREAKS down, they go to work on expertly BRAINWASHING the children against their father.

Someone SNATCHED kids away from their father in the UK to come tough it out here in Nigeria.
ALL because the man was UNWILLING to tolerate her infidelity.

She ROBBED the kids of the OPPORTUNITY to live in a decent country with the possibility of CITIZENSHIP.

Also, the husband FORKED UP.

When you break up your marriage to a GOSPEL SINGER because of her INFIDELITY, NEVER be civil about it.

NEVER allow the hypocrite to continue to pretend to be a SAINT.

Even MORE importantly, DON'T wait until she's dead before making allegations about her INFIDELITY.

Now, the children are just going to BAND together and LOATHE him more for trying to SULLY the reputation of their dead mother.

UNLESS DNA results can corroborate his accusations.

My brother she has reaped what she sow, read carefully, the man is doing well and only trying to ensure his children did not suffer! My first marriage was to one useless family like this too! Na lie they end am

[quote author=otipoju post=138391358]Sometimes,no oftentimes, the most religious people are the most despicable human beings you would come across.

They would pray and sing fervently now and go and commit and say vile things the next moment without an iota of guilt.

And will never admit they are wrong. I have worked closely with " men and women of God" in the last ten years ranging from pastors and gospel artists to prophets and evangelists....at this juncture I just prefer to keep them very far away from me.

You're very correct, they're so wicked with their words, they might even tell someone that, "Assuming u r worshipping at our church such incident wouldn't have befall you" can you imagine that? What does that has to do with not attending ya church, or they might say "You're not closer to God that was why you unable to get a job on time or unable to make it in life early " very manipulative set of people 😝😝😝

feelme3:
If my wife took my young children from the UK to Nigeria without my consent, I would stop at nothing to regain custody. I would confront her and her family directly and pursue every legal and institutional option available.

Reading that he occasionally sent financial support, sometimes amounting to thousands of pounds and paid school fees, yet remained completely cut off from his children for over eight years, does not suggest genuine commitment or seriousness. What I expected to read was evidence of concrete action: how many times he travelled to Nigeria, the confrontations he had with his estranged wife, and the steps he took when access was denied. Simply saying, “she blocked every access I had to reach you,” is not sufficient.

Personally, I would have applied pressure relentlessly through legal action, law enforcement, and competent legal representation. Instead, it appears he remained in the UK and relied on family members and relatives to fight on his behalf. For eight years? That is difficult to justify. If he had made personal visits during that period, there would likely be records, timelines, or documented attempts showing his efforts and resistance faced.

Frankly, this was a weak attempt. At this point, the most realistic option may be to accept the loss and hope that, when the children are older and more mature, they might choose to reconnect.

Showing up in a confrontational, “Rambo-style” manner to disrupt their mother’s funeral was misplaced. If he truly wanted custody, that level of intensity should have been applied years earlier—at their school, their home, and through formal legal channels—when it actually mattered.

Calm down, dem go just kill you while doing gragra!!! He is vindicated now

Because they sing gospel music,you will think they are the best,but move closer to some of them,you will discover that they are the most dangerous "woman being",full of anger & pride,full of plans to turn their children against their father,very very abusive and arrogant and yet they pretend on stage while singing like a saint.
I have said it before and I will repeat it again that:
The Angel you are looking for in Churches and Mosques might just be coming out of an hotel or even a shrine,so be open minded when choosing a life parner......

For Mr Adeoye,you have said what you have to say and for me,that is the right time to say it.keep praying for your children,soon they will be with you......

The late singer's family may want to disassociate themselves all they want but they had a huge part to play in all of this. The fact that someone is your daughter or sister doesn't mean you should jump to their defense at every given opportunity.

Myself as an example, I have two unmarried sisters and I can say almost with certainity about one of these two whose marriage will not last if she ever gets married. We all know our sisters, brothers, sons, parents more than anyone else. We know what they are capable of because we lived with them for at least two decades. But when they're doing wrong, rather than stay out until at least we are called to intervene, we often quickly swing to their defense, all for no reason than the fact that we share blood.

As for young unmarried men, especially, if you're meeting a lady for the first time and you had to ask for her name, you're already doing it wrong. The rule of thumb is, if she is from a stable, sensible family, she most likely will be good for you. Lion no dey raise ekuke.

Personally ,I speak as a man And I speak from experience.To avoid such drama,tolerate her until the children are grown and can speak for themselves.

I am 40.My parents relationship crashed even when I was a baby.I knew nothing about them till date.Not any of my parents have agreed to sit me down and share with me what really happened between them. And anytime they speak about each other, they never say something nice about themselves.

As a child then ,when I grew,I took my stand never to involve myself in their disagreement. I lived my life and responded to my parents according to how they individually treated me.
My father wants me to hate my mom,my mom wants me to hate my dad but I say to myself I can not be a party to it.

Now I am married and the woman I'm married to is trying to be the opposite of what I expected in marriage.For the sake of my children I refuse to be intelligent but a fool until they are grown and can see the level of disrespect I get from their mother,so they will be the one to even caution their mom when it's time.
In all as men this group of women will happen to us but use number six and whatever you do see the future first.
Thankyou.

From my own view, the man is at fault here and what makes me to said so is that, what is he looking since all this year that he didn't come out so that the woman too can tell her own side of the story before she die. From now till the infinite the children will never agree with him because they will only see their mother side of the story as fact.

otipoju:
Sometimes,no oftentimes, the most religious people are the most despicable human beings you would come across.

They would pray fervently and sing passionately now and go and say vile things and commit atrocities the next moment without an iota of guilt.

