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Something interesting happened to me recently. I have this girl I once considered good for me marriage wise and should take my time to get to know her well before considering relationships as I know she is also single.

We usually see almost every Sunday after church and then.
till the next week Sunday again.

The first time we met after church, I took her out to a restaurant hoping it will be an avenue to discuss more better and get to know each other.

The second Sunday we met she requested to hangout with me and wanted us to chill in a place, I had to take her to another place where we had to other food.

Then I started noticing whenever I am not in church, she always call to know my where about after church.

Mind you, we only talk on Sundays as I stopped talking to her when I noticed she won't reply my messages and will keep seeing her status update on other days

Whenever I get to see her again in church, she must look for a way for me to take her out to eat.

Something in me told me she has turned it into a pattern and it will keep repeating itself if I don't take actions.

So, last week Sunday was her birthday, I got to see her after church. We headed out to a place where she told me she wanted to go see her friend (male). Along the road, we got to a place where they sell glasses, she approached the guy and was checking it out. I saw a glasses I liked and I took it immediately, she took one for herself and I paid for both.

She didn't express any gratitude for me paying and I didn't see it as anything too. She dropped her bag there and went to meet her friend in a place not too far. I waited for her to return.

After about 40 minutes, she came back and I thought we were headed to her house as it was her birthday and I have never been to her place. She has visited me in my own house once.

I was surprised when I saw her moving towards the opposite road from where we came back from and heading towards the restaurant road. She then said she needed us to chill first before she goes home.

And then she asked me where we should go " Chicken Republic " or the other one in the area. I told her to decide as she came up with the idea of chilling first.

We got into the eatery and she expected me to order food. I told her blankly that I won't be eating as I have food at home. I told her to go and buy her own food then.

She thought for some minutes and said she won't be eating too as it won't be good for only her to eat. Not long after I told her I need to go prepare for a site visit I have later in the day just as an excuse to leave.

She was disappointed and she did enter cab and left.

I kept wondering why are this ladies like this. This is the type of girl that looks homely and you will think will make a perfect wife but all she care about is how you will keep spending on her thinking one is a fool.

Fast forward to today, I was not in church as I joined online. Tell me why I didn't see this girl 's call or text. Inwhich before she would have called or text to know my whereabout around the church so we can meetup and go chill

Akinowon123:
Something interesting happened to me recently. I have this girl I once considered good for me marriage wise and should take my time to get to know her well before considering relationships as I know she is also single.

We usually see almost every Sunday after church and then.
till the next week Sunday again.

The first time we met after church, I took her out to a restaurant hoping it will be an avenue to discuss more better and get to know each other.

The second Sunday we met she requested to hangout with me and wanted us to chill in a place, I had to take her to another place where we had to other food.

Then I started noticing whenever I am not in church, she always call to know my where about after church.

Mind you, we only talk on Sundays as I stopped talking to her when I noticed she won't reply my messages and will keep seeing her status update on other days

Whenever I get to see her again in church, she must look for a way for me to take her out to eat.

Something in me told me she has turned it into a pattern and it will keep repeating itself if I don't take actions.

So, last week Sunday was her birthday, I got to see her after church. We headed out to a place where she told me she wanted to go see her friend (male). Along the road, we got to a place where they sell glasses, she approached the guy and was checking it out. I saw a glasses I liked and I took it immediately, she took one for herself and I paid for both.

She didn't express any gratitude for me paying and I didn't see it as anything too. She dropped her bag there and went to meet her friend in a place not too far. I waited for her to return.

After about 40 minutes, she came back and I thought we were headed to her house as it was her birthday and I have never been to her place. She has visited me in my own house once.

I was surprised when I saw her moving towards the opposite road from where we came back from and heading towards the restaurant road. She then said she needed us to chill first before she goes home.

And then she asked me where we should go " Chicken Republic " or the other one in the area. I told her to decide as she came up with the idea of chilling first.

We got into the eatery and she expected me to order food. I told her blankly that I won't be eating as I have food at home. I told her to go and buy her own food then.

She thought for some minutes and said she won't be eating too as it won't be good for only her to eat. Not long after I told her I need to go prepare for a site visit I have later in the day just as an excuse to leave.

She was disappointed and she did enter cab and left.

I kept wondering why are this ladies like this. This is the type of girl that looks homely and you will think will make a perfect wife but all she care about is how you will keep spending on her thinking one is a fool.

Fast forward to today, I was not in church as I joined online. Tell me why I didn't see this girl 's call or text. Inwhich before she would have called or text to know my whereabout around the church so we can meetup and go chill

You too are an enabler of the bad behaviour, in her mind she is the price, she is beautiful, you are going to spend just to have her and you keep doing that until you wished up. If I were you, I will ask her to borrow me money and collect my money back.

