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Nollywood actress Ekene Uwenma is currently trending because a friend who accommodated her in America is spilling some negative gist about her.
I am not interested in whatever they say they gossiped about (them say, them say) because I wasn't there so I don't know what happened. I want to talk about what people go through when they have accommodation problems and they need to live with someone for sometime. I have been there so I understand perfectly. I will site three examples;

1. During our first year in the university, one of our housemates got pregnant. It was a Catholic school and it was against their rules. She had to leave the school hostel and move in with her cousin. When we went to visit her the first time, she was so happy to see us. She ate the food we brought for her so hurriedly as if she has been hungry for days. Then the real story. You needed to see the way her cousin was talking to her and ordering her around. It was so obvious she was being maltreated but she refused to open up to us. We felt so sorry for her and gave her some money then decided to be bringing food for her often. The girl really saw shege. It was after delivering the baby, she was able to come back to live with us in the hostel. Her joy returned and she became happy again.

2. I had to live with my cousin for some months when we were house hunting and I was unemployed then. I cooked and cleaned willingly. My mum was also sending money every month for me to give her for food. First it started with side insults over my not having a job, I would just smile and let it go. Or is it when she insulted me because I washed fish and removed the eyes. I don't eat fish eyes so I usually remove it, that day she called me foolish. I reported her to my mum and I also told her my mind. She then apologized saying " sorry o, but if you want to stay in my house then you must do things my way." Then it was her friends that come to visit, nobody needed to tell me she has bad mouthed me to them. Imagine her friend visiting and telling me "hey you, I want to sit down there, shift". Or is it the funny look they will give me when they come over, you would already know she has finished you to them. How many times did I hear her on the phone discussing me with one of her toasters, the guy practically knew everything about me without ever meeting me in person.
When I left her house, I had no choice but to delete her number. We can only see each other during family events and we exchange pleasantries.

3. During NYSC, my roommates friend will come to the room and gossip about her own roommate. She wasn't my friend so I would just be on my laptop and be minding my business. She will gist her friend how her roommate is broke and her family is poor. How she can't afford God is Good or another good bus to travel home and has to use "Sole". The babes boyfriend travelled down for her birthday and she invited all of us, they still abused her about how her boyfriend is broke too and could only buy cake and drinks. Whenever I saw the babe then, I used to feel sorry for her because she didn't know what was being said about her. Funny enough, the babe got married to the same guy and they are doing fine financially now ( I follow her on Instagram).

What have I learnt so far;
1. If you have to stay with someone for a while, make sure you have enough money. Even if you don't cook and clean, so far as you are paying all their bills and dashing them money, they will be happy with you. Just be giving them money until you leave.
Ekene Uwenma wanted her child to be a US citizen but couldn't afford everything ( accommodation) and now she has paid for it with a dented reputation. No help is free in this life, you must pay for it one way or another.

2. If you have to stay with someone for a while then expect the worst. Anything your eyes see for there, just endure and forgive the person.

Have you every lived with someone before? What was your experience like? Was your reputation damaged to their friends and are you still close to the person?

Omo, all this are normal na...it happens amongst siblings sef, so just brush it off. Thank God you're on your own now

Of course I have brushed it off since. I wrote the post because of what the Nollywood actress is currently going through. Fans are just bashing her based on what the American lady said about her.

Rexymania:
Omo, all this are normal na...it happens amongst siblings sef, so just brush it off. Thank God you're on your own now

No matter what, I can’t tolerate “see finish” o. I have my integrity and pride to protect

Rexymania:
➜Omo, all this are normal na...it happens amongst siblings sef, so just brush it off. Thank God you're on your own now

. This kind of thing only happens with friends and siblings who don't value or respect you as a human being. There is nothing normal about people being literally arseholes to individuals they supposedly care for. Your best bet is to distance yourself from such people as soon as you can so you never have to be subjected to their hypocrisy/disrespect ever again. 🥱🥱

missidy:
➜Of course I have brushed it off since. I wrote the post because of what the Nollywood actress is currently going through. Fans are just bashing her based on what the American lady said about her.

Can you provide a link to the original story? 🥱