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“Try Everything to Make Your In-Laws Like You” — Omotola Jalade Ekeinde Advises Couples

Veteran Nollywood actress Omotola Jalade Ekeinde has sparked conversations online after sharing her thoughts on how spouses should handle in-laws who may not immediately accept them.

The award-winning actress gave the advice during a recent interview with TVC host Morayo Afolabi Brown, where she spoke candidly about marriage, family dynamics, and the importance of building healthy relationships beyond one’s spouse. Eyes Of Lagos reports,

According to Omotola, couples should make genuine and consistent efforts to win the hearts of their in-laws, even when acceptance does not come easily.

She noted that patience, understanding, and deliberate actions can gradually bridge differences and foster harmony within the family.

Omotola explained that while such efforts may not always yield immediate results, they are often necessary to maintain peace and stability in marriage.

The veteran actress further stressed that marriage on its own comes with challenges, and unresolved family tensions can make the journey even more difficult.

She pointed out that a lack of support from in-laws can place additional emotional strain on couples, making it harder to navigate marital responsibilities.

According to her, having family backing — or at least reducing hostility — can significantly ease the pressures that come with married life.

Omotola’s remarks have since generated mixed reactions on social media, with some users agreeing with her perspective, while others argued that mutual respect should be a two-way effort between spouses and their families.

https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/02/13/omotola-advises-couples-make-inlaws-like-you/

All these Gen-Z feminists go hear?

In the next 10 years, all them go decay into menopause. Then reality check go set in..

Thank God all my Sisters and female cousins don marry.

Feminists younglings continue, time still dey.

But remember you no go tell 40 year old man make he go find him mate to marry. Him mate wey be woman suppose don born finish..

Him go make money, marry 20-28 year old wey get sense, and nothing you fit do.

by the fact that it works for u doesn't mean it will work for all. Not all inlaws are good so madam enjoy your marriage

She should simply say - ladies should try everything for their mothers-in-law to like and accept them because those two females are always hostile to each other.

Rootrophy:
by the fact that it works for u doesn't mean it will work for all. Not all inlaws are good so madam enjoy your marriage

She's saying the truth. Which one would you rather do? Try everything to make your in-laws like you or try everything to make your in-laws hate you?

Hate me for telling you the truth is better than love me for lying to you

I don't seek people's validation

Well said..in yoruba culture, you are married to the family

Mama please tell. Yuseless feminist

OK is a nice advice something

Is not good to be a feminazi to your in-laws.

Is good to build bridges inside family not to be tearing everything apart and turning everything upside down

So once again is a good advice. Thumbup!

U get bad mind from unset

Rootrophy:
by the fact that it works for u doesn't mean it will work for all. Not all inlaws are good so madam enjoy your marriage

Rootrophy:
by the fact that it works for u doesn't mean it will work for all. Not all inlaws are good so madam enjoy your marriage

see one of them

Years later you will be wasting in Shiloh and doing all sorts of hallelujah challenges in quest of a man because you can't take a simple advise

She's in the best position to advice her fellows.
Experience they say is the best teacher
Well opined beautiful

Not far from the truth. Some ladies think as soon as they are married to a man, they automatically become in charge and family can't have a say. E go shock you

Very good advise Omotola

SmartPolician:
She should simply say - ladies should try everything for their mothers-in-law to like and accept them because those two females are always hostile to each other.

Females are the enemies of females that use the males as weapons in their unreasonable battles

Good advice mama. The truth is that some in-laws are like patience ozokwor, no matter how hard you try to please them, they'll keep provoking you. For me I believe that respect is reciprocal, if you respect me, I go respect you back.

Rootrophy:
by the fact that it works for u doesn't mean it will work for all. Not all inlaws are good so madam enjoy your marriage

nothing vex me pass this statement in midst of discussion especially if it’s coming from a man.

No one wants to here from omotola make she park go one side..

This advice you won't get everywhere

She made this your point in that post abi u no read am finish just rush to comment... It might not work but its necessary to maintain peace and stability for your marriage not for them..

SmartPolician:
She should simply say - ladies should try everything for their mothers-in-law to like and accept them because those two females are always hostile to each other.

