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mattsejuro:
Most parents want their children to succeed.

But we have some parents who are pressured by responsibilities and by so doing, trading the future of their children for comfort at the time. E.g School fees being used to sort out family debt.

We also have parents who do not want you to grow or earn more than them because of some perceived threat or fear that you may be uncontrollable. They restrict your every movements, dealings or overal progress just to show that they are above you as parents.
Then they use the okra plant proverbs for you that says the okra plant cannot grow higher than it's farmer.

Parent needs to be flexible, and that life na turn by turn. What you reap today is what you sow tomorrow. If you don't help your children to succeed in life, you will in turn reap the consequences after you retire.

ednut1:
yeah. And still come beg the same parents to feed 😂

MONEY247:
I was listening to one old cosmos maduka interview...

He was saying parents play a big role in thier children accomplishments in thier lifetime..

Some kids are so witty...
Some kids are very observant
Some kids are obsessed with organizing and managing
Some are interested in sorting solutions for certain challenges..

But then, parental ego comes in.
My child must be this or that... You tilt the child out of his natural ability and he's confused about life through out his living time.

Freshandfitpod:
Most especially all those almajiri boys in the north their parents failed them

ednut1:
Some kids follow their passion and end up poor. Life has no manual

MONEY247:
I was listening to one old cosmos maduka interview...

He was saying parents play a big role in thier children accomplishments in thier lifetime..

Some kids are so witty...
Some kids are very observant
Some kids are obsessed with organizing and managing
Some are interested in sorting solutions for certain challenges..

But then, parental ego comes in.
My child must be this or that... You tilt the child out of his natural ability and he's confused about life through out his living time.

Stephen0mozzy:
Una don still come again o.




God bless you for this statement.

There's only so much that parents play - whether or not a parent says, you must do this or that, there are kids who turned out perfectly well to do by doing what the parents thought was "lucrative". There are also those who pursued their passion for fields with no employability prospects and still ended up depending on parents for sustenance.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Parents especially educated ones are more informed than their kids in career, most of the time. Young people in 2026 should dump that nonsense about passion, don't ever pick a career because you are passionate about it. Don't do a stupïd course because of passion o! Find a rewarding career and commit yourself to studying it understanding that most of adult life involves doing things not because they are fun but because they are necessary. No matter how you love your job, if it doesn't put food on your table, you will eventually be frustrated.

FreeStuffsNG:
Talk is cheap. Raise one first and let's see.

That you're coming with a wrong mindset is a red flag. If you have goodparens and you're a good child to your parents, you increase your chances of being a good parent. You can't give what you don’t have

Nothing in life humbles like parenting so you need help especially from God, your spouse, caregivers, teachers, grandparents, school, religious institutions, where you live etc. so the mindset is that you are ready to be prayerful, vigilant, set great examples, work hard , stay humble and harness the opportunities especially those you can control and be willing to share the credit with all these stakeholders.


It takes a village to raise a child even if the child is raised in the city.

YourGFsnatcher:
Parents cast their fears on children or force them to be what they cannot be by themselves.

Sometimes u need to have strong head small to break some barriers... if na for my parents, I for not leave my state to study in another region cos of fear... but if I didn't go out of my state, I would have been like all my area friends, no vision, no connection, no bigger aspirations, just normal life with small.jobs

Lamanii22:
Hmmmm so true, I just want my kids to live their lives while guiding them though.

MadamVanessa:

Honestly, even new generation parents that should no better by now are also walking in this same Path, making the same mistake their own parents did.

cyberstarr:
It is Cosmas (not Cosmos) Maduka

IronCondemned:
You're still a Teen. Wait, when you become a parent you'll understand.

This protection, guidance and direction is innate in human and animals as well. It is in our DNA to behave the way we do to our children.

I bet you that your perception will surely change the moment you start having your own kids.

MONEY247:
many parents bro... observe your children if you have... They have something unique from others...

At certain age they need to be guided, not controled...
Yes children can be stubborn.....

Imagine if DAVIDO was something other than a musician...

Emdi1914:
if we where created just to put food on the table, are we better off than animals?

Love800:
Parenting is intentional, not only an obligation.

Many dumb parents exist in the past and now.

MadamVanessa:
When I had my first child , probably you were still sucking your mother's breast. Not everyone here is your contemporaries, so rest.

MadamVanessa:
When I had my first child , probably you were still sucking your mother's breast. Not everyone here is your contemporaries, so rest.

Godmind2022:
Calling parents dumb?!

This reflects more on you than the parents you are calling "extremely stupid".

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
In your heart of hearts do you think we are better than the animals? The bees who know about nothing asides pollination and making honey carry our planet on their backs, earth will perish in less than five years without them, unimportant looking phytoplanktons produce probably up to 80% of the oxygen on our atmosphere and you dare to talk about how we are better than other animals? Have you ever heard of lions and baboons going from park to park killing their kind just to dominate? We are not better than other animals, they are better than us

Emdi1914:
animals are not better than 'us', but they may be better than you.It's just that as a human being, you don't understand the epitome of Glory you carry.Forget our fallen nature,guy we are next to God.
If 1% of the world population where living according to spiritual laws guiding the universe, the earth would be a paradise for every single Being

Emdi1914:
animals are not better than 'us', but they may be better than you.It's just that as a human being, you don't understand the epitome of Glory you carry.Forget our fallen nature,guy we are next to God.
If 1% of the world population where living according to spiritual laws guiding the universe, the earth would be a paradise for every single Being