* You bought her glasses and she didn't express gratitude.

* She left you to visit a male friend and you waited for 40minutes before she returned.

* She doesn't reply your messages but always update her status.





OP if I tell you what's on my mind now I will chop ban.

I know say wetin I do no good but let me say it happened because I have some sort of likeness for her tho.
On a normal ground, I would have cleared her since and even make her to spend on me too

Bahamas95:
* You bought her glasses and she didn't express gratitude.

* She left you to visit a male friend and you waited for 40minutes before she returned.

* She doesn't reply your messages but always update her status.





OP if I tell you what's on my mind now I will chop ban.

Akinowon123:
I know say wetin I do no good but let me say it happened because I have some sort of likeness for her tho.
On a normal ground, I would have cleared her since and even make her to spend on me too

It takes two to tangle.



If you like/love her but she doesn't have same feeling for you it's a total waste of time.

ayoncox:
You too are an enabler of the bad behaviour, in her mind she is the price, she is beautiful, you are going to spend just to have her and you keep doing that until you wished up. If I were you, I will ask her to borrow me money and collect my money back.

You will ask her to borrow you money...


Dem dey see dat kind person money borrow?


Ya dan know!

So after Church na Chicken Republic.

These girls are always hungry until when its time for them to pay

Bahamas95:
* You bought her glasses and she didn't express gratitude.

* She left you to visit a male friend and you waited for 40minutes before she returned.

* She doesn't reply your messages but always update her status.





OP if I tell you what's on my mind now I will chop ban.

I guess OP is an 18yrs old dude drooling over Korean love movies.

Reality will soon hit you like Jeffrey Epstein

Akinowon123:
➜I kept wondering why are this ladies like this. This is the type of girl that looks homely and you will think will make a perfect wife but all she care about is how you will keep spending on her thinking one is a fool.
Fast forward to today, I was not in church as I joined online. Tell me why I didn't see this girl 's call or text. Inwhich before she would have called or text to know my whereabout around the church so we can meetup and go chill

. Stop chasing women. Chase yourself first. Learn about yourself first... spend the rest of this year doing that. Ask yourself why you really want a relationship, what it is you really want in a partner, and whether those are reasonable things to want from another human being(if someone else demanded the same from you, would you be forthcoming?). When you know yourself well, then and only then will you be able to look out for only those women who will match your personality and character(not flaws and bad habits) best. 🥱🥱🥱

brain54:
You will ask her to borrow you money...


Dem dey see dat kind person money borrow?


Ya dan know!

It's a good strategy if you know how to have your way, it will push her away if she is not good for you, on the other side it's difficult for ladies to give to guys so having her money with you is the best way to keep her committed, in her mind she knows you are owing her, but if you are spending on her you are the one at loss

ayoncox:
➜It's a good strategy if you know how to have your way, it will push her away if she is not good for you, on the other side it's difficult for ladies to give to guys so having her money with you is the best way to keep her committed, in her mind she knows you are owing her, but if you are spending on her you are the one at loss

Even then potentially reasonable ones will and should avoid you with that mentality. 🥱🥱🥱

Akinowon123:
Something interesting happened to me recently. I have this girl I once considered good for me marriage wise and should take my time to get to know her well before considering relationships as I know she is also single.

We usually see almost every Sunday after church and then.
till the next week Sunday again.

The first time we met after church, I took her out to a restaurant hoping it will be an avenue to discuss more better and get to know each other.

The second Sunday we met she requested to hangout with me and wanted us to chill in a place, I had to take her to another place where we had to other food.

Then I started noticing whenever I am not in church, she always call to know my where about after church.

Mind you, we only talk on Sundays as I stopped talking to her when I noticed she won't reply my messages and will keep seeing her status update on other days

Whenever I get to see her again in church, she must look for a way for me to take her out to eat.

Something in me told me she has turned it into a pattern and it will keep repeating itself if I don't take actions.

So, last week Sunday was her birthday, I got to see her after church. We headed out to a place where she told me she wanted to go see her friend (male). Along the road, we got to a place where they sell glasses, she approached the guy and was checking it out. I saw a glasses I liked and I took it immediately, she took one for herself and I paid for both.

She didn't express any gratitude for me paying and I didn't see it as anything too. She dropped her bag there and went to meet her friend in a place not too far. I waited for her to return.

After about 40 minutes, she came back and I thought we were headed to her house as it was her birthday and I have never been to her place. She has visited me in my own house once.

I was surprised when I saw her moving towards the opposite road from where we came back from and heading towards the restaurant road. She then said she needed us to chill first before she goes home.

And then she asked me where we should go " Chicken Republic " or the other one in the area. I told her to decide as she came up with the idea of chilling first.

