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I was listening to one old cosmos maduka interview...

He was saying parents play a big role in thier children accomplishments in thier lifetime..

Some kids are so witty...
Some kids are very observant
Some kids are obsessed with organizing and managing
Some are interested in sorting solutions for certain challenges..

But then, parental ego comes in.
My child must be this or that... You tilt the child out of his natural ability and he's confused about life through out his living time.

Parenting is intentional, not only an obligation.

Many dumb parents exist in the past and now.

Una don still come again o.

ednut1:
Some kids follow their passion and end up poor. Life has no manual

God bless you for this statement.

There's only so much that parents play - whether or not a parent says, you must do this or that, there are kids who turned out perfectly well to do by doing what the parents thought was "lucrative". There are also those who pursued their passion for fields with no employability prospects and still ended up depending on parents for sustenance.

Some kids follow their passion and end up poor. Life has no manual

Hmmm, if I talk wetin dey my mind ehn,

I have seen this manifest before my very own eyes.

Only that the guy later found his bearing after returning to his first love.

Theater.

Hmmmm so true, I just want my kids to live their lives while guiding them though.

Parents cast their fears on children or force them to be what they cannot be by themselves.

Sometimes u need to have strong head small to break some barriers... if na for my parents, I for not leave my state to study in another region cos of fear... but if I didn't go out of my state, I would have been like all my area friends, no vision, no connection, no bigger aspirations, just normal life with small.jobs

Honestly, even new generation parents that should know better by now are also walking in this same Path, making the same mistake their own parents did.

Most especially all those almajiri boys in the north their parents failed them

Parenting is intentional in these modern times

MONEY247:
I was listening to one old cosmos maduka interview...

He was saying parents play a big role in thier children accomplishments in thier lifetime..

Some kids are so witty...
Some kids are very observant
Some kids are obsessed with organizing and managing
Some are interested in sorting solutions for certain challenges..

But then, parental ego comes in.
My child must be this or that... You tilt the child out of his natural ability and he's confused about life through out his living time.

sound true, my own parents too Love us, he doesn't allow us to take risks, like travelling to another city to look for work, they should believe you just stay with them and find a Job

Poster do you know what is called Grace?? You think it is by power??

COMRADES, I don't think I have ever came across any parents who become an obstruction to their children

MONEY247:
I was listening to one old cosmos maduka interview...

He was saying parents play a big role in thier children accomplishments in thier lifetime..

Some kids are so witty...
Some kids are very observant
Some kids are obsessed with organizing and managing
Some are interested in sorting solutions for certain challenges..

But then, parental ego comes in.
My child must be this or that... You tilt the child out of his natural ability and he's confused about life through out his living time.

Its 50-50

Some followed their guts n still missed it

Parents especially educated ones are more informed than their kids in career, most of the time. Young people in 2026 should dump that nonsense about passion, don't ever pick a career because you are passionate about it. Don't do a stupïd course because of passion o! Find a rewarding career and commit yourself to studying it understanding that most of adult life involves doing things not because they are fun but because they are necessary. No matter how you love your job, if it doesn't put food on your table, you will eventually be frustrated.

Family is a double-edge sword.

Family is the backbone that holds you when everything is falling. Family out of kinship protectiveness will shield you from engaging in profitable risks or adventures.

Parents don't go out consciously to become an hindrance to their children. In their attempts to protect, they paralyze. The reason: parents are now truckloads of experiences - good, bad, and ugly. In an attempt to reconstruct and realign their lives, they begin to live vicariously through their children. They want to achieve that great dream through their children or correct a mistake through their children.

That's why all the parental blackmail like "I breastfeed you for 9 months, what an elder sees why sitting down a child can't see it even if he climbs an iroko tree".

Children are shaped by their environment and peer interactions than their parents. And that's where problem normally occurs between parents and children - because the new thing the child is learning outside is not what the parents taught that child inside. So, there's a serious collision.

Most children can't survive that stage with their parents at all. And these children grow up to become indecisive and weak adults.

Parents needs more enlightenment on raising their kids.

Especially those retired headmaster and head mistress you must study what they want or do what they want.

This is true and false. It's true because even a man can't direct his step talk of another.

False if child is underage or parents have big wealthy conglomerate consolidation becomes better option than freash building ideas of child.

Today poor parents will train smarter children but deny dem live opportunities in name disciplinary and Choice friends, live activities and etc

But kids desire doesn't always mean interest when grown up

It's not that straight forward

Many factors come to play as children grow

Melagros:
COMRADES, I don't think I have ever came across any parents who become an obstruction to their children

You would have unknowingly, they might think they are guiding him but it might not be.
Forcing child to do study or do what he does not like, is a an example, even if the child can cope in what he was force to do.
Imagine if Fela had studied medicine instead of music, probably know one will hear of his generation after his death.

ednut1:
Some kids follow their passion and end up poor. Life has no manual

Poverty is not yardstick for achievement and self fulfilment. Someone can achieve all his life goals and still be poor in pockets. Monetary richness is nothing compared to real passion.