Funny enough, they will never admit they are wrong. I have worked closely with " men and women of God" in the last ten years ranging from Pastors ,gospel artists to prophets and evangelists....at this juncture I just prefer to keep them very far away from me.

Most of them are selfish, nasty, mean, vile, jealous, greedy, proud, arrogant, feel entitled and of course promiscuous and so on and so forth.

You are a wise person. Don’t mind them. Na me fit all of them.

You are cheating on your husband and manipulating the children..you don't what you are doing, digging your grave.If you have issues with your husband stick to it and praise your husband when you are with your children it will help you and psychologically help your children in life when they become adults

Tenses:
Time will heal them. He should just keep alive channels that they can reach him and he should also continue to reach out to them irrespective of their hostility.

When they are ready they will come around.

Especially the son. He'll one day find that he's beginning to understand his father. Women would surely psut him in that position.

Ordinary my friend wey dey do supervisor at one IKOYI big house, he decided to stay at the island until weekends to cut transport. Baba don begin go house everyday now. Reason is, his wife dey tell his children say their papa dey island dey enjoy himself with other women. Na his youngest daughter mistakenly voice the thing wey e hear. No be small quarrel for his house that period. I too follow beg am to forgive madam😁...

You wey decide to marry, be ready for wahala if ya woman na problem person.

Oga rest...your kids don't want you

I told my family to let her took everything she wanted if I die just for peace to rain.

Sometimes, you just have to let some things go even people.

Some people did yr from the man side b4 dy conclude likeyaz we can yr from d dead

angelboy01:
When I saw the boys anger in the pic it made me to realize how a woman's venom can be so lethal that a son would beat up his father in public.

He wasn't brought up well. If you as a man is being brought up by a woman never believe their tales. Women are manipulative including my own mom and that's the pure truth.

Always manipulative, and you as a man try Nd find what why and most importantly it's better not to get involved in your parents fight if you can't be matured. Just forgive your father and move on instead of holding on to endless anger.

Beg male child. Thank God na male , when he too start collecting he go remember him papa

DeclanR:
I'm tired of everything.
Marriage, life, people, everything!

This is deep. Talk to someone. Preferably, a professional therapist. Best wishes

Ok sir. You're very right, the story is quite difficult to comprehend. I have updated my knowledge. Thanks

Fiscus105:
Anyway,its not everyone who understands English properly and some cannot comprehend, perhaps, the words use are too difficult to break down for them.


Meanwhile, migration challenges also mean, having issues on his papers .

Read below to update your knowledge.

TheGift:
This is deep. Talk to someone. Preferably, a professional therapist. Best wishes

It's not that easy sir

Sirmwill:
It is not necessary to comment
Think before you start judging or condemning
No one knows what truly happened!

with this explanation you don't expect us not to comment, you sound as if you in charge here!

ppogba:
Go to church tomorrow and ask for the forgiveness of the Sin of " I know not but jumped into conclusion."

I am sure you didn't read the story.

I hope you are not depressed 😔

Please reach out or talk to someone matured and reasonable.
If possible go see a counsellor.

DeclanR:
I'm tired of everything.
Marriage, life, people, everything!

Omihanifa:
https://punchng.com/family-kicks-as-omije-ojumi-singers-ex-husband-exposes-secrets/

I can relate to this, my advice if woman decide to carry children run and she no look for your trouble, leave dem.

When time reach everybody go get sense.

angelboy01:
When I saw the boys anger in the pic it made me to realize how a woman's venom can be so lethal that a son would beat up his father in public.

He wasn't brought up well. If you as a man is being brought up by a woman never believe their tales.

You saw the boy's anger and you automatically saw a woman's venom. You saw the boy's anger but you didn't see abandonment, right?

Porksupplyib:
You don't Know how powerful a mother's influence is? She must have been singing the story of neglect and dejection into their hearing as they grew up. It is the only thing they will ever believe.

Singing? Like they didn't witness, live and see it, right?
The man remarried but the woman didn't.
The woman refused to bring the kids to UK but he didn't think of visiting them in Nigeria?
He had various media to voice out all these years when the woman was alive, he didn't. He had to wait until when the woman couldn't defend herself.
I'm glad that the kids didn't betray their mother.

maasoap:
You saw the boy's anger and you automatically saw a woman's venom. You saw the boy's anger but you didn't see abandonment, right?


Singing? Like they didn't witness, live and see it, right?
The man remarried but the woman didn't.
The woman refused to bring the kids to UK but he didn't think of visiting them in Nigeria?
He had various media to voice out all these years when the woman was alive, he didn't. He had to wait until when the woman couldn't defend herself.
I'm glad that the kids didn't betray their mother.

Sebi na man him be, and na man you sef be. When woman starts to dey manipulate am e go remember his father. And you wey be man dey support woman. E go clear for your eyes.

angelboy01:
Sebi na man him be, and na man you sef be. When woman starts to dey manipulate am e go remember his father. And you wey be man dey support woman. E go clear for your eyes.

This is where we defer my friend. I can't blindly support this man just because I'm a man!
Even he's the only one stating his side of the story, there are still many loopholes in his story. And the woman is even no more to counter him. That man just woke up

maasoap:
This is where we defer my friend. I can't blindly support this man just because I'm a man!
Even he's the only one stating his side of the story, there are still many loopholes in his story. And the woman is even no more to counter him. That man just woke up

And I can't blindly support a woman too, not even my own mother.

angelboy01:
And I can't blindly support a woman too, not even my own mother.

The woman is already dead, she can't say what happened. I only picked holes in the man's claims. He had a voice when the woman was alive, what happened to that voice at the time?
He just remembered now to speak up, right? We saw how people cried out whenever their ex tried to block them from having access access to the kids