We got into the eatery and she expected me to order food. I told her blankly that I won't be eating as I have food at home. I told her to go and buy her own food then.

She thought for some minutes and said she won't be eating too as it won't be good for only her to eat. Not long after I told her I need to go prepare for a site visit I have later in the day just as an excuse to leave.

She was disappointed and she did enter cab and left.

I kept wondering why are this ladies like this. This is the type of girl that looks homely and you will think will make a perfect wife but all she care about is how you will keep spending on her thinking one is a fool.

Fast forward to today, I was not in church as I joined online. Tell me why I didn't see this girl 's call or text. Inwhich before she would have called or text to know my whereabout around the church so we can meetup and go chill

Spoilt and entitled females are everywhere. Good you're very observant of the red flags. Active in church doesn't change who they are. They will eat your money pretending to love you and still do "Hallelujah Challenge" at midnight.

Bahamas95:
* You bought her glasses and she didn't express gratitude.

* She left you to visit a male friend and you waited for 40minutes before she returned.

* She doesn't reply your messages but always update her status.





OP if I tell you what's on my mind now I will chop ban.

Please tell him your mind and damn the consequences.

Kobojunkie:
Even then potentially reasonable ones will and should avoid you with that mentality. 🥱🥱🥱

It's so painful to you as a lady because all you want is to receive and not to give. Normally the average lady is deeply hypergamous, so the best way for a guy to protect himself is to flip the coin

Na the part you set her on she deh follow.

Read your books student
Oponu

I thought they said "he who pays the piper dictates the tune" why is your own the other way round?

Arindin ló mà'n like...

You still get mind waited for her about 40 minutes to go visit a male, some of you don't even have self esteem. No way she would ever take your type serious.. she don see you as mugu

kingthreat:
Spoilt and entitled females are everywhere. Good you're very observant of the red flags. Active in church doesn't change who they are. They will eat your money pretending to love you and still do "Hallelujah Challenge" at midnight.

😂 😂, I love this savage comment 😂

lol 😂 😂
Are you a teenager...

common bro

Initiate talks online once in a while. Stop waiting for her to start.

OP, it depends on what you really need the babe for, then i can give appropriate suggestions.

Akinowon123:
Something interesting happened to me recently. I have this girl I once considered good for me marriage wise and should take my time to get to know her well before considering relationships as I know she is also single.

We usually see almost every Sunday after church and then.
till the next week Sunday again.

The first time we met after church, I took her out to a restaurant hoping it will be an avenue to discuss more better and get to know each other.

The second Sunday we met she requested to hangout with me and wanted us to chill in a place, I had to take her to another place where we had to other food.

Then I started noticing whenever I am not in church, she always call to know my where about after church.

Mind you, we only talk on Sundays as I stopped talking to her when I noticed she won't reply my messages and will keep seeing her status update on other days

Whenever I get to see her again in church, she must look for a way for me to take her out to eat.

Something in me told me she has turned it into a pattern and it will keep repeating itself if I don't take actions.

So, last week Sunday was her birthday, I got to see her after church. We headed out to a place where she told me she wanted to go see her friend (male). Along the road, we got to a place where they sell glasses, she approached the guy and was checking it out. I saw a glasses I liked and I took it immediately, she took one for herself and I paid for both.

She didn't express any gratitude for me paying and I didn't see it as anything too. She dropped her bag there and went to meet her friend in a place not too far. I waited for her to return.

After about 40 minutes, she came back and I thought we were headed to her house as it was her birthday and I have never been to her place. She has visited me in my own house once.

I was surprised when I saw her moving towards the opposite road from where we came back from and heading towards the restaurant road. She then said she needed us to chill first before she goes home.

And then she asked me where we should go " Chicken Republic " or the other one in the area. I told her to decide as she came up with the idea of chilling first.

We got into the eatery and she expected me to order food. I told her blankly that I won't be eating as I have food at home. I told her to go and buy her own food then.

She thought for some minutes and said she won't be eating too as it won't be good for only her to eat. Not long after I told her I need to go prepare for a site visit I have later in the day just as an excuse to leave.

She was disappointed and she did enter cab and left.

I kept wondering why are this ladies like this. This is the type of girl that looks homely and you will think will make a perfect wife but all she care about is how you will keep spending on her thinking one is a fool.

Fast forward to today, I was not in church as I joined online. Tell me why I didn't see this girl 's call or text. Inwhich before she would have called or text to know my whereabout around the church so we can meetup and go chill

Those kain girls na to chop your own and comot eye.

I do am for two girls that when I was younger. After several months the dem begin ask me " what are we to each other"

I said we are helping ourselves relieve our stresses along the path of life.