Melagros:
COMRADES, I don't think I have ever came across any parents who become an obstruction to their children

many parents bro... observe your children if you have... They have something unique from others...

At certain age they need to be guided, not controled...
Yes children can be stubborn.....

Imagine if DAVIDO was something other than a musician...

Imindmybusiness:
Poverty is not yardstick for achievement and self fulfilment. Someone can achieve all his life goals and still be poor in pockets. Monetary richness is nothing compared to real passion.

yeah. And still come beg the same parents to feed 😂

Love800:
Parenting is intentional, not only an obligation.

Many dumb parents exist in the past and now.

Talk is cheap. Raise one first and let's see.

That you're coming with a wrong mindset is a red flag. If you have goodparens and you're a good child to your parents, you increase your chances of being a good parent. You can't give what you don’t have

Nothing in life humbles like parenting so you need help especially from God, your spouse, caregivers, teachers, grandparents, school, religious institutions, where you live etc. so the mindset is that you are ready to be prayerful, vigilant, set great examples, work hard , stay humble and harness the opportunities especially those you can control and be willing to share the credit with all these stakeholders.


It takes a village to raise a child even if the child is raised in the city.

People would say they want to be the first person to achieve something in their family, or go beyond their parents and yet are stuck to parental advices

Lol, If your parents knew best, they would have been world best

Some listen to their parents for investment advices.. even if they are successful, what worked in 1990 cannot work in 2026 hahaha

Or person listen to parents for career advice, when the courses that were relevant in 2000 aren’t no longer valid in 2026

Abi na your parents want teach you about cryptocurrency, or monetization of Facebook and YouTube?

Most parents want their children to succeed.

But we have some parents who are pressured by responsibilities and by so doing, trading the future of their children for comfort at the time. E.g School fees being used to sort out family debt.

We also have parents who do not want you to grow or earn more than them because of some perceived threat or fear that you may be uncontrollable. They restrict your every movements, dealings or overal progress just to show that they are above you as parents.
Then they use the okra plant proverbs for you that says the okra plant cannot grow higher than it's farmer.

Parent needs to be flexible, and that life na turn by turn. What you reap today is what you sow tomorrow. If you don't help your children to succeed in life, you will in turn reap the consequences after you retire.

MONEY247:
I was listening to one old cosmos maduka interview...

He was saying parents play a big role in thier children accomplishments in thier lifetime..

Some kids are so witty...
Some kids are very observant
Some kids are obsessed with organizing and managing
Some are interested in sorting solutions for certain challenges..

But then, parental ego comes in.
My child must be this or that... You tilt the child out of his natural ability and he's confused about life through out his living time.

Short and brilliant!

Let your children breathe. Give them the space to find their own passion and God!

Stop injecting your beliefs into their brains. Morals and etiquettes you owe them, not dictating their future or inserting beliefs into their head.

The moment you find their passion, enhance it!

Especially if the parents are controlling narcissists

Freshandfitpod:
Most especially all those almajiri boys in the north their parents failed them

Those ones birthing Almajiri shouldn’t be called parents, they are just religious followers practicing their religion.

ednut1:
Some kids follow their passion and end up poor. Life has no manual

Define poverty.
Each his her own destiny. Rich and sad, poor and happy choice is ours.
Free to decide can end badly, restricted but end up well, but most importantly, what's the subject's approach to life and life's uncertainties?

MONEY247:
I was listening to one old cosmos maduka interview...

He was saying parents play a big role in thier children accomplishments in thier lifetime..

Some kids are so witty...
Some kids are very observant
Some kids are obsessed with organizing and managing
Some are interested in sorting solutions for certain challenges..

But then, parental ego comes in.
My child must be this or that... You tilt the child out of his natural ability and he's confused about life through out his living time.

like seriously this was my story.

I was a very very good footballer at Loyola college in Ibadan in d early 2000.

I carry football for head that people call me thiery Henry those days cos anywhere ball dey I go dey dere, it got so bad that I get back home late.

Na so my papa change my school n I could remember one Italian man at bishop Finn academy already developed interest in me.

Na so my papa carry me go school wey no get school field n compound.

I no play ball throughout my secondary school, when I got to d university I no get interest for football again, I just play it for fun.

Funny enough, the VP of Loyola college then saw me at ShopRite n he wondered y I didn't end up being a footballer, I just smile

E pain me gain