After some time, marriage becomes a chore where you play your roles as husband or wife, father or mother or in laws. In playing various roles, you lose yourself and you forget how to love yourself. Slowly, that person dies. And if you can't give what you don't have, love becomes a drug, which is a dependency on another person, instead of giving it out to the world 💔

“Every crow thinks its own chick is the whitest.” (Parents/family overlook their children’s faults.)
Blood is thicker than water so think about it. Your inlaws are wilfully blind. They will tolerate the excesses of their sons and daughters who have lived with them for 20+ years but if you show any bad behaviour that their own child does, they will come for you. Meanwhile, they can't do anything to their own child because there's nowhere to send blood to but you can always send this stranger out. If it's the man, they are afraid of rebuking him so that he does not stop sending support money to family. If it's the woman, they are afraid of rebuking her too because more women take care of their family through support money than a man who is trying to build his own new house. They also want to protect the so-called family honor so they are never wrong in their own eyes. The lizard that ruins its mother’s funeral is the one she praised most.


Inlaw, outlaw....
“One law for them, another for others.” (Double standards.)
As a man you quickly learn how to protect your own nuclear family you are building from your siblings and parents and extended family. Don't take that girl to the slaughter house and being a man is how you use tact to avoid situations that will make her the subject matter. Don't be a manipulated man because women are always cunning, your mother and sisters too. Don't let your family run your own house on your behalf and start running your own show. Be careful what you tell your family about your wife and your household. It is the information they know they use to attack you, trying to run your adult life when they should know their boundaries. I know you find this difficult to believe but marriage will open your eyes and you will know how to manage women. We are wilfully blind and someone who cannot take care of their own house has the best advice for other people's homes. That's how our families are to in-laws. We want to teach her how to wash vegetables when our finger nails are dirty. True righteousness is being fair even when it goes against your own people. Injustice is the opposite. This is why we have elders in the house, usually a patriarch who wants the family structure to be held and knows his own people and their manipulation tactics.

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“Try Everything to Make Your In-Laws Like You” — Omotola Jalade Ekeinde Advises Couples


https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/02/13/omotola-advises-couples-make-inlaws-like-you/

Will they listen?
I want my mother in-law to die before I marry gangz but they want to be alive to witness their own son's wedding. Inside life

Well said. Take this piece of advice to the bank.

Peakdesign23:
Good advice mama. The truth is that some in-laws are like patience ozokwor, no matter how hard you try to please them, they'll keep provoking you. For me I believe that respect is reciprocal, if you respect me, I go respect you back.

Still continue to please them. Your spouse will then step in to defend you

Rootrophy:
by the fact that it works for u doesn't mean it will work for all. Not all inlaws are good so madam enjoy your marriage

If I were you I won't throw this piece to the bin, even you find it difficult I'd advise you start working on it or you'll regret in a long run.

Street has no memory...just be yourself

I'd say just be kind and respectful to your in-laws but be yourself 100%. They'll like you and reciprocate respect to you based on who you are not based on your eye service and what you are pretending to be.

Ps: I am talking from a man's perspective though

femi4:
Well said..in yoruba culture, you are married to the family

That’s Yoruba culture, what about other cultures?
She should keep her opinion to herself and the yorubas

fasho01:
I'd say just be kind and respectful to your in-laws but be yourself 100%. They'll like you and reciprocate respect to you based on who you are not based on your eye service and what you are pretending to be.

Ps: I am talking from a man's perspective though

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You won't be able to satisfy human beings. We are fault finders by default and unsolicited advisors. Most of the problems we have in marriages come from family. They have one advice or the other on how to run your home and men are naive because, unlike the past when men dem tutored boys on how to be a man, these days, we have dropped those teachings. Men are no longer being mentored by other men dem on how to be a man before marriage.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7511713893325049093

Nollywood was not being dramatic in showing those movies of bad mother in laws. And we all know why it's usually the mother. Also, your family always has an opinion on your choice. You chose your own flower but they just don't like it and they will never like it no matter what you do. It's the attachment theory where they find it hard to see you go and cannot believe you have moved ahead as an adult by choosing another person in your life. Lastly, our people love aproko. They never mind their business. They are always looking for how to make your own decisions for you. This is why marriage is for the discerning. What they don't know, they can't destroy. Even at family events, don't assume the belly of everyone is clean. Some people like drama and it's what they know about you they want to use as agenda for family meeting. If a man should stand his ground, with no fault of the lady, our people will assume that it's the woman controlling him, why? Is he a dunce that cannot think for himself? What are we afraid of losing? I understand sha, many men don lose themselves in the name of marriage so they always put a check on them to shine their eyes Men have an easy pass as inlaws but they are mere property in the eyes of their families. And it's the inheritance they are after so the meddlesome interloper (your wife) does not take control of your assets.

seanwilliam:
nothing vex me pass this statement in midst of discussion especially if it’s coming from a man.

That’s his opinion, he work for her no mean say e go work for anyone like that, na the same inlaws dem get?

Instead of trying hard to win over them, I'll bounce immediately I notice the friction.

If only one side is trying, resentment will eventually replace peace